
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
Lily Walford
The Love With Intelligence Podcast is the ultimate destination for high-achieving women who are ready to break free from toxic cycles, master emotional intelligence, and create secure, lasting relationships.
Hosted by Lily Walford, relationship coach and creator of the Love IQ Method, this podcast delivers bold insights, actionable tools, and transformative strategies to help listeners navigate modern love with confidence and clarity.
Through unapologetically honest conversations, myth-busting advice, and practical steps, each episode empowers women to reprogram their patterns and design the love life they deserve—because love isn’t about luck; it’s about the choices you make. Smarter love starts here.
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On the Path to Healing: Moving Past Narcissistic Relationships
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
11/15/23 • 55 min
As your guide through the labyrinth of narcissistic relationships, I am Lily Walford, an international relationship and dating coach. I’ve walked this path, from the murky depths of toxic relationships to the refreshing breath of authentic love, and my journey has equipped me with insights that I am eager to share with you. In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the intricate psychological mechanisms that narcissists employ, broadening our understanding of dangerous power dynamics that they use to entrap their victims.
We delve into the unsettling world of narcissistic manipulation, unmasking the distressing reality of trauma bonds. By drawing from my comprehensive research and personal experiences, we dissect the striking contrasts and disturbing similarities between healthy and unhealthy relationships. You will grasp the toll that a toxic relationship can inflict on the nervous system, precipitating complex PTSD and emotional damage. However, we don't dwell on the gloom - this episode also shines a light on the path to healing and moving on post-narcissistic relationships.
Finally, we navigate the riveting landscape of love after narcissism. Together, we stress the significance of setting healthy boundaries and fostering a supportive social environment. We craft a tailored dating strategy focused on cultivating a lasting relationship. By probing your past relationships and childhood experiences, we aim to understand how they influence your choice of partners. As we wrap up, you will feel enlightened about narcissistic relationships and empowered to foster healthier, happier relationships.
Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

How To Deepen Love & Intimacy In Relationships
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
10/25/22 • 53 min
Tell me who doesn't want more love and intimacy in their relationship or future relationship because everyone does. But the problem is, not everyone knows how to create that for themselves and their partner.
In this episode I am diving into the most easy and natural way to create more love and intimacy in your relationship so you can enjoy the most deep, powerful connection with your partner.
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Lily Walford works with individuals and couples to find and develop deeper levels of love and intimacy.
Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Series 3 Episode 7 - 5 Tips On How To Avoid Attracting The Commitment Phobe
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
06/23/21 • 16 min
Desired Woman Training: https://bit.ly/TheDesiredWoman
Join our facebook group:https://bit.ly/LWI-Group
Highlights of training - You will learn how to:
Understand why you attract distant and avoidant partners
How to recognise a commitment phobe - no matter how good they are at hiding it
What needs to happen so you can break the pattern
--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lovewithintelligence/messageWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Episode 13 - How Can You Tell That Someone Wants A Committed Relationship With You Even When You Are In The Early Stages Of Dating?
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
12/06/20 • 12 min
Everyone wants a committed relationship where they are loved unconditionally, so how can you tell from the beginning that you are in a relationship that can truly provide that?
There is nothing worse than investing precious time, emotions and energy into a relationship that isn't going anywhere.
Listen to this episode to find out what you need to watch out for to know if you have met someone who is ready to commit fully to you.
--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lovewithintelligence/messageWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Online Dating: How To Go From Stale Interactions To Genuine Connections
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
04/03/24 • 34 min
Have you ever wondered why swiping right doesn't bring Mr. or Ms. Right into your life?
Our latest podcast episode peels back the layers of online dating and self-identity, guiding you towards a path of self-discovery and meaningful connections. Diving into the heart of what makes relationships tick, we unpack the significance of understanding yourself and your past traumas to navigate the digital love terrain with clarity and purpose. With insights from relationship experts and life coaches, this isn't just a talk about finding love; it's about reshaping your approach to foster genuine partnerships and steer clear from the clingy grip of codependency.
Let's talk about the four C's—no, not diamonds, but something just as valuable for your relationship: compatibility, consideration, communication, and collaboration. Our conversation explores the compatibility matrix, a tool that's about to become your best friend in the quest for love. It's not about the numbers game but finding someone who truly aligns with your values and dreams. We'll dissect the patterns that may have led you to play the hero in past relationships and how you can break free from these cycles. Listen in as we share strategies that can revolutionize your approach to dating, turning it from a maze of misconnections into a journey of joint discovery.
Wrap up your headphones, because we're bringing the finale to your relationship woes with a discussion on the most crucial part of any connection: communication. Learn how to lay the foundation of happiness within yourself before even stepping into the dating scene. We break down why the Love IQ assessment and an 11-part strategy are the roadmaps you need to navigate the complex world of modern dating with finesse. Plus, get the scoop on how to make conversations sizzle with authenticity and intention. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to meet someone extraordinary and cultivate a love that's as rewarding as it is resilient.
As promised links below relating to this episode:
Discover Your Love IQ Assessment: https://loveiq.scoreapp.com
Compatibility Matrix: https://www.lovewithintelligence.com/meet-the-one
Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Series 3 Episode 8 - 5 Steps To Get Over Your Ex
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
06/23/21 • 11 min
In this video we discuss how to get over your ex and general advice for someone struggling after a breakup.
Find out how to get over your ex and some simple tips that you can do to speed up the process.
5 ways to get over your ex & stop thinking about them.
How to: get over your ex, a crush, or a breakup!
