The Audacious Life - Break Free

Does a Chaotic Childhood Result in a Chaotic Unsuccessful Adult Life?

It's a great question. I'm sure most of us would respond with a resounding, "Yes!"

It's refreshing when we find evidence against this assumption.

Enter Author and successful executive Hope Mueller. Hope shares her early experience of mostly raising herself as a child in a free wheeling commune where sexual freedom, drugs, and no real sense of limitation or structure were to be found.

Hope's story is shared through her new book, "Hopey: from Commune to corner office." Here you'll understand how she made the leap from chaos into the structure of a corporate business environment. She's a mom of four in a healthy marriage and seems happy and well adjusted.

If you're feeling like you can only control so many aspects of your life or the lives of your children and sometimes this realization is sobering if not a bit depressing, you need to hear this interview.

What if those same out of control things are exactly what will create resilience and a unique perspective, perhaps even a drive to achieve or create a life vastly different the one they were raised in?

"Hopey" the book can be ordered here:

https://www.hopey.net

View Hope's family photo album

https://www.hopey.net/family-album

Welcome to Season 4 of the Audacious Life Podcast! I hope you're well! I'm happy to be back with this short episode to update you on the summer break, what's been happening, and the direction I'm taking the podcast. The title of this episode is "Pause. Rest Before You Start Again." I chose this title because I see in myself and so many of the women in my life and work that we don't excuse ourselves to take a break from something when we're overwhelmed, feeling blue, under-the-weather, or simply burned out from all the plates we have spinning. I took a much-needed break from my two podcasts in August. It was not planned but it gave me room to breathe, focus on what needed my attention, and allowed me space to reconsider how I've been approaching my podcasts. The good the bad and the ugly. In spite of letting down listeners, I'm happy I did it. I needed the clarity it brought and the time to take care of some challenges. In short, here's what I learned. No one is going to grant you permission to hop off the hamster wheel of life. And that's good news, it means you created it, you're in charge and you get to find the things that you can intentionally pause so you can regroup when necessary. Maybe it's not your work or the things you do around the house. Maybe it's the extra stuff that used to fill you up but now seems like drudgery or work. If you used to garden because it was fun and made you happy but now you're helping out with the town's flower beds and it's become too much. STOP. PAUSE. RETHINK. If it's optional and it's no longer bringing you joy maybe it's time to reflect on where best to spend your time. It doesn't mean you have to quit but maybe there's a less time-consuming approach you can take so it feels good again. In this episode, I announce one big decision I made about my podcasts. I'm optimistic and excited about it. I don't think I would've arrived at this decision without the time off. I'd love to hear about you. Have you taken an intentional break from something in your life to rest, gain clarity, and move forward? How did it work out for you? Shoot me your story [email protected] - I'd love to hear from you! Have a great day! Steph

I was compelled to share this message today ahead of the interviews I have scheduled. It was a powerful tap on the shoulder from God, the Universe, higher power, whatever name you have for that force. It began by listening to a video on youTube.

I dropped everything to share this one because I believe it's the key to moving forward and breaking cycles of dysfunction and abuse.

It's far too easy to stay in rumination mode trying to make sense of why things are the way they are or why they have unfolded as they have. But when we do this we're keeping ourselves stuck in the same gear, the same wavelength, planted there feeding the negative energy, and it's like waving a flag asking for more of the same. No bueno!!

If we want to move out of this negative space and free ourselves from the muck, we can release the anger, the bitterness, and all sense of victim thinking and trade it for more positive thoughts that are on the other side of the spectrum.

Focus on allowing forgiveness and gratitude to well up. Search for things to be grateful for, things of any size. Start super small if it's easier. A smile from a stranger, a positive interaction with customer service that could've been difficult.

All these tiny choices to focus on and recognized the positive add up to fuel our hope, faith, and optimism and result in more Love, joy, and bring us out of a dark place and into light.

See the original video by Aluna Ash that inspired this episode. It might be a little much for some of you. If it's too odd, or doesn't resonate, you can just skip it. But it's an excellent explanation about karmic entanglements, how to get out by using opposing forces. So if you're open to it, please do listen. You may have to hear it multiple times from the starting point of 12:10 until 21:00 - after that may be confusing.

