
Raheem Durfee & Kim Kaler
07/31/24 • 28 min
Have you ever felt lost, only to find your way through music?
In this extraordinary episode, we introduce you to Raheem Durfee, a man whose life journey is as inspiring as it is heartbreaking. From his adoption in Athens, Ohio, to the emotional rollercoaster of finding his biological family, Raheem's story is one of resilience and hope.
But it's not just Raheem's story that will move you. Talented songwriter Kim Kaler has transformed Raheem's experiences into a powerful, soul-stirring song. Get ready to be captivated as we witness the magic unfold, from the raw emotions poured into the lyrics to the melodies that will stay with you long after the episode ends.
Join us for a journey of discovery, connection, and music. This is more than just a story; it's a testament to the human spirit. Don't miss this unforgettable episode.
Kim Kaler's Song Lyrics:
Love is Thicker
After two hundred seventy four days in this world
I traveled from her arms to theirs
They held me close -- as an oyster holds its pearl
And there was joy in the air
I spent many hours in the garden – mom and me
And we both loved the voices of Loretta (Lynn) and Dolly
Moving men on a field always caught my father’s eye
But I instead was gazing and paintings of the sky
Whispers echoed through the years, no words were said
I never felt at home in the house where the roots spread
Always felt like a faded hue, in the portrait on the wall
Hoping forrrrr/ some connection, big or small
I soon found solace in a kind older man
(And) spent August days, in the sea and the sand
We ambled through jungles to see what we could/might see
Then shared meals of smiles and kimchi
Many years later, I met a girl that felt like home
She prodded me to search for a truth to call my own
I unearthed some others whose eyes --they looked like mine
And we all started making up for (all the) lost time.
CHORUS:
They say blood is thicker than water
But I say love is thicker than both
Ah, Ah,Ah,Ah,Ah,
Ohh love, is thicker than both.
Have you ever felt lost, only to find your way through music?
In this extraordinary episode, we introduce you to Raheem Durfee, a man whose life journey is as inspiring as it is heartbreaking. From his adoption in Athens, Ohio, to the emotional rollercoaster of finding his biological family, Raheem's story is one of resilience and hope.
But it's not just Raheem's story that will move you. Talented songwriter Kim Kaler has transformed Raheem's experiences into a powerful, soul-stirring song. Get ready to be captivated as we witness the magic unfold, from the raw emotions poured into the lyrics to the melodies that will stay with you long after the episode ends.
Join us for a journey of discovery, connection, and music. This is more than just a story; it's a testament to the human spirit. Don't miss this unforgettable episode.
Kim Kaler's Song Lyrics:
Love is Thicker
After two hundred seventy four days in this world
I traveled from her arms to theirs
They held me close -- as an oyster holds its pearl
And there was joy in the air
I spent many hours in the garden – mom and me
And we both loved the voices of Loretta (Lynn) and Dolly
Moving men on a field always caught my father’s eye
But I instead was gazing and paintings of the sky
Whispers echoed through the years, no words were said
I never felt at home in the house where the roots spread
Always felt like a faded hue, in the portrait on the wall
Hoping forrrrr/ some connection, big or small
I soon found solace in a kind older man
(And) spent August days, in the sea and the sand
We ambled through jungles to see what we could/might see
Then shared meals of smiles and kimchi
Many years later, I met a girl that felt like home
She prodded me to search for a truth to call my own
I unearthed some others whose eyes --they looked like mine
And we all started making up for (all the) lost time.
CHORUS:
They say blood is thicker than water
But I say love is thicker than both
Ah, Ah,Ah,Ah,Ah,
Ohh love, is thicker than both.
Previous Episode

Arlene Jones & Dr. Scott Minar
This episode explores the intersections of personal and professional lives with Arlene and Scott, discovering how their experiences have shaped their paths. Scott shares a touching poem dedicated to Arlene, capturing the essence of growth, love, and the journey of life. Arlene reflects on her career in child welfare and housing, offering insights into her motivations, challenges, and the impact of her work. Listeners will be inspired by the shared stories and artistic expressions that underscore the belief that everyone has a place in this world. The episode concludes with actionable steps for fostering a sense of belonging and love in our communities.
