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Do you ever meet someone where you connect with them instantly and within a few minutes you feel like you’ve known that person your whole life?

A while back I was introduced to Jessica Papineau through a mutual connection, and we’ve actually been meaning to record this interview for you for SOME time because what she does is so aligned with the type of coaching I offer my clients.

Jessica is the founder of CSJ, a leading authentic fashion styling company for high-performing female entrepreneurs. Jessica has personally styled hundreds of women, spanning 7-figure entrepreneurs, executives for billion-dollar global brands, online influencers with millions of followers, and professionals in the entertainment, sports, music industries.

Here’s something else I love about her - she recognizes that the uplevel is all an inner game, and her approach to fashion is similar in a lot of ways to how I approach sales and business.

So if you love fashion, styling, inner transformation AND learning from pretty badass women who have grown successful companies - you’re going to love today’s episode.

[4:58] - Jessica shares her background and how growing up with the type of childhood she had impacted her adult life as an entrepreneur.

[6:47] - Her imagination has always been her superpower.

[7:48] - For a long time, Jessica felt a lot of shame about the things she loved.

[8:57] - Jessica remembers the time when she detached from the person she was born to be due to feeling the pressure of her family to be someone else.

[11:08] - Jessica shares the story about getting her first fashion retail job.

[13:09] - It all began in a plus-size fashion store. She learned how to highlight beauty.

[16:22] - She found herself in leadership at a young age, leading women who were older than her.

[18:11] - Learning about leadership was a lesson in listening.

[19:45] - When she was home as a stay-at-home-mom and her husband lost his job, Jessica knew something had to change.

[21:28] - While working in a boutique, she had a side-hustle styling women in their homes.

[23:01] - If you are allowing fear to hold you back from doing what you know you are meant to do to serve others, you are actually being selfish.

[26:03] - Once she made changes and started using her gifts to serve others, she wished she had done it sooner.

[28:17] - Jessica shares how she learned how to visualize.

[30:37] - Are you staying present in your intentions?

[32:20] - Start your day and know how beautiful you can look. Put your intention into what you like.

[34:40] - Jessica has a formula to use when you are styling yourself. The first part is to review and reflect.

[38:19] - Jessica shares some of the things that the women she has worked with have loved about the services and community.

[42:11] - Shift your mindset to focus on what is possible in the future.

[43:14] - Head to Jessica’s website for free resources and opportunities to work with her: https://csjstyling.com/

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Welcome to a personal solo episode where we're diving into the dream of retiring your partner. Yep, that big vision that's a mix of financial freedom and relationship dynamics. I'm flying solo today, and I want us to really get into what it means to have this goal and how it plays out in real life.

So, you're dreaming of retiring your partner, right? But let's get real—what does that look like? Sure, it's all about financial empowerment and seeing your partner thrive, but there's a lot more to it. I'm going to share my journey, the ups, the downs, and everything in between. From setting intentions to facing challenges, we're going to cover it all.

Join me as we chat about the highs and lows of chasing this dream. We'll talk about the nitty-gritty—financial considerations, relationship dynamics, and the rollercoaster of emotions that come with it. And hey, I've been there, done that, so expect some candid reflections and a real honest conversation.

[5:07] - Although amazing, your relationship has to be able to withstand this growth.

[6:22] - If you allow yourself to expand financially, it could open doors for your partner as well who may be dreaming of leaving a job they don’t love or even going back to school.

[8:59] - Have you felt that there is something more for your partner before they even realize it?

[10:44] - Elyse explains the moment when her husband set the intention of going to medical school.

[12:39] - In a nutshell, Elyse quit playing small in her life and in her business.

[14:08] - The shifts came first inside herself before they manifested outward. See yourself as the person who can retire your partner. Feel worthy of your income.

[16:50] - Overall, it’s incredible, but there were a lot of ups and downs.

[19:17] - Elyse shares some of the early challenges when they decided this would happen.

[20:51] - In spite of the bumps in the road, there have been valuable life improvements through this journey.

[22:17] - When you invest in yourself, it is a double blessing. It elevates everyone in your family.

[24:07] - You have to believe you can do it.

[27:03] - Masculine and feminine energy has a huge impact.

[29:58] - There’s so much to say about this topic.

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Permission to be Powerful by Elyse Archer

Welcome back to She Sells Radio for another solo episode. After so many amazing interview episodes with the best of the best, I really want to dive into themes close to my heart. Today, I'm particularly eager to chat about a powerful concept that recently took shape in a book titled Permission to be Powerful, co-authored by yours truly and members of the mastermind. This book, hot off the presses since January 17th, invites you to think about a profound question: What would it look like for you to give yourself permission to be in your full power in all aspects of your life?

Power is a loaded term to a lot of people. And it can make us feel really uncomfortable. But it's not about defiance. It’s a conscious choice to be at the center of your life, steering your destiny with intention. I share my personal journey in this episode, and share the internal struggles to remain a lone wolf, as well as the reflection that led to embracing a path of increased leadership in my business. We explore the notion of surface-level safety in hiding and the transformative power of getting massively uncomfortable. Join me in this exploration of self-permission, questioning societal programming, and the beautiful journey of learning to trust yourself.

