Lorraine Candy author "Mum What's Wrong With You?"
02/22/22 • 46 min
I kick off Season 4 with journalist, editor, co-host of "Postcards from Midlife" podcast and mum of four Lorraine Candy. Formerly the editor in chief of the Sunday Times Style magazine, Elle and Cosmopolitan, Lorraine has been writing about parenting in national newspapers and magazines for more than a decade.
In this episode, we talk about her family memoir “Mum What’s wrong with you” 101 things only mothers of girls know. In the pages of her book Lorraine is lighting the way for other mums facing life with teenage girls, just as they going through their own midlife unravelling.
Join as we talk about:-
The many parallels between the Teenage years and the Menopause and the negative narrative that surrounds both.
The Perfect storm of parenting teens in your mid-40s.
The reasons why Teenagers behave as they do, and the reasons we behave as we do.
The importance of role modelling so our Teenagers can see us caring for ourselves and also dealing and coping with a range of emotions.
How our issues and childhood experiences can affect our parenting
The pressure of parenting perfectionism
How to recognise and recover from those dreadful moments in parenting life and the importance of being able to say sorry and move forward.
The immense brain changes that occur during the Teenage years.
The loneliness and shame that can come with parenting Teens. You are not the only person getting it wrong.
How to deal with messy bedrooms!
The rise of adolescent mental health
Reforming our identity in Midlife
The importance of eye contact and putting down our phones.
Why you mustn’t be your child’s best friend.
Teenagers and phones - the power of The Digital Sunset
Mental health policies, sex education and female financial power in our schools
How and why we experiencing “Living loss”
“Meanagers” and “Moron Mum”
Lorraine’s book Choice
Terra Incognita, Travels in Antarctica by Sara Wheeler
also mentioned in the epsisode
The Orchid and the Dandelion by W. Thomas Boyce
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Find out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com
Learn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.com
Follow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIN
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I kick off Season 4 with journalist, editor, co-host of "Postcards from Midlife" podcast and mum of four Lorraine Candy. Formerly the editor in chief of the Sunday Times Style magazine, Elle and Cosmopolitan, Lorraine has been writing about parenting in national newspapers and magazines for more than a decade.
In this episode, we talk about her family memoir “Mum What’s wrong with you” 101 things only mothers of girls know. In the pages of her book Lorraine is lighting the way for other mums facing life with teenage girls, just as they going through their own midlife unravelling.
Join as we talk about:-
The many parallels between the Teenage years and the Menopause and the negative narrative that surrounds both.
The Perfect storm of parenting teens in your mid-40s.
The reasons why Teenagers behave as they do, and the reasons we behave as we do.
The importance of role modelling so our Teenagers can see us caring for ourselves and also dealing and coping with a range of emotions.
How our issues and childhood experiences can affect our parenting
The pressure of parenting perfectionism
How to recognise and recover from those dreadful moments in parenting life and the importance of being able to say sorry and move forward.
The immense brain changes that occur during the Teenage years.
The loneliness and shame that can come with parenting Teens. You are not the only person getting it wrong.
How to deal with messy bedrooms!
The rise of adolescent mental health
Reforming our identity in Midlife
The importance of eye contact and putting down our phones.
Why you mustn’t be your child’s best friend.
Teenagers and phones - the power of The Digital Sunset
Mental health policies, sex education and female financial power in our schools
How and why we experiencing “Living loss”
“Meanagers” and “Moron Mum”
Lorraine’s book Choice
Terra Incognita, Travels in Antarctica by Sara Wheeler
also mentioned in the epsisode
The Orchid and the Dandelion by W. Thomas Boyce
Shout85258 - free, confidential, 24/7 text-messaging support service for anyone who is struggling to cope.
Find out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com
Learn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.com
Follow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIN
Join my private Facebook group
Previous Episode
Dr Ginni Mansberg author The M Word
For the final episode of Season 4, I am joined by Dr Ginni Mansberg, a sought-after speaker and regular host and medical expert on Australian TV. A forerunner of the Menopause conversation in Australia, she is the author of today’s book choice, The M Word: How to Thrive in the Menopause which offers sound advice for women going through Menopause, as well as a way to excel in this new stage of life.
Ginni has been a GP for over 30 years and she is passionate about the importance of giving women what they need to help take agency of their Menopause, especially when it comes to vagina’s, bladders and their sex lives.
Join us for a straight-talking conversation about the importance of recognising and seeking help for any symptoms related to Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) which affects the function of the bladder, vagina, rectum and uterus and the knock-on effects to sexual pleasure and desire.
- The importance of not delaying treatment If you notice any changes to your vagina and vulva that are you causing you pain, discomfort or distress, it will only get worse, not better.
- Urinary Tract Infections (UTI’s) and Menopause - If you have just 3 UTI’S in a calendar year, that is classed as re-current and you need to look at preventative treatment.
- Sex and incontinence - Do you wee when you have an orgasm or at the point of penetration? You are very much not alone, do not let it become a block to having a healthy sex life, it can be easily treated.
- Constipation - do not ignore it.
- The need to insist on a Dr who will listen to you and examine you so you can get your health needs met.
- There is no magic supplement or medication. We know that Lifestyle advice is the best advice, we know it works, why don’t we advocate it more?
- Hypo Sexual Desire Disorder - do you fulfil the criteria? Inability to orgasm? Lost interest in masturbation and sex? Hormonal Testosterone treatment could be the key.
- Australia may be behind us in the UK with the Menopause conversation and Menopause awareness, but they are way ahead with their compounded Testosterone therapy. Currently the only country in the world that has a compounded and licensed testosterone formulation specifically for women.
- The complexity of women's sexuality. Testosterone therapy isn’t a panacea, it won’t fix a broken relationship or make a poor relationship better. BUT for many women, it can be life-changing for their relationships and self-esteem.
- Why it's important that FIRST we fix any symptoms of Vaginal GSM and then we work on fixing our libido.
Ginni’s book choice
Freedom at Midnight by Larry Collins
Find out how you can work with me, my coaching and education, and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com
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Next Episode
Cara Wheatley_McGrain author Calm Your Gut
My guest for this episode is Cara Wheatley-McGrain Hay House author, Mindset coach, and Educational Consultant.
Cara founded The Mindful Gut project on a mission to inspire 1 million people to become the custodians of their gut microbiome and she joins me to talk about her book “Calm your gut, a mindful and compassionate guide to healing IBD and IBS.
In this episode:
- Cara shares her story of living with Ulcerated Colitis, from her teenage years to almost losing her colon in her early 20s.
- How the shock of being so seriously ill led her to be curious about her colon and discover the changes she needed to make to prevent it from being cut out.
- Getting to know her gut, the science and the spirituality.
- Intuitive and mindful eating
- How our diet impacts our gut health
- How our gut bacteria are critical to our health and wellbeing
- The many problems of a long-term Western diet
- The global impact of the Western diet
- 1 in 5 women will have an issue with IBS
- The symptoms of IBS and IBD
- The increasing spread of IBS in Teens
- The powerful political statements we make every time we go shopping
- The dark side of the food industry
- How we used to cook and eat vs how we cook and eat today
- Understanding the importance of how we choose to prepare and cook food on our health and wellbeing
- The benefits of a kitchen disco.
- Honouring and becoming the caretakers and custodians of our inner and outer world.
Cara’s book choice
Woman and Nature by Susan GriffinFind out more about my Coaching and Education, how you can work with me and get your free Menopause Symptom tracker at www.themerrymenopause.com
Learn more about me and my work at www.themerrymenopause.com
Follow me on Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIN
Join my private Facebook group
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