How to Make Great Decisions from the Inside Out with Danute Debney Shaw, Ep #75

02/07/22 • 50 min

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The key to success lies in making good decisions. As solopreneurs, your decisions affect every part of your life and can lead to the success or failure of your business. Enhancing your decision-making skills can improve not only your life but your business as well.

Danute Debney Shaw brings her unique perspective to teach her broad approach to decision-making. On this episode of Solopreneur Money, Danute will teach us how to expand our perceptual awareness to our decision-making skills so that we can make better choices.

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Danute’s story [1:32]
Believe in your own subjective awareness [5:45]
An example of subjective awareness [9:18]
How using an intuitive process can help you make good decisions [14:48]
A story of awakening [19:45]
Trust being responsive rather than reactive [23:33]
Grounding vision and ideas [27:02]
What do people come to Danute for [34:22]
The money questions [38:35]

Danute’s background has led her to where she is today

Danute Debney Shaw is a consultant, facilitator, speaker, and writer who focuses on bringing innovative thinking strategies to process development. Her background includes over 25 years of experience in management, organization, and law which spans broadcasting, corporate, governmental, aviation, and not-for-profit organizations.

With her diverse cultural background and complex skill sets, Danute teaches others how to draw upon their inner resources to improve their decision-making skills. She has facilitated workshops in leadership, management, and personal resilience development across the United States and England.

We lose our natural decision-making skills in childhood

Parents want their children to grow up to be successful in the world. Unfortunately, that means teaching children to accept the knowledge that is given to them from the outside world without much prior thought. This blind acceptance leads to problems with discernment. People don’t learn to trust the voice inside themselves and or understand how to deal with the information they are given.

As solopreneurs, we need to learn how to move beyond our upbringing to follow our intuition so that we can make better decisions. Discerning information and improving the way you analyze decisions are keys to being successful solopreneurs.

Trusting your intuition is the first step to improving decision-making skills

Solopreneurs face so many decisions every day. Since there are tremendous challenges to making good decisions, we must use every resource available to us, both within ourselves and through reputable outside resources. Strengthening our awareness of opportunities, choices and challenges is the first step in developing dynamic outcomes and resolutions which will ultimately build the necessary resilience that all solopreneurs require. Learning to trust your intuition is a skill that can be built and practiced like any other.

Stay in the present

After learning to trust your intuition it is important to learn to be present in any situation. If you are fully focused on what is happening, you’ll learn to engage consciously. Staying in the present means avoiding distractions.

You can bring in your own subjective awareness once you are able to consciously engage fully in each situation. Conscious engagement will help you to appreciate your challenges, maximize your opportunities, and build your resilience.

Danute offers us so much information on how we can enhance our decision-making. Learn what you can do now to improve your life and business by improving your decision-making skills.

Connect with Danute Debney Shaw

www.CelaPhontus.com
BOOK - How the Tin Man Found His Brain by Danute Debney Shaw
Danute on Instagram @CelaPhontusLLC
Facebook @CelaPhontusLLC
Danute on Linkedin @DanuteDebneyShaw

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You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

Danute’s story [1:32]
Believe in your own subjective awareness [5:45]
An example of subjective awareness [9:18]
How using an intuitive process can help you make good decisions [14:48]
A story of awakening [19:45]
Trust being responsive rather than reactive [23:33]
Grounding vision and ideas [27:02]
What do people come to Danute for [34:22]
The money questions [38:35]

Danute’s background has led her to where she is today

We lose our natural decision-making skills in childhood

Trusting your intuition is the first step to improving decision-making skills

Stay in the present

Danute offers us so much information on how we can enhance our decision-making. Learn what you can do now to improve your life and business by improving your decision-making skills.

Connect with Danute Debney Shaw

www.CelaPhontus.com
BOOK - How the Tin Man Found His Brain by Danute Debney Shaw
Danute on Instagram @CelaPhontusLLC
Facebook @CelaPhontusLLC
Danute on Linkedin @DanuteDebneyShaw

Connect With Gabe Nelson

www.GabeNelsonFinancial.com/contact
FREE Downloadable Resources at https://www.gabenelsonfinancial.com/resources/
EMAIL: Gabe (at) GabeNelsonFinancial.com
Follow Gabe on LinkedIn
Follow Gabe on Twitter: @GabeNelsonCFP
Follow Gabe...

Previous Episode

Slow Down to Change the World with Daniel Olexa, Ep #74

Daniel Olexa coaches dead people. When I read that I had to do a double-take!

On this episode of Solopreneur Money, Dan explains what he means by that in addition to teaching us how slowing down can help us make better decisions and change the world. If you are looking for ways that you can not just improve your life but change the world, then you won’t want to miss this interview.

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

How Daniel coaches dead people [1:32]
How did Daniel get to where he is today [5:02]
How can we slow down and change the world [19:38]
What makes Daniel different from other coaches [28:16]
The money questions [30:30]

Are you one of the walking dead?

Are you one of the living dead that wanders through life on autopilot? So many of us are stuck in the grind of everyday life: moving from one meaningless task to the next and counting the hours until the weekend when we can finally unwind. Wouldn’t you like to come back to life to experience life beyond the day-to-day minutiae?

