Tell The Others

Heidi Rogers

Listen in as psychotherapist Heidi Rogers speaks with ordinary people about their extraordinary lives. Heidi also provides professional insight into some of parenting's toughest challenges - tailor-made for families with strong-willed or neurodivergent kids. Uplifting tales of personal growth, overcoming adversity, life lessons, and tools for parenting kids who are 'differently wired' that inspire us to ‘tell the others’...

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08. Why This Lockdown FEELS Like The Worst Yet ... And What You Can Do About It

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08/11/21 • 52 min

It feels like this lockdown has been the most damaging to our collective mental health since the beginning of the pandemic.
The number of clients I’m seeing with increased anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation is off the charts.
So many people are either resuming anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication, or starting it for the first time.
My waitlist is the highest it has ever been, and every therapist I know is in the same situation.
We simply cannot keep up with demand as rolling lockdowns take their toll.
What makes an already challenging situation worse?
The way we treat ourselves, how we judge our responses, criticize our lack of capacity and motivation, and how we aren’t ‘doing enough’.
So many of my clients are unmotivated and scolding themselves for being ‘lazy’.
For not ‘using the time better’ and learning guitar. For living a life that looks nothing like the ones they see when they’re scrolling through Instagram or Facebook.
A lot of the way we feel comes from the hard wiring of our nervous system and how our brain is conditioned to respond to stress.
Instead of pushing against this wiring, I’d like to introduce an alternative approach, where you learn how to understand your mind to start feeling better about lockdown life.
In this recent Q&A call from my parenting program, I dive into why we're so exhausted and how to survive this extraordinarily challenging time.
I hope it helps you cultivate more self-compassion and contributes to a greater sense of wellbeing for you AND your family.
We’re all in this together.

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

At the end, you'll receive a free, in-depth report containing a bunch of insights and helpful strategies to meet their unique needs!
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If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.
It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child
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Connect With Me
YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt
Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb
Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig
Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

27. Why Your Parenting Style Isn’t Working Anymore

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09/26/24 • 10 min

I don't know about you, but I like to imagine parenting as a marathon, not a sprint ‍♀️
But it's hard to think long-term when every day feels like a race to the finish line.
It's like the parenting version Groundhog Day...
...we roll into bed exhausted, disconnected, frustrated, and anxious because we KNOW we're only hours away from doing it all again
So, here's a little secret...
By making small changes to the way we parent each day, the wins start to rack up - fast.
And in the process, we create a beautiful legacy for future generations.
That's how you become a cycle breaker - by modelling a new way of parenting for your children, your grandchildren and beyond.
So where do we start? A great place is learning how to fill your child's 'buckets'.
This builds a solid foundation of love and understanding while preparing them to be amazing parents themselves one day.
Unpack the buckets analogy with me to learn the 3 tools you can use to help your child feel 'ok', connected and respected (which leads to better behavior and greater emotional regulation!).
Timestamps
00:00 - Introduction
00:19 - What are the buckets?
04:45 - Being a cycle breaker
05:23 - The source of resistance
06:56 - The buckets: breakdown
08:37 - The source of power struggles

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31. Try Different, Not Harder: A New Take On ADHD Parenting

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01/18/25 • 76 min

What if the secret to parenting an ADHD child isn’t trying harder—but trying differently?
It makes sense when you think about it.
ADHD brains are wired differently, and so are their challenges. ADHD coach Sharon Collon shares her journey from chaos to calm and how you can tailor solutions to your family’s unique needs.
After spending over $30,000 in her son's first year post-diagnosis and developing an autoimmune condition from burnout, Sharon discovered that success comes not from trying harder, but from trying *differently*.
In this episode of Tell The Others, Heidi and Sharon dive deep into the surprising strategies that work for ADHD families while avoiding shame and overwhelm.

Transform your approach to daily life with systems designed for ADHD brains.
Discover why traditional parenting advice fails ADHD families and what actually works.
Uncover the real reasons behind ADHD behaviors and how to address them.

Timecodes
00:00 - Introducing Sharon Collon.

01:33 - Sharon's ADHD origin story.

07:54 - The gift of lived experience.

17:05 - What is ADHD coaching?

25:17 - One-handed systems.

38:44 - Working with your brain.

41:50 - Five ADHD parenting tips.

52:37 - Connection over correction.

1:04:54 - Limiting beliefs about ADHD.

1:11:05 - How to take action.
About Sharon
Sharon is an award winning, credentialed ADHD Coach, Consultant & Parent Expert (who is families trained). She is passionate about helping people with ADHD understand how their brain works and creating joyful, functional lives with ADHD. She loves anything that makes life easier with ADHD!
Her husband and her three sons all have ADHD (throw in some Tourettes, ODD, OCD, SPD and SLD too).
As well as Sharon's lived experience, she has been researching ADHD for over 15 years, studied at ADDCA in New York and the International Coaching Federation.
Sharon has runs on the board, assisting over 35,000 families since The Functional Family was created. Sharon has won multiple awards including Business Awards - Outstanding Education Service, AusMumpreneur - Disabled Business Excellence, People's Choice Leadership, People's Choice Making a Difference and the Cook's Community Award.
Learn more about Sharon's membership, ADHD & Families Program, and free resources -> https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/work-with-me

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

15. Winning on Wall Street: Cultivating The Traits Of Success

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02/12/22 • 46 min

Being ‘successful’ is about more than luck. It often involves learning a trade, building relationships, and staying curious - even in the face of adversity and potential failure. Join Heidi as she speaks with Joe Titus, whose experience in the finance sector and on Wall St has taught him a thing or two about the essential personality traits to be successful in any area of life.

