Somebody You Love

Jenna Love & Holly Harte

Jenna Love & Holly Harte: just two Aussie SWers sharing our expertise in disappointing our parents, breaching community guidelines, and banging the people who vote against our rights. www.somebodyyoulove.net Instagram/Twitter/Facebook: @somebodyyoupodwww.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod

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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Somebody You Love episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Somebody You Love for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Somebody You Love episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

71. Somebody You Love wrote a book about sluts (Dr Hilary Caldwell)

Somebody You Love

07/25/24 • 53 min

Note: we had some technical issues when recording this episode, so unfortunately the audio isn’t at the level we usually like to deliver!

Buy SLUTDOM: https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexuality

Dr Hilary Caldwell has been a sex worker for over 20 years and decided to come out of hiding to publish her first book. She is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her sex work and professional career in the field of sexology. She is kinky and queer, a mother and grandmother. Dr Caldwell has recently released her first book, Slutdom, which argues convincingly and passionately for women’s enjoyment of sex as a force to advance gender equality. Delving into topics such as pleasure, pain, empowerment, and including real women’s stories and saucy tips, we are welcoming Dr Caldwell on the show to discuss her research, the Slutdom movement and her experiences as an academic and secret sex worker.

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For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/
ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/
NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/
NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt
Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/
SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html
Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/
Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/
WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org
WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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36. Somebody You Love has suspicious bank accounts

Somebody You Love

03/17/22 • 59 min

TW: Sex trafficking, Eating disorders

Today we are looking at an absurd document released earlier this year by AUSTRAC. For Shit People Say, Jenna and Holly both go on rants about supposed “compliments”, our Misconception is that sex work is easy, and the Question of the Week is a doozy (TW: ED for the Question)

1:49 Main Segment: AUSTRAC’s Guide to Detecting and Stopping Forced Sexual Servitude

29:05 Shit People Say: “Learn to take a compliment”

46:25 Misconception: Sex work is easy, a lazy option

52:17 Question of the week: Do you report her to the site to try to help her or leave her be to earn a little money?

The AUSTRAC Guide: https://www.austrac.gov.au/sites/default/files/2022-02/AUSTRAC_FCG_DetectingAndStoppingForcedSexualServitude_web.pdf

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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32. Somebody You Love got decrim! ...or did they? (Jules Kim, Dylan O'Hara)

Somebody You Love

02/17/22 • 59 min

Today on the show we have a very special episode focusing on the most recent developments in the sex work decrim space. On Thursday 10th February, the Sex Work Decriminalisation Bill 2021 was passed in Victorian parliament and, while we have all been celebrating the extraordinary work of everyone who contributed to this historic milestone, it has been somewhat bittersweet. Dylan O’Hara, the Acting Manager of Vixen, Victoria's peer only sex work organisation, and Jules Kim, the CEO of Scarlet Alliance, Australian Sex Workers Association, join Holly & Jenna to explain the good and the bad.

1:37 Main Segment: Decrim of sex work in Victoria

Victorian sex worker? Get involved with Vixen: [email protected]

Scarlet Alliance’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/scarletalliance

Vixen’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/VixenCollective

Scarlet Alliance’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scarlet_alliance

Scarlet Alliance’s FB page: https://www.facebook.com/scarletalliance.org.au/

Scarlet Alliance website: https://scarletalliance.org.au/

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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6. Somebody You Love is a transgender sex worker (Danika Deep)

Somebody You Love

07/29/21 • 63 min

CW: mentions of sexualised labels for trans individuals

This week we sat down with award-winning transgender escort Danika Deep to discuss her experiences making porn, offering GFE/PSE, and being a pro-domme. She discusses working with clients with a disability, her relationship to her preferred pronouns, what it’s like being both active and passive in the bedroom, and Our Questions of the Week are all questions for Danika submitted by our patrons, and for Shit People Say she shares the story of an ill-informed haggler.

CHAPTERS

2:04 Main Segment: Somebody You Love is a transgender sex worker

30:46 Questions of the week: hetero clients, gender roles, lockdown, self fetishisation

55:32 Shit People Say: “how’s about we do it for this?”

