Ep.15 You're More Boring Than You Think

Chicken Mind Nuggets.

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Show script: (may differ slightly from spoken word)

A story I told myself.

You’re more boring than you think. The stories you tell are not as exciting as you would like people to take them. The experiences that you had don’t inspire people to make themselves better. Your words don’t affect their lives to the point where they realize all of their faults and they become better people. Your stories of triumph and overcoming hardships doesn’t make you an expert on your type of PTSD. Your 34 years of being on this Earth doesn’t qualify you to give life advice to children. The things you get excited about?.....are boring to most other people. Very few people would want to sit in silence drinking chai and listening to stoicism, so don’t get excited about trying to create a meet-up for this. Your activities don’t include social gatherings and you don’t like people, so let go of your excitement to impress or excite anyone. You're fucking boring.

Thank god for this conversation. It sounds sooooo gloomy, but I found peace in knowing that there is no one that I have to impress. There is an excitement that I would get about sharing my life with other people, but the disappointment about my expectations that were not being met overpowered the storytelling and made the experience a shameful situation rather than open-hearted. I continuously closed my heart to the thought of opening it because when I opened it for a second to share a space with someone, to relate to someone, to comfort someone, it would get shut down with an eye roll or a change of conversation, or a backhanded compliment. However, this internal conversation, unknowingly, let my ears open more to people and let my mouth close more to people. I can be the listener to other people’s lives and excitement and be there for their excitement. I can share a space with them where I recognize their need to create a space which I don’t feel like I have to help them reorganize. I can listen to where people are coming from and although I am silent, I gain a tremendous amount of insight on why people are the way they are and I can relate internally. There are stronger connections made within the silent space of being there for someone than when I try to be there for them out loud. A moment of “guess what happened today,” gets to put me in the space of active listening, almost like an Audible book, except I know the author and I’m tremendously grateful that they want to read their real-life story to me. I get to give them love in this way; I get to listen to them which makes me feel better about being a part of their lives. My mouth closes, I stare and listen, and that space that someone is opening for me, I get to sit and be at peace by hearing the world's greatest storytellers – which is EVERYONE because everyone has a story.

Sometimes, being stoically real with yourself, makes you more loving.

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