Relationships &amp; Revenue with John Hulen

https://jakeathompson.com

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA

EPISODE CREDITS

Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/

Episode 204 Lead Better Now with Jake Thompson (Part 1)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

04/05/24 • 40 min

John sits down with Jake Thompson – keynote speaker, Chief Encouragement Officer at Compete Every Day, and author of Compete Every Day: The Not-So-Secret Secret to Winning Your Life and Work and Lead Better Now: A Practical Guide to Increase Your Influence as a Leader.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Intro

[01:51] - Jake’s background

[06:41] - Hard work and luck

[07:47] - Not the motivational speaker you’re used to

[10:30] - Jake’s method for personal improvement

[13:34] - Improvement requires intentionality

[14:45] - Writing things down improves memory

[18:37] - Accountability in achieving goals

[21:24] - HabitShare app for accountability

[23:25] - Jake’s first book: Compete Every Day

[26:16] - Writing the 2nd book: Lead Better Now

[28:43] - Motivation and evolution of Relationships & Revenue

[31:25] - Embracing vulnerability and overcoming embarrassment about past failures

[35:24] - Misconception about success and the need to redefine it

[36:27] - Social media versus reality

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“What’s happened to us in our past gives us a glimpse of where things are, not necessarily shows us the direction we’re headed. But it kind of helps us understand why things are the way they are now.”

“Encouragement is just inspiring courage, and what’s courage, but just doing something you’re scared to death.”

“Luck factors in, but until you’re preparing to be ready for it when it arrives, it’s not gonna do you any good anyways.”

“If you prepare for the moment, the moment is prepared for you.”

“You can’t motivate people. You can inspire motivated people. And you can encourage those who aren’t to seek it.”

“The truth sucks sometimes to hear, but you would much rather have somebody that’s going to tell you the truth that’s going to help you than the person that’s going to lie to you.”

“Improvement requires intentionality.”

“You’ve got to take time to define what success looks like to you, and not necessarily what you think it should be based on what you see on social media.”

“When you own and work through your mess, and can say, ‘Hey, here’s what I did. Here’s what I don’t want you to do.’ It changes your impact.”

“Your story is not over as long as there’s breath in your lungs, and you still have a chance to make an impact.”

“It’s not possible to have a great business if you’re blowing it at home.”

“People are never going to be changed by your perfect story. They’re going to be changed by how you dealt with your imperfections and kept going forward.”

“It’s really important that we’re aware of what we see on social media is not true.”

APP MENTIONED:

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.instagram.com/jakethompsonspeaks/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakethompsonspeaks/

https://www.facebook.com/lifeisworthcompetingfor

https://twitter.com/JakeAThompson

https://tinyurl.com/CompeteEveryDayPodcast

Compete Every Day: The Not-So-Secret Secret to Winning Your Life and Work - https://a.co/d/7brl5il

Lead Better Now: A Practical Guide to Increase Your Influence as a Leader - https://a.co/d/bCpAjgP

CONNECT WITH JOHN

https://jakeathompson.com

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA

EPISODE CREDITS

Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/

Episode 205 Lead Better Now with Jake Thompson (Part 2)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

04/06/24 • 47 min

John continues his discussion with Jake Thompson. In the last episode, Jake shared how he is not the motivational speaker you’re used to and his journey from growing up in small-town Texas to building a successful business and speaking career.

Today, John and Jake discuss developing self-leadership first before leading others. They also talk about faith, family, relationships, and living an impactful life.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Intro

[01:21] - Writing process for Lead Better Now

[06:47] - Value of exploring diverse perspectives in leadership literature

[07:52] - Connect with Jake

[08:30] - Social media responsiveness and engagement

[10:05] - Compete Every Day podcast

[13:13] - Impact of Jake’s faith on his business

[15:56] - Books on faith that influenced Jake

[20:53] - Definition of success

[21:37] - #1 daily habit

[22:20] - Traits of a great leader

[23:00] - Best advice Jake received and gave

[25:09] - How Jake invests in himself

[28:18] - Jake’s legacy

[29:40] - Encouragement to struggling basketball team

[34:44] - Jake’s apparel business

[36:24] - The F6 Secrets of Relationships

[38:47] - Book recommendations

[43:02] - Podcast recommendations

[46:11] - Wrap-up

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“All leadership starts with self-leadership. It is foundational to everything I’m about because unless you lead yourself, you don’t earn the right to lead others.”

“We know how many times in the Bible it says ‘do not be afraid,’ right? Fear is our biggest thing. And a lot of times, it’s fear of failure, but more so, it’s fear of what other people think. And fear will rob us of a fulfilling life if we allow it to.”

