
Delayed Gratification Tips For Memory Training With Matt Dobschuetz
06/19/19 • 87 min
All self improvement requires delayed gratification, especially memory training.
Now, I’m going to take you on an 180 degree spin, into the heart of a storm many millions of people face. Particularly men.
You see, I get a lot of private questions from people about memory.
And one of them involves online addiction, particularly around porn.
And that leads to compulsive behaviors, one of them being masturbation, more colorfully known as “fapping.”
Guess what?
Too much of it, especially when you’re wired for hours in front of a screen, definitely robs your memory of energy that could be used for memory training.
Worse:
There’s no denying that more of this behavior is happening now than ever before.
The good news is that people have become incredibly frank about the problem.
In fact, I often receive this question in my inbox:
“Should I try a no-fap challenge to help me improve my memory?”
To date, I’ve never addressed the question formally.
An instead of taking the stance and saying, “If porn and masturbation is a distraction from your memory training, eliminate it and see what happens,” I decided to call in an expert.
So let me introduce you to my friend Matt Dobschuetz.
Matt’s the man behind Porn Free Radio and RecoveredMan.com. He is a podcast show host, author and recovery coach for men dealing with addictions to pornography with one on one and group coaching through REV Group Coaching, which he founded.
On this episode of the Magnetic Memory Method Podcast, Matt and I discuss the problems porn addiction creates for your memory training progress.
Memory Vs. Porn Addiction (And How You Can Win)
We cover methods to overcome these memory-robbing impulses, and the science behind why that dependency develops in the first place.
Matt shares his own journey with overcoming porn addiction and we discuss how it relates to memory, and how using memory techniques can help to eliminate porn dependency.
If you struggle with true intimacy with a partner...
If you find yourself gravitating towards masturbation for stress relief ...
If your sexual confidence is so low it’s almost nonexistent ...
And if you habitually watch pornography and don’t even know why ...
This podcast is for you.
Press play now and learn more about:
- The rise in pornography accessibility with broadband internet and smartphones
- How erectile dysfunction relates to porn dependency
- Lack of focus as the result of a pornography habit
- The true reason behind lack of confidence in the bedroom
- How the experience of failure with overcoming porn addiction can bleed into everyday areas of life (school, work, and even simple conversations with the potential partners)
- How to recognize patterns that create opportunities for eliminating porn use and change those destructive patterns to positive growth habits
- Relating the Challenge-Frustration Curve to breaking the porn addiction cycle
- How to use memory techniques and exercises to overcome porn dependency and porn habit behaviors
- What triggers porn addictive behaviors (it’s less automatic than you think)
- How to deal with triggers and threats when they occur in real-life situations, both head on and through elimination techniques
- Using self-identification as a means to combat porn habit behaviors
- Being present and connected as powerful tools for recovery
My biggest takeaway from our interview?
I feel like the issues boils down to an inability to delay gratification. If you’d rather watch this episode of the podcast to discover tips for better strategies, just click play below:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lGw1neEslw
Further Resources From And on the Web:
Recovered Man (Matt’s official website)
“Is Pornography Addictive?” (APA online)
All self improvement requires delayed gratification, especially memory training.
Now, I’m going to take you on an 180 degree spin, into the heart of a storm many millions of people face. Particularly men.
You see, I get a lot of private questions from people about memory.
And one of them involves online addiction, particularly around porn.
And that leads to compulsive behaviors, one of them being masturbation, more colorfully known as “fapping.”
Guess what?
Too much of it, especially when you’re wired for hours in front of a screen, definitely robs your memory of energy that could be used for memory training.
Worse:
There’s no denying that more of this behavior is happening now than ever before.
The good news is that people have become incredibly frank about the problem.
In fact, I often receive this question in my inbox:
“Should I try a no-fap challenge to help me improve my memory?”
To date, I’ve never addressed the question formally.
An instead of taking the stance and saying, “If porn and masturbation is a distraction from your memory training, eliminate it and see what happens,” I decided to call in an expert.
So let me introduce you to my friend Matt Dobschuetz.
Matt’s the man behind Porn Free Radio and RecoveredMan.com. He is a podcast show host, author and recovery coach for men dealing with addictions to pornography with one on one and group coaching through REV Group Coaching, which he founded.
On this episode of the Magnetic Memory Method Podcast, Matt and I discuss the problems porn addiction creates for your memory training progress.
Memory Vs. Porn Addiction (And How You Can Win)
We cover methods to overcome these memory-robbing impulses, and the science behind why that dependency develops in the first place.
Matt shares his own journey with overcoming porn addiction and we discuss how it relates to memory, and how using memory techniques can help to eliminate porn dependency.
If you struggle with true intimacy with a partner...
If you find yourself gravitating towards masturbation for stress relief ...
If your sexual confidence is so low it’s almost nonexistent ...
And if you habitually watch pornography and don’t even know why ...
