#16: Breaking the Silence (PART 2/2): The Identity Crisis & Invisible Trauma of Being Asian American

11/15/23 • 45 min

In a world where the complexities of Asian upbringing can often remain hidden, these four individuals bravely share their stories of generational trauma, the struggle to break free from confinements, and the pursuit of discovering who they really are.

Our four remarkable guests have graciously opened up about their personal journeys, shedding light on the intricate layers that shape their lives within this cultural context.

Our candid discussion delves into the distinct ways they were treated, the trials of navigating parental expectations, the honest and painful truth they wish they could tell their parents, and the advice they offer to those in similar situations.

Join me as my friends: Kristina Dela Cruz, Shaun Dela Cruz, Thuy Dam, and Victor NguyenBui, as they explore the profound impact of culture on their lives, unveiling both the challenges and triumphs that come with it. As we gain insights into their journeys, we hope to foster a deeper understanding of the diverse ways cultures shape our identities and influence our paths.

This is a conversation you won't want to miss.

In this deep episode, we talk about:

• [1:14]: **Having Parent’s Love, But At A Cost:** We address the stereotype of Asian parents' financial support and how it affects the perception of their upbringing.

• [4:44]: **Asian Discipline and Parenting Styles:** Our guests share their experiences of how their parents disciplined them, offering insights into the different approaches used in their Asian households.

• [11:02]: **Gender Role Dynamics:** Our guests reflect on whether their families treated them differently based on their gender and the expectations that came with it.

• [17:17]: **Cultural Pride and Challenges:** They share aspects of their culture that fill them with pride, as well as candidly discuss elements that they find challenging or disheartening.

• [25:30]: **An Honest Message To Asian Parents:** Our guests reveal what they wish their parents had done differently and share what they would say to them if there were no repercussions.

• [33:22]: **Advice for Those In Similar Situations:** Each guest imparts valuable advice they would offer their younger selves, considering the lessons they've learned over the years. Our conversation concludes with heartfelt advice for anyone who resonates with their experiences and is navigating a similar journey.

• [40:05]: **Reflecting on Sharing This Today:** We close by exploring how it feels for our guests to engage in this candid discussion, opening up about their personal stories.

Join us in this eye-opening conversation as we shed light on the multifaceted reality of growing up within an Asian culture and the profound impact it has on identity, relationships, and self-discovery.

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