Shalom Sessions

My guest on the podcast this week is Kathy Escobar. Y'all. She is wise and funny and so, so thoughtful. You're going to love everything she has to say about having hard conversations with people we disagree with and what peacemaking is (and is not). We both share a passion to take big concepts (like Shalom, like unity, like reconciliation, you know...so meta ;)) and making them practical so that we can actually live them out.

She tells us about a recent video series she did with The Work of the People, "Different Not Divided: A Third Way" with her co-pastor, Karl Wheeler about how they've navigated living together in unity while still honoring their differences at their church, "The Refuge".

From the "The Work of the People" website:

When we love our theology more than our brothers and sisters we are usually left with only two options: 1. Create increasingly larger, theologically monolithic and homogeneous churches, or 2. Disintegrate, fracture and eventually close the doors and lose relationship with each other.

For almost 10 years in The Refuge community, we have tried to practice a third option--a Third Way--where instead of fighting for our positions or fleeing for the safe haven of a group that looks, thinks, and believes like us--we live in the tension of our difference.

We are different, not divided.

And because practical application and providing awesome resources to the Body is something Kathy and I love to do, we've teamed up with Travis Reed over at "The Work of the People" to provide Shalom in the City listeners access to the videos and discussion guides. Normally you'd have to purchase these from the site, but we want to empower you, Shalom Sistas with this amazing resources to bring Shalom to your hard conversations and messy communities!

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Shalom Steps:

Every episode, I ask our Shalom Sista to give us 2-5 practical next steps to empower our Shalom practice in our everyday lives.

Here's Kathy's:

1: Read the Beautitudes every day.

2: Practice Being Brave.

3:Show up. Tell the truth. Trust God. Let go of the outcome.

Perfect Day in her city: Denver:

1: Travel in her car.

2: Go to Snooze for brunch

3: Hang out at Standley lake with a cup of coffee from Global Goods.

4: Marvel at the mountains of Denver, they still surprise her after so many years in Colorado.

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Shalom my Sistas,

Osheta

Oh Sistas... sometimes I get overwhelmed. You too? Listen to today's episode.

Hey Sistas,

Here are a few things you need to know about today’s episode:

1: I sit down with my friend Amena Brown today to talk about how she's seeking Shalom in herself. We also talk about taking mission trips to Africa as black girls, beauty standards, and I kissed dating goodbye.

2: We're doing our shalom step of cleaning toilets for people who annoy us... my bathrooms are SPARKLING people.

3: There's a copy of Amena's book, "How to Fix A Broken Record" up for grabs. Just find the podcast on Instagram and TAG three friends who you think would love this episode.

Reminders!

2: We're praying for each other in the Shalom Sistas Hangout and Newsletter. Click the links to join and get your prayer on.

3: We have a Patreon to help pay for an editor and make sure episodes are released once a week. The only way I can serve you here on the podcast is by delegating the editing/tech to someone else. Please consider supporting the podcast here. We need $100 more to start a contract with an editor. This week’s thank you gift in Patreon is my conversation with my daughter on “A Wrinkle in Time” it’ll show up on Monday.

Links in the episode

http://www.africanewlife.org

Things Bringing Amena Peace

Old School Gospel. Try this playlist on Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/user/snoopdogg/playlist/7HB3mjNzVvXjKeiZfIZbqR

Going on Walks

Check out this post about prayer walking with Jesus

http://biblicalspirituality.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/Take-a-Prayer-Walk.pdf

Kamasi Washington: Rhythms Changes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OkLz4MyDmuE

Amena’s Podcasts

Here for the donuts podcast

How to Fix a Broken Record

Her

Connect with Amena:

Website: http://www.amenabrown.com/

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/amenawrites

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/amenabee

YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/menabee

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/amenabee

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NEW: Connect with the SHOW

IG: Weareshalomsistas

(I’m *slowly* moving the show images and posting daily about the topic from the show)

May the Force of being your WHOLE SELF be with you SISTA!,

Osheta

On this episode of My Sistas' Keeper, Abby and I discuss how to hopefully resist the spirit of defensiveness when talking about race, specifically on social media. We consider some practical ways to emulate Jesus' posture toward others described in 1 Peter 2:23, "When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly."

We also discuss the terms backfire effect and confirmation bias, and engage listener comments and questions such as how to know when to enter into an online conversation, when to just keep scrolling, and how to encourage offline extensions of online dialogu

We mention:

• The nonprofit organization Abby works for, His Grace Foundation, which serves patients and families on the Bone Marrow Transplant Unit of Texas Children’s Hospital: www.hisgracefoundation.org
• The Beautiful Creatures book series: http://thenovl.com/BeautifulCreatures
• The Backfire Effect as described in a comic strip: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe
• Confirmation Bias: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-choice/201504/what-is-confirmation-bias
• Books Lists
• • http://www.scrapingraisins.com/2016/07/70-race-resources-for-white-people/
  • https://electricliterature.com/34-books-by-women-of-color-to-read-this-year-581eda906a76
  • http://www.refinery29.com/2017/02/141801/best-books-by-black-female-authors
  • http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/10-new-books-by-women-writers-of-color-to-add-to-your-must-read-list_us_58b49a75e4b060480e0b1184
• The Turner House by Angela Flournoy: http://www.nationalbook.org/nba2015_f_aflournoy.html#.WRyYkRPyuRs

Want more Shalom in your life? Follow Shalom in the City on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest @shalominthecity.You can find me, Osheta Moore, on Twitter @osheta, Instagram @oshetam and Pinterest. Abby is on Facebook @AbbyJoyAndersonPerry, on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest @abbyjperry and online at joywovendeep.com.

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Hey Sistas,

Here are three things you need to know about today's episode.

1: I chat with my friends, Amber Hornsby and Rachel Hanus, co-founders of ESTHER homes, a beautiful transition home for single mamas and pregnant women. Y'all, I joined the board of ESTHER as the president last month and I have to tell you God has been leading me to this moment for YEARS. This episode means so much to me because when was 20, I was a junior in college and found myself in an unplanned pregnancy and if it were not for women like my guest today, I would have had an abortion and quite possibly lost my faith.

2: We have a Patreonto help pay for an editor and make sure episodes are released once a week. The only way I can serve you here on the podcast is by delegating the editing/tech to someone else. Please consider supporting the podcast here.

3:We need $100 more to start a contract with an editor. This week’s thank you gift in Patreon is this cool resource I received from my friend, Shannan Martin who was episode #3. She wrote a four day Mother's Day campaign that you can sign up for for FREE and you'll get an email a day for four day. BUT If you're a Patreon, you'll get all four days in one PDF called, "A New Way to Mother's Day" in your feed.

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Loving my Sistas in the Messy Middle,

Osheta