Siblinghood of Recovery

Angie Reno

When I found out my son was deep in the throes of Substance Use Disorder (SUD), chaos became the norm. As each step became more challenging, the information on SUDs, treatment, healing, and basically everything that comes with an SUD Family crisis, became overwhelming. Inundated with so much information, I felt like I had crossed space and time and landed in a new world. I actually had: I had entered the world of Recovery. My goal through this Podcast is to condense what I learned into small increments, and provide anyone willing to listen a message of hope. The world of Recovery is filled with parents, children, and family members who walk together. We share what we learn, listen with heart, and provide a community of support. We are a Siblinghood of Recovery.

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Season 1 - Step 3 and Trauma - How both are Personal Journeys

Siblinghood of Recovery

03/07/22 • 17 min

This episode explores the very personal journey of Step work, specific to Step 3, and trauma healing. Both processes are incredibly personal. Resources mentioned, as always, provided below.
1:05 - Step 3 from the original 'Big Book', Alcoholics Anonymous
1:30 - Perfect is the enemy of good originally came from Voltaire quoting an Italian proverb the Dictionnaire philosophique in 1770, "Le meglio è l'inimico del bene".
5:40 - Families Anonymous Step 3
5:50 - CoDependents Anonymous Step 3
6:55 - Higher Power
7:00 - Sponsorship article from Recovery.org, Sponsor, Recovery Coach or Professional Counselor: Which is Right for You?
9:00 - Trauma overview is addressed in Episode 2
9:20 - Psychology Today definition of Trauma
10:05 - PTSD, a Georgia Tech study on possible avenues of treatment
10:05 - PTSD, a Johns Hopkins University study on possible avenues of treatment
10:15 - RNA definition from National Human Genome Research Institute
10:35 - Implication of sperm RNAs in transgenerational inheritance of the effects of early trauma in mice
11:45 - Summary of above article, "Gene-environment interactions are determining factors for the etiology of psychiatric disorders, diabetes and cancer, and are thought to contribute to disease inheritance across generations. Small non-coding RNAs (sncRNAs) are potential vectors at the interface between genes and environment. Here, we report that environmental conditions involving traumatic stress in early life in mice altered microRNAs (miRNAs) expression, and behavioral and metabolic responses in the progeny. Several miRNAs were affected in the serum and brain of both, the traumatized animals and their progeny when adult, but also in the sperm of traumatized males. Injection of sperm RNAs from these males into fertilized wild-type oocytes reproduced the behavioral and metabolic alterations in the resulting offspring. These results strongly suggest that sncRNAs are sensitive to environmental factors in early life, and contribute to the inheritance of trauma-induced phenotypes across generations. They may offer potential diagnostic markers for associated pathologies in humans."
12:30 - 2018 Bronx Veterans Affairs Hospital Publication on Intergenerational Trauma, "Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms"
14:40 - Family of Origin study from Texas A&M, specific to addiction,

Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out.
If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.
Walk gently, my friend.

Season 1 - Neuroscience and the 12 Step Program, Step 1

Siblinghood of Recovery

01/10/22 • 15 min

Happy 2022! We made it through the Holidays. Many personal triggers for the month of December, and I'm sure I'm not the only one in this big blue world ready to say goodbye to 2021. It's great to get on the other side.
So, what to do in 2022? Curiosity got the best of me, as I looked back to see how much I gained from the 12 Step Program in 2021. I wanted to look through a neuroscience lens and find out why a program created nearly 100 years ago, offered such a great platform and space to rewire my brain.
For the first Step, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable". If you're qualifier is addicted to drug to the point of requiring treatment, the entire function dopamine was created to perform, which is to keep us balanced, motivated and performing well, has become so unregulated, there is no longer a baseline of dopamine levels to support a normal rewards and expectations environment. This one factor concludes that we, as a Family member, are in fact completely powerless over the situation at hand.
My promise to provide free, repeat, Free resources remains a top objective, and I'm excited to provide a few gems in this Episode. In addition to the noted research articles, please see links below to follow Anna Lembke, MD, who appears in the Netflix series, 'Social Dilemma', and also offers excellent insight on how our current societal structure impacts dopamine in neuro systems, often leading to situations that do in fact make us feel powerless as we struggle to regain a healthy reward and reaction system.
1) Rich Roll Podcast, Episode 64, 'Addiction Recovery & Masterclass'
2) Anna Lembke, MD 'Dopamine Nation — Anna Lembke, MD'
3) Evoke Therapy Intensives
4) EMDR Therapy, 'What is EMDR?'
5) Dopamine and Addition, Annual Reviews National Library of Medicine

