The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

An episode that explores the behavior of stealing and the underlying factors that contribute to it.

Stealing is a frequent concern among parents and professionals, yet there is a lack of comprehensive resources on the subject. The goal is to provide a single source that explores the behavior of stealing in depth, taking into account the underlying factors that contribute to it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The underlying causes of stealing
• What to do about stealing
• What it takes to help your child be successful at not stealing

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Previous episode on the Stress Response System: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/stealing

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

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The Club is a virtual community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education just for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems and big, baffling behaviors. 24-7 access, HUGE learning library, expert coaches, and amazing parents.

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Are you struggling to find common ground with your partner when it comes to parenting? This episode will shed light on this common dilemma as we discuss understanding behavior, creating a support plan, and cultivating authenticity and honesty within the family. We'll explore the reasons behind resistance to paradigm shifts and dive into the intricacies of the owl, watchdog, and possum metaphor. You'll learn how curiosity and connection can bridge differences with your parenting partner, even when they seem insurmountable.
In this episode you’ll learn:

• The importance of addressing underlying issues and supporting your partner with parenting struggles
• How having different parenting styles or philosophies doesn’t mean you can’t be a successful partnership
• About tools needed to navigate these challenges and strengthen the relationship with your parenting partner

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Has Trauma Informed Become A Behavior Modification Technique? {Ep 54}
• What if Trauma Informed...Isn’t? {Ep 134}
• But- What About A Consequence?!?! {Ep 56}
• When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}
• Self-Compassion Will Change Your Brain {Ep 8}
• Q&A! What Do I Do When My Kid Gets Stuck And Ends Up Flipping Her Lid? {Ep 74}
• Focus On The Nervous System To Change Beavior {Ep 84} (Podcast)

Free resources: robyngobbel.com/freeresources
Start Here Podcast Series: robyngobbel.com/startherepodcast
Book pre-order/order: robyngobbel.com/book
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notonboard

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Over on my website you can find:

Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)

eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)

Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club

Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."
You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book
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Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Ever wonder how to apply the concepts of felt-safety and attunement to one of the trickiest parenting experiences ever? Food and feeding kids with extreme picky eating, food preoccupation, or other feeding-related challenges that feel very stressful in your family?
This is exactly why I invited today's guest to the podcast!
Dr. Katja Rowell is a family physician in Washington State, the author of Conquer Picky Eating for Teens and Adults, Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating, and Love Me, Feed Me. Dr. Rowell is also the co-founder of Responsive Feeding Pros, an international digital learning platform for professionals working with feeding and eating challenges within a responsive framework.

Responsive Feeding is a feeding model that has been in the academic literature since 2011 and is recommended by American Academy of Pediatrics.

Dr. Rowell described Responsive Feeding as a model that ultimately helps kids tune into their hunger and fullness cues, while also recognizing and honoring that food is comforting and regulating.

Responsive Feeding is a model that is both high structure and high nurture, which ultimately allows for a lot of flexibility. Responsive Feeding prioritizes felt safety; it is never intended to be rigid. Responsive feeding is about attunement and helping caregivers respond to their child’s cues.

All of this sounds very familiar right? Attunement, felt-safety, high-structure, high-nurture.

I knew Dr. Rowell would be just the right guest to talk to my audience!

Dr. Rowell will be a guest in The Club in March, teaching a masterclass on Responsive Feeding! We'd love to have you join us! https://robyngobbel.com/theclub
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/ResponsiveFeeding
Over on my website you can find:

Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain
CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."
You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book
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Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Brain-based parenting with connection and coregulation doesn’t mean boundary-less parenting. In fact, if you are parenting a child who is a little delayed with regard to developing self-regulation, this type of parenting actually means MORE boundaries.

But boundaries aren’t consequences or punishments.

Boundaries are the supports your child needs to be successful.

It’s a little like toddler proofing. Toddlers aren’t untrustworthy, misbehaving, or sneaky because they explored the stairs and then fell down. Toddlers are just doing their toddler thing with their toddler brain. It’s our job as the adults to provide the boundaries and co-regulation they need to support their developmental task (exploration) without getting hurt!

So we provide lots of supervision and baby-gates. And we support their safe exploration of the stairs- holding their hands as they go up and down, or sitting one step below them while they play.

If we remember a few important tenets of brain-based parenting:

• Connection is a biological imperative
• Behavior is an externalization of inner experience
• Regulated, Connected, Kids who Feel Safe Behave Well

Then we can feel confident that when our kids are struggling (lying, stealing, manipulation, opposition, etc.) that they need more support.
Read my blog article about Boundaries with Connection here: Boundaries with Connection Watch the original Facebook Live video on Boundaries with Connection: Facebook LIVES If you are new to the the relational neurosciences or this approach to parenting, you'll want to watch my FREE 45-minute video series on Regulation, Connection, and Felt Safety. You can watch that on my website: Regulation, Connection, & Felt-Safety Video Series

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."
You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book
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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

On May 10 and 11, 2021, I taught a free masterclass called What Behavior Really Is and How to Change it. Maybe you were there! But maybe you weren’t. To be honest, I do not love watching videos myself. I would much rather put in my ear buds and listen to the audio only- even if it meant missing the slides.

So, with that in mind, I’m releasing the audio from that masterclass here as a bonus podcast episode!
If you want to stop playing behavior whack-a-mole, there are THREE questions to ask when kids are struggling- and when we stay focused on those questions instead of on the behavior, we will finally be able to solve the real problem.

After you finish this episode, you can head over to robyngobbel.com/masterclass if you’d like to watch the video, too. There might be a few ideas in the masterclass that are easier to express with the slides that are in the video.

I hope you enjoy!!!
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I suggested several resources in this episode!
Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain

The Club: A Virtual Community for Parents of Kids Impacted by Trauma

Blogs:
Focus on Arousal, Not Behavior Part 1
Focus on Arousal, Not Behavior Part 2
Felt-Safety? What's That?
Connection or Protection
Always Yearning for Connection
What's Regulation Got to Do With It
Boundaries with Connection

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."
You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book
***

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources