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#97 Fears and Phobias with Cai Graham
The 3D Parent Podcast
03/10/24 • 52 min
DESCRIPTION:Do anxiety, fears and phobias just fade away with time? Hey there, fantastic parents and caregivers! 🌟 In this episode, we'll be chatting with an expert who's not just talking the talk but walking the walk in the world of fears, phobias, and anxiety, Cai Graham. An International Speaker, Best Selling Author, and Family Anxiety Support Specialist, is on a mission to empower teens and young adults to live happier, more confident lives using her background as Master Practitioner in Coaching and NLP & Timeline Therapy. “With a deep understanding of the unique struggles faced by teens and young adults, I offer expertise in various areas related to adolescent anxiety. From understanding and managing anxiety to building resilience and promoting self-care, I am equipped to address a range of topics that resonate with both teens and those who support them.”- Cai GrahamJoin us for a chat as we: 💬 Go through Cai’s personal journey that led her to become a trusted expert in supporting teens, young adults, and their parents.💬 Drawing from her expertise and experiences, she'll share practical strategies for parents to support their kids dealing with fears and phobias, giving them the tools to handle emotions and build resilience. 💬 Plus, she spills the beans on communication tips to connect with anxious kids and create a supportive home environment. Listen now to this empowering episode and equip yourself with the knowledge and tools to support your teens and young adults as they conquer their fears and phobias. Take the first step towards building a mentally healthier future for your children!CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT:
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Podcast: The Parent and Teen Toolbox The Parent Toolbox Podcast - Cai Graham
Website : Home - Cai Graham
Email : [email protected]
Anxiety Workbook : Fearless & Free : A Step-by-Step Blueprint to Help Teens & Young Adults Conquer Anxiety
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SHOWNOTES:
Hello, wonderful listeners! I'm thrilled to have you join us for episode 97 of the 3D Parent Podcast. Today, I am joined by a special guest, Cai Graham, an international speaker, a best-selling author, and a podcaster herself. Talk about a powerhouse! Cai is a family anxiety support specialist with a laser focus on supporting teens, young adults, and their parents. Her mission? To build a mentally healthier and happier generation of young people. With a background as a master practitioner in coaching, NLP, and timeline therapy, plus her hands-on experience with Childline, the UK's leading child counseling charity, Cai's got the perfect combo of skills. Her focus is on empowering her clients with the tools they need to take charge of their thoughts and emotions. Cai knows the unique struggles faced by teens, and she's here to share her expertise. From understanding and managing anxiety to building resilience and promoting self-care, she's equipped to tackle it all. I sat down with Cai on this episode to ask her about her take on Fears and Phobias in kids and how parents help them navigate the tough moments when they crop up and how to help children build a toolbox of coping strategies.
What are fears and phobias?
First off, I asked Cai: What's the deal with fears and phobias? Where do they come from? Are they just cousins of anxiety, or is there more to the story?
So, according to Cai, fears and phobias are indeed related to anxiety, but they're not the same. Fears, she explained, are our natural response to a perceived threat. Our unconscious mind, in its wisdom, is constantly on high alert, a leftover survival instinct from the days of dodging saber-toothed tigers. Now, that was a legit threat, and our unconscious mind kept us safe from it.
But here's the twist – for many folks dealing with anxiety, that alert system doesn't shut down. It's like our unconscious mind is stuck in a perpetual “danger mode.” So, even in a safe space, like a classroom, it's still on the lookout, “getting its knickers in a twist,” to quote Cai, over potential threats that don't actually exist.
Now, phobias, on the other hand, is anxiety taken to the extreme. They're irrational and totally disproportionate to the actual threat. Cai brought up a great example with spiders. Some people, she explained, absolutely lose it when faced with a big eight-legged ...
#100 The 100 Minute Connection Challenge: One Week to Stronger Family Bonds
The 3D Parent Podcast
04/08/24 • 31 min
DESCRIPTION:
Hello, wonderful listeners, and welcome to a special milestone episode, the 100th edition of the 3D Parent Podcast! First and foremost, I want to extend my heartfelt gratitude to each and every one of you. Your support, your feedback, and your dedication to listening to this podcast have been the driving force behind its success. It's your enthusiasm that fuels my passion for sharing valuable insights and guidance on parenting through each episode.
