The Bridge to Fulfillment

How intentional have you been in your career?

It’s easy to get caught up in climbing the ladder and accept what comes to us, but the truth is that we have more influence than we often realize.

When you gain clarity on what your values are, you develop a deeper understanding of what you bring to the table so that you can confidently leverage your skills.

Today on The Bridge to FulfillmentR, Blake welcomes her client Molly to share how the program helped her get intentional about what she truly wanted in her career. This led to greater empowerment in her job search as she became an equal partner in the process of her career development.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to stop shifting from job to job and start digging deeper to leverage your secret sauce transferrable skills TM and find a more fulfilling, values-based career. You’ll hear how Molly learned to approach job opportunities from a place of power, setting clear expectations that enabled her to create a fulfilling career that doesn’t require sacrifices in her personal life or well-being. You’ll also hear how getting more in tune with her team and recognizing their values helped her develop better leadership skills and gain more confidence.

What You’ll Learn:

• How coaching helps you see more possibilities (5:31)
• Digging deeper to gain real clarity about what you want in life (8:14)
• Why it’s not always about making big changes (15:14)
• Telltale signs that things aren’t ok (22:03)
• Developing the skill of awareness (27:44)

Favorite Quotes:

1. “I hadn't yet created the space to really take an intentional look to say what I actually want.” –Molly
2. “It's hard to reach insights on your own, doing the same things, talking to the same people, or going through the same process. And so just to have an opportunity for someone else to come in and create a space and guide and challenge is really enlightening.” -–Molly
3. “Those of us who are servant leaders often put all of our energy externally, not really realizing that the investment in ourselves enables us to create far better outcomes for everyone else and ourselves.” –Blake
4. “A huge part of feeling the stress and anxiety of a job actually isn't the job. It's the amount of pressure and lack of comfort that you feel in admitting the things you don't know or asking for help.” –Blake

Additional Resources:

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/pcfp

Is your work no longer making you happy? Are you ready for something to change but unsure what the right next step should be?

Making a career change, especially when everything looks great on paper, can feel like a huge challenge (even more so when it feels like you’re doing it alone).

But this unsettling feeling you’re experiencing can actually be a gift, nudging you to transition with intention because that’s the only path to fulfillment that will put YOUR values first.

Today on The Bridge to FulfillmentR, Blake shares the most effective way to navigate a crossroads in your life and career.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to use this season of transition as an opportunity to avoid career burnout before it happens, identify your unique secret sauce transferrable skillsTM, and start creating the life you’ve always wanted. You’ll learn why what you’ve been doing hasn’t produced results, and what you can do right now to finally get things moving in the right direction.

What You’ll Learn:

• Two approaches to making a transition (1:09)
• The place most people get stuck (3:20)
• The biggest challenge we face when seeking change (5:15)
• Why you’re not gaining more clarity (7:30)
• The moment “more” becomes possible (11:48)

Favorite Quotes:

1. “This is where so many of us get stuck: we're making these changes, or we're trying to get clarity, we're reading the books, we're changing jobs, we are having these conversations, and they're not moving us forward.”
2. “When we lack clarity, we believe that the answer lies externally, in our circumstances, in somebody's book and somebody else's journey. And I want you to know that that's just not true. The answer is always internal. It's inside of you.”
3. “We often believe clarity has to be difficult, hard and painful to get. But that's just not true. It's our approach that is difficult, hard and painful.”
4. “It's all possible, but it's only possible when we look at our circumstances and recognize where I am today is not the life I want to be repeating, and I'm done just tolerating what I have I want more.”

Additional Resources:

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/pcfp

For programs and opportunities to work with Blake, go to www.BlakeSchofield.com

How often do you feel triggered by the words or actions of someone else?

When we are emotionally triggered by something, we are usually reacting to a situation instead of responding to it.

And when we are reacting instead of responding, we show up as our wounded selves instead of our best selves.

That’s when it’s time to pause, ask yourself where this is really coming from, and take a moment to gain clarity so that you can reframe the situation and navigate it from a place of truth and integrity.

Today on The Bridge to FulfillmentR, Blake welcomes Andrea Mein DeWitt, author of “Name, Claim & Reframe: Your Path to a Well-Lived Life”, a practical approach to navigating life’s challenges. Her guide teaches you how to name and balance your emotional triggers, claim core value lead actions, and reframe challenges as opportunities so you can live your best life.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to listen to your inner compass and allow it to guide you, rather than continue to push it and its message to the background. You’ll hear practical tips for gaining attuned awareness so you can begin to heal yourself from the inside out. You’ll also learn how to lead more intelligently and with more self-compassion so that you can start to rebuild your idea of success on a foundation of truth and authenticity.

