Building Blocks of BDSM Relationships

02/17/23 • 9 min

While it may be a fun roleplay scene to temporarily act like it, in real relationships dominance and submission are not taken by force. Submission isn't given to the one with the most primal urge to take it. Trust is how dominance and submission are earned within BDSM. After vetting, during a period of consideration and while doing negotiations the process of building trust begins. Today we talk about the six building blocks for building trust within BDSM relationships.

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Self Collaring

Self-collaring is where the s-type will collar themselves. This is usually done to express self-love, taking ownership of their own submission (after a bad relationship) to help heal and ground themselves before getting back into looking for a D-type. This is fairly new, and for the most part only recognized by TNG. Today we talk about collars and give our advice for self-collaring.

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The Lost Art of Vetting

Vetting a new partner is something we have lost as a society, not just in the BDSM community. We see all the time a person ends one relationship and within a week, or less, be chest deep in a new relationship and deeply in love again. So, what is vetting and why is it so important? In Part One we talk about vetting for those things outside of the bedroom.