In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life. But amidst the chaos, it's essential to recognize and address our children's innate need for connection. They crave our time, our attention, and most importantly, our presence. And that's where the 100 Minute Connection Challenge comes in.
Now, for this momentous episode, I wanted to switch things up a bit and stay true to the theme of 100. So, I've devised an exciting challenge for you – the 100 Minute Connection Challenge. This challenge is designed to inspire you to deepen the bonds with your children over the course of a week. Because let's face it, one of the most vital aspects of parenting is nurturing a strong, secure, and heartfelt connection with our kids.
Throughout this episode, I'll be sharing all the details of this challenge, including how it works and what you can expect. But wait, there's more! I've also created a downloadable PDF bingo board, with a link to download found in the show notes. This bingo board serves two purposes: to inject an element of fun into the challenge and to hold yourself accountable for completing the 100 minutes of connection activities with your child in the coming week.
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CLICK HERE to Download The 100 Minute Connection Challenge Bingo Board PDF
Book: “Hold On to Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld, Ph. D. and Gabor Maté, M.D.
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CLICK HERE: Episode 87 of The 3D Parent Podcast: Parenting with Deep Connection
SHOWNOTES:
Hello and welcome to Episode 100 of the 3D Parent Podcast! Can you believe it? We've hit the big 100! I'm genuinely thrilled to have reached this milestone, and I'm deeply grateful for your continued support and engagement. So, to mark this special occasion, I wanted to do something meaningful, something that reflects the essence of what this podcast is all about: nurturing strong connections between parents and their children.
I've been pondering what to do for this significant episode, and I wanted to keep it aligned with our theme of 100. Hence, I present to you the 100 Minute Connection Challenge – a week-long challenge dedicated to strengthening the bond between you and your child.
Why this challenge? By dedicating just 100 minutes of your week to intentionally connect with your child, their behavior will become more manageable, meltdowns will become less frequent, and the overall atmosphere at home will become more harmonious. Sounds pretty amazing, right?Connection is at the core of what I talk about on the 3D Parent Podcast. It's one of the 4 key components of my 3D Parent Model – Deep Connection. And for good reason! Human beings, especially children, thrive on meaningful conn...
# 99 Parenting Modern Tweens: Sephora, Sass, and Self-discovery
The 3D Parent Podcast
03/24/24 • 46 min
DESCRIPTION:
Hey there, wonderful parents, and welcome back to the 3D Parent Podcast! Joining me today is Natasha, a supermom raising two incredible girls, ages seven and eleven.
Natasha kicks off our session by sharing her concerns about her tween daughters' growing fascination with trends, brands, and materialistic values. She's noticing shifts in her behavior, from sweetness to occasional sassiness, and she's feeling the strain on their once-close relationship. Natasha also wonders about finding the delicate balance between offering support and letting her daughters navigate their own paths as they grow up. These are common challenges many parents face as their children transition from childhood to adolescence.
Here are the burning topics what we'll cover:
Trend-Oriented Culture: We'll explore how to navigate the materialistic trends that seem to dominate tween culture and discuss ways to instill deeper values beyond brand names.
Managing Sass and Sensitivity: Natasha's facing the challenge of balancing her daughter's sweet, sensitive side with those moments of unexpected rudeness. We'll share some practical tips for maintaining a strong, respectful relationship during this “rollercoaster” phase.
How Much to Intervene vs. Empower Independent Problem Solving: We'll delve into the delicate art of knowing when to step in and when to step back, offering insights on providing support without smothering independence as our tweens navigate the ups and downs of life.
The emotional rollercoaster of tweenhood can sometimes lead to unexpected behavior, leaving us parents wondering how to handle those off-cuff rude moments without losing the precious bond we share with our child. Throughout this episode, we'll explore how to strike a delicate balance between setting boundaries and maintaining a strong, supportive relationship with our tweens.
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SHOWNOTES:
Let me introduce you to our guest, Natasha. Natasha is a super mom, raising two incredible girls—one almost seven and the other newly 11. As a fellow mom and friend, Natasha and I often find ourselves deep in conversation about the joys and struggles of parenting tweens. And today, we're inviting you to join in on the conversation as we tackle some of the challenges Natasha is facing.
