High Performance Habits with Eva Medilek, Ep #76

02/14/22 • 39 min

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You may be a high achiever, but do you have the high performance habits that you need to attain your goals? Eva Medilek is a certified high-performance coach, international speaker, author, and cultural inclusivity trainer. Eva specializes in helping solopreneurs have more money, time, and success without sacrificing their health, well-being, and relationships in the process. Are you ready to learn the high performance habits that you need to achieve your goals? Press play to learn what you can do now to get on track to realize your goals.

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How Eva got to where she is now [1:32]
How she learned about high performance coaching [4:34]

The 5 relationship personality syles [14:27]
How Eva supports her clients [21:38]
3 steps to develop high performance habits [25:34]
The money questions [32:38]

How Eva became a high performance coach

After working 30 years for others as a dental assistant, Eva discovered that the only way that she would reach financial independence would be to start her own business. The only problem was figuring out what to do.

A commercial real estate informational seminar showed her a path to financial freedom. But success in her new business came at a steep cost. She discovered that she had sacrificed her personal life and relationships to reach her goals.

Then she read a book that would change her life. High Performance Habits showed her that there was a way to attain success without sacrifice. After following the author online, she ended up taking his coaching certification class where she not only learned the balance that needed to strike in her own life, she also learned how to teach others to do strike that balance as well. Learning high performance habits was the solution she needed to strike the right balance between work and play.

The 5 relationship personality syles

Before you can begin to implement high performance habits, you’ll need to start with a bit of introspection.

Most conflict occurs when people don’t feel seen, heard, or respected. Lack of communication affects every relationship and to have effective communication in your relationships you have to understand how you communicate with others.

Different personality types communicate in different ways and the habits from your past can come back and sabotage your relationships today. Understanding different personalities and communication styles can help you become a better communicator. You can use the acronym STYLE to help you remember each style.

Seeking to please - These people who often seek approval may have had a critical or overprotective parent.
Tries to control - There may have been abuse, chaos, or turmoil in this personality types’ home growing up.
Yoyo - This personality type goes back and forth between pushing and pulling. They have a desire to be connected since their parents may have been too busy to give them the attention they craved.
Looks to accept blame - These were passive kids looking for the abuse or turmoil in their homes to stop.
Evades emotions - As children, they were often told to suck it up so they learned to hide their emotions.

These habits and traits were developed over years, but now you have an opportunity to upgrade your toolbox. Use Eva’s quiz to discover your own personality style so that you can set a transformational goal. The purpose of this quiz is to help you recognize what is holding you back so that you can implement the habits you need to get you where you want to go.

3 High performance habits tips

Being a high achiever and a high performer are two different things. To become a high performer you must have consistency. It is important to consistently put habits and practices in place so that your success continues to grow in a way that you aren’t sacrificing what is important to you. To create success without sacrificing your entire life implement these 3 things:

Clarity - Identify exactly what do you want and where are you unhappy in your life. It is important to have a clear vision for your life. You’ll need to ask yourself many questions to reveal your true goals.
Establish clear priorities - Without having clear priorities, you can fall prey to FOMO or shiny object syndrome and miss out on success. With every choice you make consider if it is supporting the priority that you have for the day, month, year, and life that you envision.
Take responsibility - When you say yes to everything, you end up making poor choices. Create clear boundaries and communicate them to your team membe...

You will want to hear this episode if you are interested in...

How Eva got to where she is now [1:32]
How she learned about high performance coaching [4:34]

The 5 relationship personality syles [14:27]
How Eva supports her clients [21:38]
3 steps to develop high performance habits [25:34]
The money questions [32:38]

How Eva became a high performance coach

The 5 relationship personality syles

Before you can begin to implement high performance habits, you’ll need to start with a bit of introspection.

Seeking to please - These people who often seek approval may have had a critical or overprotective parent.
Tries to control - There may have been abuse, chaos, or turmoil in this personality types’ home growing up.
Yoyo - This personality type goes back and forth between pushing and pulling. They have a desire to be connected since their parents may have been too busy to give them the attention they craved.
Looks to accept blame - These were passive kids looking for the abuse or turmoil in their homes to stop.
Evades emotions - As children, they were often told to suck it up so they learned to hide their emotions.

3 High performance habits tips

Clarity - Identify exactly what do you want and where are you unhappy in your life. It is important to have a clear vision for your life. You’ll need to ask yourself many questions to reveal your true goals.
Establish clear priorities - Without having clear priorities, you can fall prey to FOMO or shiny object syndrome and miss out on success. With every choice you make consider if it is supporting the priority that you have for the day, month, year, and life that you envision.
Take responsibility - When you say yes to everything, you end up making poor choices. Create clear boundaries and communicate them to your team membe...

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How to Make Great Decisions from the Inside Out with Danute Debney Shaw, Ep #75

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The key to success lies in making good decisions. As solopreneurs, your decisions affect every part of your life and can lead to the success or failure of your business. Enhancing your decision-making skills can improve not only your life but your business as well.

Danute Debney Shaw brings her unique perspective to teach her broad approach to decision-making. On this episode of Solopreneur Money, Danute will teach us how to expand our perceptual awareness to our decision-making skills so that we can make better choices.

