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Episode 56 of The Get More Podcast: Consistency

We are wrapping up Confidence Month and today's episode is all about the importance of consistency when it comes to our confidence levels.

As we have learned in the last year, in order to get good at something you need to practice it. 

And in order to practice something, you need to do it on a regular basis and do it a lot.

The by-product of doing something a lot, on a regular basis, and getting good at it, is our confidence level! 

It goes up!

The better you get at something the more confident you become in your ability to do it. 

Think about a job you've been in for years, or a sport that you have played forever, or a hobby that you have become incredibly good at.

It took time, it took practice, and it required that you show up consistently for that activity (it didn't happen by accident).

So this week we are going to pay attention to the places that we show up consistently and determine whether or not that skill can be redirected (where necessary) to more important areas of our life.

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Episode 51 of The Get More Podcast

Today we are wrapping up Accountability Month with the final element in the Bare Slate Accountability Success Formula and it's all about Capacity.

"Capacity is the maximum amount that something can contain", and this includes you!

Just like putting on that oxygen mask, you need to help yourself first when it comes to your capacity to handle everyday situations, circumstances, and decisions.

One thing that leads to being at capacity is the tendency to overcommit yourself and take on too much - you literally have no room left to take on even one more small thing.

Why do we do this?

We may think that we 'have' to do the thing, or attend that event or meeting, or take on that project, or try and help everyone!

An excellent example of this is People Pleasing, or "Nice Guy Syndrome".

We think it's rude or 'not nice' to say no to others and to additional commitments (and this can include our perceived need to help others).

As we like to say, "Don't make your problem, my problem!" which essentially means that you don't have to take on the problems of the world when you have your own to deal with.

Click here to watch Episode 90 of the Ask More Get More Show and our conversation with Maros Cincura discussing Nice Guy Syndrome

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Often we hear the phrase, "preparing for difficult conversations" and we interpret that to mean that we want to plan for every eventuality.

• What you should say if someone says this, or that,
• How you plan to respond if they say the thing that usually triggers you
• We plan out examples of their past behaviours that 'prove' we are right

We practice the conversations over and over again in our mind, thinking that we are 'preparing' for the discussion however, when we do this, we are at risk of shutting down any opportunity for growth, insights, or learning from the other individual.

By trying to prepare our scripts, we forget to prepare for the
emotional capacity needed to have an authentic conversation.

We regret saying something we shouldn't have because we let our emotions get the best of us and slipped back into a patter of over-reaction.

We end up with situations that have us going over the interaction in our minds and saying things like, "ugh why did I say that!? I should have said THIS instead!"

Our recommendation is to prepare yourself emotionally for the conversation, and avoid the feedback loops that we all create, instead!

This way we can leave the mean out of the message.

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Today we are discussing the Ted Talk given by Dr. Brian Little, "Who Are You, Really? The Puzzle of Personality".

"What makes you, you? Psychologists like to talk about our traits, or defined characteristics that make us who we are.

But Brian Little is more interested in moments when we transcend those traits — sometimes because our culture demands it of us, and sometimes because we demand it of ourselves.

Join Dr. Little as he dissects the surprising differences between introverts and extroverts and explains why your personality may be more malleable than you think."

Today's Points:

Dr. Little's OCEAN Acronym:

O - Open to Experiences (vs Closed to them)

C - Conscientiousness (vs Lax Attitude)

E - Extrovert (vs Introvert)

A - Agreeableness (vs Not Agreeable)

N - Neurotic (vs Stable)

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Link to the TedTalk: https://youtu.be/qYvXk_bqlBk

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We need to take action every day so that we can keep moving forward, and we need to celebrate the rewards. 

Do yourself a favour and write down where the heck you are going. 

And I mean, write down the details of what it feels like to win that goal. 

Because if you can’t write that out, and if you don’t take the time to write it out, then you are never going to get it because you’re not going to feel motivated. 

Take the baby steps to the big win.

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Welcome to the Get More Podcast!

95% of the population is simply reacting to life, they're not LIVING it.

We are on a mission to be a part of that 5% who choose to live their life on purpose.

The first 30 episodes will be teaching episodes where we walk you through the Bare Slate Success Formulas, and then we will be diving into how you can take actionable steps EVERY DAY to move forward, achieve your goals, and GET MORE out of your life.

We are thrilled that you are here to join us.

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