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Social Anxiety Society

Social Anxiety Society

Mark Metry

Hi, I'm Mark Metry and this is my project exploring mental health & social anxiety in today's emerging world of technology, social media, politics, entrepreneurship, and the environment. Whether you're shy or introverted or not, listen for no fluff, no fake positivity, toxic self-help, just real, credible, scientifically-backed, and personal stories designed for practical application to improve your life, mind, and anxiety. (formerly known as Humans 2.0)
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Disclaimer: The Content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
Please note: this is just my personal story.
Don’t take it as advice, make your own educated decisions about your life alongside professionals & experts.
In 2015 I was so depressed, socially anxious, and really at rock bottom. I had no idea what to do in my life. I felt stuck, trapped in darkness and it felt like I was withering away.
I went to my College campus health center and told them what was going on...
It wasn’t 10 minutes before a Doctor prescribed me medication.
I went home and googled the medication and found a long list of side effects, one of them included being suicidal and more anxiety, which didn’t make any sense.
I didn’t take the medication and began searching frantically for alternative solutions.
While this viewpoint may be considered taboo, I have absolutely nothing against medications. Other than the fact that it’s often claimed as the only solution.
What I’ve learned is medication can be used as a temporary crutch.
When you go to a doctor and break your leg, he or she doesn’t just send you out on your way. They give you crutches to help bridge your recovery. Medication works the same way.
Sometimes your brain is so hurt and inflamed you literally can’t do anything because of it. Giving you a chemical temporary crutch can actually really help depending on the person. In fact, I have seen miracles occur with medication all the time. I also sometimes see adverse effects. Both are possible.
Note: I am not a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, etc. This article is not meant to be taken as medical advice and please consult a licensed healthcare professional.
If you make the educated decision to follow a similar path as me...
Here are 4 ways to manage social anxiety without medication.
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Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/how-to-get-rid-of-social-anxiety
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~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
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- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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Social Anxiety Society - #1 Reason Why Most Never Stop Being Shy - Episode 20
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07/15/21 • 8 min

Unfortunately.
It's not effort or power of will...
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It’s not because they are dumb.
It’s not because they aren’t hardworking.
It’s not because they aren’t talented.
It’s not because they don’t want it bad enough.
It’s because social anxiety is designed to be a prison, that your mind created, from your past, to restrict you from being your real self, even when that’s what you want to do, that automatically runs without you thinking about it 24/7.
And so the average person facing this issue:
prepares before a social event by practicing what to say.
trying to imagine being confident.
trying to hide it from everyone and faking it.
replaying social scenarios in your head.
trying to smile and look confident.
And then you go....
And then literally the same exact thing that has always happened, happens again, regardless of what you are trying to think or do differently.
The reason why most people with social anxiety never escape is because it’s not common sense, it’s not intuitive, it’s not even about your thoughts or emotions.
It’s your brain & nervous system that enter Flight & Fight and force you to be a fake version of yourself regardless of your mindset or what you told yourself in the mirror.
Sound familiar?
This was me for 10 years of my life.
Everytime that happened....
I would go home depressed. Hopeless thinking that no matter what I try to do, nothing will help me no matter what. This is a quick route to a miserable and mentally unhealthy life that will continue to drag you down again and again.
This is why Harvard’s Meta-Analysis study showed people with social anxiety face the highest rates of substance abuse, social isolation and suicide.
Which is exactly where I found myself and after years and years and years of experimenting, trying every day, learning from neuroscientists & psychologists..
I found a solution.
It’s not even going to cost you over $100, I’ve made it affordable.
It’s not a cure that will work in 10 days, although it’s a 45 day program.
It’s a system that shows you day by day, step by step, what to do, how to do it, why you should do it, and then lets you interact and find your own personal answers.
It’s my best attempt at what I wish I had when I was in your position, unable to be myself, lacking confidence, and just felt like my mind was suffering including my mental health.
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/1-reason-why-most-never-stop-being
- Subscribe to my FREE Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eANWld
- Read or Listen to my book Screw Being Shy: https://bit.ly/2PqV2QI
- Quickly Apply for 1 on 1 Coaching: https://bit.ly/2Pslqd0
~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmetry
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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Social Anxiety Society - Your Brain Is Your Best Friend or Worst Enemy - Episode 5
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05/10/21 • 18 min

*** Learn more about the Screw Being Shy 45 Day Step by Step Affordable Program to Stop Shyness, Eliminate Social Anxiety, and Rewire your Mind: https://bit.ly/3jM7ZBc ***
Listen to learn more about how to help your brain shift from worst enemy to a best friend. Don't resent how your brain functions, respect how your brain works.
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/your-brain-is-your-best-friend-or
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- Subscribe to my FREE Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eANWld
- Apply for 1 on 1 Coaching: https://bit.ly/2Pslqd0
~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmetry
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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Social Anxiety Society - How to Improve Focus & Concentration Now - Episode 47
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10/29/21 • 15 min