Aluna Ash on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbF_yaDa_KM&feature=youtu.be&t=12m10s (go to 12:10 until 21:00)

An affirmation to repeat and lock into this oppositional mindset:

(God) Help me to release this anger and dissolve it with Love and forgiveness so we can all heal.

Happy Independence Weekend!!

This solo episode is about independence, independent thoughts, and leaving behind or minimizing the things, circumstances, and people that don’t serve to move you forward.

And, liberating ourselves from recurring thoughts, stories, and messages that keep us SMALL or stuck.

It takes work, but it’s work with a massive pay off to do this deliberately. You may not see and feel it immediately, but good DOES show up when we MAKE ROOM for it.

Reach out to me, let me know what you’re working on or what’s worked for you. I'm @audaciouslife on Instagram.

I’m cheering for you and for all of us to liberate ourselves from all of the above.

You can’t see me, but trust that I’m here in prayer and meditation, including YOU in that better place.

Do something FUN to get your happy on today! You deserve it!!

Heading to a family cookout sans kiddos and plan to enjoy my free time.

Wishing you an AMAZING day!!! Viva la Independence! Happy Independence Weekend!! Mentioned and inspired by these people and videos...check them out! Neville Goddard's Self Talk Power https://youtu.be/-Pc6JSsbW4U Neville Goddard - Strong Imagination https://youtu.be/n32mAQ6rppE Ed Mylett - How to Face Bullying Head On (I love this man!) https://youtu.be/7habCVZeXkM

Ed Mylett has a great story and a heart of gold, so please push play and look beyond his initial appearance or delivery. Dr. Bruce Lipton - How to Program Your Mind https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsA91lxuF00 Share a screenshot and tag me if you listened https://www.instagram.com/audaciouslife/.

Message me to let me know if this resonates or was helpful in some way. Have a great day! :-) Steph

All of us have been through so much these last few months with quarantine life, protests, racial inequality, and all the powerful feelings behind centuries of injustice coming to the fore. Some of us can urge you to "be positive" or "adopt a positive mindset" but I know it's not that simple.

When things have been truly challenging in my life those phrases have felt feel empty or even triggering more self-criticism.

Maybe you've had some of the following thoughts.

"Why can't I just be positive?"

"How come my mind always goes back to all the possible the negative outcomes??"

"I've been saying these positive affirmations for weeks but I just don't believe them!!"

"I suck at this. Eff those spirit junkies, they can choke on their positivity!!"

I get it.

And I know many of you are in that space where it feels dark, borderline hopeless, and all this positive talk is like putting lipstick on a pig.

So, with that in mind, I'm sharing the concept of Neutral Thinking.

In this episode, I share what it means and a bit about Trevor Moawad, Mental Conditioning expert, and top coach to pro elite athletes. In 2017 Trevor was named the “Sports World's Best Brain Trainer” by Sports Illustrated.

This guy knows what he's talking about. He's done the research, the experimentation, and has solid examples of why this works.

I recently read Trevor's new book "It Takes What It Takes" and I'm reviewing his book along with two amazing interviews you'll appreciate from the Ed Mylett Show and Impact Theory - both on YouTube.

BIGGEST TAKEAWAYS

#1- NEGATIVE thoughts are 4-7Xs more powerful than positive thoughts.

#2- NEGATIVE thoughts SPOKEN are 40-70Xs more powerful and more likely to come to fruition.

#3- Simply AVOIDING voicing or speaking negatively can do you a world of good even if you're not speaking positively.

Let me restate that last one.

Simply AVOIDING voicing or speaking negatively can do you a world of good even if you're NOT speaking positively.

Mic drop.

This is a short episode. So you'll consider this without me droning on and maybe you'll be inspired to adopt this strategy or get his book to learn more.

Either way, I hope you find something helpful here. This concept has truly helped me stay out of the mental muck.

Enjoy!

Steph

p.s. Send me your thoughts at [email protected]

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The Ed Mylett Show - How to STOP Negative Thoughts & Win! | with Trevor Moawad Mindset Expert Shows You How to Control Your Negative Thoughts | Trevor Moawad on Impact Theory

Here's the clip representing a HUGE example of negative spoken words come to pass. Bill Buckner’s 1986 World Series error - the ball rolls between his legs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18caPNisP2U

http://www.audibletrial.com/AudaciousLife As an affiliate, I may earn a few dollars if you decide to stick with Audible. It's one way to help support the podcast and keep the show in production and running consistently. Thank you! xo Steph