The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Robyn Gobbel
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
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Ep. 138: Stealing- Behavior is Just a Clue
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
06/23/23 • 48 min
An episode that explores the behavior of stealing and the underlying factors that contribute to it.
Stealing is a frequent concern among parents and professionals, yet there is a lack of comprehensive resources on the subject. The goal is to provide a single source that explores the behavior of stealing in depth, taking into account the underlying factors that contribute to it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The underlying causes of stealing
- What to do about stealing
- What it takes to help your child be successful at not stealing
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Previous episode on the Stress Response System: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/
Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/stealing
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
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The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store
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Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep. 147: What Behavior Really Is
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
08/22/23 • 49 min
Understanding what behavior really is helps us:
- Stop playing behavior whack-a-mole
- Use strategies and tools that really work
- Stay more regulated so we can use our thinking brain to make good choices about what to do next
We’re going back to basics with today’s podcast episode with a short exploration of the neuroscience of behavior- especially the most baffling behavior.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
- Book pre-order/order: robyngobbel.com/book
Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/whatbehaviorreallyisFollow Me On:
FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
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The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store
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Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep. 153: Marshall Lyles & Robyn Gobbel Talk about Writing #RKB3
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
09/26/23 • 63 min
Marshall Lyles is here with me today to help me reflect on the journey of bringing Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors into the world.
I knew Marshall was just the person to ask to help me with this. He asked questions I was so grateful to reflect on.
Thank you for witnessing this experience for me and allowing me to accompany your journey.
Book!!!-
Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors released September 21. CLICK HERE to order now!
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutwriting
Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
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The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep 218: Questions to ask a Potential Therapist
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
04/22/25 • 53 min
Have you ever wondered what types of questions you should ask a new therapist to assess how well they understand behaviors through the lens of the nervous system?
No need to take notes during this episode, I created downloadable handouts you can access with just one click. Listen to the episode then head over to my website!
PLEASE NOTE. These are suggestions. Please vet your professionals thoroughly. I’m certain there are many important questions left off of this list. I’m also certain there are many excellent trainings that I did not include in the list of potential trainings. Also, even if a therapist meets all the criteria, that doesn’t mean they are the right therapist for your family. Even someone trained with me isn’t necessarily the therapist or professional that is right for you.
In this episode, you’ll learn
- Questions you can ask a therapist to get a feel for how well they conceptualize behaviors through the lens of the nervous system
- Red flags to pay attention to
- Trainings on a therapist’s resume that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of ‘all behavior makes sense.’
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
- Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist. Download by CLICKING HERE
- Trainings a therapist may have that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of the nervous system. Download by CLICKING HERE
- When Your Child Doesn't Participate In Therapy {EP 86} (also has an infographic many therapists use to describe therapy to parents)
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/questionsfortherapist
Follow Me On:
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
:::
The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep. 154: (BONUS) Let me Tell You About The Club
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
09/28/23 • 44 min
If you're thinking about joining The Club (between now and October 3), let me fill you in on some of the details!
In this bonus episode you'll learn:
- The real reason The Club works
- What you get when you join The Club
- Club bonuses
- How The Club could help your family
- How easy it is to leave The Club when you're ready
Check out all the details and register to join at https://RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
:::
The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep. 101: How to Influence- Not Control- Behavior
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
11/08/22 • 25 min
Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on.
One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What it means to influence, not control
- What your real responsibility is in influencing behavior
- Responsibility does not equal blame
- How to acknowledge influence without shame
Read a summary or the full transcript at:
robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors
Over on my website you can find:
Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep. 96: What to do about Manipulation
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
10/03/22 • 39 min
No one likes to feel manipulated. It feels gross and yucky and we instinctively want it to stop.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What manipulation really is
- Why children manipulate
- How you can help your child find their voice and decrease manipulation
Read a summary and full episode transcript at : https://robyngobbel.com/manipulation
Over on my website you can find:
Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
{BONUS} When Parenting Advice Hurts
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
09/23/22 • 10 min
A short note from Robyn...
This episode is a recording of an email I previously sent out.
Sometimes good parenting advice can actually leave us feeling more alone, isolated, and yes- hurt.
It's not bad advice. It's just not enough.
In this episode I mention my interview with Marshall Lyles about Ableism and Parenting, as well as my ow memes and reels (LOL- oh the irony) over on Instagram.
Read the transcript at https://robyngobbel.com/whenparentingadvicehurts/
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
{BONUS} A Kayak Fell on My Head
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
09/16/22 • 9 min
A short note from Robyn...
This episode is a recording of an email I previously sent out.
New skills- like hoisting a kayak over your head or staying regulated in the face of utter chaos- take a lot of practice.
Sometimes shame gets in the way of continuing to practice, and I easily feel the tug toward 'it's too hard. I should give up...'
It is hard. Sometimes you need to rest. Sometimes you can keep going. Sometimes a kayak falls on my head.
You can read the transcript over at https://robyngobbel.com/kayakonmyhead/
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
Ep. 137: Disappointment: A Sneaky Cause of Baffling Behaviors
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
06/13/23 • 48 min
An episode exploring the feeling of disappointment as an underlying cause of many baffling behaviors.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why and how we avoid feeling disappointment
- The neurobiology of disappointment
- Behaviors associated with avoiding disappointment
- The importance of embracing disappointment
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook
Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/disappointmentOver on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors!
Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app.
RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors for all the details and to sign up!
It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up!
Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
:::
The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store
:::
Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook
Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith
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The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} currently has 300 episodes available.
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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Adoption, Parenting, Kids & Family, Mental Health, Foster Care, Podcasts and Trauma.
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The episode title 'Ep. 104: Being Adopted with Amy Wilkerson' is the most popular.
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The average episode length on The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} is 44 minutes.
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Episodes of The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} are typically released every 6 days, 23 hours.
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The first episode of The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} was released on Dec 4, 2020.
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