061: Keeping Your Ego in CHECK!

11/09/20 • 9 min

The Motivation Movement | Inspirational Quotes, Daily Advice, Lifestyle Design, Personal Development

We all have an ego that’s made up of specific ideas about our true-self, personality, talents, and skills. Your ego, while an essential component of your identity, if LEFT UNCHECKED, can cause you to act immorally, unethically, and generally out of character.

Ego is an aspirational process . . . we aim to achieve a particular image of ourselves that’s displayed to the world, and we succeed or fail. Depending on how EGO driven you are, anything less than perfection, any degree of shortcoming, can be absolutely CRUSHING on our morale and self-esteem.

Those who are motivated by EGO need instant gratification, positive outcomes, and certainty to determine their self-worth and happiness. Egotistical individuals develop their identity in comparison to others.

Quote: When any man is more stupidly vain and outrageously egotistic than his fellows, he will hide his hideousness in humanitarianism. – George Moore

This naturally begs the question that we’re all too often afraid to investigate: Are your ambitions fueled by THE GOOD, or by YOUR EGO?! Be insanely critical of yourself when answering this question, be relentlessly honest with yourself here.

MORE SPECIFICALLY: Are you trying to prove you’re better than someone else? Do you understand and recognize the motivation behind your actions? If someone were to achieve their goals, which were like yours, would you have feelings of resent and jealousy, or would you be happy for that person? Egocentric individuals react in line with the former.

Seeking approval over truthfully enjoying the journey is a tell-tale sign of being led by your ego. Take a moment to pause and self-reflect. Think about what you’re doing in life, and more importantly, why you’re doing it. If WHY you’re doing it is based on egocentric ideals, AKA status, social approval, money, etc., the truth is, it’s NEVER going to be enough.

There’s no sense in seeking to crush and destroy your ego entirely, I’m not even sure that’s possible, just don’t let your ego become your central focus and source of inspiration.

Compared to being ego driven, we will never come close to feeling as ALIVE as we do when driven by THE GOOD, by a HIGHER PURPOSE, by UPLIFTING THOSE IN NEED and NURTURING our TRUEST SELVES.

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Quote: When any man is more stupidly vain and outrageously egotistic than his fellows, he will hide his hideousness in humanitarianism. – George Moore

There’s no sense in seeking to crush and destroy your ego entirely, I’m not even sure that’s possible, just don’t let your ego become your central focus and source of inspiration.

Compared to being ego driven, we will never come close to feeling as ALIVE as we do when driven by THE GOOD, by a HIGHER PURPOSE, by UPLIFTING THOSE IN NEED and NURTURING our TRUEST SELVES.

https://mruddo.com

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060: FREE Yourself from Toxic Relationships

Most of us go through some type of toxic relationship in our lives. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, a friendship or within a family dynamic. A toxic relationship is any relationship that makes you feel worthless or devalued. Toxic relationships can include dealing with a loved one who’s a complete narcissist, an alcoholic, a gambling addict or even a pathological liar. Essentially, toxic relationship behaviors are the result of an absence of empathy.

Toxic relationships are cyclical because the toxicity begins within you! The path to better relationships begins with you. How do you get out? How do you begin to heal? You will have to unlearn your old relationship standards and behaviors. You do not have to compromise your beliefs, values and moral ever again, just to have love in your life.

"Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?" – Mary Manin Morrissey

IT’S NOT EASY TO LET GO. Learning how to love yourself is crucial when leaving a toxic relationship. It’s a self-discovery process necessary for you to maintain sanity. It takes strength, confidence, and self-respect to change your situation. It’s never too late to make a change either.

People are married for 30-40 years with children and grandchildren, and finally decide to put their own happiness and mental health first. It’s absolute BULLSHIT to believe that you’re helpless, and that it’s simply too late, and you’re just going to ride out the struggle of unhappiness for the rest of your life.

There are probably hundreds of thousands of people who are stuck in toxic relationships, you’re NOT alone. If someone is behaving in a way that truly bothers you, SPEAK UP. You’re ALLOWED to set boundaries and have components of your relationship that are NON-NEGOTIABLE.

Leave the past in the past but learn from your mistakes by reflecting on past relationships. What attracted you to that person? What made you stay with that person? What were the positive aspects of the relationship? What were the negatives aspects of the relationship? Is there a pattern between the factors that draw you into these negative, toxic relationships?

Your happiness is just as important as anyone else’s, that’s not being selfish either, that’s having self-respect.

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062: Mastermind to Maximize by Mutual Improvement

Central to being an entrepreneur is the responsibility of being a strategic decision-maker. The success of the operation depends on YOU. It’s NOT an easy lifestyle; staying accountable, efficient, organized, and energized is extremely challenging. Inspiration and information can’t develop inside an echo-chamber silo. If you’re not often exposed to NEW people w/ FRESH perspectives, it becomes difficult to GROW.

Nothing becomes easier by not having PEOPLE to communicate, strategize and brainstorm with on a regular basis. Whether it’s a personal mentor, sports team, local church, or community group, we can ALL benefit from having a “sounding board” of sorts, as a resource available to us on this journey we call LIFE.

By leveraging the collective experience and intelligence of others, a MASTERMIND GROUP is designed to assist you tackle obstacles, primarily in an entrepreneurial capacity. Not to say that MASTERMIND GROUPS can’t provide value outside of a business scenario, there are a PLETHORA of social benefits relative to this concept as well.

It’s best to build groups that include people with diverse backgrounds, expertise, skills, experiences, and interests. ONE core, universal standard within the group should be the genuine and mutual desire for each other to become better and smarter. The commitment to the group’s collective success is KEY.

Quote: “You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.” – Joel Osteen

When surrounded by a group of hustlers, problem-solvers, builders, creators, tinkerers, developers and beyond, GENIUS is bound to strike, great things are destined to happen. Putting several, unique minds together to discuss complex issues often yields results and explanations that far exceed what any individual would have produced on their own.

Whichever industry or goal the group is focused on, solution focused people make the best MASTERMIND participants, they provide the most value to the group, they help push the collective forward, in the right direction.

MASTER MINDS provide enormous benefits to the people who are bold, curious, and ambitious enough to attend them. Through the power of networking, your group of trusted peers make it easier to hold yourself accountable and find motivation from their stories of success and failure.

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