Not being able to focus is often the gateway drug to anxiety. If you’re anything like me, and many others who face anxiety you might’ve suffered from severe problems with focus...
Each day at school or work would be a mental dance in my head where I would try my best to genuinely care and pay attention, but without me even knowing or realizing it all of a sudden I would drift off!
As I would lose my focus, I would get even more nervous because I wasn’t aware of what was happening in the conversation or the social situation. I would try to focus but by then it would be too late. So I’d rather not say anything, which perpetuates the cycle of social anxiety even more.
The next day, the same thing would happen again and again.
I justified this by self-diagnosing myself with ADHD and thinking oh this is just who I am. Wow I guess I just can’t focus as good as everyone else for some reason.
What I learned is that your attention and ability to focus is not an innate ability.
It’s a programmable muscle that must be built.
It’s important to work on this muscle because if you can’t harness your attention in interactions with people your focus will go all over the place and usually default to paying attention about the signs of anxiety and what you DON’T want to happen.
So, how do you program your attention muscle?
In this episode I will lay out three different ways to build this muscle!
PS. I’m running another group cohort for anxiety coaching group over the course of 9 weeks. Spots are limited and early bird pricing ends next week: https://www.markmetry.com/group-coaching
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/how-to-improve-focus-and-concentration
- Subscribe to my FREE Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eANWld
- Read or Listen to my book Screw Being Shy: https://bit.ly/2PqV2QI
- Quickly Apply for 1 on 1 Coaching: https://bit.ly/2Pslqd0
- Sign up for my online course: https://www.markmetry.com/program
~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmetry
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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Social Anxiety Society - How Do I Know If I Have Social Anxiety? - Episode 23
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08/02/21 • 10 min

First and foremost, I’m not a doctor or psychologist. I’m not interested or equipped to diagnose anybody with any kind of medical disorder, especially through the internet.
I would be cautious about fully trusting what you read or hear on the internet about your own sense of self without any degree of personalization or individualized solutions.
*** Learn more about the Kick Anxiety 45 Day Step by Step Affordable Program to Stop Shyness, Eliminate Social Anxiety, and Rewire your Mind: https://www.markmetry.com/program ***
Keeping that in mind, I write on this topic because I faced it in my personal life.
I faced over 10 years of social anxiety until I had a series of serious life events that forced me to gain awareness and change my life, and I’ve been on this journey for the last 6 years since...
I faced what I would describe as an invisible mental prison, which gave me anxiety when interacting with people, going to work or school, starting conversations, making eye contact, and really doing anything in front of others.
It got to the point where this impacted me so much to where I wasn’t living my own life. I was living a life that my social anxiety would be happy to live in, but not me.
How Does Social Anxiety Feel?
Mayo Clinic reports the signs and symptoms:
Fear of situations in which you may be judged
Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
Intense fear of interacting or talking with strangers
Fear that others will notice that you look anxious
Fear of physical symptoms that may cause you embarrassment, such as blushing, sweating, trembling, or having a shaky voice
Avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
Avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention
Having anxiety in anticipation of a feared activity or event
Enduring a social situation with intense fear or anxiety
Spending time after a social situation analyzing your performance and identifying flaws in your interactions
Expecting the worst possible consequences from a negative experience during a social situation
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/how-do-i-know-if-i-have-social-anxiety
- Subscribe to my FREE Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eANWld
- Read or Listen to my book Screw Being Shy: https://bit.ly/2PqV2QI
- Quickly Apply for 1 on 1 Coaching: https://bit.ly/2Pslqd0
~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmetry
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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*** Learn more about the Screw Being Shy 45 Day Step by Step Affordable Program to Stop Shyness, Eliminate Social Anxiety, and Rewire your Mind: https://bit.ly/3jM7ZBc ***
Before 2016 I had never thought of meditating. I didn’t know much about it and sort of guessed it was for hippies or some ultra-religious tradition for monks, and not for a normal guy like me.
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It wasn’t until I experienced a dark period in 2015 with my mental health that forced me to deal with this and find new tools for my problems. Alongside reading books, eating healthy, and sleeping well, I was led to meditation.
Meditation isn’t actually about calming yourself down. From an outsider’s perspective meditation seems like a peaceful practice where you float up in the clouds and melt all your stress. While there may be meditations that teach this, it’s important to not build the expectation of having this experience every time. Meditation is actually about rewiring your brain, emotional connections, and free up space in your mind to effectively live in the present moment.
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/how-meditating-for-1500-days-rewired
- Read or Listen to my book Screw Being Shy: https://bit.ly/2PqV2QI
- Subscribe to my FREE Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eANWld
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~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmetry
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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Over the years I’ve built a world-class network of some of the world’s greatest leaders. I went from someone who couldn’t talk, faced severe social anxiety every day to step outside of my comfort zone, being able to be myself, and truly changing my life by networking.
PS. Before we begin! I wanted to highlight my affordable ONLINE COURSE I’ve created to help people kick anxiety realistically, check it out here - markmetry.com/program
But here’s the thing, I realized most networking advice sucks.
“Don’t apologize” or “Just smile” or “Always be networking.” Most of it isn’t made for shy people or those who struggle with social anxiety...
Without further adieu, here are 6 major tips that will take you a long way...
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~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
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- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
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Myths, and misconceptions are what continue to prop up false illusions in our mind.
Our brain hears or even creates a misconception to disresgard you, hurt you, and prevent you from making any necessary healthy changes.
Below are 8 of my favorite myths I hear echoed around me daily...
PS. Before we begin! I wanted to highlight my affordable online course I’ve created to help people kick anxiety realistically, check it out here - markmetry.com/program
1. Got mental health problems? Oh it means you don't have a connection to God or your family doesn’t love you.
As someone who grew up in a christian household, I can’t tell you how often this was echoed around me. Just pray to God until your problems go away, and if you still have anxiety it means you don’t have a connection to God and you just need to go to Church again and again.
I obviously have no problem whatsoever with church or God or praying, and in fact it can be helpful but it’s not a silver bullet. This is like telling someone hey instead of wearing a seatbelt, refrain from drinking alcohol, to drive safely, just close your eyes and pray and hope nothing else happens. Nothing is absolute.
Understanding there is something bigger than yourself, having faith, can be very helpful.
2. Only certain people in the world experience mental health issues...
False. If you have a physical body, you have physical health, if you have a brain, you have mental health.
Often times people who make this claim actually suffer from mental health issues unknowingly. Drinking everyday, anger spurts, trying to surpress your voice and memories are all more subtle common signs of underlying mind and brain health problems.
Read the rest in the show notes or in the podcast.
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/8-mental-health-myths-that-hurt-you
SIGN UP FOR VIRTUAL EVENT - https://www.markmetry.com/workshop
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~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
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- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
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Social Anxiety Society - Feeling Stuck or Trapped? Listen!  - Episode 37
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09/24/21 • 10 min