Let's address Natasha's concerns, one by one. First up, the trend-oriented nature of today's youth. It's no secret that tweens are heavily influenced by trends, from fashion to technology to social media. But how do we navigate this trend-centric culture without losing sight of what truly matters?
Next, we'll tackle the rollercoaster of emotions that come with tweenhood. Natasha's concern about her oldest daughter's sudden mood swings is one that many parents can relate to. We'll discuss ways to navigate these hormonal changes with empathy and understanding, maintaining a strong parent-child bond even in the face of off-cuff rude moments.
And finally, the age-old question: when to step back and when to step in? As our tweens grow older, it can be challenging to find the balance between independence and support. We'll explore strategies for knowing when to give our tweens space to navigate challenges on their own and when to offer a helping hand, whether it's in navigating friendships, schoolwork, or other areas of their lives.
Before we dive into the nitty-gritty of tween development, let's take a moment to reflect on a simple yet powerful approach to addressing parenting challenges. When faced with any issue, whether it's with our kids or within ourselves, it's helpful to ask three fundamental questions:
- Is it my child?
- Is it me?
#98 Tackling Hoarding Habits in Kids
The 3D Parent Podcast
03/17/24 • 54 min
DESCRIPTION: Hello there, parents! If your child displays strong emotional attachments to their possessions, even those that seem useless or like plain old junk to you, then you might be dealing with more than just a messy room!Today's discussion is for those of you who might have noticed a certain clutter-loving tendency in your kids. You know the type – toys scattered like confetti, collections multiplying in every nook and cranny, and objects seemingly without a home. Now, for many, this might just signal a lack of organization or still-developing executive function skills. But for some, it might be a hint at something more serious – hoarding behaviors.💬 Join us for a chat as we: 1.Distinguish between hoarding and typical disorganization or messiness 2. Identify the signs and symptoms of hoarding in children3. Highlight the positive aspects of collecting in child development4. Discuss typical treatment approaches for serious hoarding behaviors in children5. Empower parents with strategies to reverse hoarding tendencies before they reach a level requiring therapeutic intervention
I hope you find these insights helpful and actionable. As always, remember to prioritize your child's well-being and seek support when needed.
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SHOWNOTES: Today's episode is for all of you who might be dealing with little clutterbugs at home – you know, the ones with messes everywhere, collections multiplying like rabbits, and items that seem to have taken a permanent vacation from their designated spots. Now, for some of you, this might just be a case of your kid not being the tidiest or most organized soul, and that's totally okay. But for others, it could be a sign of something deeper – hoarding behaviors. When you think of hoarding, maybe you've seen those intense episodes of "Hoarders" on TV, where you're simultaneously fascinated, alarmed, and intrigued by the psychological complexity behind it all. Well, today, we're bringing that conversation closer to home by shedding light on early signs of hoarding behaviors in kids.If your child seems to have an unusually strong emotional attachment to their stuff, even the things that seem like junk to you, then it might be time to pay attention. While we're diving into some strategies today, it's super important to understand that this podcast isn't a substitute for professional assessment.
If your child's distress levels are off the charts when it comes to their possessions, it may be time to loop in a psychologist, a doctor, or someone who is an expert on psychological conditions in kids.Signs and Symptoms of Hoarding in ChildrenI. First, you need to identify if your child has any physical indicators of hoarding behavior It's a crucial distinction, and here's how you can make it. Dr. Jerry Bubrick, of the Child Mind Institute, uses these four insightful questions to help assess for physical indicators of hoarding behaviors:1. Can you see the floor in your child’s room?
2. Can your child get clean clothes out of their closet, or is it so packed with stuff that they can’t get in there?
3. Can your child sleep in their bed, or is their bed temporary storage for everything?
4. Can your child do homework/projects at their desk, or is their desk covered with all kinds of stuff?
These questions might seem simple, but they're powerful indicators of potential hoarding behaviors. Take some time to observe your child's space and ask yourself these questions. It's a great starting point for understanding what's going on and how you can best support your little one. II. Second, you need to assess for your child’s emotional attachment to possessions:Now, we've covered some practical questions to assess the physical clutter in your child's space. We also need to evaluate their emotio...