Until we navigate our inner problems, the changes we make on the outside won’t help us make the fundamental life changes we seek on the inside.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why it’s never too late in life for big changes (3:16)
• The bold move Andrea made to shift her path in a new direction (11:57)
• How to be a better, more integrated leader (21:55)
• Dissecting feedback to uncover the truth (35:58)
• Cultivating intelligent leadership (43:43)

Favorite Quotes:

1. “I think that the battled and bruised healers are the best healers, because they know the pathway and it's okay to make mistakes, because mistakes are where the magic happens.” –Andrea Mein DeWitt
2. “In order to become who you're meant to be, you need to release who you were and trust. My favorite saying is, ‘Leap and the net will appear.’”–Andrea Mein DeWitt
3. “We often don't think about the identities that we give ourselves and how much holding on to those things is destroying our lives.” –Blake
4. “We often talk about leadership in terms of very tactical things, not understanding that the biggest and most powerful way to show up as a leader is to have a level of self-awareness and authenticity. And then being able to create that safe space and authenticity for those around you.” –Blake

Additional Resources:

Connect with Andrea:

https://www.andreadewittadvisors.com/

https://www.andreadewittadvisors.com/leadership-quiz

https://www.andreadewittadvisors.com/programs

https://www.instagram.com/andreadewittcoaching/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-mein-dewitt-98694068/

For programs and opportunities to work with Blake, go to www.BlakeSchofield.com

Are you a people pleaser with a high tolerance for handling what life throws at you? Do you pride yourself on your deep empathy for others, often procrastinating on what’s important to you?

If perfectionism and procrastination feel like inescapable parts of your life, then life is trying to tell you something.

Procrastination isn’t a flaw. It is a signal that’s urging you to dig deeper into your underlying fears, recognize what’s misaligned, and identify what doesn’t feel safe.

Today on The Bridge to FulfillmentR, Blake welcomes Elyssa Smith, a trauma-informed life strategist who helps people understand the brain science behind self-sabotage. She’s the founder of Your Best Moment and creator of the Ultimate Self-Regulation Method. Her work empowers women to overcome self-sabotage and trauma and break free from procrastination, people-pleasing, and overwhelm.

In this episode, you’ll learn how trauma from our past influences behaviors like procrastination and perfectionism. You’ll begin to understand the two types of pain, identifying the kind that strengthens versus the kind that injures, and why knowing which is which is critical for growth. You’ll gain a fresh perspective on why you might be feeling stuck and how you can finally break free by addressing what feels unsafe.

If you’re a high achiever who often pushes yourself into burnout, these actionable strategies will help you shift from survival mode to a place of thriving.

What You’ll Learn:

• Identifying when people pleasing is helpful versus harmful (8:11)
• The build-up of ‘shoulds’ that keep us stuck (15:03)
• Pain and our fear of failure (25:32)
• Big and ‘Tiny T’ traumas that influence our patterns in life (35:25)
• Working through procrastination (43:13)

Favorite Quotes:

1. “I think often we've been rewarded for focusing on everyone else, and in some cases, made to believe that it's selfish to take care of yourself.” –Blake
2. “Helping that's harmful is helping that is at your expense. There's something to be said for sacrificing for other people, but if it's a lifestyle, that's where you get into burnout. That's where you get into resentment.” –Elyssa Smith
3. “The vast majority of our stress, anxiety, and our problems are not circumstantial. It's not the toxic boss or the environment. It's whatever belief systems, patterns, etc, that we are dealing with that are creating that anxiety.” –Blake
4. “We have this special switch that we can turn on or off that's like, ‘I will tolerate more than is reasonable for no good reason’. So I had to find that switch, and I had to turn it off and say, No, babe, we don't need to do that.” –Elyssa Smith
5. “The path of gentleness is sort of paved with a fear of failure. And the fear of failure is what the pain of strengthening looks like.” –Elyssa Smith
6. “If those are your answers, work harder, be better, do more, you know that that is the pain that injures. If the kind of hard work you have to do is face your fears, that's the pain that causes resilience.” –Elyssa Smith

Connect with Elyssa Smith:

https://elyssasmith.com

www.facebook.com/elyssacsmith

www.instagram.com/elyssacsmith

www.linkedin.com/in/elyssasmith

The Stress Less Lounge FB group: https://elyssasmith.com/facebook

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Additional Resources:

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/pcfp

For programs and opportunities to work with Blake, go to www.BlakeSchofield.com

When was the last time you were wronged, disappointed by someone, or taken advantage of?

It’s natural when something bad happens to us to want to lay blame. We want to pin the fault on someone else to make sense of the injustice.

But we often forget that we are the co-creators of our experiences. And taking on that responsibility can be empowering.

Today on The Bridge to FulfillmentR, Blake shares a lesson in taking responsibility for your role in the things that happen in life. The empowerment of understanding co-creation and accepting responsibility can become the momentum you need to move forward.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to keep an open loop to leave space for the unknown to enter your life. You’ll hear stories about people who took responsibility for difficult situations, recognizing that rather than happening to them, opportunities were actually happening for them. You’ll also learn how we actively co-create our life experiences, and how you can transform misfortune into forward momentum.

“It might not be your fault, but it is your responsibility.”

What You’ll Learn:

• How to keep an open loop (2:40)
• The empowering act of taking responsibility (4:20)
• Accepting your role as a co-creator (6:29)
• How to create forward momentum (8:42)
• Learning life’s lessons and releasing yourself from blame (10:37)

Favorite Quotes:

1. “The kindest thing I can do is help you see reality. Help you recognize the places where maybe you're keeping yourself stuck or small or suffering when you don't have to.”
2. “In every relationship and every interaction, we are co-creators. Nothing happens in isolation.”
3. “Understanding co-creation and understanding responsibility enables you to take negative circumstances and create positive outcomes.”
4. “Where can you take responsibility to create forward momentum?”

Additional Resources:

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/pcfp

For programs and opportunities to work with Blake, go to www.BlakeSchofield.com