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DESCRIPTION: Hello there, parents! If your child displays strong emotional attachments to their possessions, even those that seem useless or like plain old junk to you, then you might be dealing with more than just a messy room!Today's discussion is for those of you who might have noticed a certain clutter-loving tendency in your kids. You know the type – toys scattered like confetti, collections multiplying in every nook and cranny, and objects seemingly without a home. Now, for many, this might just signal a lack of organization or still-developing executive function skills. But for some, it might be a hint at something more serious – hoarding behaviors.💬 Join us for a chat as we: 1.Distinguish between hoarding and typical disorganization or messiness 2. Identify the signs and symptoms of hoarding in children3. Highlight the positive aspects of collecting in child development4. Discuss typical treatment approaches for serious hoarding behaviors in children5. Empower parents with strategies to reverse hoarding tendencies before they reach a level requiring therapeutic intervention

I hope you find these insights helpful and actionable. As always, remember to prioritize your child's well-being and seek support when needed.

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SHOWNOTES: Today's episode is for all of you who might be dealing with little clutterbugs at home – you know, the ones with messes everywhere, collections multiplying like rabbits, and items that seem to have taken a permanent vacation from their designated spots. Now, for some of you, this might just be a case of your kid not being the tidiest or most organized soul, and that's totally okay. But for others, it could be a sign of something deeper – hoarding behaviors. When you think of hoarding, maybe you've seen those intense episodes of "Hoarders" on TV, where you're simultaneously fascinated, alarmed, and intrigued by the psychological complexity behind it all. Well, today, we're bringing that conversation closer to home by shedding light on early signs of hoarding behaviors in kids.If your child seems to have an unusually strong emotional attachment to their stuff, even the things that seem like junk to you, then it might be time to pay attention. While we're diving into some strategies today, it's super important to understand that this podcast isn't a substitute for professional assessment.

If your child's distress levels are off the charts when it comes to their possessions, it may be time to loop in a psychologist, a doctor, or someone who is an expert on psychological conditions in kids.Signs and Symptoms of Hoarding in ChildrenI. First, you need to identify if your child has any physical indicators of hoarding behavior It's a crucial distinction, and here's how you can make it. Dr. Jerry Bubrick, of the Child Mind Institute, uses these four insightful questions to help assess for physical indicators of hoarding behaviors:1. Can you see the floor in your child’s room?

2. Can your child get clean clothes out of their closet, or is it so packed with stuff that they can’t get in there?

3. Can your child sleep in their bed, or is their bed temporary storage for everything?

4. Can your child do homework/projects at their desk, or is their desk covered with all kinds of stuff?

These questions might seem simple, but they're powerful indicators of potential hoarding behaviors. Take some time to observe your child's space and ask yourself these questions. It's a great starting point for understanding what's going on and how you can best support your little one. II. Second, you need to assess for your child’s emotional attachment to possessions:Now, we've covered some practical questions to assess the physical clutter in your child's space. We also need to evaluate their emotio...

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In today's episode, we'll explore how you can support your child through moments of heightened anxiety and help them build resilience for the future. Anxiety is a natural part of life, it isn't something to be feared or avoided. It's a natural and necessary human emotion that helps us navigate the world safely. However with anxiety disorders on the rise among children and adolescents, it's more important than ever for parents to understand how to support their children through this challenging emotion and provide a sense of safety. Today, I'll be giving you practical tools to help you do just that.
Here's what you'll learn in this episode:

• The significance of building a securely attached relationship with your child, which serves as your most parenting powerful tool in guiding them through difficult emotions, like anxiety.
• Understanding co-regulation and how it empowers you to help your child manage overwhelming emotions by utilizing your own regulated emotional state.
• A proactive strategy called "Name It to Tame It," which involves personifying your child's anxiety to help them separate it from their core identity and regain control over this powerful emotion.
• Six practical steps to effectively co-regulate with your anxious child, including selecting suitable stress and anxiety regulation tools, reassessing their anxiety level, and repeating the co-regulation process as needed.

Now, if you're looking for more insights into anxiety and parenting, be sure to check out episode 50 of "The 3D Parent" podcast, where I cover a range of tips and perspectives on parenting an anxious child. It's a great companion to today's episode and can provide you with even more valuable information.
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SHOWNOTES:Hey there, fellow parents! Today's episode is going to be a bit different than our usual discussions because we're diving deep into a topic that's close to many of our hearts: anxiety in children. If you've ever found yourself wondering, "What do I do when my child is experiencing anxiety," then stick around because I've got some specific strategies to share with you.Now, before we get into the nitty-gritty, I want to give a shoutout to a previous episode where we covered the broader topic of parenting an anxious child. If you haven't listened to Episode 50 yet, titled "Parenting an Anxious Child," I highly recommend giving it a listen. It's a great companion to today's episode and covers some essential do's and don'ts, along with practical tips and perspectives for navigating anxiety in your child.It's important to recognize that anxiety itself is not inherently negative. In fact, it's a fundamental human emotion that serves a valuable purpose. However, when a child experiences overwhelming or frequent anxiety, it can be cause for concern. With children and adolescents facing anxiety at unprecedented rates, it's more important than ever for parents to understand how to support their children through these challenges.