The book, Permission to be Powerful, features diverse perspectives on this topic, and I am so excited to share it with you.

[2:44] - Elyse co-authored a book called Permission to be Powerful with members of her mastermind.

[4:40] - Power is a loaded word to a lot of people. It means that you know you are in control of your destiny and your fate. You are at the center of your life.

[6:50] - Personal power is not about defiance. It’s about you consciously choosing and operating out of the sense of controlling your destiny.

[8:34] - We have to surrender to how big things can be for us.

[10:12] - Elyse has taken on a lot more leadership and experienced a lot of internal struggle.

[12:14] - The wounded part of her felt safer as a lone wolf.

[14:03] - It took a lot of reflection to figure out which path to take. It’s understandable why people hide.

[16:08] - There’s surface level safety in hiding.

[17:30] - What’s the endgame for you?

[19:19] - Elyse couldn’t stop seeing the vision of the next level for her business.

[21:20] - Elyse had a dream about an office space years ago and shares the experience of seeing it in person.

[25:01] - You have to be willing to get massively uncomfortable.

[28:40] - We can hide behind a lot of things. It’s easy and convenient to hide because you don’t have to be responsible and powerful.

[30:29] - Who are you waiting for to give you permission? No one can but you.

[33:01] - We don’t always stop and think for ourselves. We’ve been taught not to question anything.

[35:17] - If Elyse hadn’t learned how to trust herself, she never would have learned the best path for her.

[37:05] - There are so many instances in your day-to-day that are programming.

[38:44] - It is easy to stop trusting yourself. But it’s a beautiful journey to go on.

[40:22] - When you learn to trust yourself and think for yourself, you start making choices based on expansion and your dreams rather than safety or restriction.

[42:53] - In the book, Permission to be Powerful, there are multiple authors and perspectives on this topic.

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Permission to be Powerful by Elyse Archer

As we navigate the beginning of a new year, money is the hot topic. Going through previous episodes and noting the conversation topics that were the most sought after in this community, it is clear that we want the energy, the mindset, and the money. Who doesn’t?

Maybe you feel like money isn’t flowing how you want in your business or your personal life. This is such a frustrating feeling, but there are reasons this could be happening that you are in full control of. So, in this episode, you’ll learn five reasons you could be experiencing this concern and most importantly, things you can do to help yourself out of this rut.

Just remember, that seasons can be short and that sometimes a pause is exactly what you need.

[1:54] - Any time something starts to feel like a should, it might not be aligned anymore.

[4:19] - Always show up for you and give yourself permission to have seasons in your life.

[5:35] - If money isn’t flowing the way you want it to, what can be the underlying things you can shift to get that moving again?

[6:25] - Notice if you are gripping in any way to money. Are you wanting a lot to come into you but you don’t want to give or invest in yourself?

[8:13] - Are there ways that you are not valuing yourself enough?

[9:18] - Sometimes clients leech energy and ask for more than you can give. Be clear about your boundaries, even though there is a level of fear.

[10:33] - Look for the areas in your life where your boundaries need to be set. We are what we are available for.

[13:10] - Once you increase your expectations for yourself, you’ll start to notice shifts because you get what you believe to be true.

[13:40] - The flow of money is slow if you are strict about how it comes.

[14:49] - You could be cutting off possibilities.

[15:42] - Your thoughts are those of someone who doesn’t have it already.

[17:22] - The work you do on yourself can align yourself as the woman who already has the money.

[18:47] - We become someone new by catching the old thought patterns.

[20:51] - If you are tremendously intentional about this, it doesn’t take long to see results.

[22:01] - What if you went all in for the next 60 days?

[23:27] - Consider what you would be thinking about or focused on if you weren’t focusing on the flow of money.

[25:25] - Sometimes before a large amount comes in, there is a bit of a pause.

[27:30] - Pause and turn inward.

[29:07] - There are other reasons this could be happening, but know that everything is happening for your good and everything is an invitation for you to uplevel.

[30:30] - Look into the two communities available to you that can help you level up.

• Your First Six Figures Masterclass
• Join the $10K Club
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• ElyseArcher.com
• DM me on Instagram @elysearcher

Today’s challenge episode is all about gratitude, but I also have to be honest - I didn’t wake up today feeling super grateful. It was one of those “off” feeling days that I think we all have sometimes, and I got to really employ some of my power tools to work to shift the energy.

Listen in to today’s challenge to hear what some of the tools are that I use when I’m just not feeling wonderful, and how you can leverage these as strategic actions to take to shift you into a higher vibe state that’s in alignment with your goals.

Be sure to register for the challenge at www.elysearcher.com/challenge, and tag me @elysearcher on social and use the hashtag #shesellschallenge to participate every day and be eligible to win some pretty amazing prizes!

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