Table Pancakes
Katherine Foster and Shelbi Jones
In a culture that’s lacking in connection, it can sometimes be as simple as grabbing breakfast with a friend and chatting about life. Inspired by our ritual of pancake dates, join co-hosts Katherine and Shelbi as we discuss any and everything that comes to mind and heart, from navigating adult relationships with parents to 30-somethings’ social dynamics and our uncensored life observations along the way.
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Maria Colalancia, Creator of The Aperitivo Society: Cultivating Community Over a Shared Love of Food & Drinks
Table Pancakes
05/01/24 • 43 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi as they sit down with Maria Colalancia to learn about how she’s created a space to build community through The Aperitivo Society.
All About The Aperitivo Society
The Aperitivo Society is a community that brings strangers in New England together for dinner, creating connection over a shared love of food and drink.
By sharing her desire to have fun dinner parties and meet new people via TikTok, Maria attracted almost 700 members overnight, creating an engaged community centered around sharing a beautiful meal.
Maria talks about her experience of living in different cities and making new friends, whether through Bumble BFF or forming her community.
An Honest Take on Community Building
Maria discusses the high and low moments of developing her community.
The calendar (and filling it with “energy givers”) is key to being able to get everything done when running a community built on passion and having a 9-to-5 job.
Learning & Growing Alongside Members
Maria reflects on valuable feedback she’s received from The Aperitivo Society, the various roles that members play within the community, micro-communities that form via Geneva, and how she balances community points of view with her vision.
The future is bright for The Aperitivo Society, and part of its scale plans include the opening of a Boston retail location, THE SHOP.
Maria shares a wealth of recommendations, from her advice to anyone who wants to start a community to her hosting philosophy, insights on cooking for a crowd, and favorite Boston spots.
Explore The Aperitivo Society
Website: https://www.theaperitivosociety.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aperitivosociety/
GoFundMe to donate to The Aperitivo Society... THE SHOP!: https://www.gofundme.com/f/the-aperitivo-society-the-shop
Stay tuned for updates on THE SHOP’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aperitivo__theshop/
You can email us at [email protected] and leave us a voice memo here. We'd also love it if you'd rate, review, and subscribe to the show!
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04/24/24 • 64 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi to reflect on the convenience culture that touches almost every aspect of our lives, and when and how we press pause in order to come together and connect.
Everything on Demand
While streaming services have shifted the shared experience of tuning into prime time, they’ve also played into nostalgia by bringing back shows like Reba and Sex and the City, creating new moments to tune in together (and fuel online discourse).
The sheer amount of content and the algorithms that serve it is a vast machine, making it that much more amusing when something goes viral and resonates on a large scale (we’re looking at you, Black Twitter).
Endless delivery options can jeopardize moments of connection, and there’s a balance of knowing that time is money and choosing the moments when to be a more engaged consumer in the community.
Data Driven Tech Meets Social Competition
Social media gives an on demand view of what you have or don’t have that can be motivating and disheartening, with millennial “experience culture”, fast fashion, and expectations to present a certain way online sometimes making us lose the plot on what our own “why” is.
Taking a cue from Gen Z and sharing a broader picture of your lived experience online creates an opportunity to connect more authentically and reduce misconceptions of others’ feelings based on what we see on social media, for example Brittney Reynolds.
Wearable tech can do so many amazing things for our health and knowledge, but it’s up to the consumer to decide what tools are helpful and what may be overwhelming to them as an individual.
AirPods are the crown jewels and status symbol we wear as convenience queens, but the content and connectivity (and noise cancellation) they provide make them blinders to the world around us (referencing Scott Galloway’s 2018 tweet of Ian Bogost’s Atlantic article, Apple's Airpods Are an Omen).
Advancements Come with Cultural Setbacks
Revisiting nostalgic television and reading old articles of technological cautionary tales demonstrate how past, present, and future are all intertwined.
The advancements that fuel our on demand culture don’t all necessarily have to change (and many won’t), but it is our role to consider how they impact our lives and interpersonal dynamics, and where we can add our own human touch.
Question of the Week:
In what ways would you like to shift your relationship to on demand culture in order to better connect with others?
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In or Out?: The Friend Group
Table Pancakes
04/10/24 • 46 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi to tap into the friend group discourse, exploring the benefits and drawbacks in order to see if it’s fair for them to be under fire.