Anxiety can be a tough nut to crack because it's not always driven by rational thoughts and it certainly doesn't come with an easy fix. But as parents, our role is to provide a sense of safety and support so our kids can weather the storm of anxious feelings and emerge stronger and more resilient on the other side.

Before we delve into the strategies, I want to emphasize the importance of seeking professional help if you feel your child's anxiety is worsening or significantly impacting their daily life. While this podcast episode offers valuable insights, it's not a substitute for the expertise of healthcare professionals.

Throughout this episode, I'll be sharing practical strategies to help you support your child through their anxiety journey. From creating a safe space for open communication to teaching coping skills, each strategy is designed to empower both you and your child.

Anxiety can manifest in various ways, affecting not only the child but also their family dynamics. If you observe changes in your child's behavior, such as reluctance to participate in activities they once enjoyed or difficulty coping with daily tasks, it's essential to address these concerns promptly.

Untreated anxiety can escalate over time and may lead to other mental health issues or behavioral disorders. Therefore, early intervention is key. Start by consulting your child's pediatrician, who can provide valuable insights and recommendations for further evaluation or treatment.

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“ My oldest craves more of my time and attention and takes out his frustration on his siblings, especially his younger brother. He is very dismissive and even insulting to his brother.”- Caitlin, Mom of 3 boys

In this special episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to help out Caitlin, a devoted mom of three, whose eldest son feels a bit left out lately. He's craving more attention and sometimes ends up picking fights with his little brother.

Feeling stretched thin and overwhelmed, Caitlin wonders how to fill each child's emotional bucket without stirring up more competition. How can she offer one-on-one time without igniting jealousy? And in the chaos of sibling squabbles, how can she intervene effectively?

As a fellow parent of multiple children, I know the feeling of being pulled in all directions and I'm here to lend a hand. Using my 3D Parent approach, we'll start by gaining clarity on the situation: Is it Caitlin, her children, or their dynamic as a family unit that needs attention? Let's dive in and make sense of what is going on in this family so we can move towards finding some practical solutions to ease the tension and restore harmony in Caitlin's household.

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Today's episode is a special one where we're giving you a behind-the-scenes look at a coaching session. I'm excited for you to see how we tackle real parenting challenges head-on. I'm thrilled to welcome my special guest Caitlin, a devoted mother of three from Redmond, Washington, who recently shared her heartfelt struggles with sibling rivalry in a candid discussion on a parenting podcast. In a touching submission, Caitlin opened up about the challenges she faces as her oldest son seeks more attention and lashes out at his siblings.

The scenario Caitlin described is a familiar one for many parents—her oldest child's longing for attention manifests in behavior that is dismissive and even hurtful towards his younger siblings. Despite her efforts, Caitlin finds it difficult to sympathize with her oldest son's actions, leading to a cycle of tension and conflict within the family. Recognizing the need for support, Caitlin and her son have both embarked on separate therapy journeys to address these issues head-on. However, Caitlin finds herself facing her own past experiences with sibling rivalry, which only adds more layers of complexity to the situation and leaves her feeling overwhelmed with guilt.

As Caitlin navigates the delicate balance of meeting each child's needs while maintaining harmony in the household, she seeks guidance on effective strategies for fostering positive sibling relationships. Her questions reflect the common dilemmas faced by parents in similar situations:

• How can she ensure each child feels valued without inadvertently favoring one over the others?
• How can she carve out quality time for individual bonding without exacerbating jealousy or competition among her children?

My 3D Parent Coaching approach began with helping Caitlin find her sense of direction as she pondered my 3 “Scan the Situation” questions: "Is it me? Is it my child or children? Is it us?" These questions allowed for a deeper exploration of her parenting challenges. With refreshing honesty, Caitlin admitted feeling stretched thin and overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood. She candidly admitted, "I think...

DESCRIPTION: Ever find yourself caught in the tug-of-war between absolute love for your child and the occasional, “I'm finding it impossible to deal with my child right now," moment? If so, you're not alone! Join me on Episode #92: “"I Love My Child, But Sometimes I Can't Stand Him," where we're diving headfirst into the candid realities of parenting a more challenging child.