#92: “I Love My Child, but Sometimes I Can’t Stand Him”
The 3D Parent Podcast
02/04/24 • 48 min
DESCRIPTION: Ever find yourself caught in the tug-of-war between absolute love for your child and the occasional, “I'm finding it impossible to deal with my child right now," moment? If so, you're not alone! Join me on Episode #92: “"I Love My Child, But Sometimes I Can't Stand Him," where we're diving headfirst into the candid realities of parenting a more challenging child.
Join me as we unpack:
- Understanding the "why" behind your child's behavior
- Move past resentment and embrace acceptance, creating a foundation for a more positive parent-child dynamic.
- Practical tips to let go of comparisons and celebrate your child's unique personality and strengths.
- "Discipline with Dignity" techniques that promote cooperation and mutual respect
This episode is for you if:
- You feel like you're constantly on edge with your child.
- You struggle with shame, guilt, and self-doubt about your parenting skills.
- You wish you could connect with your challenging child on a deeper level.
- You're looking for practical tools to manage your child’s frustrating behaviors.
Remember, you're a loving, resilient, and capable parent doing your best. With the appropriate support, self-compassion, and a growth mindset, you can overcome any challenge and cultivate the loving, connected relationship with your child that you aspire to. Tune into Episode #92 for a fresh perspective and practical support.
SHOWNOTES: Ever find yourself grappling with conflicting emotions towards your child? It's an experience that many parents share but might hesitate to openly discuss. Challenging children often exhibit attitudes that can be tough to handle. When a child's demeanor is sweet, calm, and affectionate, it's easy to embrace them, but what about those moments when their attitudes provoke unexpected emotions?
How do you open yourself up to connect with a child who may seem a bit more challenging to understand?
I get it. I've been there too. In fact, I used to be wracked with guilt every time I had those fleeting thoughts of frustration or impatience. But here's the thing – those thoughts don't make you a bad parent. They make you human. And as a parent coach, I've heard it time after time from other parents wrestling with similar feelings.
Various factors that contribute to a complex child's behavior
- Vulnerability to Love--A Prickly Defense Mechanism: Sometimes, challenging children present rough, prickly exteriors because they find love and connection too vulnerable. It's uncomfortable for them to be lovable and endearing, often due to a highly sensitive temperament or past hurts. Understanding this vulnerability is crucial in fostering a compassionate approach.
- Subconscious Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: Believing They Are Unlovable: In some cases, challenging children come to believe that they are unlovable. This belief becomes almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy, influencing their behavior and interactions with others which are often annoying, off-putting, or even mean spirited. As a parent, it's essential to consider your role in this dynamic – do your actions unintentionally contribute to their negative self-perception?
- Building Inner Narratives--Seeds in Formative Years and the Impact of Words and Actions: For a young child, the formative years are crucial in shaping their self-worth and self-esteem. The comments and feedback they receive, both at home and in their broader environment, contribute to the narrative they internalize. Consider the phrases you use when frustrated: "I don't want to be around you when you act like this" or "Why are you always so negative?" The impact of these words goes beyond the moment, shaping your child's sense-of-self. Reflecting on the language used by caregivers, teachers, peers, and siblings is equally important.
- Parental Grief--Facing your Sadness and Disappointment: If you are struggling to connect with your complex child and feel yourself wishing your child was different than they are, you probably experience a lot of resentment and shame. I want to help you make a shift away from these difficult feelings. The first step is acknowledging and normalizing your own parental grief. You might have envisioned your child and your experience as a parent being very different than it currently is. This disappointment is difficult to face and likely fills you with equal parts of resentment and guilt. The first and most crucial step is to forgive yourself for the feelings of disconnection with your child and acknowledge that it's okay to experience this grief in parenting a complex child. Let's recognize the importance of allowing ourselves to feel the sadness associated with the cha...