“Chase excellence, not ego.”

“You are your own worst accountability partner. If you quit, you’re telling everyone it’s a lie that you didn’t believe it.”

“Conflict is good for relationships. Conflicts allow us to connect and grow. And if there’s no conflict or discomfort, there’s usually no opportunity for growth.”

“Readers lead and leaders read.”

BOOKS MENTIONED:

Blue Like Jazz: Nonreligious Thoughts on Christian Spirituality by Donald Miller (https://a.co/d/0I4upxn)
Scarcity Brain: Fix Your Craving Mindset and Rewire Your Habits to Thrive with Enough by Michael Easter (https://a.co/d/3X2zeai)
A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: How I Learned to Live a Better Story by Donald Miller (https://a.co/d/1jvzWAM)
Atomic Habits by James Clear (https://a.co/d/3J4uGxF)
Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to Overthinking (Overcome Toxic Thought Patterns and Take Control of Your Mindset) by Jon Acuff (https://a.co/d/b3ehUxy)
Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD and John Gottman PhD (https://a.co/d/hLsSfUj)

PODCASTS MENTIONED:

The Joe Rogan Experience ( https://open.spotify.com/show/4rOoJ6Egrf8K2IrywzwOMk?si=SR48SEbPSneianOcF4Eyyg)
Plain English with Derek Thompson ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/id1594471023)
Pivot ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pivot/id1073226719)
Modern Wisdom with Chris Williamson ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/modern-wisdom/id1347973549)
The Learner Lab Trevor Ragan ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-learner-lab/id1452118587)
Finding Mastery with Dr. Michael Gervais ( https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-mastery/id1025326955)

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.instagram.com/jakethompsonspeaks/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakethompsonspeaks/

https://www.facebook.com/lifeisworthcompetingfor

Episode 242 Education Reimagined with Matt Beaudreau (Part 1)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

12/14/24 • 42 min

John talks with Matt Beaudreau — educator, co-founder of Apogee Strong, entrepreneur, two-time TEDx speaker, Stanford University’s Corporate Trainer of the Year, host of The Essential 11 Podcast, author of the book Collaborative Homeschooling: A Manifesto for a 21st Century Education After COVID-19, husband, and dad.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] – Intro

[00:35] – Matt’s bio

[01:45] – Matt’s background and the realization of patterns in education

[04:48] – Matt’s approach to education

[07:17] – Flaws in the traditional education system

[12:34] – About Apogee Strong

[14:48] – Mentorship programs for men and women at Apogee Strong

[19:10] – The challenge of getting people to commit to long-term personal growth

[22:28] – Collaborative Homeschooling book

[24:49] – Homeschooling vs. traditional schooling post-COVID

[27:31] – Having simplicity in life

[31:18] – How Matt’s TEDx talk opportunities came about

[37:26] – Preparing the next generation for the real world

[40:48] – Integration of faith in Apogee Strong programs

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“Being an educator is something that I think has a little bit of a DNA aspect to it. It involves relationships and paying attention to the humans. It’s about teaching people instead of teaching a curriculum.”

“Education does not have anything to do with subjects. It has to do with a transfer of the way of life.”

“Life does not reward you for being a great student in terms of skill transferability. From an educational standpoint, I want to make education as close to life as possible.”

“Education should be a microcosm of the life you’re actually going to live.”

“I have an approach to business that comes through the avenue of life. I believe in order to be great in business, you actually have to be great at home, because it’s all about relationships—both of them.”

“In the short term, you’re as good as your intensity. In the long term, you’re as good as your consistency.”

“If you cannot explain something simply enough, as if you were explaining it to a five year old, you don’t understand it well enough.”

“Simplicity is always a good goal.”

“Far too often, we overcomplicate things to try and make ourselves look smart.”

“Say the things you mean, mean the things you say, and you’re not going to go overboard.”

“The kids’ issues are just a byproduct of our issues projected upon them.”

“You can’t tell your kids they can be anything they want while you’re miserable at your job. That’s called hypocrisy.”

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://apogeestrong.com/

https://www.apogeestrongfoundation.org/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-beaudreau-071a5b99/

https://www.instagram.com/mattbeaudreau/

https://x.com/MattBeaudreau

https://www.facebook.com/matt.beaudrea

https://youtu.be/JPAXMNXy5UQ?si=1Mk62agvQHNOKLRm

https://youtu.be/fv8tYbljc0s?si=ISC9MBP8EmCIlBwX

CONNECT WITH JOHN

Website - https://iamjohnhulen.com

https://selkingperformance.com/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA

EPISODE CREDITS

Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/

Episode 238 Winning the Mental Game with Dr. Amber Selking (Part 2)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

11/15/24 • 36 min

John continues his conversation with Dr. Amber Selking about the power of changing your mindset, how it can rewire your brain and help you think in more positive ways. Dr. Selking also discusses her book, Winning the Mental Game.

