Soul Led Living Podcast with Nikki Novo

You’ve probably heard me talk about soulmates before because I’m pretty obsessed with clearing the air. When it comes to romantic relationships, there is not just one, person out there to love and cherish us. A soulmate is someone who has lived other lifetimes with us. Get it? Soul-Mate?

So now that we’ve cleared that up, we can get into the real important stuff: manifesting a wonderful romantic relationship. And we’re going to do that today by creating a list.

I know what you’re going to tell me, “Nikki, I’ve made my perfect-man checklist and all I heard were crickets.” And you know what I’ll say to that? You did it wrong.

First off, manifesting is a real thing. We can call things into our lives through our thoughts and belief. Writing what we want down is physical action we can take in the manifesting process. So that’s why we make a list. But the reason your previous list did not work out was because you were coming from the wrong place.

If your list said things like, “I want him to be tall, wealthy, and drive a truck,” I’m sorry to say but it’s not going to work. And here’s why. When we try to manifest things without addressing why we want it, we can attract really wonky stuff. The why is more important than the what. Our lists have to be based on how we want to feel.

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You want to attract someone who is wealthy, because maybe you want to someone to be equal to you, or because you don’t want to be taking care of someone, or because you want to feel secure. If you only write down “I want him to be wealthy,” you can attract someone who has a lot, but spends a lot. Or you can have someone who has a lot, but has a lot of debt.

Now, if you create your list based off how you want to feel in the relationship, you can’t go wrong. You’re covering your basis. You would say something like, “I want to feel like an equal,” or “I want to feel financially secure,” or “I want to feel that my partner takes responsibility for himself.”

When it comes to romantic relationships, what lasts is not the outside stuff. What lasts is how we feel. Our emotional needs are what need to be met. The outside stuff we’re trying to call in is the manifestation of a need. We don’t want a tall person just for the hell of it! We want a tall person, because we want to feel small and feminine.

Our feelings list is this week’s spiritual assignment. Create your perfect partner manifestation list with your feelings list in mind. Here are some examples:

“I don’t want to be second to his/her friends and family”

“I want to feel like a priority”

“I want to be able to trust and not feel like I’m going to be cheated on”

“I want to feel emotionally secure and trusting”

“I want to feel beautiful in his/her eyes”

“I want to make sure this person is financially ok”

“I want to feel financially secure”

“I want to make sure this person isn’t a crazy partier”

“I want to feel I’m with a partner who prioritizes his/her health”

“I want to be with someone who will stick around for the hard stuff”

“I want to feel I am in a mature and committed relationship, where communication is of highest importance”

If you have any questions about your list, leave me a comment below. Much love always!

Xo,

Nikki

Before every reading I do, I meditate. I focus on the person’s energy like a nosey mom going through her child’s drawers. I’m looking for what’s working, what trauma remains, what fears exist, and what future is set in place.

Everyone is different, and there’s a ton of variation in people’s energy, but one thing I see 9 out of 10 times is a little fence around the heart. Some look like a thin curtain and others look like a full-on fortress.

I see it so often because most of us want to protect our hearts. We’re afraid of what might happen if we allow anyone to get too close. We’re scared of what would happen if we let someone in who might hurt us later. Or, we may have suffered deep hurt in the past, causing us to close up shop.

Funny enough, this doesn’t affect our ability to be a good person. What it does get in the way of is leading a heart-centered life.

The heart chakra is the center chakra, because it’s our center. It’s the closest connection to our essence. When we live from this place, we connect more, experience more, love more.

Sounds pretty amazing, right? But how are we supposed to knock down that damn wall?!

On today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we speak to heart wall expert Nick K. Who get this guys, lives in Loveland, Colorado. I mean, talk about living your purpose.

Nick was so kind to explain what the wall is, how we can work to release it, and what happens when we do. Get your journal ready!

We talk about:

• What is a heart wall
• How to know if you have a heart wall
• How to release it if you do
• How walls can affect our dating life

Links to resources:

• Nick’s website
• How to book a session with Nick
• How to clear your heart chakra meditation

Updates:

• Join the Final Swipe Facebook group
• Meet me in Miami at the Almost30 event. Grab your tickets here today!

Before we continue on this podcast journey we’re on together, I feel like there’s something we need to talk about first.

In my podcast Soul-Led Living, I’m really asking you to trust yourself, to hear the divine guidance that’s trying to come through while you listen to me speak.

The messages might sound amazing, and you may really want to believe them, but if you’re struggling to understand wether your intuition is right or not, it could be hard to believe in the messages.

So in today’s episode, I talk about how you can understand your intuition better so that you can trust yourself.

We cover:

• Why didn’t your intuition work out in the past?
• How can you understand it better?
• And when can you trust it?

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The term ghosting may be new, but that practice has been around for a while.

I remember being ghosted way before it was ever a thing, and feeling like crap. As if something were wrong with me. And it always seem to be "the nice guys" who would do it. You know, those people-pleaser type? Who are too afraid to confront you, so they just pretend nothing ever happened. Ugh, grow a pair.

I'm actually happy there's a term for it now, because before it felt quite shameful and lonely. At least now, we're able to encourage a little accountability on the ghoster.

With swipe culture, ghosting has become even more rampant, considering there are so many blurred lines when it comes to what kind of interaction actually deserve closure.

Regardless, we can all agree it doesn't feel good to be ghosted. But it also doesn't feel great having to let someone know that you're not feeling the connection. So in the end, we ghost, too.

Today, I want to talk about how we can all put an end to ghosting, but not ghosting on our end.

I don't say this because I believe karma is going to get you. I say this because, for so many of us, dating feels like a scary, unsafe interaction with heartless strangers. When we ghost we perpetuate that belief.

When we agree to close the loop on all our dating interactions, we start to see that the dating world is actually not scary or ugly, but rather filled with a group of feely humans all putting themselves out there in hopes of finding their version of love. In other words, we humanize the process, which then makes us feel better about the concept of dating as a whole.

In today's episode, I go deeper into the topic. We talk about how to stop ghosting, how to handle being ghosted, and how to see the dating world as a good place.

Give it a listen and share it with that friend who is a notorious ghoster! Make the dating world a better place.

We talk about:

1. How to stop ghosting
2. How to recover after being ghosted
3. How to see the dating world as a good place

Resources:

1. My Book, "The Final Swipe" https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1?ie=UTF8&text=Nikki+Novo&search-alias=books&field-author=Nikki+Novo&sort=relevancerank
2. My membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membership

Today we go over a common question I receive often: How do I manifest, but not feel obsessive over calling in a partner?

Such a good question!

Here are my tips. I have three for you:

1. When manifesting is not working, it's because we're being called to a journey of letting go

It's important to understand that manifesting is natural. We're doing it all the time. We want something, and within little time, it shows up. If manifesting is not working, it's because we're being called to walk a journey of letting go — of releasing all the baggage and false beliefs so that our energy is clean and light.

2. Focus on the feeling

What makes us feel obsessive is that we're focused on the union, on the partner, on the person. When in fact, we want to focus on the feeling. Being in a relationship represents some kind of feeling for us. For some of us it's security, fun, companionship, and so on. That feeling is what we're trying to manifest, and that's what we want to focus on, which in return eliminates a lot of pressure.

3. Keep track of your actions

Lastly, we feel crazy when manifesting because we're all up in our heads. We're thinking about it and visualizing it, but we also want to get honest about what we're physically doing to help co-create this relationship. Remember, we live on this place called Earth that's physical! So let's keep track of what we're doing to help ourselves.

Enjoy the episode. Let me know if you have questions.