#91 Emotional Regulation Through Mindfulness Practices with Aparna Venkatraman
The 3D Parent Podcast
01/29/24 • 50 min
Parenting is a beautiful yet challenging journey, especially when faced with the complexities of raising unique and dynamic children. In this heartwarming episode, we dive into the world of emotional regulation through mindfulness with the incredible Aparna Venkatraman, the passionate founder of Beauty in Parenting. Aparna's mission with Beauty in Parenting is clear—to support families worldwide in fostering heart-centered connections. Drawing from her 20 years of experience, she guides parents through the intricacies of emotional regulation, offering insights that touch the soul. Parents, this is an episode you don't want to miss!
Some points we will discuss include:
- Mindfulness practices for emotional regulation in parents and children.
- Deep breathing techniques.
- Meditation techniques
- Family connection activities
We all get swept away sometimes. We lose our breath, our patience, our way. We yell, we cry, we wonder if we'll ever find our sanity again. But guess what? We're not alone. And within each of us, there's a wellspring of resilience, a reservoir of strength waiting to be tapped. On this episode, Aparna shows us the power of mindfulness–that quiet revolution that starts with a single inhale, a deliberate exhale.
Did you enjoy today's episode? If yes, share it with your fellow parents with "extra" kids! The more the merrier, right?
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SHOWNOTES:
In this episode, I’m excited to welcome a special guest, Aparna Venkataraman. Having 20 years of experience connecting with 1000s of families in schools, children’s hospitals and non-profit organizations since her teens, Aparna Venkataraman is the founder of Beauty In Parenting and is a worldwide parent coach, meditation-breathwork teacher, motivational speaker and wellness advocate for doTerra essential oils. With her approachable nature, strong intuition and problem-solving skills, she guides parents of babies, toddlers and teens, couples and extended family to empower themselves and build healthy relationships with one another through effective communication, creating boundaries, self-care, confidence-building and lighthearted mindfulness techniques.
(03:28) Aparna's Story: I sit down with Aparna to hear more about her story and what led her to this work.
Aparna shares her intricate journey, starting from being a premature baby to grappling with childhood anxiety and depression due to emotional distance. Her studies in psychology and child development paved the way for impactful work with diverse groups, all while harboring a deep desire to support families. A pivotal year marked by loss, floods, and leaving a toxic relationship spurred Aparna to create "Beauty in Parenting," aiming to support families globally in finding heart-centered connections.
I can't help but resonate with Aparna's story, and I bet many of you can too. It's a beautiful blend of personal struggles and professional growth, highlighting the importance of emotional well-being in parenting.
(08:00) Exploring Aparna's Focus on Moms:
I asked Aparna what led her to specifically support moms. Aparna opens up about her personal journey, sharing a glimpse into her challenging relationship with her own mother during her upbringing. This connection, or rather, disconnection, played a pivotal role in shaping Aparna's perspective. As she delves into her experiences as a toddler teacher, she shares that she began to notice a pattern — the profound impact of parent-child relationships on a child's behavior, development, and stress levels.
The decision to focus on moms stemmed from a profound realization–the multifaceted role moms play in their children's development. She dives into the complexities, acknowledging the tendency for moms to prioritize others, often neglecting their own needs. The struggle to express these needs becomes a common thread among many moms.
(10:58) Aparna's Involvement on working with Dads: Now, you might be wondering if Aparna exclusively works with moms. Well, the...
#95 Easing Sibling Rivalry-Part 2
The 3D Parent Podcast
02/25/24 • 46 min
DESCRIPTION:
Welcome back to the continuation of our parent coaching session with Caitlin! If you missed part one, don't worry, you can catch up on episode number 94 where we delved into the challenges Caitlin is facing with her children.
In part one, we peeled back the layers to uncover what's driving the tension in Caitlin's household. We discussed how her oldest child's frustration and jealousy were manifesting in conflicts with his siblings, diving deep into the dynamics at play within the family unit.
Today, in part two, we're rolling up our sleeves and diving into solutions. From fostering individual connections with each child to effectively intervening in sibling squabbles, we'll tackle actionable steps to bring more harmony to Caitlin's family and yours.So, whether you're facing similar challenges or simply looking to enhance your parenting toolkit, I'm thrilled to have you here. So, without further ado, let's jump into part two of our parent coaching session!READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?