Are We Mad at Something We All Want?
Eli Rallo’s TikTok sparked online debate, offering a hot take that friend groups are terrible and limiting
So many people desire to be a part of a friend group, so the negative take may validate feelings (and serve as a rallying cry) for people who aren’t in any
While cliques certainly bring negative friendship experiences, we believe that “friend group” is really a blanket term that has to be broken down into specific and unique experiences
Pro-Camaraderie, Anti-Groupthink
Friend groups can be hard to find as an adult but there’s less likelihood of ending up in the dynamic of a high school era clique
Not only do friend groups provide a sense of belonging, but they allow you to expand your experiences and connect through embracing playful energy and spontaneity
When friends spread out and move to various places, the group dynamic is a key vehicle for keeping everyone connected
Seasons of Socialization & Going Out
While there are certainly seasons of friendship, our relationship to going out is impacted by the 4 seasons themselves, with winter months often bringing more exclusivity than the others
The pandemic drastically shifted how and where friends go out and build community, and many people are still figuring out what feels right and what effort is realistically required in order to work through this
In the spirit of levity, we’re a big fan of parties just because, less cerebral mindsets when going out, and being okay with the friction that can naturally come with leaving the house
Question of the Week:
What do you think about friend groups and the role they play in your life? How do your group dynamics (or more individual friend hangs) shape how you go out and spend your social time?
Reminder: We're on Spring Break next week! The show returns on 4/24. Catch up on episodes and leave us some notes to come back to :)
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Prioritizing Friendship
Table Pancakes
04/03/24 • 45 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi to discuss prioritizing friendship in our daily lives, now and in the future (plus, how they’re prioritizing Beyoncé’s new album, Cowboy Carter).
Strong Friendships Stretch Together
Adult friendships require us to stretch in various ways, from anticipating needs and providing emotional support to applauding our friends and seeking out adventure together
The 5 love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch, along with two new ones of shared experiences and emotional security) make us think about learning how to show up for friends in their love language, even if it’s one that doesn’t come naturally to you
It can be overwhelming and exhausting to figure out how to find new ways to spend time with friends and expand together, but solving the puzzle is rewarding
It Takes a Village
How society frames platonic relationships to be less important than romantic relationships can be stressful if you aren’t in a romantic relationship
There’s opportunity to give grace to friends who haven’t experienced deep friendship because perhaps there was never a need for that setup (and also encourage them to try it)
Actively choosing the hard way to curate a village of friends who also believe in building a life alongside friends
Evaluating the risk of friendships fading away due to a lack of capacity or effort, referencing Frank Bruni’s, Opinion | The Friends Who Got Away - The New York Times (3/14/24)
Friendships Fit for the Future
Discussing friends who you share things with that may typically be shared with a romantic partner (sometimes referred to as other significant others or platonic partners)
There’s joy in your friends’ people becoming your people too
We'd love to hear your thoughts. You can email us at [email protected] and leave us a voice memo here. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
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Relationship Status: Friendship Breakups
Table Pancakes
03/27/24 • 56 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi in making space to discuss friendship breakups and coming to terms with long-standing friendships that don't serve you.
Friendship Breakups and, Dare We Say, Divorces
Platonic relationships can be just as intense to navigate as romantic ones
Two things can be true at once, with friendship breakups being devastating but also freeing you from a relationship that doesn’t serve you
Sometimes a silent line is drawn in the sand to close a friendship, particularly when your personal capacity changes and you don’t feel you’re being supported
Debating the “chop”, a direct communication that someone is out of your life, versus recognizing apparent signs that the friendship is over
Trusting Your Gut vs. Making Room for Evolution
It’s important to reconcile caring for someone and honoring your history together with holding yourself to a standard and demonstrating self respect
Friendships are some of the longest standing relationships we’ll have in our lives but we also have to assess when change is necessary (and when someone is capable of it)
Loving, caring friends should be given grace, but not everyone deserves unconditional love and consideration
Lingering at a Standstill
Questioning if someone should be in your life and where you go from here when something is off and hasn’t been addressed or resolved
Standstills can feel heavily quiet, with lack of communication, gaslighting, and operating in separate realities and on different narratives
Some people may take the easier way out if they hold more power in relation to societal norms, which can result in them not making an effort to try to repair it and not showing up authentically (even if this isn’t indicative of how they feel)
It can be hard to balance addressing a situation and letting people off the hook because you have bigger fish to fry, but this leaves people open to access your life through social media without interacting with you and for grievances to add up
Question of the Week:
Have you ever gone through a friendship breakup or standstill? What tools and language did you feel you had or didn’t have to help you navigate, and how did this impact you and your friend?
