Part 2: If You Need to Lie About Your Relationship to Impress Others, Don't!
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06/20/23 • 17 min
S2 Episode 11: Part 2: If You Need to Lie About Your Relationship to Impress Others, Don’t!
Episode Summary
It is natural for people to compare their romantic relationships with their peers. As tempting as it may be, resist the urge to try and one-up your friends or colleagues. If you got lucky and found your soul mate, that’s amazing. Make sure to take the time to cherish and appreciate your situation and your partner. Focus on living in the moment instead of bragging or lying in an attempt to impress other people.
There is no need to over-share or advertise how amazing your romantic life is because it may come back to bite you in the ass. If people decide they want what you have, they may try to take it away from you instead of finding a great partner themselves.
We all want to believe that we are loved and appreciated by our partners. So, imagine how hurt your partner would feel if they heard you were lying about them because the real situation was “not good enough”. If you do need to make up stories about your relationship or partner to impress other, this is not the right fit for you.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when a person drops their friends as soon as they enter a new relationship.
Show Notes
In a previous episode, we talked about hiding the red flags of your relationship. In this episode, we’re talking about lying about your relationship to impress other people. If you need to make up stories about your partner to impress others, it could indicate you don’t feel they are actually good enough for you.
If you have a really good relationship, you just live in the moment and just experience it. You wouldn’t need to be spending your time telling people about it in person or on social media. This behavior makes other people feel bad because you make your relationship habits feel unattainable.
Bragging is one thing. Bragging is when the behavior actually happens. Lying is what usually takes place when you’re trying to impress others, from how little you fight in your relationship to how often you have sex. Funnily enough, the number one person who will reveal the truth will be your partner because they often don’t even know about the lie you have told others.
If your partner truly is awesome, generous, and great in the sack, don’t advertise it. Just enjoy it. If you announce it, you could flaunt it to someone who wants what you’ve got and end up getting robbed of it. Your lies come with a warning label, so be smart about what you say about your partner.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When people drop their friends as soon as they get in a relationship. It’s one of the most self-centered things you can do to a friend. You can’t expect the friend to be there for you when the relationship ends. If someone thinks they can exit your friendship without any thought for you, they don’t deserve you.
Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you can receive notifications of new episodes right when they are released. Also, make sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook.
Visit us at www.romancipation.com
S2 Episode 11: Part 2: If You Need to Lie About Your Relationship to Impress Others, Don’t!
Episode Summary
It is natural for people to compare their romantic relationships with their peers. As tempting as it may be, resist the urge to try and one-up your friends or colleagues. If you got lucky and found your soul mate, that’s amazing. Make sure to take the time to cherish and appreciate your situation and your partner. Focus on living in the moment instead of bragging or lying in an attempt to impress other people.
There is no need to over-share or advertise how amazing your romantic life is because it may come back to bite you in the ass. If people decide they want what you have, they may try to take it away from you instead of finding a great partner themselves.
We all want to believe that we are loved and appreciated by our partners. So, imagine how hurt your partner would feel if they heard you were lying about them because the real situation was “not good enough”. If you do need to make up stories about your relationship or partner to impress other, this is not the right fit for you.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when a person drops their friends as soon as they enter a new relationship.
Show Notes
In a previous episode, we talked about hiding the red flags of your relationship. In this episode, we’re talking about lying about your relationship to impress other people. If you need to make up stories about your partner to impress others, it could indicate you don’t feel they are actually good enough for you.
If you have a really good relationship, you just live in the moment and just experience it. You wouldn’t need to be spending your time telling people about it in person or on social media. This behavior makes other people feel bad because you make your relationship habits feel unattainable.
Bragging is one thing. Bragging is when the behavior actually happens. Lying is what usually takes place when you’re trying to impress others, from how little you fight in your relationship to how often you have sex. Funnily enough, the number one person who will reveal the truth will be your partner because they often don’t even know about the lie you have told others.
If your partner truly is awesome, generous, and great in the sack, don’t advertise it. Just enjoy it. If you announce it, you could flaunt it to someone who wants what you’ve got and end up getting robbed of it. Your lies come with a warning label, so be smart about what you say about your partner.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When people drop their friends as soon as they get in a relationship. It’s one of the most self-centered things you can do to a friend. You can’t expect the friend to be there for you when the relationship ends. If someone thinks they can exit your friendship without any thought for you, they don’t deserve you.
Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you can receive notifications of new episodes right when they are released. Also, make sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook.
Visit us at www.romancipation.com
Previous Episode
Stop Trying to Create Movie Moments
S2 Episode 10: Stop Trying to Create Movie Moments
Episode Summary
Who doesn’t love a good romcom, chick flick or trashy novel? While these types of stories entertain and move us, they unfortunately also have a sinister side. They create unrealistic ideas about what love, passion and a romantic relationship should look like. Too many of us fall prey to the idea that if someone really cares, they will fight for us or move mountains to make it work.