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Hey there, wonderful listeners! Thanks a ton for tuning in to Episode 94. I hope you've been enjoying the episode so far. Today's discussion dives deep into the world of sibling dynamics, exploring conflict resolution strategies and the art of repairing relationships. I recently had a fascinating conversation with Caitlin, where we unpacked various scenarios and effective approaches to fostering healthy sibling relationships. So, let's jump right in!Caitlin opened up about the sense of panic she feels when her kids are at odds with each other. It's a common experience for many parents. The urge to jump in and resolve the conflict immediately is strong, but often, our instincts lead us astray.
Instead, I introduced Caitlin to what I call the "3 Do's of Incident Management," a simple yet effective approach to handling sibling conflicts:
- Do No Harm: The first step is for us, as parents, to ground ourselves and avoid reacting impulsively. This means taking a moment to breathe and remind ourselves not to escalate the situation. I suggest having a phrase like "do no harm" as a quick mantra to center ourselves in these moments.
- Do Take Charge (of Circumstances): Rather than trying to control our kids' behaviors, which can often feel like herding cats, I advised Caitlin to focus on managing the circumstances surrounding the conflict. This might involve separating the children involved or removing the source of contention. By taking charge of the situation, we create space for everyone to cool down.
- Do Circle Back Later: Once the immediate tension has subsided, it's essential to revisit the conflict with our kids. This is where the real work happens. We validate their feelings, encourage empathy, and work together to find solutions. By circling back later, we create an opportunity for repair and growth within the sibling relationship.
Guiding Children Through Repair:
Now, let's talk about how we guide our kids through the process of making amends after a fight. During the conversation with Caitlin, I emphasized the importance of first validating their feelings and encouraging empathy:
- Validate Feelings: It's crucial to acknowledge and validate the emotions of each child involved without judgment or blame. Do so in private with just one child at a time. Create a safe space for honest communication by letting them know that their feelings are valid and understood.
- Encourage Empathy: Next, we help our child see things from the other chi...
#90 My Biggest Parenting Struggle
The 3D Parent Podcast
01/22/24 • 54 min
Ready to reclaim your mornings from the clutches of chaos? Yes, you read that right. I'm back to talk about morning mayhem again! Episode #6 of Season 1 of the podcast was all about this topic, and here I am again, 84 episodes later, still battling the same beast. But hey, that's the beauty of parenting, right? It's a constant journey of growth and learning, and sometimes we have to revisit the same challenges over and over again.
Why I Chose This Topic (Again!)
There are a few reasons why I felt compelled to bring up morning mayhem once more.
- I'm still in it myself: Let's be honest, mornings can be tough for everyone. But for parents of highly sensitive children or kids with ADHD, anxiety, or other challenges, they can be chronically chaotic.
- Something is in the water: Maybe it's just coincidence, but I've been hearing from a lot of clients lately who are also struggling with mornings. So, I thought it would be helpful to share my own experiences and the strategies I'm using to try to tame the morning beast once again.
- A chance to demonstrate the 3D Parent approach applied to a common challenge: I created the 3D Parent approach as a framework for helping parents navigate the challenges of raising complex children. And what better way to showcase it than by applying it to a real-life problem I'm facing myself?
Dive deep into Episode #90 where I tackle the common challenge of difficult mornings head-on armed with The 3D Parent Approach! You'll discover practical strategies, insightful tips, and a healthy dose of empathy to help you transform your mornings from battlegrounds to blissful beginnings.
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#86 Parenting with Direction
The 3D Parent Podcast
01/15/24 • 33 min
In this eye-opening episode, I guide you through the art of asking the RIGHT questions in parenting. In the fast-paced world of parenting, it's easy to get lost. The concept of "Parenting with Direction" emphasizes the significance of cultivating curiosity about oneself, one's child, and the parent-child relationship. This curiosity acts as a compass, guiding parents through the intricate journey of understanding their child and their parenting challenges.