What to expect in the episode:

Is a career on Wall Street worth it?
Do you have to be smart to make a lot of money on Wall Street?
How does social interaction affect learning?
Do successful people have failures?
What makes a person successful?
The importance of self confidence for your success.
Aim high but start small. Why?
Why is failure essential to success?
What actually happens at Wall Street?
What qualities make a company a great place to work?

Show notes:

[01:40] Joe’s education

[03:57] What motivated him to study well

[07:21] When you’re having trouble finding a job

[09:41] How to succeed in life after failing badly

[10:43] Taking a step back is also part of personal growth

[12:46] How Joe became successful

[14:22] What matters most in choosing a career

[15:25] Why curiosity enhances learning

[17:28] Why it’s important to have a good working relationship with colleagues

[20:45] What most people think about Wall Street

[24:02] Choosing the right leadership styles

[33:31] How do you deal with a financial crisis

[37:16] The importance of doing what you love

[39:48] How we can modernize the education system

[41:22] Ways to make sports more affordable

Connect with Joe Titus:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joe-titus-a789768/

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

18. How to parent a teenager who is 'isolating'

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05/26/22 • 28 min

I wanted to share a recent question I received in my parenting group about teenagers and their unique challenges.

It opened a HUGE can of worms as I honed in on the real issue behind this mom’s concerns - a loss of control.

Q: “My 17-year-old is staying in her room and isolating, not talking to us as much as she used to. I’m worried something is going on. Can you help?”

It’s such a classic scenario that can lead to feelings of rejection, sadness and a loss of control for parents.

But is ‘control’ the best way to parent?

Will it get them to confide in you when they’re under pressure to take drugs, have sex or engage in the kind of risk-taking activities that teens are wired to explore?

Or will it push them away?

If you’d like some insight into what’s ‘normal’ for teenagers (even if your kids aren’t there yet!) - and why we need to parent them differently - you won’t want to miss this answer from a recent Q&A call.

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

10. Why Do We React The Way We Do? Understanding Polyvagal Theory With Justin Sunseri

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09/06/21 • 69 min

Ever wondered why you react the way you do? Or what's behind the quote 'mind-body connection'?

Join Heidi for the answers as she dives into Polyvagal Theory with Justin Sunseri of the Stuck Not Broken podcast. Justin shares his expertise on all things Polyvagal Theory, and explores the connection between our behaviors, emotions and the way we respond.

Here are the things to expect in the episode:

What is Polyvagal Theory and how is it used in therapy?
What are the benefits of Polyvagal Theory?
Polyvagal Theory: A new way of seeing yourself.
The human condition: We are all on a quest for trust and safety.
Understanding our body and brain how it responds to survive.
The role of co-regulation.
The life-changing power of therapy.
Why is it important to find the right therapist?
Bad experiences with therapists and how to recognize them.
Polyvagal Theory and how we can apply it to yoga and meditation.

Show notes:

Justin's introduction and his therapy practices. [1:26]
When was Justin's interest in Polyvagal Theory started? [3:00]
What is Justin's first impression of Polyvagal Theory? [5:00]
Why do teachers and parents need to know about trauma? [7:08]
What is the Polyvagal Theory in simple terms? [8:56]
Understanding why Polyvagal Theory is important. [11:38]
How Justin explains polyvagal to his clients. [12:55]
Explaining Polyvagal Theory to people should be simple. [19:01]
The most common responses of people to sexual assault. [21:31]
Polyvagal's gift. [26:33]
Co-regulation: Definition and examples. [36:53]
The power of therapy and a good therapist - magical to many people. [41:45]
How to recognize a bad therapist. [51:36]
Client-therapist relationships and expectations. [53:05]
Encouragement to those dealing with emotional dysregulation. [56:57]
The benefits of being well-regulated. [1:03:37]

Connect with Justin:
Website: https://www.justinlmft.com/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JustinLMFT

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

23. Why is my child strong-willed and so difficult?! (AKA: 'Spicy')

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08/30/22 • 32 min

Heidi answers the following question in this episode:

"Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about feelings and validate the emotions of my 10 year old but Mr 8 hates any kind of emotional chat. Why is he like this?"

Heidi answers this question by discussing:

emotional regulation and how it's such a key issue for SPICY kids
the two main beliefs SPICY kids have about themselves
how needing choice, feeling anxious and angry outbursts are all interconnected
a discussion around the belief a lot of people have that these kids are choosing to be this way and are just disrespectful, strong willed and defiant
what to do and say when your child says 'I hate you!' or 'I'm running away!'