Dan specializes in bringing the dead back to life. He has a unique ability to create a space for his clients to allow them to revive themselves and lead a life worth living.

Dan’s clients follow his steps so that they can begin to intuitively and substantially experience life. He brings his clients beyond the soul-sucking grind of day-to-day life to pursue a life filled with freedom and purpose.

Slow down and root yourself

Most of us are living frenzied, ungrounded lives that are raging out of control like a feather in a tornado. We often wear our busyness like a badge of honor. But having all of those plates spinning only leads to fear and stress.

To break free from the fear and stress you need to slow down and listen. When you intentionally slow down you can ground yourself and distance yourself from the effects of the whirlwind that has become the typical American lifestyle.

How to slow down

Telling someone to slow down and actually doing it are two different things. Which is why I asked Dan, how? What can we do to effectively slow down in our busy lives?

One thing you can do to unbusy yourself is to schedule personal time for yourself. Rather than filling your calendar for other people, save some time to schedule dates for yourself.

During this scheduled meeting with yourself take the time to recharge. Think about how you recharge your batteries. Take a walk, read a book, do yoga, create art; whatever it is that you can do to care for yourself, do it and do it from a clear space of being.

After your date, you should have a clear head to be able to make informed decisions that are in alignment with your authentic self. You’ll be able to listen to your soul.

Take action!

Listen in to get more tips from Dan on how you can slow down to align yourself to make better decisions and create a better world. You can also head on over to Dan’s website DanielOlexa.com to get his FREE ebook!

If you’re in the mood to read, check out my book, The Solopreneur’s Money Manifesto, which is now available on Amazon. In it, I give concrete action items so that you can master your finances to create the life you want.

Resources & People Mentioned

Steve Hardison - The Ultimate Coach
BOOK - Blue Zones by Dan Buettner
BOOK - Black Hole Focus by Isaiah Hankel
BOOK - Thursday Is the New Friday by Joe Sanok

Connect with Daniel Olexa

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High Performance Habits with Eva Medilek, Ep #76

You may be a high achiever, but do you have the high performance habits that you need to attain your goals? Eva Medilek is a certified high-performance coach, international speaker, author, and cultural inclusivity trainer. Eva specializes in helping solopreneurs have more money, time, and success without sacrificing their health, well-being, and relationships in the process. Are you ready to learn the high performance habits that you need to achieve your goals? Press play to learn what you can do now to get on track to realize your goals.

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

How Eva got to where she is now [1:32]
How she learned about high performance coaching [4:34]

The 5 relationship personality syles [14:27]
How Eva supports her clients [21:38]
3 steps to develop high performance habits [25:34]
The money questions [32:38]

How Eva became a high performance coach

After working 30 years for others as a dental assistant, Eva discovered that the only way that she would reach financial independence would be to start her own business. The only problem was figuring out what to do.

A commercial real estate informational seminar showed her a path to financial freedom. But success in her new business came at a steep cost. She discovered that she had sacrificed her personal life and relationships to reach her goals.

Then she read a book that would change her life. High Performance Habits showed her that there was a way to attain success without sacrifice. After following the author online, she ended up taking his coaching certification class where she not only learned the balance that needed to strike in her own life, she also learned how to teach others to do strike that balance as well. Learning high performance habits was the solution she needed to strike the right balance between work and play.

The 5 relationship personality syles

Before you can begin to implement high performance habits, you’ll need to start with a bit of introspection.

Most conflict occurs when people don’t feel seen, heard, or respected. Lack of communication affects every relationship and to have effective communication in your relationships you have to understand how you communicate with others.

Different personality types communicate in different ways and the habits from your past can come back and sabotage your relationships today. Understanding different personalities and communication styles can help you become a better communicator. You can use the acronym STYLE to help you remember each style.

Seeking to please - These people who often seek approval may have had a critical or overprotective parent.
Tries to control - There may have been abuse, chaos, or turmoil in this personality types’ home growing up.
Yoyo - This personality type goes back and forth between pushing and pulling. They have a desire to be connected since their parents may have been too busy to give them the attention they craved.
Looks to accept blame - These were passive kids looking for the abuse or turmoil in their homes to stop.
Evades emotions - As children, they were often told to suck it up so they learned to hide their emotions.

These habits and traits were developed over years, but now you have an opportunity to upgrade your toolbox. Use Eva’s quiz to discover your own personality style so that you can set a transformational goal. The purpose of this quiz is to help you recognize what is holding you back so that you can implement the habits you need to get you where you want to go.

3 High performance habits tips

Being a high achiever and a high performer are two different things. To become a high performer you must have consistency. It is important to consistently put habits and practices in place so that your success continues to grow in a way that you aren’t sacrificing what is important to you. To create success without sacrificing your entire life implement these 3 things:

Clarity - Identify exactly what do you want and where are you unhappy in your life. It is important to have a clear vision for your life. You’ll need to ask yourself many questions to reveal your true goals.
Establish clear priorities - Without having clear priorities, you can fall prey to FOMO or shiny object syndrome and miss out on success. With every choice you make consider if it is supporting the priority that you have for the day, month, year, and life that you envision.
Take responsibility - When you say yes to everything, you end up making poor choices. Create clear boundaries and communicate them to your team membe...