In Part 1, Dr. Selking shared her journey from being a college athlete to finding her calling in helping people improve their mindsets and leadership. She also discussed how the brain works and the importance of managing our thoughts to improve performance and wellbeing.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Recap of Part 1

[01:32] - Being a professional speaker and Dr. Selking’s diverse client base

[03:19] - The science of gratitude and how it rewires our brains

[04:37] - Dr. Selking’s plans on writing a book about organizational high performance

[07:00] - John’s upcoming book, The F6 Secrets of Relationships

[10:18] - Building Championship Mindsets podcast

[12:00] - Best way to reach out to Dr. Selking

[12:43] - Children’s books written by Dr. Selking

[15:12] - How Dr. Selking builds and maintains her significant relationships

[17:35] - Finding ways to connect with her spouse amid a busy schedule

[20:55] - Encouragement for men to put effort into dating

[22:53] - Impact of Dr. Selking’s faith in her business

[24:42] - Dr. Selking’s definition of success

[25:21] - Traits of a great leader

[27:21] - How Dr. Selking invests in her personal growth

[32:03] - Book recommendations

[34:30] - Wrap-up

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“You can literally rewire your brain ... when you start thinking about what you’re grateful for, it starts to rewire your brain.”

“Winning is important, and we can do that in ways that are aligned with who we’ve been created to be in the world.”

“Success is showing up as the person you intend to be and accomplishing what you intend to accomplish at the moment.”

“Clear vision, clear results. Fuzzy vision, fuzzy results.”

“Your excellence will permit you to stand before kings.”

“The most important thing in a relationship is selection ... I’m grateful we both waited for each other and found each other.”

BOOKS MENTIONED:

The Talent Code: Greatness Isn’t Born. It’s Grown. Here’s How by Daniel Coyle (https://a.co/d/bPBstVK)
Alive at Work: The Neuroscience of Helping Your People Love What They Do by Daniel M. Cable (https://a.co/d/69lO6YK)
Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect by Matthew D. Lieberman (https://a.co/d/7a9lrpk)
In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day: How to Survive and Thrive When Opportunity Roars by Mark Batterson (https://a.co/d/hrPzTwq)
Wide Awake: The Future Is Waiting Within You by Erwin Raphael McManus (https://a.co/d/3hKY0Dn)
The Last Arrow: Save Nothing for the Next Life by Erwin Raphael McManus (https://a.co/d/8n8LHES)
Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School by John Medina (https://a.co/d/1G2Sl1c)

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/amberlattner/

https://www.instagram.com/drselking/

https://x.com/ChampMindsets

https://x.com/DrSelking

https://www.facebook.com/selkingperformancegroup/

https://www.facebook.com/alattner

"Winning the Mental Game: The Playbook for Building Championship Mindsets" (https://a.co/d/7dpSpIA)

"A Dream Come True: The Buzz on Greatness (Zip the Bee Book 1)" (https://a.co/d/eoKIwQw)

"Winner's Circle (Zip the Bee Book 2)" (https://a.co/d/ep26gs1)

CONNECT WITH JOHN

https://www.stevenstrattonusa.com

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Episode 209 A Life of Service: From the White House to the Secret Service and Beyond with Steve Stratton (Part 1)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

05/04/24 • 53 min

John talks with Steve Stratton — author of Shadow Tier and Shadow Sanction. Steve served in the White House Communications Agency supporting Presidents Ford and Carter, Vice President Rockefeller, and Secretary of State Henry Kissinger. He has also worked for the United States Secret Service as a technical security specialist, the National Guard - where he trained foreign nationals, and as a civilian contractor for the Department of Defense, not to mention his time as a Green Beret.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Welcome notes and Steve’s bio

[03:31] - Steve’s upbringing

[04:32] - Family’s military background and decision to join the army

[05:32] - Assignment to the White House

[06:33] - Experience working in the White House

[07:38] - First international trip and eye-opening experience

[08:35] - Coming to Colorado with President Ford

[09:02] - Transition into the Secret Service

[13:39] - Military-to-civilian transition

[17:15] - Steve’s various career transitions from military to defense contracting