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Trying to change your habits & lifestyle?
Keep your head in the game and stick to a long-term strategy in mind and paper.
It's easy to shame yourself for not doing what you said you were going to do.
But it's normal to struggle with keeping up habits due to something called the homeostatic impulse.
Your brain is conditioned to not like change.
So it actively tries to reverse the change. This is human nature.
Whether it's eating healthy or exercising regularly...
Why shame yourself for doing what a human is evolutionarily supposed to do?
Even worse, when you shame yourself, you release a powerful cocktail of emotions that drug you into being upset, sad, hopeless, probably emotions you've felt your entire life.
So your brain says - see? Don't change it's better.
These emotions activate when you shame yourself, repeating the cycle of inaction and repeats the same thing to your nervous system.
This cycle keeps people down forever.
Read the rest of the show notes: https://markmetry.substack.com/p/feeling-stuck
- Subscribe to my FREE Newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eANWld
- Read or Listen to my book Screw Being Shy: https://bit.ly/2PqV2QI
- Quickly Apply for 1 on 1 Coaching: https://bit.ly/2Pslqd0
- Sign up for my online course: https://www.markmetry.com/program
~~~CONNECT w/ MARK~~~
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markmetry
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/markymetry
- Website: https://www.markmetry.com/
- Email: [email protected]
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Social Anxiety Society - Finding Your Anxiety Recovery Purpose - Episode 43
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10/14/21 • 13 min

Tactics alone won't cut it on the tough days..
On the road to managing your mind & rewiring anxiety?
Welcome. While certainly not easy, it’s possible and you must believe it is possible.
By far, one of the most foundational elements in my recovery was finding a purpose, a reason to get out of bed in the morning more powerful than my anxiety.
Anxiety hijacks your brain’s biochemistry. Making it go from just an idea or thought in your head to control your emotions, mood, neurotransmitters, and even changing behavior at a biochemical level.
If you want to change your biochemistry, you must change your lifestyle.
Going outside for walks, changing your diet, exercising regularly, sleeping like a boss, learning how to mindfully meditate, practice breathwork, and much more.
However, these simple tasks might seem impossible for you to do daily. Why?
Because you haven’t experienced the result yet.
Why work hard and do things differently, which is very hard especially for your brain when you don’t know the reward?
I bet a part of you even thinks what you’re doing isn’t even possible and is just a waste of time or someone else is going to sell you a program that won’t work for you.
You need a purpose to push you forward.
We will lay out how to begin to find your purpose for anxiety recovery...
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Social Anxiety Society currently has 60 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Podcasts, Self-Improvement and Education.

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The episode title '6 Stress Management Techniques to Keep Your Mental Health in Check - Episode 58' is the most popular.

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