HOLD THE LINE | Why so many men are opting out of dating/marriage
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03/12/25 • 50 min
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"Men are leaving the dating/marriage game, and it’s not by accident—it’s by design."
- Women Have Lowered Their Own Value – Casual hookup culture, social media validation, and feminism have made many women less relationship-oriented.
- Unfair Legal & Financial Risks – Divorce laws favor women, alimony and child support can be abused, and false accusations can ruin a man’s life.
- Unrealistic Standards & Entitlement – Many women reject average, good men while demanding a high-value provider without bringing much to the table themselves.
- Loss of Femininity & Respect – Instead of complementing a man, many women compete with him, disrespect masculinity, and reject traditional gender roles.
- The Rise of Passport Bros & MGTOW – More men are looking overseas for feminine, traditional wives or opting out of relationships entirely.
Men don’t hate marriage—they hate the modern version of it. Until women raise their own standards, more men will continue opting out.
SOTD: Proverbs 18:22 (ESV) – “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
How to Develop: What Should Men Do Instead?
- Fix Yourself First: Instead of opting out, level up spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially.
- Seek High-Value Women, Not Hookup Culture: Dating isn’t dead, but standards have to change. And men holding the line will cause the good women to rise up
- Understand Biblical Marriage: What does God say about marriage vs. what culture says?
- Be a Leader, Not a Victim: Men were built for responsibility, not running away.
- Create a Legacy Mindset: Marriage isn’t about you—it’s about the next generation. Its the only thing that carries on after your death.
MARCHING ORDERS: What’s ONE area in your life you need to level up either before stepping into a relationship or marriage or in your current relationship or marriage... Identify and apply
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Text your questions or comments to us.
"Men are leaving the dating/marriage game, and it’s not by accident—it’s by design."
- Women Have Lowered Their Own Value – Casual hookup culture, social media validation, and feminism have made many women less relationship-oriented.
- Unfair Legal & Financial Risks – Divorce laws favor women, alimony and child support can be abused, and false accusations can ruin a man’s life.
- Unrealistic Standards & Entitlement – Many women reject average, good men while demanding a high-value provider without bringing much to the table themselves.
- Loss of Femininity & Respect – Instead of complementing a man, many women compete with him, disrespect masculinity, and reject traditional gender roles.
- The Rise of Passport Bros & MGTOW – More men are looking overseas for feminine, traditional wives or opting out of relationships entirely.
Men don’t hate marriage—they hate the modern version of it. Until women raise their own standards, more men will continue opting out.
SOTD: Proverbs 18:22 (ESV) – “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
How to Develop: What Should Men Do Instead?
- Fix Yourself First: Instead of opting out, level up spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially.
- Seek High-Value Women, Not Hookup Culture: Dating isn’t dead, but standards have to change. And men holding the line will cause the good women to rise up
- Understand Biblical Marriage: What does God say about marriage vs. what culture says?
- Be a Leader, Not a Victim: Men were built for responsibility, not running away.
- Create a Legacy Mindset: Marriage isn’t about you—it’s about the next generation. Its the only thing that carries on after your death.
MARCHING ORDERS: What’s ONE area in your life you need to level up either before stepping into a relationship or marriage or in your current relationship or marriage... Identify and apply
- TDMP SITE: https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/
- Grab some DANGEROUS GEAR in our shop https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/shop/
- Support the show for as little as $3 a month https://www.buzzsprout.com/2080275/supporters/new
- Follow us on X for more shenanigans https://twitter.com/TDMPodcast603
- Follow us on Instagram for extra shenanigans https://www.instagram.com/thedangerousmanpodcast/
- Connect with Matt Fortin & Rory Lawrence
- Email us at: [email protected]
- Remember men... Stop trying & start training!
- Top Men's Podcast for 2024... https://podcasts.feedspot.com/mens_podcasts/
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DESTROY YOUR WEAKNESS | The age of "soft men" ends now!
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"Too many men and boys today are soft—mentally, physically, spiritually. And the worst part? They don’t even realize it and the destruction it causes."
What is “Softness” in Men? (Break It Down)
- Weak Mindset – Making excuses, complaining, avoiding hard things.
- Lack of Physical Discipline – Out of shape, low energy, poor habits.
- Spiritual Weakness – No convictions, no discipline in faith, passive leadership.
- Emotional Fragility – Easily offended, blaming others, avoiding confrontation.
- Inflated Ego - its just a front to hide your insecurity
- Lack Confidence, presence, posture -
HOW TO FIX IT
Audit Yourself Brutally – Identify where you’ve gotten weak and OWN it.
- Start Hardening Your Mind – Daily challenges that push your mental limits.
- Get Your Body Right – Train hard, eat clean, and develop physical resilience.
- Lead Spiritually – Commit to daily prayer, Scripture, and accountability.
- Eliminate Weak Habits – Stop porn, social media addiction, excuses.
- Surround Yourself with Strong Men – Get in a circle that challenges you.
SOTD: 1 Corinthians 16:13 (ESV) – "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong."
Marching Orders (One Challenge, One Action)
- One Challenge: Identify one area of weakness and commit to changing it TODAY.
"Men, the world needs you to be strong. Your family needs you to be strong. Step up, stop making excuses, and do the hard work of becoming the man you were meant to be."
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DANGEROUS DISCIPLINE | Killing your kryptonite , Without self-Control, we are nothing
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No fluff, no frills, no excuses. Just the hard-hitting rocket fuel you need to get your head right and keep your grind tight. While Most people are dragging their feet, making excuses, dreading the grind. thats NOT YOU! And thats NOT TODAY! You don’t have time to waste so get moving...this is, Dangerous discipline - Let’s goooooo!
QOTD: "You have power over your mind - NOT outside events, realize this and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius
WHAT - Self-control is your ability to master your impulses, emotions, desires, and reactions. Without it, you are weak, reckless, aimless, and a slave!
SOTD: PROVERBS 25:28 - "A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls."
WHY: Lack of self-control is why all men fail!
SELF CONTROL IS YOUR WALL OF PROTECTION AGAINST MEDIOCRITY , FAILURE, AND REGRET. BUILD IT OR WATCH YOUR LIFE CRUMBLE .
APPLY: HERE IS WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT
- FACE YOUR TRIGGERS HEAD ON
- BUILD ROUTINES AND STRUCTURE
- FAST FROM COMFORTS/PLEASURES
- SET A CODE TO LIVE BY
- MASTER YOUR PHYSICAL SELF
DANGEROUS FOCUS FOR THE WEEK : Identify the triggers you need to control and commit to facing them head on without reacting to them.
- TDMP SITE: https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/
- Grab some DANGEROUS GEAR in our shop https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/shop/
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- Connect with Matt Fortin & Rory Lawrence
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- Remember men... Stop trying & start training!
- Top Men's Podcast for 2024... https://podcasts.feedspot.com/mens_podcasts/
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