STRONG DADS! Doing Real Life

Nestled in the heart of Lawrenceburg, McCabe's Greenhouse is more than a garden center; it's a living lesson in the art of cultivation, both of plants and community bonds. My conversation with Adam Legge offers an authentic glimpse into the daily rhythms of nurturing seedlings and the resilience of pansies, paralleling the strength found in family and faith. As Adam walks us through the greenhouse's operations, from the importance of soil temperature to the craft of fudge-making, we uncover the shared roots between the growth of plants and the growth of relationships.
The thread of resilience weaves through our discussion as I open up about the profound impact of my daughter Evelyn's passing on our family's faith journey. In the delicate dance of strength and vulnerability, we explore how leadership within the family unit, the tenacity of marriage, and the anchoring presence of faith sustain us through life's most tempestuous seasons. The community's nurturing role parallels the patient care of our beloved plants, offering solace and support in times of sorrow, and helping us to find parallels between the seasonal ebbs and flows of nature and our own spiritual cycles.
As the episode draws to a close, we reflect on the unshakeable foundation faith provides, even when shrouded by life's storms. With heartfelt thanks to Adam and the community that stands as a lighthouse of hope, we look forward to future gatherings and the promise of unity they bring. This episode is a tribute to the legacy of loved ones, the conscious pursuit of faith, and the enduring power of community—a celebration of the ties that bind us in our shared journey of growth and discovery.
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As the fourth show in our series, "When Was The Last Time You Talked To ...", we are bringing up the subject of race. When Was The Last Time You Talked To Someone of a Different Race? In this series we have challenged our Strong Dads to be willing to have the tough conversations rather than avoid them. As men it is not uncommon to feel uncomfortable about a topic so we just avoid it. This seems like a good option in the moment, but the reality is that it leads to greater ignorance, apathy, prejudice, and even racism.
During this show we invited back Durran Alexander. Durran was willing to sit in for a very real and honest conversation in which no one felt attacked or belittle for questions or feelings they had. We were simply able to talk about the race issues and experiences that we have had with the hopes of learning more about each.
This show proved to be exactly what we had hoped. We explored the roots of prejudices that can be passed into a culture generation after generation. We discussed the inherant desire to "pre-judge" circumstances, but how that can lead us astray if we do not seek the knowledge and facts behind the circumstances.
We discussed the importance of gaining information and whether or not the information is reliable or not. Knowledge comes from personal experiences, God's Word, research, discussion, and even gossip. Learning how to separate the good from the bad is done through putting our thoughts to the test. The test is simply meeting and interacting with people of other races.
When we delve into honest conversation with others we quickly see commonalities in which we can share mutual values, experiences, and beliefs. We see that their is an individual behind the face. We see that they are no better or worse than ourselves. We are all people with gifts as well as flaws.
Strong Dads challenges each and everyone of us to be willing to have intentional and safe conversations with our fellow man, whether they are in our neighborhood or not.

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Divorce is hard! It is hard on everyone involved. That is why we want to do everything possible to not get to the point of divorce. Doing things like premarital coaching, making sure to be equally aligned in faith, and establishing common values to live by are critical to preventing divorce.
However, the reality is that divorce does happen. Immaturity, selfishness, arrogance, and a host of other variables come to rest only making the marriage weaker and people begin to get hurt. This hurt will alter the life path of the people involved. When we are hurt, we must heal, and healing can be done well or not. In order to heal, a wound must be stabilized and protected. Whether we are talking about he healing of a broken bone or the people involved in a divorce. Healing done well is essential to living well after the wound is inflicted.
This show revisits a guest that was on Strong Dads nearly two years ago, Derek Fee. At the time of our first show Derek was just separating from his wife after he had walked out of the marriage and into an adulterous affair. Initially, Derek would rationalize his behaviors and even attempt to blame his actions on others. But soon Derek recognized that this was the work of a boy and not a true man of God. Derek began to seek counsel and understand all that was at stake. He began to confess and seek forgiveness from his wife and family. At times he even thought there may be a chance of marital restoration. But as time passed, he realized the marriage was not going to be restored.
When Derek reflected on the damage he had created he had to make some decisions on what healing would look like and how he would go about the actual process. This show reveals what Derek and many men discover about themselves when they go through this kind of healing. His eyes become more wide-open to his assumed past ways of living. He sees what his actions have led too, but more importantly, what he can do to change his future. Derek's walk is simply that, a walk. A slow, but purposeful walk of re-establishing who he is, who God is to him, and what he wants to be as a man, father, and maybe husband. This is a story of growth and healing after a self-inflicted wound.

