Still Becoming One

"We are so different," "We married so young," "I don't even know myself" These are all statements we hear from individuals and couples who are in desperate places in their marriages. They feel like they have changed so much that they don't even know their spouse anymore.
What is happening? Is the 7-year itch a real thing? How can marriages last as couples both grow? We take a hard look at this crazy dynamic and give some ideas on how your marriage can survive the 7-year itch! Hint it isn't about 7 years. It is about finding growth and change in your marriage, not outside of it! Let's work on building up ourselves and our spouses so that they will find new hobbies, not new spouses!

Asking for More Sex: Becoming Sexually Confident

Still Becoming One

10/02/24 • 37 min

You've been stuck feeling like roommates and don't know how to ask for more sexual intimacy. OR maybe your spouse is the one asking but in ALL the wrong ways. This episode promises to equip you with the tools to understand and navigate sexual frequency concerns that both partners often experience. Tune in as we share candid insights and anecdotes about setting realistic expectations, fostering open communication, and addressing awkward yet essential conversations about intimacy. You'll leave with practical strategies to find a middle ground that works for you and your partner.

The Balancing Act of Love and Diapers

Still Becoming One

04/10/24 • 32 min

Welcome to our marriage and parenting series. This week, we tackle the challenge of adjusting your marriage to pregnancy and infants! Each stage of parenting can tug at the seams of even the most resilient unions. The profound shifts in identity that come with pregnancy and how a new baby can reshape the couple's dynamic underscore the need to cling to each other as life's tides shift around us.

Politics Is Killing Our Family: Building Bridges or Boundaries

Still Becoming One

10/29/24 • 39 min

How do you keep the peace at Thanksgiving dinner when political differences arise? As we approach the pivotal 2024 election, we dive into the divisive topic of how to engage in compassionate and understanding discussions, even when opinions clash.
Family dynamics during politically charged times can be tricky to navigate. We've seen too many families torn apart by the enmity and contempt of rival politics. Sometimes, we need to build bridges of compassionate listening and other times; we need to build boundaries. Join us from both sides of the aisle as we navigate this tricky situation.
(mentioned in this episode- The Power of Saying No: 5 Steps to Set Up Boundaries that Stick)

The Sexually Confident Marriage: With Special Guest Shannon Ethridge

Still Becoming One

09/25/24 • 48 min

Tune in as we welcome the phenomenal Shannon Etheridge, a million-copy bestselling author who shares her transformative journey and the evolution of her work on sexual confidence. Discover the inspiration behind her book, "The Sexually Confident Wife," and how it has evolved into helping couples discover their sexual confidence together. Shannon's insights shed light on what it takes to grow sexual confidence and its profound impact on nurturing stronger, more connected marital relationships.

Parenting the K-5's Without Forfeiting Your Marriage

Still Becoming One

04/24/24 • 36 min

Raising kids isn't just about the ABCs and 123s; it's a complex dance that can trip up even the most in-step couples. In this episode, we open up about the parenting hurdles that can either trip you up or strengthen your stride. We discuss everything from the decision-making behind how many activities to do to disciplining with differing philosophies. Listen as we share our personal reflections and how we strive to maintain unity in our parenting approach, all while keeping the laughter alive and the marriage thriving.

Safeguarding Spousal Intimacy Against Toddler Tornadoes

Still Becoming One

04/17/24 • 29 min

Discover the secret to keeping your marriage alive and kicking, even when toddlers are ruling the roost. Brad and Kate, with their treasure trove of marriage counseling and relationship coaching wisdom, invite you into a world where your spouse doesn't become a stranger amongst the diapers and tantrums. We're pulling back the curtain to reveal how you can carve out a sacred space for two, amidst the whirlwind of parenting. You'll get a peek into our own journey of transforming our bedroom into a couple's sanctuary and learn how to set boundaries that keep the romance blooming, even when the little ones are just on the other side of that good old door lock.
We're not just talking about keeping the spark alive; we're about kindling a bonfire of connection and intimacy that not only you and your partner feel, but your kids witness and learn from. Say goodbye to the myth that date nights are off the table until the children are older. Instead, we're dishing out strategies that make every night an opportunity for reconnection, from at-home dinner dates to sneaking in moments of affection. As we delve into the long-term perks of a robust partnership, you'll be inspired to prioritize your relationship now rather than waiting for a 'more convenient time' that may never come.

Growing Your Marriage By Yourself

Still Becoming One

03/27/24 • 37 min

You've tried to get your spouse to get some help with you, and for whatever reason they aren't ready. Is it worth going to marriage coaching alone? Today we try to tackle this listener's question after our "How Do I Make My Spouse Get Help" episode. Before you just take the easy answer, "of course" there are some pitfalls that you need to watch out for. Going to marriage coaching or counseling yourself could end in hurting your marriage more than helping if you (and your coach) aren't careful!

The Fruit Was Sweet To My Taste: Let's Talk About Oral Sex

Still Becoming One

03/06/24 • 39 min

We get asked questions about oral sex all the time. In this episode, we share insights and have a frank conversation to cut through the discomfort and get to the heart of why this topic is so frequently a challenge.
We examine the concerns and curiosities that arise, underscore the significance of honest communication, and strive to illuminate a path to joy and more profound connection for couples. So, if you're ready for a frank discussion of oral sex that promises to inform, enlighten, and possibly even entertain, join us for this intimate journey. And remember, this might be one best listened to away from little ears—unless you're keen on an impromptu lesson in marital intimacy!

You Aren't Meeting My Needs- Now What?

Still Becoming One

11/13/24 • 41 min

We hear it all the time: "My wife's not meeting my needs" or "My husband isn't meeting my needs!" What do we do about this? Of course, we want our spouse to meet our physical, emotional, sexual, and other needs. Yet, is it their responsibility to do so?
The struggle to juggle demanding jobs and family commitments makes this a very common feeling. We explore the emotional tug-of-war many couples experience when they feel like the person they signed up to "do life with" is now not meeting their needs. Is this a reason to end the relationship? Are there ways to fix this? Let's dive into understanding and meeting each other's needs.