Beauty standards are killing women all over the world and how we can free ourselves

In this episode, we talk about why women should never invest in a boyfriend, or a man they’re dating.

What do we mean by investing in a man? We mean investing your time, energy and money into a man you are dating (and not yet married or engaged to), by doing things such as helping him build his career, helping him buy his house, supporting him financially, moving somewhere to suit his convenience, living together with him while splitting rent 50/50 and doing most of the housework, and everything in between.

A lot of the time, women do these things for a man they're dating hoping it'll make him want to commit to them and give them marriage in return. But that's not how it works, and in this episode we unpack why not!

We're definitely not advocating for women to be financially dependent on men, nor should they be gold diggers, but there's no need to act like a wife when you're still a girlfriend, and it's not a good idea for women to invest their time and their energy into a man in exchange for the possibility of potential commitment.

We talk about the historical and cultural context for why this happens: our generation of women is the first generation ever in history who don't need to be financially dependent on men, but for centuries us women have been expected to find our own value and purpose in our male partner's success and achievement, and our societal norms and subconscious beliefs haven't kept up with these changes. And these societal norms will only change if we women change the way we behave, which we collectively have the power to do!

We discuss: all the ways that women should never invest in a man and why, how you CAN get a man to give you the commitment that you want, the risks of cohabiting with a man and why you shouldn't let a man "test out" living together with you before deciding whether he wants to marry you, when is the right time to move in together with a boyfriend, how to tell if you're investing too much, how to tell whether you're choosing to do something for your partner because you genuinely want to or are unhealthily sacrificing yourself and losing yourself in the relationship, how can you tell if a man you're dating is really serious about a long-term future together with you or not, and why the woman should never be the one who's progressing the relationship forward in any way.

We also share advice for how women who are in this situation can get out of it, and HOW you can get a man to give you the commitment that you want!

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