The Bubbly Bibi

For many of us, standing up for ourselves doesn’t come naturally 😓 – in fact, it can even seem like a no-go. Maybe you’re someone who doesn’t like to “rock the boat” and swallow any opposing feelings or thoughts to avoid confrontation - you find that doing what others want seems the best or easiest thing to do. But when we let people walk all over us, it leaves a bad taste in our mouths.😖 We’ll end up with anger and resentment. We may wonder why people are so insensitive... why don’t they know what we want? This is why you should stand up for yourself 💪 and stop 🚫 doing everything for someone else’s benefit. 🙅‍♀️ And to really stand up for yourself, you need to have boundaries and, more importantly, know how to set them. 🤗 When we don’t, we become passive - we let life “happen” and often get stepped on along the way.😞 If you find it challenging to stand up for yourself, you’re probably out of touch with your very own needs and overly attentive to those of others. In that case, you’re setting the stage for being taken advantage of. Your needs, wants, desires, and goals are just as important as anyone else’s. Maybe they have not have been recognised as such when you were younger, but you have the power 🌟 to make sure they are now. And if you start standing up for yourself and fighting your own corner, you’ll find that things will start shifting in your favor. ❤️

Without a shadow of a doubt, the world has a way of keeping us busy and rushing us through moments of accomplishment and good news. But with so much inevitable sadness and anguish that we are all bound to experience in our lives, it’s high time we take the time to appreciate and focus on those happiness-inducing magical moments. Even I tended to let the little moments of joy slip by too quickly...But I have slowly learned to stick with my feelings in the good times to make sure they really matter. So now, more than ever, I’m constantly working to create space for more joy and happiness in everything I do. What does it look like if we focus on good days as much as bad days? How can we create spaces for happiness in our adult lives and feel better? This January, it’s time to kick back and hone in on healthy habits that will allow you to thrive throughout this year and beyond. To help you feel better in 2022 and truly bring joy into your life, this week’s podcast is about tips for pursuing, capturing and treasuring positive moments, whether in small or big ways. I hope you enjoy the first episode of this year’s podcast! Have a blessed and happy new year! ❤️

We often try to mould ourselves into the image of what others think, and in this vicious process, we forget how to stay true to ourselves. From a young age, we learn to be someone our parents want us to be, and it is perfectly normal to get lost in this process.... 🤯 We are constantly told how to sit... how to talk... how to act... and even how to breathe in front of others. All of this has been so ingrained in our minds that when someone asks us how we’re doing, we don’t actually reply to that question as seriously and deeply as we should. Our answer is more often “Yeah, I’m fine” or “I’m okay” - even if we don’t necessarily mean it.😟 Unfortunately, it has become a habit to hide our true personalities and present ourselves to others as entirely different people. And, we somehow lose our true selves in that whole process. Have you ever thought about what it would be like if you could just be yourself? Your true self, without a mask hiding you? Imagine living in a world where we are all accepted - flaws and all - without hiding from others and ourselves. 🥰 Feeling positive in today’s chaotic world doesn’t seem easy. Saying “I’m fine” when you’re clearly NOT can damage your mental and emotional well-being. This false positivity prevents us from feeling confident and authentic with ourselves.🤐🤫🤕 Recognising and accepting our feelings as they are can be really helpful. When we accept our emotions, we acknowledge the problem behind those feelings and respond to find a solution. Knowing yourself is not just about knowing your body. It is about knowing who you are as a whole person – your body, thoughts, emotions, intuition, awareness, spirit, character and determination. Hiding these emotions and feelings would not help you feel any better; on the contrary, you will feel bummed out, miserable and blue.😓 This whole self-acceptance thing may seem daunting, but once you muster up the courage to accept your true identity, you will become more confident and self-assured in your actions. So, don’t be afraid to get to know yourself better and find the beauty that may be hidden. Each one of us is unique and has our own individuality. Even if you are a twin, you are still a 1 in 1. You’re beautiful, intelligent, strong, fearless, full of depth and wonder. And don’t forget to define how you want to be treated and spoken to. You are the one who has to live with yourself most of the time, and in the end, it is your opinion of yourself that will mostly influence your behaviour and functioning. So learn to tune your mind to positive thoughts about yourself. Do not let any negative thoughts about yourself linger. Do not let unpleasant words about yourself come out of your mouth. Be lighter on yourself. Nobody is perfect. Gently accept your human side. Listen to this podcast if you’re struggling to find your true authentic self. 😘🤗

We all are selfish to an extent, but some people are just too much into themselves and tend to disregard others. They can even make you feel worthless! Some use you when they have issues, but they are never around when you need them. Sometimes they make you feel inadequate and invisible. But, no matter how the selfish person treats you, it doesn’t mean that you should behave like them and adopt a selfish lifestyle. Instead, stay true to yourself. Be who you are, do what you want, and prioritise yourself. Remember why you are still with this person but retain your good qualities. Don’t stoop down to their level. Self-centred individuals think that only their day, opinion, likes and dislikes matter. So their conversations are also like that – centred around only them and their lives. If you’ve been taking it for a long time, it’s time to snap out of it silently and smartly. If you want to know some calm and smart ways you can deal with self-absorbed people and put them in their right place, here are a few tips that may be useful.

It’s not easy to heal after being cheated on—after all, everything about infidelity is powerfully painful. It doesn’t matter if it was a one-time indiscretion, a series of micro-flirtations, an emotional affair, or finding out your partner has a secret family. Whatever shade of infidelity you’re dealing with, it’s totally natural to feel a sense of betrayal, anger, and grief. There’s nothing like betrayal to throw your self-esteem for a loop. When your spouse betrays you, you are devastated. But, your devastation might pale in comparison to the hit that your self-esteem takes when this happens. Infidelity is the worst of the worst when it comes to damaging your self-esteem. Even though you know it’s not about you, there are still society’s messages directed at you. Many people will whisper and wonder whether or not you were a good wife or husband and if your spouse cheated because of your deficits not theirs. But, still this pales in comparison to the blow your self-esteem takes whenever you think of the other person. Thinking of the other person and how they were able to lure your spouse away down the rabbit hole really takes the cake in terms of self-esteem destroyers. If you learned about your partner’s infidelity while being quarantined with them, it may be even harder to come to terms with the news. In such close quarters, you may not have been able to grant yourself the physical or mental space you need in order to process the situation. But if there’s one thing I want you to know, it’s that being cheated is never your fault and your value and worth aren’t tied to anyone or anything. With time and patience, healing and loving yourself again are possible, whether that means with your partner in or out of the picture. Listen to this podcast for more inspiration!