We'd love to hear your thoughts. You can email us at [email protected] and leave us a voice memo here. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
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Hey Neighbor
Table Pancakes
03/20/24 • 50 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi to discuss the importance of neighborhoods and how they impact community.
Love Where You Live:
What we love about our neighborhoods, what they offer us, and how we engage
Sharing favorite neighborhood restaurants and cafes
Neighbor or Friend:
Enjoying the comfort of having someone looking out for you, especially as two single women
Living with the quirky interactions that occur while living in close proximity to people
Exploring if living in proximity of someone is enough to develop a friendship
Suburban Skeptics:
Thoughts on city living versus the suburbs
Commitment to a car-free commute
Escaping monoculture for more diverse communities
Question of the Week:
Are you making friends in your neighborhood, are you inviting your existing friends to your neighborhood or are you befriending your neighbors?
We'd love to hear your thoughts. You can email us at [email protected] and leave us a voice memo here. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
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The Evolution of Friendship
Table Pancakes
03/13/24 • 54 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi to discuss friendship evolutions, and how closeness and distance in relationships are impacted as a result.
Embracing Friends as Family
Close friends often become members of your chosen family, and may even become close to your given family too
Friendships can evolve into accountability partnerships, providing positive feedback and reality checks as you work towards your goals
Having less free time means getting creative with staying in touch, like sending “mini podcast” voice notes and body doubling to lessen the load for each other
Shifting Priorities and New Normals
Recognizing that sometimes life can put a little distance between friends, and it’s fair to both give grace as life evolves and also feel disappointed by the change
Understanding that not everyone wants intimate, deep connection in friendship so it’s important to find people who want the same type of friendship as you
There’s beauty in discussing futures with your friends and how you’ll remain important parts of each others’ lives and communities
Distance Makes the Heart Grow...Discerning
Distance doesn’t have to be negative, as it can mean walking away from mismatched expectations and moving closer to what is right for you and your authentic self
Everyone is ultimately responsible for distance and deciding what actions to take (or not take) to see where the relationship lands
We'd love to hear your thoughts. You can email us at [email protected]. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
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Share Your Work
Table Pancakes
03/06/24 • 45 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi for an honest conversation about the importance of sharing your work, supporting others in their projects, and recognizing that everyone is a creative.
The Necessity of Putting Your Work Out There
- Recognizing that sharing your work is a critical part of the creative process and not only extends your reach but creates an opportunity to connect with others
- Showing your truest self by putting what you do out into the world, from a finished product to letting people see behind the scenes
- Embracing the reality that many creatives are multi-hyphenates and some full-time workplaces may be better suited for birthing side hustles than others
Embracing Marketing Even When It Just Seems Tough
- While many people are interested in seeing the full process, it can sometimes seem counterintuitive to share your whole creative journey, making it a skill that has to be developed
- Some social media like Instagram can be intimidating platforms for sharing because you have followers from many walks of life, but it’s a chance to keep people updated who would love to lend support as you continue your journey
- Not every creative is a marketer, not every marketer is a creative, and some people can do it all (referencing Rebecca Jennings’ Vox article, Everyone's a sellout now)
Being a Fan of Your Own Work
- We’re inspired by the Tyler, The Creator Converse interview (starting at 43:19 minutes) and the insistence of being a fan of your own work
- The amount of promotion you do around your work should relate to the time, energy, and passion that you put into the process
- A healthy amount of shamelessness allows you to create even when the stars don’t feel fully aligned, and presents opportunities when you keep pushing your work forward
Let’s All Be Hype Friends
- Friends and family supporting projects can look like unconditional likes and engagement, constructive feedback that holds important context, and emotional support that helps the work come to life
- Keeping fellow creatives close is amazing for community, workshopping, gathering outside point of views, and mutual understanding as you go about your work
- Informing friends of what you’re up to allows them to tout what you do even when you are not in the room
- An elevator pitch of what you do is important for everyone you encounter, from experienced creators in your dream field to your friends
We'd love to hear your thoughts. You can email us at [email protected]. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
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Solo Time
Table Pancakes
02/28/24 • 45 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi as they reflect on solo time, why they embrace it, and where it stands in our individualistic, digitally connected, and increasingly lonely society.