Meet Arlene: A passionate program manager at Youth Navigator Network, Arlene cherishes the outdoors and her family. Drawing from her own experiences in the child welfare and housing systems, Arlene now dedicates her life to making a difference for young people navigating similar challenges. Her journey is one of strength, determination, and unwavering commitment to helping others.
Meet Scott: Dr. Scott Minar is a celebrated poet, essayist, songwriter, and Professor Emeritus of English at Ohio University. With a rich career that includes teaching internationally and collaborating with scholars and writers worldwide, Scott’s work has been published in multiple languages. His books include "Arctic Accordion: Selected Poems" and "Lunch at Mark Twain's Grave." Scott continues to inspire through his poetry, songwriting, and collaborations, including his partnership with Athens-based songwriter Bruce Dalzell.
A CHILD WALKS
by Dr. Scott Minar
A child walks
Becomes the adult that follows
Wind blows an oak leaf out
Of a tree and it sails
Side to side
As if conducting music
What song is this
So lovely it hurts to see
Its scalloping down imaginary
Steps of air
I was one leaf
You were one
There are more
That are ours
A river is so beautiful
It rises and swells
Or grows smaller and lifts
The landscape showing us more
It does not know its own name
But it knows its real self
As fulsome and tangible
There is no gap in a river
Clouds separate
But all move together
All with the wind
It’s not the same birds
The same flock every year
Schooling the skies
In a perfect arc, perfect
Moment, a sky gesture
I was in a field once
Looking up to see the face
Of a sky god terrible
No, not terrible
But powerful far beyond me
Perhaps this is just
A metaphor for my life
I decided then
That it was not god or fate looking down
On me that mattered
But who I was looking back
I know this is just a way
Of saying how we live
But it matters
I chose love because it’s what I am
What I’ve made myself to be
Which is to say something
I was shown often
By adults around me
All were children
Inside themselves
Like a monarch, a swallowtail
We seem light but are strong
As the wind that carries us
In Mexico there are high mountain
Vistas covered with their orange
Wings lined and drawn
On something lighter than a feather
They made the impossible journey
And all came together
In a kind of heaven
A worldly work of art
We are among them now
Aglow within ourselves
Because we love, have always loved
It is the only peace
The only piece of ourselves
Worth clinging to
Like a spar
The hand of that child
At a crossroads
We will not let go of
While we live
Guest Links: https://www.scottminar.com/ https://www.kinnect.org/about/our-staff/
Next Episode

Amy Cheney: Adoption & Social Justice
In this episode, we start with learning why Amy Jane Cheney's anthem is, "Short Skirt, Long Jacket" by Cake, complete with all the entertaining reactions it inspires. Amy’s witty observations and personal connection to the song set the stage for a deeper conversation about her adoption journey. From the humorous to the poignant, Amy shares how the song reflects her life story and resonates with her experiences as an adoptee.
Amy delves into her own adoption story, describing the complexities of reuniting with her birth parents and the impact of societal norms on her family relationships. Her candid discussion covers the emotional rollercoaster of adoption, from the joy of finding connections to the challenges of navigating a world that often misunderstands adoptees’ experiences.
Listeners will be moved by Amy's powerful insights into the social justice aspects of adoption, including the systemic issues and personal struggles faced by adoptees. She highlights the importance of validating adoptees' experiences and the deep need for connection with their roots.
Join us for this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, where we explore the intersections of adoption, identity, and social justice. Whether you’re an adoptee, a parent, or simply curious about the adoption experience, this episode promises to provide valuable perspectives and heartfelt stories.
Tune in, listen to Amy’s incredible journey, and maybe discover a piece of your own story along the way. Don't miss this chance to connect, reflect, and be inspired by the unique and powerful narratives shared during this episode.
She is currently nearing completion of her memoir, tentatively entitled Familiar Shock, about the impact of illegal abortion on 4 generations.
Coaching website: https://www.amyjcheney.com/
Consulting website: https://amyjcheneylibrarian.weebly.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amy.cheney.90
Resume: CheneyResume (for my social justice & literacy work)
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