Mindset: How to Enjoy Life, Be Relentless

Welcome to The PhD Mommy’s Journey Podcast, a podcast for those who want to actually enjoy life.

I’m your host, Brie, your bestie who also happens to be your number one fan. I am an educator, scientific researcher and Qualitative Storyteller who’s obsessed with science and dedicated to equipping you with valuable and useful tools along your life journey. I believe you have a unique and special gift the world needs to experience, and I am here to help. Understand one thing: you have exactly the tools needed to create a more purposeful and meaningful life.

This is the seventh episode of the series, Unf—k yourself, by Gary Bishop. On the previous episode, I talked about the importance of knowing who you are, also known as your identity. In addition, I briefly talked about the importance of your identity, how it’s formed, and the impact it has on human behavior. I also talked about the brain, mind and how both of these key components of your behavior is influenced by your thoughts. The mind is a powerful thing because your thoughts have power; however, it is very important to know that you are not your thoughts, you are what what you do.

On today’s episode, I’m going to start off by asking you this one important question: Do you really want to enjoy a life you love? How comfortable are you with being uncomfortable? Are you willing to go against the grain to achieve beyond your wildest dreams? If so, stay tuned.

The title of chapter seven is: I am relentless. Are you relentless?

What is relentless and why is it important? Relentless is showing or promising no abatement of severity, intensity, strength, or pace. Another word would be known as unrelenting: not softening or yielding in determination. How many times have you been successful in life? How many times have you experienced winning? How did it feel? Great, right? Everyone wants to win; everyone wants to be congratulated and celebrated...I mean, you worked hard, so why not?

Here’s another question: What is something you’ve always dreamed of? What is something you wish you could’ve always done? I’ll go first: I have always wanted to be a philanthropist...I’ve always wanted to be someone who makes a difference in the world by helping people feel better about themselves. I shied away from it through starting to apply to medical school, becoming a teacher, getting a phd...which have all been great because I learned a lot along the way, but I never felt a sense of fulfillment because those things were very easy for me. However, one area in my life: speaking, specifically public speaking...that has been something I’ve always ran away from on the other side.

Anyone who knows me knows I’m an introvert; I’m very shy, quiet and I prefer to stay to myself. I know a lot of people and I have a lot of people who support me, but I tend to be alone. I enjoy being alone because I can get lost in my thoughts...however, I started to notice that there were a lot of people who became very depressed. I felt bad because I realized that there were so many people who have either lost hope or lacked confidence and lacked an ability to have some type of self-worth. I’ve tried encouraging a lot of people and realized I needed to do more...so I did. It hasn’t been easy, but I am in a better place mentally simply being myself.

What about you? What about you? How are you feeling? No, really how are you? It’s okay to be honest. Take a few seconds to really sit down and think about how you are feeling.

See, the thing about life is that we all face obstacles; we all face battles, silent battles, embarrassing battles...tragic battles. Think about the battles you have faced and continue to face in your life. Think about the things you have done and allowed others to have a specific judgment about you? Maybe you are someone who is ready for a change...maybe you are someone who is truly tired of being stuck in a never ending hamster wheel of depression, anxiety, fear, laziness, procrastination...maybe you are someone who wants to change. Guess what, you can change...you can become this beautiful masterpiece after chipping at that invisible rock over your life. Are you ready to change?

“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty.” -Theodore Roosevelt

Back to my earlier question: What have you always dreamed of doing? Who have you always dreamed of becoming? What have you always dreamed of working towards? Why haven’t you done it then? What are you waiting for? The perfect moment? That doesn’t exist...you can’t dictate how things will turn on. You can’t dictate on how the game will go or how the story ends, but you can dictate your actions. You can dictate your response to your situation and create a life you truly enjoy.

It’s only true if you agree Do you know the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people? Relent...