This podcast is for you.
Press play now and learn more about:
- The rise in pornography accessibility with broadband internet and smartphones
- How erectile dysfunction relates to porn dependency
- Lack of focus as the result of a pornography habit
- The true reason behind lack of confidence in the bedroom
- How the experience of failure with overcoming porn addiction can bleed into everyday areas of life (school, work, and even simple conversations with the potential partners)
- How to recognize patterns that create opportunities for eliminating porn use and change those destructive patterns to positive growth habits
- Relating the Challenge-Frustration Curve to breaking the porn addiction cycle
- How to use memory techniques and exercises to overcome porn dependency and porn habit behaviors
- What triggers porn addictive behaviors (it’s less automatic than you think)
- How to deal with triggers and threats when they occur in real-life situations, both head on and through elimination techniques
- Using self-identification as a means to combat porn habit behaviors
- Being present and connected as powerful tools for recovery
My biggest takeaway from our interview?
I feel like the issues boils down to an inability to delay gratification. If you’d rather watch this episode of the podcast to discover tips for better strategies, just click play below:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lGw1neEslw
Further Resources From And on the Web:
Recovered Man (Matt’s official website)
“Is Pornography Addictive?” (APA online)
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Delayed Gratification Tips For Memory Training With Matt Dobschuetz
If you don't have strategies for delaying gratification, you're robbing from your memory training efforts. Matt Dobschuetz of Recovered Man offers help.
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3 POWERFUL Elaborative Encoding Memory Exercises
Elaborative encoding isn’t the sexiest term memory science has come up with, is it?
No, but it sure is fantastic when it plays out in real life.
After all, use this memory technique well, and you can memorize a dozen names (or more) at any meeting or party.
Not to mention several dozen details about:
- Occupations
- Hobbies
- Relationship statuses
- Locations
- Educational and professional backgrounds
- ... and much, much more!
Imagine being able to remember so much about all the people you meet... within seconds of hearing the details.
Wouldn’t that be a great skill to have?
(If you don’t think so, I’d love to hear why not in the comment section below!)
The best part (when you have these skills)?
You’ll have it all perfectly organized and reachable in your mind. These details will have literally gone from short term memory to long term memory within seconds.
Don’t Fear Memory Science!
Now, I realize that a lot of people hear the scientific terms for how memory techniques work and are immediately turned off.
If that’s you, here’s the blunt truth:
You’re missing out on a huge opportunity to improve your memory by understanding more about how and why it works.
And even though a term like “elaborative encoding” sounds complicated, it is actually:
- Simpler than you might think
- Something you’re doing already ...
- And always beneficial to practice so you get better over time
To help you out, I’ve designed three memory-boosting elaborative encoding exercises.
But first, you’ll be best served by understanding exactly what elaborative encoding is.
Effective elaborative encoding is like having a vibrant, multi-connected ecosystem of connections in your mind
What is “Elaborative Encoding”?
Defining elaborative encoding is elementary! Yes, really!
And it’s not so much a thing, as it is a thing you do when using memory techniques.
This simple mental task starts with linking information that you want to remember with existing knowledge.
For example:
There’s a guy named Hunter at Burger Project (in Brisbane) where I go to get grass fed beef burgers (no bun).
I memorized his name almost automatically because I linked the information, Hunter’s name, with information I already know about hunters.
And I put several layers of that information together within seconds of hearing his name. I linked him to a camouflage-clad man with a gun, and not a generic one. Rather, I used my favorite Looney Tunes hunter, Elmer Fudd.
Elmer Fudd with the old Nintendo gun for Duck Hunt worked great as my Magnetic Image for “Hunter”
At the same time, I put that old plastic gun from the Nintendo game Duck Hunt in Hunter’s hand. (Not in reality, but in my imagination.)
By taking his name and associating it with Elmer Fudd and then going one step further and adding Duck Hunt, I was elaborating my mental imagery. In addition to thinking about what all of this looked like, I also:
- Heard the sound of a duck-hunting gun and Elmer Fudd’s voice
- Felt the Nintendo gun in my hand
- Imagined the smell of gun smoke
- Imagined the taste of roasted duck
In each case, I made the image weird, larger than life and filled it with vibrant action. Hunter literally shot Elmer Fudd before I started eating him as if he were a duck.
All combined, these layers of elaboration made the name Hunter even more memorable. This process only took a few seconds, and I’ve never forgotten his name since.
What Else Can This Style of Mnemonic Elaboration Be Used For?
Not, you may think that this all sounds fine and dandy for names. But here’s the thing:
Elaborative encoding can be applied to any knowledge.
If you can take that knowledge, make associations and manipulate size, color, speed, duration, distance, mood, emotion, and space... you can memorize anything.
When can elaborative encoding be used?
Any time.
But in the beginning, just focus on the keywords related to the information you want added to your knowledgebase.
From there, you can branch out t...
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