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In our third of four shows on Killing Pride, this is the one that begins to move you forward. This show boldly comes out and tells you exactly where we can all begin to grab our pride by the throat and begin to choke it out!

The tactic described is not for the faint of heart. It causes most to run and avoid the inevitable. The inevitable of surrender! Let's be clear, surrendering sounds like the last thing any warrior should ever do. But let's consider who we are surrendering to and why we might surrender.

If you were in a battle and shot your last bullet only to find yourself under endless gunfire, you would have to make some choices. Do I run, do i sit, or do I surrender? If I run, I will likely get shot. If I sit I will likely get shot. If I consider the option of surrendering, I have to ask myself the questions; who am I surrendering to and what is the likely outcome? If the likely outcome is death, then it may be best to choose the fastest path to death, since it's coming anyway. However, if I find that my capture puts me in the hands that will promise and deliver something better and life preserving, then I need to deeply consider this option.

Life is going to keep shooting endless gunfire your way. When will you look up and recognize that Christ is not the enemy, but rather the savior. He is waiting for your surrender so that he can carry you to a better place. A place of peace, hope, security, promise, and ultimately, eternal life.

In this episode of Killing Pride, we unveil the biggest step you must take to killing your pride. We recognize that it is not easy, but we also recognize that it is only made difficult because of our sinful pride. We have taken so long to develop a false shroud of who we believe we are that we have lost sight of who God made us to be. It's time to take off the shroud and die to self and live for Christ!

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Shyness - The Quite Battle Ep 253
Introduction
The podcast is hosted by Merrill Hutchinson and Carl Andry, featuring discussions about overcoming shyness and social anxiety, particularly focusing on strategies to engage with people and "work a room." They emphasize that shyness often stems from self-centeredness and anxiety rather than humility, and provide insights on how to develop social skills.
Understanding Shyness
Personal Experiences
Merrill shares his struggle with painful shyness and anxiety, which he felt deeply affected his social interactions.
Carl discusses his own experiences with shyness, highlighting that both men often have a silent internal struggle when it comes to social situations.
The Mechanics of Shyness
The hosts identify shyness as not merely a personality trait but a skill that can be learned and improved upon.
They explain that natural extroverts might find social interactions easier, while others need to develop techniques to manage their anxiety and communicate effectively.
Strategies for Overcoming Shyness
1. Desire to Change
The first step in overcoming shyness is the sincere desire to engage with others. Individuals must recognize the benefits of social interactions, including networking opportunities and personal connections.
2. Learning to "Work a Room"
Working a room is not about manipulation but about developing the skill to engage genuinely with others.
The importance of learning and practicing skills such as making eye contact, shaking hands, and being present in conversations.
3. The Importance of Small Talk
Small talk is vital in breaking the ice.
Engaging in small talk allows individuals to gauge a person’s interest and comfort level before diving into deeper discussions.
4. Asking Questions
They encourage asking open-ended questions to invite others into a conversation. This technique reduces the pressure on the shy individual to share about themselves and allows others to express their thoughts.
Carl emphasizes the art of questioning, stating that it can lead to meaningful exchanges and help shy individuals engage more comfortably.
5. Active Listening
Active listening is crucial in social interactions. The hosts stress the importance of giving full attention to the person speaking, which helps to foster connections and validate others’ feelings and stories.
6. Practicing Public Speaking
Engaging in public speaking can significantly help shy individuals. By practicing in front of larger groups, individuals can build confidence in their speaking abilities and learn to manage their anxiety.
7. Body Language and Presence
Proper body language, such as standing tall, making eye contact, and offering a firm handshake, communicates confidence.
The hosts note that these non-verbal cues can significantly affect how others perceive and respond to you.
8. Embracing Authenticity
Authenticity is essential. The hosts encourage individuals to be genuine in their interactions, sharing real thoughts and feelings rather than trying to conform to expectations.
9. Using Humor and Self-Deprecation
Learning to laugh at oneself and embracing mistakes can diffuse tension and foster a more relaxed atmosphere. The hosts share personal anecdotes about moments of awkwardness that ended up being humorous.
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