Expressing What We Want and Need from Alone Time
- Human Design helps in understanding when and how we need to be alone, whether it’s to rest, think, or be inspired by what’s around us
- The importance of informing others that you can’t be there when you’re dipping into solo time
Finding Comfort in Being With Yourself
- Solo time can serve as an opportunity to make progress towards your goals, lean into contentment, and deeply learn about yourself
- “If you are lonely when you’re alone you are in bad company.” - Jean-Paul Sartre
- Embracing the “delicious” nature of aloneness and knowing that “you are with you” (referencing Aloneness by Gwendolyn Brooks, in minutes 39:22-42:03 of her University of Iowa poetry reading on March 4, 1974)
Examining Convenience’s Cost Over Connection
- While time is a commodity for all, it’s important to extend the invitation to connect if you’re enjoying getting to know someone
- Social media voyeurism isn’t a form of connecting, but engaging with someone’s content to show interest and share commonalities is an easy way to reach out
Seeking Community in an Increasingly Pay-to-Play Society
- There’s an opportunity to keep an eye out for loneliness in others and connect them to people whose company they may enjoy and benefit from
- Instagram serves as a modern day calling card with public displays of activity increasing loneliness in others, demonstrating that “solitude is less solitary than ever” (referencing Derek Thompson’s article, Why Americans Suddenly Stopped Hanging Out, in The Atlantic)
- We’re seeing a decline in free/low cost community institutions and an increase in elite bubbles of privileged community, creating a messy middle phase in society as we unravel individualism, unpack capitalism, and learn soft skills to develop meaningful relationships
We'd love to hear your thoughts. You can email us at [email protected]. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
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Finances & Friendship
Table Pancakes
05/08/24 • 50 min
Join your hosts Katherine and Shelbi for an open dialogue on how our individual and personal finances play a role in the shared experience of friendship, from career choices and partnerships to bachelorette parties and the dreaded birthday dinner.
Money Moves 101
Our first experiences with perceiving our own and others’ money situations often happen in childhood, with memorabilia like custom NikeID Shox serving as their form of (social) currency
From high school jobs to careers in our 30s, people's various journeys can paint a picture of how people prioritize money
There’s importance in paying more attention to our means and spending values than comparing them to what others seem to have
Envy and Money are Different Shades of Green
Help and resources that people receive (or don’t receive) often go beyond just financial support, but that’s frequently overlooked when people compare their situations
The opportunity to learn and apply insights from curiosity about others’ money journeys
Showing up on friends’ big (and expensive) days like weddings and bachelorette parties and spending quality time with them can often feel like very different financial and emotional experiences
Family Dinner Vibes
Thinking through the emotional and more tactical elements of dual-income households, single life, and community in a society that builds social norms around partnership.
Normalizing casual hosting moments with friends to help each other meet our basic needs and share fulfilling times
Debating if homemade ice cream parties are in our future or not!
Question of the Week:
How do you feel like your finances influence or don’t influence how you interact and spend time with friends, with the warmer weather coming up, how do you think you can change that? What new things can you add to your rolodex and how can you be creative with the time you spend with people?
You can email us at [email protected] and leave us a voice memo here. We'd also love if you'd rate, review and subscribe to the show!
Join the Table Pancakes Community on IG: @tablepancakespod
Stay in touch with us: @shelbihq & @katherinehfoster
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FAQ
How many episodes does Table Pancakes have?
Table Pancakes currently has 31 episodes available.
What topics does Table Pancakes cover?
The podcast is about Culture, New York, Society & Culture, Society, Personal Journals, Friendship, Podcasts and Relationships.
What is the most popular episode on Table Pancakes?
The episode title 'Maria Colalancia, Creator of The Aperitivo Society: Cultivating Community Over a Shared Love of Food & Drinks' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Table Pancakes?
The average episode length on Table Pancakes is 43 minutes.
How often are episodes of Table Pancakes released?
Episodes of Table Pancakes are typically released every 7 days.
When was the first episode of Table Pancakes?
The first episode of Table Pancakes was released on Jan 15, 2024.
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