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

19. How to promote a healthy body image in your children

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06/24/22 • 112 min

Join Heidi and Vanessa (a trauma therapist and Licensed Mental Health Social Worker) on their deep dive into all things body image, and how to find freedom in food.
Some of the topics covered:

What determines health?
What is body neutrality?
Easy ways to promote healthy body image to your kids
How to protect your kids from developing a negative body image
Labeling foods "good" or "bad"
Emotional eating, and what to do if you or another family member is doing it
The ideal meal time experience, and how meal environment impacts us
How fat phobia and diet culture impact us and our kids

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Connect with Vanessa
Instagram:
@vanessa_preston_
Website:
www.greenlifepsychology.com
CURIOUS Method registration:
https://pfnl.co/XZdeT
BFF Project:
https://greenlifepsychology.com/the-body-food-freedom-project/

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Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz *https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*

14. Coping Skills: What they are, and how to build them for ourselves AND our kids

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02/06/22 • 52 min

No matter how mentally healthy, resilient, or happy you are, we all go through times when we’re faced with something difficult. Join Heidi and guest Janine Halloran as they discuss the coping methods that suit unique personalities, and how to identify your own coping skills.

What to expect in the episode:

What is a coping skill, and why is it important?
How do parents implement coping skills?
In what ways can parents model good coping skills?
Coping skills change throughout your life. Why?
How to learn new coping skills that are best for you
Do people have different coping mechanisms?

Shownotes:

[01:56] How Janine started creating coping skills for kids
[04:00] The challenges therapists/moms face
[05:54] How parents often deal with anger and frustration
[06:52] Coping evolved at different times throughout life
[10:33] Showing respect to other people's ways of coping
[12:12] Do the same coping skills work for everyone?
[13:30] Categorizing coping skills
[19:02] Is it okay to use distraction as a coping skill?
[20:21] The importance of play in adulthood
[24:52] How to identify your unique coping skills
[25:41] Why it’s important to understand your personality
[26:35] Using social media to strengthen family bonds
[27:30] Should parents play video games with their kids?
[32:09] Mistakes are an important part of learning
[33:30] What to do when your child is a perfectionist
[34:30] Books to support children in making mistakes
[40:38] Every human is a work in progress
[42:37] What did coping skills look like in your home?
[45:13] Write your skills and make a plan

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Connect with Janine Halloran:

Website: https://copingskillsforkids.com/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/encourageplay/_created/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/copingskillsforkids

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/copingskillsforkids/

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12. Grief, loss and cultivating a positive outlook after the death of a loved one

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01/04/22 • 72 min

The loss of a loved one creates a new kind of 'normal' and introduces us to a kind of suffering that we have never known.
Join me as I speak with special guest Brendan Murray as he opens up about his experiences with death and the loss of his parents. For anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one, Brendan shares some techniques to cope with grief and loss to help you get back to life.
What to expect from the episode:

Feelings and vulnerability in grief
How does losing someone you love affect you?
Describing the pain of losing someone
Cultivating a positive outlook after losing a loved one
Why is it hard to accept someone's death?
Do you ever recover from losing a loved one?
The power of choosing positive emotion
Negative mindsets: blame and regret will hold you back from being happy
How to train your brain to focus on what you can control
Techniques and goals for growth

Shownotes:
[02:37] What Heidi noticed about Brendan when his parents passed away
[05:04] How Brendan copes with grief and loss
[08:12] Is it true that “everything happens for a reason”?
[11:14] How do you reconcile grief?
[12:47] An analogy for explaining death
[15:10] Can you feel the presence of a loved one who passed away?
[19:19] You get to choose how you feel
[21:42] The importance of recognizing your emotions
[25:19] Describing the feeling of losing someone you love for the first time
[27:08] Does dealing with death get easier?
[33:57] Overcoming regret and self-blame
[37:25] The importance of focusing on what you can control
[45:05] “When you stop growing you start dying”
[48:13] Ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion
[49:41] Build momentum to create a force for good in your life
[51:17] Byron Katie's Four Questions
[55:20] Heidi's first Tony Robbins experience
[1:01:16] Tony Robbins’ work and its impact on Brendan and Heidi
[1:05:41] “Knowledge isn't power, execution is where the power lies”
[1:07:19] Opportunity to demonstrate change

Connect with Brendan

Website: https://halcyonpw.com.au/

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How many episodes does Tell The Others have?

Tell The Others currently has 32 episodes available.

What topics does Tell The Others cover?

The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Parenting, Kids & Family, Mental Health and Podcasts.

What is the most popular episode on Tell The Others?

The episode title '22. Therapy Isn’t The Only Pathway To Healing' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Tell The Others?

The average episode length on Tell The Others is 47 minutes.

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Episodes of Tell The Others are typically released every 18 days, 2 hours.

When was the first episode of Tell The Others?

The first episode of Tell The Others was released on Apr 7, 2020.

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