[22:07] - Importance of adaptability and creating relationships

[24:18] - The value of real-world experience beyond traditional education

[26:00] - Alternative paths to higher learning beyond college

[31:26] - Exploring career paths in the military

[34:25] - Embracing uncertainty and failure

[37:50] - Journey into writing fiction

[40:56] - Getting mentored by Jerry Jenkins

[43:16] - Challenges Steve faced in getting his book published

[45:31] - Make a positive impact through storytelling

[48:11] - Advice for people who want to share their stories but lack confidence in writing

[50:09] - Growth and change often involve pain

[51:30] - Steve’s experience losing his loved ones and how it affected him

[54:52] - Analogies of pruning trees and scales dropping away

[57:01] - Taking the first step

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“To adapt, you’ve got to be open to change, to the transition.”

“The ability to be adaptable, the ability to create relationships, and the ability to adapt and overcome are essential traits to success in any endeavor.”

“I’ve learned that success comes from being open to change, adapting to new situations, and continuously learning and growing.”

“The ability to be adaptable, the ability to create relationships, and then continue those relationships, not just transactional, but meaningful, is so important.”

“You don’t have to have your life figured out when you’re 18. But taking steps, moving forward... you’re 18, 19, you don’t like it? Okay, hold back, reassess, and head off again. You’ve got a lot of runway.”

“You don’t have to write a whole book. Start with a blog. People are interested in other people. And if you’re bringing forward heartfelt writing, you can start by actually responding to other bloggers that you follow and think are interesting. Build your confidence up by responding and then actually start one yourself.”

“Sometimes, people just need a little bit of a process, a little bit of a step, something to help them step into the process. And then they can start to deconstruct.”

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.instagram.com/stevestrattonusa/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ststratton/

https://www.facebook.com/stevestrattonusa

https://twitter.com/strattonbooks

Limited Edition Signed Hardcovers https://www.stevenstrattonusa.com/signed-editions

CONNECT WITH JOHN

https://liftedacademy.com/

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA

EPISODE CREDITS

Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/

Episode 241 How to Sober Up, Emotionally Speaking with Dr. Andrea Vitz (Part 2)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

12/06/24 • 37 min

John continues his conversation with Dr. Andrea Vitz. In this episode, they dive deep into the concept of Emotional Sobriety and how it impacts our lives and relationships. She also discusses her book “The You You’ve Never Met” and explains how it helps people struggling with behaviors, relationships, or success in life.

In the previous episode, they talked about how emotions shape our lives and relationships and how Emotional Sobriety can transform your life.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Intro

[01:28] - Target audience for her book: The You You’ve Never Met

[04:54] - Emotional Sobriety and how it affects relationships

[06:48] - Impact of Dr. Andrea’s faith on her business

[12:27] - How Dr. Andrea improves her significant relationships

[16:26] - Find your weaknesses and strengthen them

[17:38] - What success looks like to Dr. Andrea

[17:46] - Dr. Andrea’s top daily habit

[18:57] - Traits of a great leader

[20:02] - The best advice Dr. Andrea ever received

[20:37] - How Dr. Andrea invests in her personal growth

[22:12] - Investing in marriage and keeping communication open

[23:25] - Advice for maintaining the connection in marriage

[30:34] - How to connect with Dr. Andrea

[32:01] - Book recommendations

[32:30] - Podcast recommendations

[35:28] - Wrap-up

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“Romantic relationships are the hardest relationships to be sober in.”

“The chemistry in your body that rules you, that you cannot regulate on your own, are your ‘demons’.”

“Find where your biggest weakness is and strengthen it. It’s not hard; it’s fun.”

“You’re wonderful. You just make mistakes sometimes. We all do, and we’re all the same.”

“We’re not perfect beings, guys. Let’s stop trying.”

“However great you think your marriage is, take it to the next level.”

“If men really want ideas, women love things like heartfelt notes. Most people just want to know they’re loved, period.”

“You can’t break through to the next level in success, if you’re married, without your partner coming with you.”

“The power of two is far greater than the power of one, and the power of one is actually even less when you’re partnered with someone and you’re not getting along.”

“You want to be a better leader? Be a better person. You want to be a better dad? Be a better person. You want to be a better partner? Be a better person.”

“Whatever it is that you know you need to do, do it now.”