Season 1 - Holidays, Relatives, and Triggers - Oh My!

Siblinghood of Recovery

12/13/21 • 17 min

It's the Holidays, so it's not a matter of "if" Triggers happen, it's a matter of "when". A few techniques are provided from a very recent experience, accompanied by research, resources, and more.
1) The definition of triggers per the American Psychological Association,
https://dictionary.apa.org/trigger, "a stimulus that elicits a reaction. For example, an event could be a trigger for a memory of a past experience and an accompanying state of emotional arousal".
2) Breathing techniques to reduce stress and anxiety YouTube with Andrew Huberman and Tim Ferris.
3) University of The Cumberlands Eco-Therapy Blog on 'Take a Hike', "to improve mental and physical wellbeing through outdoor activities in nature—improves mental and physical well-being when doing outdoor activities in nature. Walking or hiking outside is a great way to reduce stress, anxiety and depression."
4) The NeuroAffective Relational ModelTM (NARM), "is a mindfulness-based clinical treatment, as its method is grounded in a phenomenological approach to addressing identity and consciousness of self – who we truly are beneath these patterned ways of relating to ourselves and the world. Seen in this way, healing complex trauma is a vehicle for transformation on a personal and collective level."
5) Affective Perspective-Taking and Anger Regulation in Adolescent Peer and Parent
Conflicts article with the quote mentioned of, "Laursen and Hartl (2015) espoused that positive growth is facilitated by constructive conflicts; conversely, hindered relational, affective, and behavioral adjustment is associated with frequent destructive conflicts."
6) Huberman Lab, look for the Episode entitled, 'Erasing Fear & Trauma'.
7) Brad Reedy Podcasts
8) Dr. Harriet Lerner, and the mentioned book, 'The Dance of Anger'.
9) Step 10, "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it."

Season 1 - What hearing the words "He's Safe" can mean in your own Recovery

Siblinghood of Recovery

05/02/22 • 19 min

When parents place their child into Recovery, they often hear the words, “He is Safe”. Those words can bring up thoughts of failure and shame as we ask ourselves, ‘Why is my child safe, now? Why does safety include getting my child out of the Family System?"
Don’t go there. Instead, know the language of the Recovery world and take these words to mean, it's time to do your own work.
Family Systems comprise of intergenerational traditions, traumas, and 'ways of how we do things'. Take the time your child is in the care of Recovery professionals to re-assess those ways of how it's always been done. Find out who YOU are, how YOU were made, and gently walk towards a path where you will contribute to a healthier Family System through a healthier you.

Links promised for the Show Notes

3:50 – Huberman Lab Podcast that highlights how puberty can completely change your child, The Science & Health Benefits of Deliberate Heat Exposure (yes, it's in this Podcast around 48:50).

5:20 – Family System definition, Family Systems Therapy | Psychology Today

7:05 – Sympathetic Nervous definition, Sympathetic Nervous System | Summary, Structure, Functions (human-memory.net)

8:15 – Huberman Lab Podcast on the value of mastering breath work, Dr. Jack Feldman: Breathing for Mental & Physical Health & Performance - Huberman Lab

8:35 – Getting rid of Shame in the process of Recovery from Al-Anon, Putting the Focus on Myself - Al-Anon Family Groups

9:45 – NARM,Introduction to the NeuroAffective Relational ModelTM [NARM] – Dr Laurence Heller

10:35 – Survival Styles, An Overview of NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) Therapy - The Human Condition

