Live from IF Oxford - with Robin Dunbar and Max Dickins

10/20/23 • 57 min

In a live episode recorded at The Bullingdon as part of IF Oxford, Rosie chats to anthropologist and evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar and author Max Dickins about friendship - why why we need friends, how many friends we can have, friendship breakups, the ambiguous language of friendship, the When Harry Met Sally (or when Sally met Sally) question, Jane Austen’s observations on relationships, whether a close romantic friendship could ever count as ‘cheating’, the differences between (straight) male and female friendships and the experience of people with identities beyond those binaries.

Recorded at The Bullingdon as part of IF Oxford on 17 October 2023. You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram and Threads @breakupmonologues and buy The Breakup Monologues book from all good bookshops: https://linktr.ee/breakupmonologues The Breakup Monologues will also be recording live episodes at Margate Bookie on 22 October and Cheerful Earful Podcast Festival in London on 4 November: https://www.dreamland.co.uk/event/live-podcast-the-breakup-monologues/ https://www.streathamspaceproject.co.uk/whats-on-calendar/cheerfulearful-4nov23 Robin’s book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Friends-Understanding-Power-Important-Relationships/dp/0349143579/ Max’s book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/1838853545/

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Live from The Bill Murray - with Ria Lina, James Barr and Njambi McGrath

In a live episode recorded at The Bill Murray, Rosie chats to comedians Ria Lina, James Barr and Njambi McGrath about first loves, writing a revenge novel, finding a suspicious condom in your partner’s bin, living in a house with your ex, polygamy, Njambi’s great great grandmother’s seven wives, sex party rules, the myth of ‘exclusive’ dating apps, the challenges of having sex when you have kids and much much more. Recorded at The Bill Murray on 24 September 2023. You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram and Threads @breakupmonologues and buy The Breakup Monologues book from all good bookshops: https://linktr.ee/breakupmonologues The Breakup Monologues will also be recording live episodes at IF Oxford on 17 October: http://if-oxford.com/event/the-breakup-monologues-friendship

Margate Bookie on 22 October: https://www.margatebookie.com/the-breakup-monologues

and Cheerful Earful Podcast Festival in London on 4 November: https://www.cheerfulearful.co.uk/events/the-breakup-monologues

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Live from Margate Bookie - with Lucy Vine, Olivia Petter and Zahra Barri

In a live episode recorded at Margate Bookie, Rosie chats to authors Lucy Vine and Olivia Petter plus comedian Zahra Barri about whether we all have seven archetypes of ex - the first love, the work mistake, the friend with benefits, the overlap, the missed chance, the bastard and the serious one, dating app culture, whether marriages should expire after a certain duration, whether there should be a lower age limit (of around 35 or 40!) of when you can marry, writing as catharsis, staying accountable for our part in a breakup, doing the emotional housework in a relationship, losing ourselves in relationships, whether to stop drinking after a breakup and much more.

Recorded at Margate Bookie on 22 October 2023.

You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram and Threads @breakupmonologues and buy The Breakup Monologues book from all good bookshops: https://linktr.ee/breakupmonologues

The Breakup Monologues will also be recording live episodes at Hoxton Hall on 17 November as part of Hackney Pride’s celebrations of Trans Awareness Week: https://www.hoxtonhall.co.uk/event/112321/

Follow Lucy on Instagram @lucyvineauthor Follow Olivia on Instagram @oliviapetter Follow Zahra on Instagram @zahra.barri.comedy

Follow Margate Bookie on Instagram @margatebookie With additional thanks to our friend Vix Leyton, who you can follow @vixleyton