If you can't get over your ex, watch this!
--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lovewithintelligence/messageWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Series 3 Episode 6 - 5 Reasons That Cause You To Relive The Same Type Of Relationships
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
06/23/21 • 17 min
Highlights of training - You will learn how to:
Unmask what your subconscious patterns are
The reasons why you are going for the same type of partners again and again
What the main areas that influence your relationships
What happens to people who haven't realised their patterns?
Can end up in the same type of relationships again and again
You can end up self sabotaging yourself because you don’t believe you can have a loving relationship
Wasting more time with the wrong ones and losing hope of if the right one is out there
They can cause a healthy relationship to become an unhealthy one
They continue the patterns due to unresolved issues from the past
What happens to people who take time to learn this training ?
Break the patterns and able to see who is right for them so they can enjoy a healthy relationship with the right one!
-Knowing when the self sabotaging patterns pop up, so you can make a choice on whether to act on it
Feeling confident that you will enjoy a loving relationship in the future because of your new found clarity and awareness
-Feeling more confident and worthy of a loving relationship
-Feeling at peace with your past
--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lovewithintelligence/messageWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Series 3 Episode 5 - 5 Steps To Decode An Online Dating Profile
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
06/23/21 • 14 min
Highlights of training - You will learn how to:
See a major red flag that most people miss when they are online dating that could mean the difference between meeting someone who is dangerous and/or emotionally unavailable
Know how to tap into who this person is from just a few photos so you don’t have to waste time messaging to see if they are compatible with you.
Book a call: https://calendly.com/withintelligence/loveconsultation
The Steps
1) Facial Expressions
2) How do they want to be seen?
3) Are they a narcissist or manipulative
4) What’s their lifestyle?
5) Your confirmation bias
--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lovewithintelligence/messageWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Series 3 Episode 4 - Single To Committed Relationship In Just Ten Steps
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
06/23/21 • 21 min
Desired Woman Training: https://bit.ly/TheDesiredWoman
--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lovewithintelligence/messageWebsite: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now

Series 3 Episode 3 - The Importance Of Healing From Past Relationships Before Dating Again
The Love With Intelligence Podcast
06/23/21 • 13 min
THE IMPORTANCE OF HEALING FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS BEFORE YOU GO AND DATE AGAIN
Find yourself dating the same person again and again
Pining over the ex despite knowing that relationship was bad/didn’t work out
Releasing the fear of being alone
The need for human connection/validation
Not giving yourself the chance to fully recover confidence/rejection
Something to remember: HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT DECREASE YOURSELF WORTH/CONFIDENCE
I was on a call the other day with a lovely lady who had gone through a break up and we’ve all been there where we feel the need to help and support the other person (even if they were the one who broke up with you) and she had mentioned how her relationship had decreased her self worth and confidence and how that was her fault and her issue to work through.
Let me tell you how unhealthy/borderline abusive relationships work (and also how even cults work). They say small one liners that stick!
Oh you’ll never meet anyone as good as me
Only silly people think that way – don’t be so stupid
Gawd you are so insecure
Which then plays on to identity issues.
Remember out identity and the way we see ourselves will impact on the type of relationship we have. This is why I take my clients through the Desired Woman Approach which is a blend of healing, releasing old subconscious patterns and building up the confidence to build up the life and relationship you do want.
This is only one of the three approaches I take my clients through but it’s so important as what happens when we don’t get this right is SELF SABOTAGE
The types of self sabotage I tend to see is:
Dating for validation
Reaching out to the ex for whatever reasons
Feeling the need to tell EVERYONE the issues and the ins and outs of what went wrong in their relationship to JUSTIFY and PROCESS what they had actually been through
Dating people who are wrong for them
Pushing the right ones away as they are too afraid to have someone close to their heart again
Sleeping with lots of people – To either FEEL something as they feel numb or as a punishment to themselves (LOW SELF WORTH)
WE CAN NOT HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IF WE ARE CREATING A RELATIONSHIP FROM AN UNHEALTHY PLACE
When we create a relationship from a healed place – like my clients do after the “Desired Woman Approach”
They are confident within themselves
They feel excited about dating and enjoy connecting with people
They have standards and hold themselves to those standards
They know who is right to date for them and where to meet the right one for them due to the compatibility matrix which is personalised to them.
They are at peace with their past – no matter how awful it was was – shame, guilt, fear
They also
Website: www.LoveWithIntelligence.com
Struggling to break toxic patterns?
Discover what’s holding you back in love with the Love IQ Assessment—your first step to creating secure, lasting relationships.
👉 Take the Assessment Here
Serious about finding the right partner?
Book a complimentary Love Life Analysis Call to create a personalised roadmap for attracting emotionally available partners and reprogramming your love life. Spaces are limited!
👉 Book Your Call Now
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How many episodes does The Love With Intelligence Podcast have?
The Love With Intelligence Podcast currently has 88 episodes available.
What topics does The Love With Intelligence Podcast cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education, Relationships and Online Dating.
What is the most popular episode on The Love With Intelligence Podcast?
The episode title 'On the Path to Healing: Moving Past Narcissistic Relationships' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on The Love With Intelligence Podcast?
The average episode length on The Love With Intelligence Podcast is 39 minutes.
How often are episodes of The Love With Intelligence Podcast released?
Episodes of The Love With Intelligence Podcast are typically released every 7 days.
When was the first episode of The Love With Intelligence Podcast?
The first episode of The Love With Intelligence Podcast was released on Oct 2, 2020.
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