12:30 - Snapchat Making Efforts To Stop Drug Dealing - Addiction Center

15:00 - Recovery Center, Outstanding Characteristics Overview Outstanding Characteristics of a Good Rehab Facility – Recovery Rehab Services Guide (wordpress.com)

Season 1 Final Episode 31 - Graduation

Siblinghood of Recovery

06/05/22 • 9 min

My son walked this past week in his High School Graduation, culminating eighteen months of Recovery work and celebrating his investment in himself. To say I'm a proud Mom is an understatement. To say I am learning from all that he has done, is yet another understatement. To say I have so much more work to do, yep, it is yet another understatement. Good news is, I'm ready.
For now, though, I bid you adieu as I take a much-needed break from Podcasting over the next few summer months. I plan to come back faster, stronger, better to quote a popular song.
My biggest message in this Episode is: if you're just finding yourself at the beginning of this journey, please, please, please get into a 12 Step Program today. And remember, we can't control anything in this process. We can only put effort into becoming healthier humans.
Peace, love, faith.
Al AnonFamilies Anonymous

Season 1 - The other child: what happens to the Sibling in this Recovery Process?

Siblinghood of Recovery

12/20/21 • 17 min

A reflection about the other child during the Family Recovery Process.
1) 2:30 Science.org Article, 'Primed for Addiction? People with brains wired for drug abuse don't necessarily become addicts'2) 3:00 Readiness to Change reference in Episode 9
3) 4:15 NCBI article, Sibling influences on adolescent substance use: The role of modeling, collusion, and conflict' Note: also relevant research from University of Cambridge, but not referenced is, 'Siblings’ brain scans could hold the key to drug addiction'
4) 5:30 Self Agency and Self Efficacy reference in Episode 3
5) 6:15 Cardiff study, 'The Cardiff Study of all Wales and North West of England Twins (CaStANET): a longitudinal research program of child and adolescent development'
6) 8:30, The NCBI reference of, 'Facing Addiction in America: The Surgeon General's Report on Alcohol, Drugs, and Health' as captured from Chapter 2, THE NEUROBIOLOGY OF SUBSTANCE USE, MISUSE, AND ADDICTION7) 12:30, reference to Episode 7, 'Trust the Process'
8) 14:10, a good abstract on Self-Agency from NCBI, 'What Is the Sense of Agency and Why Does it Matter?'

Season 2, Episode 32 - Our Interview with McGuire Counseling kicks off our 2nd Season!

Siblinghood of Recovery

09/04/22 • 41 min

We're back and ready to get to work! Not wasting any time, the focus remains on how Parents can show up for their kids in doing their OWN work. We further finetune the mantra of healthier parenting being supported through the process of becoming a healthier individual. This Season will feature interviews with professionals leading Recovery and Mental Health facilities, as well as those working within the Recovery community. We'll also be interviewing parents traveling this Recovery Journey, with a keen eye on how we can provide the best gift we can give our kids: a healthy Family unit.
1:00 - Introduction to Mike McGuire,
1:30 - What McGuire Counseling offers, Therapy - Home - McGuire Counseling and Psychotherapy (mcguirerecovery.com)
1:45 - Therapy Modalities offered by McGuire Counseling & Therapy
2:15 - What is EMDR
4:30 - The Big Blue Book – AA Book / Chaos
5:15 - ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families - Find a Meeting Near You
5:45 - EMDR and Sexual Trauma
9:00 - What is NARM? The NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) is a method of psychotherapy specifically aimed at treating attachment, relational and developmental trauma, otherwise referred to as “Complex Trauma” (Complex-PTSD or C-PTSD).
11:15 – Dr. Lawrence Heller's book, Healing Developmental Trauma
11:30 – Dr. Lawrence Heller's book, A practical guide for Healing Developmental Trauma
12:25 – NARM and the Survival Styles, in this link, page down to the section entitles, 'The NARM Core Survival Styles'
13:30 – Strategies to Survive the World (see link above)
15:05 – Wanting to Fit in, Mike is deeply aware of this need. The link takes you to an article about Teens wanting to fit in on the NIH (National Institute on Drug Abuse) page, see the full article on the right hand side which can be downloaded in PDF format.
15:15 – Genetic Disposition to Addiction
16:15 – Processing Alcohol
17:35 – Moms for All Paths of Recovery (MAPS)
19:00 – 12 Steps and How it Works: Community, Togetherness, Looking at ourselves and seeing what IS working, what is NOT, and what is my part in the function or Dysfunction
20:20 – Higher Power
20:30 – McGuire’s Ascend Program
22:10 – Al Anon, how I found McGuire Counseling & Psychology
22:15 – Bringing the Parents into “The Program”,