Romantic relationships can and should have moments of passion and gestures of love, but there is so much more to a successful relationship. Instead of focusing on grand displays of affection, people should appreciate the subtler signs that a partner respects you, admires you and wants to make your life better by meeting your emotional and physical needs.
When you focus on the partnership, instead of the picture-perfect idea of romance and love, you can find your own definition of happiness. Creating drama in hopes of inciting a positive reaction rarely works and often just creates confusion and tension in a relationship. Live in reality with your partner. Let fantasy be entertainment, not a relationship goal.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss snooping in your partner’s phone without permission.
Show Notes
Almost all of us are all guilty of trying to recreate movie moments in our relationships. We’ve been programmed to fall in love with a particular idea of a romantic relationship, but this type of love is improbable. Whether good or bad, you may find yourself trying to create drama in your relationship for the sake of these moments.
A lot of people build up unrealistic expectations to create situations and scenarios that reflect movie moments, when in reality, no matter what the grand gesture is, it will probably never meet your expectations. Some of the best moments in your relationship aren’t the big passionate gestures, but rather the small caring ones.
Your relationship does not need to be perfectly orchestrated, nor does it need to reflect a picture-perfect relationship like those you see on social media. Figure out what happiness looks like for you and go with that. Remember what the value of a partner is for you and be thankful for the everyday things your partner already does.
You may miss out on a wonderful partnership because you don’t get the over-the-top gestures you think you should be experiencing. Ideal concepts of passion, attraction, and commitment can lead you to lose sight of what’s right in front of you. Remember that grand romantic gestures don’t guarantee a committed, long-lasting relationship.
Today’s vent session topic is: When people read their partner’s text messages without the person’s knowledge. It’s a huge violation of trust, boundaries and is a serious red flag. It signals insecurity, and if you feel the need to do this, you shouldn’t be in the relationship.
Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you can receive notifications of new episodes right when they are released. Also, make sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook.
Visit us at www.romancipation.com
Next Episode
Being the Sidepiece Should Never Be an Option
S2 Episode 12: Being A Sidepiece Should Never Be an Option
Episode Summary
If you are looking for a relationship, then you deserve to be the one and only focus of the person that you want. The idea that anyone should ever accept the position of a sidepiece (aka side chick or mistress) is ridiculous. Beginning or staying in a relationship where your wants and needs are not being fully met because your partner is already involved with someone else will place you in a precarious position.
When you are the sidepiece, you expose yourself to disease, manipulation and threats to your physical and emotional well-being. A partner that really loved you would never intentionally put you into such a negative position. Moreover, family and friends will judge you and your relationship.
If someone really wants you as their primary partner, they will do what it takes to make it happen. Don’t fall victim to their lies and false promises. Being a sidepiece violates every foundational concept of a healthy relationship. There is no trust, respect, empathy or accountability in a non-consensual throuple.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when your partner makes their hobbies a priority over the relationship.
Show Notes
Infidelity can’t take place unless there’s another willing party, but there’s a big difference between a person who knows they are the third-party person and the person who has absolutely no idea. If you know you’re the sidepiece, that’s a big issue. If you don’t know, you have been victimized in the same way as the partner who’s being cheated on.
It’s simply just a poor place to be. It’s an awful feeling and a bad look. And perhaps you say you didn’t know—but there were signs you chose to ignore. A lot of people who are the sidepiece justify their actions by saying they don’t owe the primary person’s partner anything. But the fact is you are knowingly harming another person. And if you put yourself in this situation, you have a low regard for your safety. If the other person finds out, something bad could happen.
If you find yourself in this situation, remember two things. First: You are always going to be the bad guy. Second: It’s important you take personal responsibility as an active participant. If the person really loved, respected, and valued you, they would make you their primary partner and not a sidepiece.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When a partner does not prioritize your relationship over their hobbies. Feeling less important makes the person feel awful and creates tension when the hobby gets in the way of chores, finances, and more. It can make you feel lonely or like you’re leading parallel lives.
Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you can receive notifications of new episodes right when they are released. Also, make sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook.
Visit us at www.romancipation.com
Romancipation - Part 2: If You Need to Lie About Your Relationship to Impress Others, Don't!
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Tired of toxic, boring, or dead-end relationships? Feeling lonely or clueless when it comes to love? Need a fresh perspective? Well, you found it. This is Romancipation, a podcast that challenges conventional ideas about sex, love, dating and mating. Hosts Marlee and Lis offer candid and provocative advice about what it takes to find the partner you deserve.
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