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Danute’s story [1:32]
Believe in your own subjective awareness [5:45]
An example of subjective awareness [9:18]
How using an intuitive process can help you make good decisions [14:48]
A story of awakening [19:45]
Trust being responsive rather than reactive [23:33]
Grounding vision and ideas [27:02]
What do people come to Danute for [34:22]
The money questions [38:35]

Danute’s background has led her to where she is today

Danute Debney Shaw is a consultant, facilitator, speaker, and writer who focuses on bringing innovative thinking strategies to process development. Her background includes over 25 years of experience in management, organization, and law which spans broadcasting, corporate, governmental, aviation, and not-for-profit organizations.

With her diverse cultural background and complex skill sets, Danute teaches others how to draw upon their inner resources to improve their decision-making skills. She has facilitated workshops in leadership, management, and personal resilience development across the United States and England.

We lose our natural decision-making skills in childhood

Parents want their children to grow up to be successful in the world. Unfortunately, that means teaching children to accept the knowledge that is given to them from the outside world without much prior thought. This blind acceptance leads to problems with discernment. People don’t learn to trust the voice inside themselves and or understand how to deal with the information they are given.

As solopreneurs, we need to learn how to move beyond our upbringing to follow our intuition so that we can make better decisions. Discerning information and improving the way you analyze decisions are keys to being successful solopreneurs.

Trusting your intuition is the first step to improving decision-making skills

Solopreneurs face so many decisions every day. Since there are tremendous challenges to making good decisions, we must use every resource available to us, both within ourselves and through reputable outside resources. Strengthening our awareness of opportunities, choices and challenges is the first step in developing dynamic outcomes and resolutions which will ultimately build the necessary resilience that all solopreneurs require. Learning to trust your intuition is a skill that can be built and practiced like any other.

Stay in the present

After learning to trust your intuition it is important to learn to be present in any situation. If you are fully focused on what is happening, you’ll learn to engage consciously. Staying in the present means avoiding distractions.

You can bring in your own subjective awareness once you are able to consciously engage fully in each situation. Conscious engagement will help you to appreciate your challenges, maximize your opportunities, and build your resilience.

Danute offers us so much information on how we can enhance our decision-making. Learn what you can do now to improve your life and business by improving your decision-making skills.

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Navigating Adversity with Rodger Ruge, Ep #77

First responders are put into the most traumatic situations and expected to respond with order and calm. They help the rest of us through the worst times of our lives. However, being exposed to constant trauma can take a toll on a person’s psyche.

Rodger Ruge understands the stress that first responders deal with on a daily basis. As a 20-year law enforcement veteran, Rodger has experienced the impacts of dealing with traumatic events firsthand. Rodger has had to overcome his own adversity to deal with the CPTSD diagnosis that left him with suicidal ideations.

He sought healing in non-traditional ways and wanted to share what he has learned with the first responder community. Today, Rodger describes how yoga, meditation, and breathwork can help people overcome adversity and learn how to manage stress in their lives.

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How Rodger got to where he is today [1:52]
The benefits of meditation and yoga for first responders [16:48]
Rodger’s success stories [19:38]
What Rodger is doing today to help his community [22:08]
What you can do now to center yourself [27:02]
Making deposits to your resilience bank account [32:50]
The money questions [37:11]

Rodger’s story

As a California motorcycle patrol officer, Rodger was often one of the first responders to motor vehicle accidents. This role led him to see many traumatic accidents. One particular horrific multi-car accident was the catalyst that lead to a diagnosis of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD).

He didn’t realize it at the time, but that accident left him traumatized and changed his life. After witnessing that event he sought danger at every turn, causing what psychologists described as, suicidal ideations. Confronting this reality, Rodger realized that he had to find a solution to take back his life.

Nontraditional healing has brought Rodger peace

Since then, he has relentlessly explored non-traditional modalities to find healing and peace. These practices were founded in the principles of mindfulness and resilience from the wisdom of cultural practices dating back thousands of years.

Rodger has dedicated his life to exploring the world in search of nontraditional therapies to help bring healing to himself and others. After retiring from law enforcement in 2005, Rodger founded Hero Talk LLC to teach first responders how to balance their body, mind and spirit as they serve their communities. Rodger performs his work through his advanced training programs, life coaching, keynote engagements, as well as his podcast, HeroTalk.org.

The benefits of meditation and yoga for first responders

Stress relief techniques aren’t taught in first responder training, so these heroes don’t have the tools they need to deal with the stress they encounter every day.

Rodger experiments with all kinds of nontraditional treatments and acts as an ambassador between those practices and the heroes that need them to deal with the constant stress in their lives. He vets the woo to bring back the most helpful techniques that can change lives.

First responders are saturated with sympathetic nervous system dominance. Nonstop stress allows cortisol to constantly come into the brain and keep it engaged. This means that the body and mind begin to break down over time due to high cortisol levels. Yoga, meditation, and breathwork restore the parasympathetic nervous system and bring back balance in the mind and body. These powerful tools can be used by anyone to help the mind rest and restore equilibrium to the nervous system.

Cultural competency is important

Many traditional psychologists, healers, and therapists don’t have the cultural competence to help first responders deal with their level of stress. Rodger understands exactly what these heroes have experienced. This is why he is working so hard to empower his community to find the solutions that work best for them.

Listen in to hear the best explanation that I have heard about how to meditate and learn how restoring the parasympathetic nervous system can help anyone navigate adversity.

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