The importance of asking the right questions cannot be overstated. Many parents instinctively ask, "What should I do when my kid does _____?" when faced with challenging behaviors. Redirecting this focus towards decoding behaviors and understanding the root cause sets the stage for a more effective parenting strategy. In this episode, I will guide you through decoding behaviors. Decoding behaviors is not about controlling them but understanding their origins. By asking critical questions – Is it me? Is it my child? Is it us? – parents begin to unravel the complexities of their child's behavior. This process is foundational to becoming the true expert on their unique child.
Points we discuss include:
● Introduction to 3D Parent Approach: Parenting with Direction
● Asking the Right Questions
● Emotional Maturity and Development
● Assessing for Behavioral Challenges
● Parenting with Directional Focus
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#104 Nurturing Alpha: A New Paradigm in Parenting
The 3D Parent Podcast
05/13/24 • 26 min
DESCRIPTION:As a young parent, I was on a quest for answers, constantly seeking solutions to my child's behaviors. I believed that parenting was about applying techniques and strategies to mold my child's behavior. However, a pivotal moment came when I stumbled upon a quote by Dr. Gordon Neufeld: "Parenting is not about what you do with your child. It's about who you are to your child."
This quote sparked a profound shift in my perspective. I realized that effective parenting goes beyond mere actions; it's about embodying a powerful nurturing presence for our children. This realization led me to explore different parenting styles and to uncover the ideal dynamics in parent-child relationships.
In today's episode, we'll delve into the four main types of parenting styles, examining their strengths and limitations, and lay the groundwork for our exploration of what I have coined the Nurturing Alpha role as parent.
We will explore:
- Characteristics of the Nurturing Alpha Role: Identifying the key traits that define this parenting approach.
- Skills of a Nurturing Alpha Parent: Discovering the essential skills needed to embody the Nurturing Alpha role.
- How to Become a Nurturing Alpha: Practical steps and insights to help you cultivate this empowering presence as a parent.
Join me on this transformative journey towards becoming a Nurturing Alpha parent. Tune in to episode 104 of The 3D Parent Podcast and discover how you can embody the Nurturing Alpha role to cultivate deeper connections with your children and foster their emotional well-being.Do you have a highly sensitive child? Take the quiz to find out! https://www.the3dparent.com/quizREADY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?:
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SHOWNOTES:
Let's rewind a bit to my own journey as a parent. Like many of you, I found myself lost in a sea of conflicting advice, wondering if there was a magic formula to navigate the challenges of raising children. I voraciously consumed parenting books, hoping to uncover the secrets to managing my child's behavior, but soon realized, I was missing the mark.
It wasn't about mastering the latest discipline technique or implementing rigid routines. Instead, it was about embodying a fundamental shift in perspective, one that Dr. Gordon Neufeld beautifully encapsulates: "Parenting is not about what you do with your child. It's about who you are to your child."
This quote struck a chord with me, prompting a profound shift in my approach to parenting. Rather than fixating on external strategies, I began to explore the essence of my role as a parent. Who did I need to be for my child in order to effectively lead, guide, influence, and teach her? How could I cultivate a relationship built on trust, understanding, and genuine connection?This realization marked a turning point in my journey. It propelled me to delve deeper into the realm of parenting styles, seeking not just a label but a true understanding of what it means to nurture and guide a child. And that's when I stumbled upon the familiar territory of authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and neglectful parenting styles.
Let's break them down, shall we?
- Authoritarian parents are all about strict rules and discipline, with little room for negotiation. It's all about obedience and punishment.
- Authoritative parents, on the other hand, blend rules with warmth and fairness. They prioritize open communication and positive relationships while enforcing boundaries.
- Permissive parents take a more hands-off approach, allowing the...
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How many episodes does The 3D Parent Podcast have?
The 3D Parent Podcast currently has 103 episodes available.
What topics does The 3D Parent Podcast cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Parenting, Kids & Family, Podcasts and Relationships.
What is the most popular episode on The 3D Parent Podcast?
The episode title '#98 Tackling Hoarding Habits in Kids' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on The 3D Parent Podcast?
The average episode length on The 3D Parent Podcast is 36 minutes.
How often are episodes of The 3D Parent Podcast released?
Episodes of The 3D Parent Podcast are typically released every 7 days.
When was the first episode of The 3D Parent Podcast?
The first episode of The 3D Parent Podcast was released on Dec 1, 2019.
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