Social Anxiety Society

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Please note: this is just my personal story.
Don’t take it as advice, make your own educated decisions about your life alongside professionals & experts.
In 2015 I was so depressed, socially anxious, and really at rock bottom. I had no idea what to do in my life. I felt stuck, trapped in darkness and it felt like I was withering away.
I went to my College campus health center and told them what was going on...
It wasn’t 10 minutes before a Doctor prescribed me medication.
I went home and googled the medication and found a long list of side effects, one of them included being suicidal and more anxiety, which didn’t make any sense.
I didn’t take the medication and began searching frantically for alternative solutions.
While this viewpoint may be considered taboo, I have absolutely nothing against medications. Other than the fact that it’s often claimed as the only solution.
What I’ve learned is medication can be used as a temporary crutch.
When you go to a doctor and break your leg, he or she doesn’t just send you out on your way. They give you crutches to help bridge your recovery. Medication works the same way.
Sometimes your brain is so hurt and inflamed you literally can’t do anything because of it. Giving you a chemical temporary crutch can actually really help depending on the person. In fact, I have seen miracles occur with medication all the time. I also sometimes see adverse effects. Both are possible.
Note: I am not a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, etc. This article is not meant to be taken as medical advice and please consult a licensed healthcare professional.
If you make the educated decision to follow a similar path as me...
Here are 4 ways to manage social anxiety without medication.
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Unfortunately.
It's not effort or power of will...
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It’s not because they are dumb.
It’s not because they aren’t hardworking.
It’s not because they aren’t talented.
It’s not because they don’t want it bad enough.
It’s because social anxiety is designed to be a prison, that your mind created, from your past, to restrict you from being your real self, even when that’s what you want to do, that automatically runs without you thinking about it 24/7.
And so the average person facing this issue:
prepares before a social event by practicing what to say.
trying to imagine being confident.
trying to hide it from everyone and faking it.
replaying social scenarios in your head.
trying to smile and look confident.
And then you go....
And then literally the same exact thing that has always happened, happens again, regardless of what you are trying to think or do differently.
The reason why most people with social anxiety never escape is because it’s not common sense, it’s not intuitive, it’s not even about your thoughts or emotions.
It’s your brain & nervous system that enter Flight & Fight and force you to be a fake version of yourself regardless of your mindset or what you told yourself in the mirror.
Sound familiar?
This was me for 10 years of my life.
Everytime that happened....
I would go home depressed. Hopeless thinking that no matter what I try to do, nothing will help me no matter what. This is a quick route to a miserable and mentally unhealthy life that will continue to drag you down again and again.
This is why Harvard’s Meta-Analysis study showed people with social anxiety face the highest rates of substance abuse, social isolation and suicide.
Which is exactly where I found myself and after years and years and years of experimenting, trying every day, learning from neuroscientists & psychologists..
I found a solution.
It’s not even going to cost you over $100, I’ve made it affordable.
It’s not a cure that will work in 10 days, although it’s a 45 day program.
It’s a system that shows you day by day, step by step, what to do, how to do it, why you should do it, and then lets you interact and find your own personal answers.
It’s my best attempt at what I wish I had when I was in your position, unable to be myself, lacking confidence, and just felt like my mind was suffering including my mental health.
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Not being able to focus is often the gateway drug to anxiety. If you’re anything like me, and many others who face anxiety you might’ve suffered from severe problems with focus...
Each day at school or work would be a mental dance in my head where I would try my best to genuinely care and pay attention, but without me even knowing or realizing it all of a sudden I would drift off!
As I would lose my focus, I would get even more nervous because I wasn’t aware of what was happening in the conversation or the social situation. I would try to focus but by then it would be too late. So I’d rather not say anything, which perpetuates the cycle of social anxiety even more.
The next day, the same thing would happen again and again.
I justified this by self-diagnosing myself with ADHD and thinking oh this is just who I am. Wow I guess I just can’t focus as good as everyone else for some reason.
What I learned is that your attention and ability to focus is not an innate ability.
It’s a programmable muscle that must be built.
It’s important to work on this muscle because if you can’t harness your attention in interactions with people your focus will go all over the place and usually default to paying attention about the signs of anxiety and what you DON’T want to happen.
So, how do you program your attention muscle?
In this episode I will lay out three different ways to build this muscle!
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First and foremost, I’m not a doctor or psychologist. I’m not interested or equipped to diagnose anybody with any kind of medical disorder, especially through the internet.
I would be cautious about fully trusting what you read or hear on the internet about your own sense of self without any degree of personalization or individualized solutions.
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Keeping that in mind, I write on this topic because I faced it in my personal life.
I faced over 10 years of social anxiety until I had a series of serious life events that forced me to gain awareness and change my life, and I’ve been on this journey for the last 6 years since...
I faced what I would describe as an invisible mental prison, which gave me anxiety when interacting with people, going to work or school, starting conversations, making eye contact, and really doing anything in front of others.
It got to the point where this impacted me so much to where I wasn’t living my own life. I was living a life that my social anxiety would be happy to live in, but not me.
How Does Social Anxiety Feel?
Mayo Clinic reports the signs and symptoms:
Fear of situations in which you may be judged
Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
Intense fear of interacting or talking with strangers
Fear that others will notice that you look anxious
Fear of physical symptoms that may cause you embarrassment, such as blushing, sweating, trembling, or having a shaky voice
Avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
Avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention
Having anxiety in anticipation of a feared activity or event
Enduring a social situation with intense fear or anxiety
Spending time after a social situation analyzing your performance and identifying flaws in your interactions
Expecting the worst possible consequences from a negative experience during a social situation
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