Episode 41 - Dr. Marcy Willard Interview: Recovery vs Rehab, Training & Boot Camp, Genetics, Addiction can impact ANY Family, and Go Gently

Siblinghood of Recovery

12/21/22 • 36 min

I continue my Journey with YOU by offering this wonderful interview. Dr. Marcy Willard is Founder & CEO of Cadey. Dr. Willard is a tech entrepreneur, licensed psychologist, nationally certified school psychologist, and published author. Dr. Willard, or Marcy, is one of my fellow Moms who has offered me insight and gentle guidance. Lots of show notes, so short introduction. Enjoy!
1:00 - How Marcy entered this Journey
2:05 - Addiction is not biased
3:05 - Understanding the intense pain when you're a "Good Parent"
4:30 - The Myth of Rehab being a 'Short term fix', how Rehab is NOT Recovery and Marcy's Article on 'Drug Addition and Teens'
5:15 - Honestly, Recovery does not have an end...and that is okay
5:40 - Genetics, and how it is not just from the Parents
7:10 - Family Patterns and Marcy's article on 'Common Family Problems'
8:25 - Self Medication at the Adolescent level
8:55 - The Treatment Center viewed as the Training Camp / Boot Camp
10:00 - Surrendering to being "Okay"
10:50 - Building Community to support Post Treatment Center Recovery
11:15 - The Key to Recovery "was within me"
11:30 - Michael Singer, 'Everything will be okay when you're okay with everything', Living from a Place of Surrender 12:30 - The strength and power in choosing how to react, Victor Frankel's Man's Search for Meaning and Edith Eger's The Choice
13:30 - Choosing not to attend the party we are invited to
14:30 - Expectations: STOP bringing your Expectation Guy!
15:30 - Measuring the Gain, not the Gap and referencing Dr. Ben Hardy's book The Gap and the Gain
16:45 - Honoring the Addict
17:30 - Marcy's article, Addict has Entered the Room19:00 - Seeing the Addict in front of you and how that can be a part of your own Recovery Journey
20:00 - Debra Jay on the Master Manipulator, don't underestimate the power of addiction as it is the undoing of many Families, Debra Jay's website, lovefirst.net22:00 - Engaging professionals as SOON as you can as that's when the Magic starts to happen as the addict shrinks and your Child starts to grow
23:45 - Five stages of Grieving
24:15 - Marcy connects losing a brother to addiction and how that impacted the Journey with her child
28:00 - Supporting your Child in developing their Self, including boundaries
29:00 - Don't personalize, your Child's Addiction is not about YOU
31:45 - Even in the toughest of circumstances, try to listen and SEE your child
32:45 - Marcy's Courses (click here)