LINKS:
Scarlet Alliance Chuffed fund: https://chuffed.org/project/sex-worker-support
EnVilopes by Violet Macc: https://twitter.com/violetmacc_bbw

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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62. Somebody You Love does Christmas!

Somebody You Love

12/21/23 • 60 min

Holly spreads the festive fun while Jenna tries to maintain her strong boundaries around frivolity.
CHAPTERS

04:32: Sexy Gift Giving Guide 2023

20:50: Porno or not-porno?

26:30: Holiday traditions

50:17: New Years Booking Wishlists
LINKS

Pipedream Fantasy for her – Her ultimate pleasure: https://www.randyfox.com.au/fantasy-for-her-her-ultimate-pleasure-licking-sucking-pleasure-pump.html

Alliance Ultra Plush MIcrofibre Pillow: https://www.mydeal.com.au/alliance-ultra-plush-microfibre-pillow-standard-4260271

Spareparts Joque Unisex Strap-on Harness: https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/strap-ons/strap-on-kits/p/spareparts-hardwear-unisex-joque-strap-on-harness/a18043g22339.html

Australian Wildlife Sanctuary: https://www.australianwildlifesanctuary.com.au/

Exit: The Game Advent Calendar: https://www.gameology.com.au/products/exit-the-game-advent-calendar-the-silent-storm

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72. Turned On: Pretty Woman

Somebody You Love

08/08/24 • 67 min

Holly finally convinced Jenna to watch Pretty Woman and here we are!
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40. Somebody You Love sleeps with married men

Somebody You Love

04/14/22 • 57 min

It’s the season 2 finale! Join us while we ponder some big questions while trying not to get canceled... why do people cheat? And why do they do it with sex workers? Do we judge our clients who are cheating? Do we take responsibility for helping to facilitate it?
1:53 Question of the week: Why do married men seek out sex workers?

44:43 Misconception: Most of our clients are married men

51:28 Awesome Shit People Say: “Ladies of the night”

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au

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45. Turned On: Louis and the Brothel

Somebody You Love

08/04/22 • 60 min

Unfortunately the audio for this episode is not great, we’re sorry!

Turned On is a series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. In this episode, they are reacting to ‘Louis and the Brothel’, Louis Theroux’s 2003 documentary where he visits a Nevada brothel.

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/

For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:

Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/

ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/

NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/

NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt

Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/

SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html

Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/

Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc

WA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org

WA (Magenta):http://magenta.org.au

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The Satisfaction Project: Everyday Activism with Holly Harte

Somebody You Love

05/12/22 • 49 min

This week we are again bringing you an episode of Georgie Wolf’s podcast The Satisfaction Project while Holly, Mr Love, and I enjoy a break between seasons 2 and 3 of Somebody You Love. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers.

The episode we are sharing with you today is called Everyday Activism with Holly Harte and yep, that’s our girl Holly chatting to Georgie about practical sex work activism - everyday ways that you can stand up for us. You can go to satisfactionproject.com to find a plethora of resources, and you can find the other episodes of the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts!

We’ll be back in a few weeks with season 3 of Somebody You Love, but in the meantime we hope you enjoy The Satisfaction Project!

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13. Somebody You Love was a street based sex worker (Chantell Martin)

Somebody You Love

09/16/21 • 63 min

Note: we had some technical issues this week, so the audio isn’t perfect, we’re sorry!

CW: whorephobia, transphobia, drug use, police entrapment, domestic violence, t-word, p-word

Chantell Martin is a transgender community service worker and activist at SWOP NSW, and former street-based sex worker. She moved from New Zealand to Sydney in the 80s and at that time began her gender transition, entered the sex industry, and began using drugs. She worked through the height of the AIDS epidemic in the 80s, before and after decrim in the 90s, and is now doing outreach helping the community through the COVID-19 pandemic with SWOP NSW

CHAPTERS

2:39 - Main Segment: Street-based sex work before and after decrim

49:35 - Questions of the week: most rewarding part, doubting yourself, difficulties, advice for clients

LINKS

SWOP NSW’s website: https://swop.org.au/

SWOP NSW on Facebook: www.facebook.com/SexWorkersOutreachProject/

SWOP NSW on Twitter: www.twitter.com/SWOPnsw

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Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through