Mindset: How to Enjoy Life

Hello there and welcome to a PhD Mommy's mindset. I'm your host Bri, your bestie, who also happens to be your biggest fan. I am a scientific researcher, a self-proclaimed time traveler, qualitative storyteller, who uses science to guide you along your journey of maximizing your potential. Don't worry, I won't leave you hanging. I'm going to make sure that you are never alone. My job is simple. I'm here to help you understand one thing. You have exactly the tools you need to redefine your life and change it how you want it to be. How many times have you searched for something, tearing the entire house upside down and still can't find it? How frustrating is that? What's even more frustrating is that when you have completely given up looking for it and your mom tells you it's okay, we'll find it, then it magically appears within minutes.

Maybe that's just me. It's okay that you are upset with your life since you have acknowledged and accepted that you are unhappy with your life. My next question to you is, what are you going to do about it? Are you willing to keep living and feeling this way? If you have made the conscious decision that you are going to stop letting your thoughts control your actions, good. Deciding and taking action is usually the hardest step because our mind gets overcrowded with all of these negative self-talk constantly screaming and echoing in our head. I'm here to help you slaughter those voices and completely annihilates and silence them. It's going to take some work, but oh, will it be such a sweet victory? How many times have you been afraid to speak to someone, raise your hand in class or even express your opinion in a meeting?

I know I have so many times. I read this amazing book called Un-f yourself, and I used the chapters as a framework along with other research studies and information related to the science behind mindset. I applied principles to my life and I've decided to conduct a personal experiment. This podcast series will be used to document my experience along the way and provide valuable information in hopes that you become emboldened to change your mindset. More importantly, I hope that I empower you to blaze your own trail. You know that quote, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Where do you think those lemons came from? From you? I'm here to help you pick up the seeds that will become the lemons you will use to make lemonade, lemon pie, or maybe you don't like lemons. That's fine.

Someone close to your desk. You never know when someone will need a nice cold glass of lemonade and you are the only one who has the lemon they need. Think bigger, change your perspective. You can't change your mindset. You are not your thoughts. You are your actions. Oftentimes, our brain does its best to protect us, based on how we think and act. It's a way of survival that was useful when we were hunter-gatherers. Fast forward to today's day and age. It is a very thing that holds us back, but why? Why is our mind so powerful that it can cause our heart rate to accelerate, sweat drip from our hands on an event that has not yet even happened? Sometimes our mind is so powerful that it stops us from reaching our potential and going for what we want. The answer is simple, negative self talk.

We are either having a conversation with ourselves or we are having a conversation with others. The thoughts in our head, the random questioning of, hmm, what do I want to wear today is exactly the type of question we continue to ask ourselves day in and day out? Eventually, we stop asking ourselves that question and we start asking others. We allow other people to place their limitations on us. How many times have you thought about doing something, wearing something, saying something, only for someone to tell you? I don't think that's a good idea. You start to feel insignificant and you reduce your self-esteem down to nothing. As a child, we all have felt unstoppable, invincible, and we have all wanted to strive through life without even considering how we are going to get there.

I mean, let's think about kids. How many kids have you seen plan an activity course where they jump from the couch to another couch, onto the top bunk, down to the floor, rolling into the bucket, toppling down the stairs onto a skateboard that pushes them outside? Eventually those kids stop playing, either because they listen to mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, and they try to live their life very carefully not to get hurt. Others become medicated. This all happens because of negative self-talk. I'm here to help you change that. I'm here to help flip the switch that helps you get into that character mode like an actor preparing for a play. Only this time you are the producer. You get to create your story exactly the way you want it to be. Are you ready? Let's dive in.

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