43 | STOP KEEPING SCORE! Aim for Tranformational, Not Transactional Friendships - featuring Stewanna Dasari
02/18/25 • 11 min
Do you find yourself keeping score in friendship? It goes something like this... “I went to her kid’s birthday party, but she didn’t come to my kid's party!” “I scheduled the last brunch meetup, so it’s HER turn to plan something!” Or, perhaps you catch yourself saying, “After all I’ve done for her?!”
Are you laser focused on reciprocity in your relationship? If so, it sounds like you have a transactional friendship.
While it’s reasonable to expect our friends to celebrate important days and milestones with us and to give as much as we give, reciprocity shouldn’t really be the goal in friendship. Instead, let’s aim for transformational friendships.
Transformational friendships help us grow and evolve as individuals. In these relationships, we dig a bit deeper - beyond the give and take - to offer a bit more of ourselves. Perhaps we offer a skill that only we have, a favor that a friend really needs, a word of encouragement so a friend can keep going, maybe a prayer. Perhaps we lovingly offer constructive feedback or carefully worded advice - all designed to help a friend grow. Will we get what we offered back? Maybe, maybe not. Still, we do it out of love.
Join Stewanna Dasari and me for a conversation about transformational vs. transactional relationships.
After the show, head to the Women, Friendship, and Community Facebook group to share your thoughts.
*BE A GOOD FRIEND!*
Would you like to hear more from Stewanna Dasari? Check out the episode below.
Would you like to hear examples of transformational friendships? Listen to these episodes:
37 | GIRL! You Tripping! How a Friend’s Honesty Helped My Marriage - featuring Alicia Matthews
13 | Somebody Prayed for Me - And Those Prayers Got Through! - featuring Ashley Smith
9 | Faith-Building Friends - featuring Theresa Johnson
Let’s Be Friends!
Facebook Community: bit.ly/thefriendshiptourpodcast
Email: [email protected]
Do you find yourself keeping score in friendship? It goes something like this... “I went to her kid’s birthday party, but she didn’t come to my kid's party!” “I scheduled the last brunch meetup, so it’s HER turn to plan something!” Or, perhaps you catch yourself saying, “After all I’ve done for her?!”
Are you laser focused on reciprocity in your relationship? If so, it sounds like you have a transactional friendship.
While it’s reasonable to expect our friends to celebrate important days and milestones with us and to give as much as we give, reciprocity shouldn’t really be the goal in friendship. Instead, let’s aim for transformational friendships.
Transformational friendships help us grow and evolve as individuals. In these relationships, we dig a bit deeper - beyond the give and take - to offer a bit more of ourselves. Perhaps we offer a skill that only we have, a favor that a friend really needs, a word of encouragement so a friend can keep going, maybe a prayer. Perhaps we lovingly offer constructive feedback or carefully worded advice - all designed to help a friend grow. Will we get what we offered back? Maybe, maybe not. Still, we do it out of love.
Join Stewanna Dasari and me for a conversation about transformational vs. transactional relationships.
After the show, head to the Women, Friendship, and Community Facebook group to share your thoughts.
*BE A GOOD FRIEND!*
Would you like to hear more from Stewanna Dasari? Check out the episode below.
Would you like to hear examples of transformational friendships? Listen to these episodes:
37 | GIRL! You Tripping! How a Friend’s Honesty Helped My Marriage - featuring Alicia Matthews
13 | Somebody Prayed for Me - And Those Prayers Got Through! - featuring Ashley Smith
9 | Faith-Building Friends - featuring Theresa Johnson
Let’s Be Friends!
Facebook Community: bit.ly/thefriendshiptourpodcast
Email: [email protected]
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HAPPY GALENTINE'S DAY!!!
What is Galentine's Day? It's a day that's all about FRIENDSHIP! And, I want to celebrate friendship with all of you - friends near and far.
Listen to the full episode to learn how YOU can be part of The Friendship Tour's 2025 Galentine's Day celebration. But don't delay! The celebration ends on Thursday, February 20, 2025 at 11:59pm PST.
As always, be a good friend!
Let's stay in touch!
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Hey Friends!
This is the final call for the Galentine's Day giveaway!
REMINDER: I'm giving away a $50 Amazon Gift Card as my small way of HAPPY GALENTINE'S DAY.
To make the gift card yours, you'll need to do just a few things:
1. Listen to an episode of The Friendship Tour podcast.
2. Leave a written review.
3. Take a screenshot of your review.
4. Post the screenshot in the Women, Friendship, and Community Facebook group OR send an email with your screenshot to [email protected].
You must enter the contest no later than Thursday, February 20, 2025 at 11:59pm PST.
Good luck!
Cecelia
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