Season 1 - The Critical Impact of YOUR Self Care in your Qualifier's Recovery

Siblinghood of Recovery

02/06/22 • 14 min

A significant amount of research is coming out regarding the indelible impact a Family Member's own self-care and Recovery process can make on an individual battling a Substance Use Disorder (SUD). This Episode highlights the positive outcome of improving the Family system, as the Family is, "one of the most important support groups for an individual seeking recovery from an SUD". These studies support leading Addiction Therapy and Treatment Center recommendations for care to focus on improving the Family system as a methodology in supporting a Family member challenged with an SUD. For long term success in overcoming an SUD, Recovery is much more than an individual's treatment, it is a way of life for the entire Family ecosystem.
1) Qualifier - This term may be used in the 12 Step Programs or when speaking to Licensed Therapists. It may stem from the world of Insurance whereby the individual with an SUD is qualified for insurance coverage or the individual qualifies for treatment. The term is viewed as a softer description than 'addict', 'drug abuser', 'substance use abuser', etc.
2) A Multifamily Group Curriculum for Family Members of Individuals with Substance Use Disorders: Updates, Perceptions, and Outcomes - I wish this was a link to a free version of the paper. I can only capture all that I quoted in this Episode on my website, as I did receive a copy of the paper directly from one of the authors. If more of this information was shared, even directly on the University, College or educational institution's site, the world would be better informed of these phenomenal studies and the work these researchers are contributing to the Recovery Community.
3) Substance Abuse Statistics - excerpt from Drug Abuse Statistics.org, "53 million or 19.4% of people 12 and over have used illegal drugs or misused prescription drugs within the last year". Please click this link, as you'll find a breakdown of types of drugs used, demographics, and more.
4) Addiction in the family is a major but neglected contributor to the global burden of adult ill-health - Extracted from the Science Direct link provided, this paper quotes, "Evidence is presented to suggest that, globally, addiction is sufficiently stressful to cause pain and suffering to a large but uncounted number of adult affected family members (AFMs), possibly in the region of 100 million worldwide."
5) Inclusion of Family Therapy in Rehabilitation Program of Substance Abuse and Its Efficacious Implementation - Enver Ulaş, Halil Ekşi, First Published August 30, 2019
Abstract
"The family has been described as the center or heart of societal relationships. There has been a historic neglect of research in area of counseling for the family members of substance abusers. As result, treatment for individual family members affected by alcoholism and drug addiction remains a neglected component of majority of addiction programs. The study used a sample of 36 families who participated in family thera

Episode 57 - Tracy, a Recovery Mom: Lessons Learned, Resources shared and the Gift her Daughter's Recovery brought to the Family

Siblinghood of Recovery

02/19/24 • 39 min

Welcome to a Mom's Recovery Journey. Tracy offers a rich perspective on how Wilderness Treatment not only changed her daughter's life but positively impacted the entire Family System. The goal, as always, is to share experience, resources, and connection. We hope you'll find information here to help your own Recovery Journey.
1:40 - Tracy's Journey: the Pandemic's impact on her daughter's anxiety, depression, and safety.
3:30 - What Tracy would say to her 2020-self.
4:45 - Decision making with and without fear.
6:30 - Researching Residential Treatment Center (RTC): how to utilize communities, parents, interviewing the RTC Therapist, and creating your own foundation of personal support.
7:30 - How Al Anon and AA Meetings can heal the Family System.
10:10 - How an Educational Consultant can facilitate RTC engagement.
12:30 - Tracy's experience with the Oasis Treatment Center in Utah and Transport Companies.
15:00 - RTC research: go deeper than the reviews.
16:00 - What RTC's can teach parents about Self-Regulation and Self-Care.
20:00 - Discovering how what we lack impacts our children.
22:00 - How our children become a mirror and we can't just "fix" the mirror(see Episode 36 with Kevin Johnson).
23:30 - The shift from chaos to healing for Tracy's Family at Open Sky Wilderness.
25:00 - The Family Quest experience.
28:00 - Regulation in the Treatment Center industry.
29:15 - Wilderness Treatment Center costs, insurance, Scholarships like Sky's the Limit Fund, and negotiating the daily rate.
30:15 - Preventative Care cost vs RTC costs.
32:30 - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families The Loving Parent Guidebook and how this can break down Family System dysfunction.
33:15 - How Therapy is becoming more common, even with the NFL recommending BetterHelp .
35:30 - Tracy's recommended resources, Brad Reedy's Finding You Podcast, and books, The Audacity to be You and The Journey of the Heroic Parent. Krissy Pozatek's The Parallel Process. Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.'s book Parenting from the Inside Out. Tim R. Thayne PhD.'s book Not by Chance.

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