Join me as we unpack:

• Understanding the "why" behind your child's behavior
• Move past resentment and embrace acceptance, creating a foundation for a more positive parent-child dynamic.
• Practical tips to let go of comparisons and celebrate your child's unique personality and strengths.
• "Discipline with Dignity" techniques that promote cooperation and mutual respect

This episode is for you if:

• You feel like you're constantly on edge with your child.
• You struggle with shame, guilt, and self-doubt about your parenting skills.
• You wish you could connect with your challenging child on a deeper level.
• You're looking for practical tools to manage your child’s frustrating behaviors.

Remember, you're a loving, resilient, and capable parent doing your best. With the appropriate support, self-compassion, and a growth mindset, you can overcome any challenge and cultivate the loving, connected relationship with your child that you aspire to. Tune into Episode #92 for a fresh perspective and practical support.

SHOWNOTES: Ever find yourself grappling with conflicting emotions towards your child? It's an experience that many parents share but might hesitate to openly discuss. Challenging children often exhibit attitudes that can be tough to handle. When a child's demeanor is sweet, calm, and affectionate, it's easy to embrace them, but what about those moments when their attitudes provoke unexpected emotions?

How do you open yourself up to connect with a child who may seem a bit more challenging to understand?

I get it. I've been there too. In fact, I used to be wracked with guilt every time I had those fleeting thoughts of frustration or impatience. But here's the thing – those thoughts don't make you a bad parent. They make you human. And as a parent coach, I've heard it time after time from other parents wrestling with similar feelings.

Various factors that contribute to a complex child's behavior

• Vulnerability to Love--A Prickly Defense Mechanism: Sometimes, challenging children present rough, prickly exteriors because they find love and connection too vulnerable. It's uncomfortable for them to be lovable and endearing, often due to a highly sensitive temperament or past hurts. Understanding this vulnerability is crucial in fostering a compassionate approach.
• Subconscious Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: Believing They Are Unlovable: In some cases, challenging children come to believe that they are unlovable. This belief becomes almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy, influencing their behavior and interactions with others which are often annoying, off-putting, or even mean spirited. As a parent, it's essential to consider your role in this dynamic – do your actions unintentionally contribute to their negative self-perception?
• Building Inner Narratives--Seeds in Formative Years and the Impact of Words and Actions: For a young child, the formative years are crucial in shaping their self-worth and self-esteem. The comments and feedback they receive, both at home and in their broader environment, contribute to the narrative they internalize. Consider the phrases you use when frustrated: "I don't want to be around you when you act like this" or "Why are you always so negative?" The impact of these words goes beyond the moment, shaping your child's sense-of-self. Reflecting on the language used by caregivers, teachers, peers, and siblings is equally important.
• Parental Grief--Facing your Sadness and Disappointment: If you are struggling to connect with your complex child and feel yourself wishing your child was different than they are, you probably experience a lot of resentment and shame. I want to help you make a shift away from these difficult feelings. The first step is acknowledging and normalizing your own parental grief. You might have envisioned your child and your experience as a parent being very different than it currently is. This disappointment is difficult to face and likely fills you with equal parts of resentment and guilt. The first and most crucial step is to forgive yourself for the feelings of disconnection with your child and acknowledge that it's okay to experience this grief in parenting a complex child. Let's recognize the importance of allowing ourselves to feel the sadness associated with the cha...

Tired of yelling, time-outs, and power struggles? You're not alone. Traditional discipline methods often leave both parents and children feeling frustrated, hurt, and disconnected. But what if there was a better way? A way to guide your children towards good behavior while preserving their dignity and nurturing your relationship?

This episode of The 3D Parent Podcast introduces Discipline with Dignity, a revolutionary approach that redefines discipline as leadership, teaching, and guidance with respect. We'll dive deep into common discipline methods and expose their hidden pitfalls, from the fear-based tactics of yelling and spanking to the emotional manipulation of shaming and guilting.

But this isn't just about what not to do. We'll also equip you with the two essential tools for effective
Discipline with Dignity: your deeply connected relationship with your child and your clear leadership as the "nurturing alpha."

Here's what you'll learn:

• Why traditional discipline methods often backfire and can damage your relationship with your child.
• The true meaning of discipline: to lead, guide, create order, and impart knowledge with respect.
• The two essential tools for Discipline with Dignity: a strong connection and clear leadership.
• Real-world strategies to address common behavioral challenges without resorting to outdated tactics.
• How to embrace your role as the "nurturing alpha" and guide your children with confidence.

Discipline with Dignity is more than a parenting technique; it's a shift in mindset. It's about treating your child with the respect they deserve while still providing the guidance they need to thrive.

Ready to ditch the drama and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship with your child?
Subscribe to The 3D Parent Podcast now and discover the power of Discipline with Dignity!

Bonus: Don't miss Part 2 of this episode, where we'll delve deeper into specific strategies for meeting your child's needs and building a healthy parent-child dynamic!

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