A Healthy Relationship Can Be Had at Any Age

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09/05/23 • 16 min

Romancipation

S3 Episode 10: A Healthy Relationship Can Be Had at Any Age

Episode Summary

Whether you’re young, middle-aged or entering your twilight years, it is never too late to find a fulfilling relationship. It does not matter if you are single, dating, committed or married. What counts is the mindset that you bring into the relationship. Every day is a new chance to reset. It is up to you to take control and make the changes necessary to achieve the relationship you desire and deserve.
Old habits, unhealthy dynamics or feelings of helplessness can be overcome. Begin by focusing on developing strong communication, respect, self-love and trust. Recognize that all of us can bring something beneficial to a relationship. Be realistic about your wants and needs and be open to seeing a personal evolution.
Realize that you are more than your looks, finances and profession. Stop listening to society, if the messages you are getting about romantic relationships don’t vibe with what you are looking for. It is your life and you get to decide what you are willing to accept.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when a person allows their partner to control who they spend time with outside of the relationship.

Show Notes

Feel like you’re too old or too young to build a healthy relationship? The truth is that a healthy relationship can be had at any age. You don’t need tons of wisdom or experience to build a great relationship if you have all the other necessary ingredients.
Older people who have struggled to build a healthy relationship may feel like it’s too late for them because they feel unworthy or too damaged, but that’s not true. That said, you have to be willing to be open and work on yourself in areas you know you need to (remember, sometimes the problem is you).
The values that trickle down from society and to our kids do influence the way they approach relationships from a young age. For example, women tend to be valued for their beauty. It’s important to be aware of these societal messages and do our best to pass along healthier values to the younger generation.
You can create a healthy relationship no matter where you are in your life as long as you create the right foundation. What’s necessary between both people is respect, trust, admiration, and good communication. While love is great, it’s not a foundational component.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When people allow their partner to control who they hang out with. This is a sign of an abusive relationship and should not be tolerated. It shows insecurity on the part of the person calling the shots. This jealous behavior is not flattering and could even be dangerous.

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S3 Episode 10: A Healthy Relationship Can Be Had at Any Age

Episode Summary

Show Notes

Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you can receive notifications of new episodes right when they are released. Also, make sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook.

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Previous Episode

Their Past is an Accurate Predictor of Your Future Together

S3 Episode 9: Their Past is an Accurate Predictor of Your Future Together

Episode Summary

The more things change, the more they stay the same. This is true in relationships. Just because you have a new relationship does not mean your behavior patterns will change. The same is true for your partner. If you want to get a sense of what your relationship will look like, just look at their past relationships.

You can inquire about why a past relationship ended but the person telling you the details is probably not the most accurate reporter. Remember they are recounting the trials and tribulations of their past relationships through their own biased lens. In most cases, people will blame their ex-partners for the downfall of the relationship.

If you are fortunate enough to be with a person who takes personal responsibility and accountability for relationship failures, it is a positive sign, but it does not mean that they have learned from those mis-steps or are willing to alter their behavior. Even if the individual claims they have seen the light and made changes, you will need proof in the form of behaviors that support their claims.

At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss how unfair it is when a partner expects you to read their mind.

Show Notes

You know that phrase “a leopard doesn’t change its spots”? It’s true. So many people want to believe past relationships didn’t work out or issues took place on part of the other party. The reality is your partner has ownership over what happened in their past relationship, and that same behavior is likely to be repeated in your relationship together.

If your partner cheated, manipulated, or abused their last partner, they will probably do all the same to you unless they are in therapy actively working on their issues. The problem is most people don’t want to own their behavior. When people describe their past partners in a negative way, it’s a red flag.

Behavior is better proof of intention than words are. Someone telling you what they will do is different from what they actually show you through their actions. People can evolve, but usually it’s after suffering difficult circumstances or consequences to their behavior. People don’t just naturally change from one relationship to the next.

If you want a peek into how a new partner is likely to treat you, it’s as simple as looking at how they treat their family and friends. You can also consider how they treat service workers and coworkers. If disrespectful patterns of behavior arise, there’s a good chance that will come back on you.

In this episode, the vent session topic is: When people think their partner should be able to read their mind. Expecting your partner to know what you think all the time is unfair. It’s not possible, no matter how long you’ve been together. It's immature behavior and makes it impossible for your partner to do right in your eyes.

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Next Episode

Accountability is Sexier Than it Sounds

S3 Episode 11: Accountability is Sexier Than it Sounds

Episode Summary

Accountability in a relationship is often overlooked, and yet it is a crucial aspect to a healthy partnership. When two people decide to be accountable to one another it builds trust, intimacy and security. Accountability should be a two-way street. Both partners need to clearly define the expectations of their relationship and make a commitment to honor those expectations.

When there is accountability in a relationship, each individual is making a conscious effort to not violate the mutually agreed upon terms. A partner that sticks to their word is demonstrating respect for their partner as well as the relationship. By owning the consequences of your words and actions, you signal maturity, empathy and self-awareness.

Do not accept a relationship where your partner violates prior commitments and then refuses to take ownership of the consequences caused by their behavior. Practice self-preservation and walk away from these selfish and self-centered individuals.

At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when a person enables their partner’s addiction or mental illness.

Show Notes

So many people feel like accountability is corporate in nature, but the reality is, accountability is sexy. The 3 C’s of accountability are clarity, commitment, and consequences. You need to be clear on your boundaries and expectations from your partner and the relationship. You both also need to agree on the terms of your commitments.

You also need to account for the consequences of your actions and decisions. When you honor your agreement, it develops trust and intimacy between you and your partner. For example, if you both agree on your spending and stick to it, it increases the strength of your relationship.

Accountability also reinforces security. It shows you can trust that your partner will follow through on what they say they will do. It brings a sense of comfort to the relationship you might not have otherwise. Conversely, when you don’t do what you said you would, it can hurt the relationship.

It’s not about your partner telling you what to do or not to do just for the sake of it. These are reciprocal agreements you make with your chosen partner. Generally, people who choose not to be accountable are selfish and self-centered.

In this episode, the vent session topic is: When someone enables their partner’s mental illness or addiction without getting them help. This is a serious and very frustrating situation. Making excuses for harmful behavior makes the behavior seem like it’s acceptable when it’s not. It’s not a sign of love, it’s a sign of co-dependency. If you know someone is suffering, it’s imperative to get them professional help.

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Romancipation - A Healthy Relationship Can Be Had at Any Age

Transcript

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Tired of toxic, boring, or dead-end relationships? Feeling lonely or clueless when it comes to love? Need a fresh perspective? Well, you found it. This is Romancipation, a podcast that challenges conventional ideas about sex, love, dating and mating. Hosts Marlee and Lis offer candid and provocative advice about what it takes to find the partner you deserve.

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It's time to rethink your approach to your love life. Take charge and get Romancipated.

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