BOOKS MENTIONED:

Relational Intelligence: The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want by Dr. Dharius Daniels (https://a.co/d/1nYxU0m)
The Sermon on the Mount: The Key to Success in Life by Emmet Fox (https://a.co/d/hSdKMdv)

PODCASTS MENTIONED:

The Ted O'Neill Program ( https://tinyurl.com/TheTedONeillProgram)
Read to Lead Podcast with Jeff Brown ( https://tinyurl.com/ReadToLeadPodcast)
The Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast ( https://tinyurl.com/CraigGroeschelPodcast)

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://andreavitz.com/

https://tinyurl.com/LevelHeadedTalkPodcast

https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreavitz/

https://www.facebook.com/levelheadeddoc/

https://www.facebook.com/yourlevelheadeddoc

https://www.instagram.com/drandreavitz/

"The You You've Never Met: How to Stop Experiencing Pain and Chaos in All of Your Relationships by Sobering Up, Emotionally Speaking" (https://a.co/d/8VvlDQg)

"The You You've Never Met: Companion Journal" (https://a.co/d/gk0K1ZN)

FREE quiz on emotionally triggered behaviors: liftedacademy.com/remodel

CONNECT WITH JOHN

Website - https://iamjohnhulen.com

https://www.petravelzeboer.com

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Episode 229 Digital Wellbeing with Petra Velzeboer (Part 2)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

09/13/24 • 37 min

John continues his conversation with Petra Velzeboer. The two share their valuable perspectives on education, the changing job market, mental health, and the impact of digital technology on our well-being.

Petra also shares her journey of writing her first book, Begin with You, and her upcoming book, Digital Wellbeing: Recharge Your Focus and Reboot Your Life, which explores the impact of technology on our mental health and relationships.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Intro and Part 1 recap

[01:27] - The assumption that every high school graduate will go to college

[02:27] - The changing job market

[05:51] - How she secured her TEDx talk through networking

[07:33] - Petra’s book Begin with You, its inspiration, and focus

[11:03] - Petra’s upcoming book Digital Wellbeing

[12:30] - Digital tech has been perpetrated on us without our permission

[14:24] - Us vs. Them politics

[17:26] - Many people have lost the skill of conversing and sharing ideas

[18:22] - Future plans for her consultancy

[20:53] - Coaching is a 2-way street

[23:47] - How Petra improves her significant relationships

[25:29] - Petra’s ideal client

[26:12] - #1 daily habit of Petra

[26:42] - Traits of a great leader

[28:19] - Best advice Petra has given

[30:29] - What Petra does to invest in her growth

[32:18] - The best way to connect with Petra

[34:01] - Book recommendations

[36:49] - Closing remarks

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“Networking is just a superpower.”

“Isn’t it interesting that if you offer something to someone, they just want to help.”

“Educating people that mental health is about all of us. It’s about the health of our mind. It’s not mental illness; that’s just a part of it.”

“When we say mental health, we think crisis. But actually, it’s about, ‘How do we perform at our best? How do we sustain success? How do we live our best lives?’”

“Empathy and authenticity open the space for others to be open with you.”

“Coaching, like any other relationship, is a two-way street. There has to be, ‘I think you’re a good fit,’ and you have to think, ‘I’m a good fit.’ It has to go both ways. And if it doesn’t, it isn’t going to work.”

“Selling is serving. Because if you’re truly serving people, they never feel sold to. Ever.”

“You’ll learn through the movement forward, not through the strategizing. The opposite of a perfectionist is someone who moves forward, and as you’re moving, your creative juices will flow.”

“Growth is in my bones. It’s in my blood. It’s the only thing I know, and sometimes to my detriment, because sometimes people are like, let’s just take a breath and appreciate where we are.”

BOOKS MENTIONED:

The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan (https://a.co/d/fDXv3tF)
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski (https://a.co/d/6CbEe47)
Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home by Toko-Pa Turner (https://a.co/d/fE04Odh)
The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact by Chip Heath and Dan Heath (https://a.co/d/isiP1Yg)

PODCASTS MENTIONED:

The Diary Of A CEO Podcast ( https://tinyurl.com/DiaryOfACEOPodcast)
The Rich Roll podcast ( https://tinyurl.com/TheRichRollPodcast)

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/petra-velzeboer/

https://www.instagram.com/petra.velzeboer/

https://www.youtube.com/@petra.velzeboer

“Begin with You: Invest in Your Mental Well-Being and Satisfaction at Work” (https://a.co/d/dbI2Nu8)

“Digital Wellbeing: Recharge Your Focus and Reboot Your Life” (https://a.co/d/1EZarkm)

CONNECT WITH JOHN

https://www.thechristinejewell.com

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Episode 214 Drop the Armor with Christine Jewell (Part 2)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

06/07/24 • 35 min

In Part 1, John and Christine discussed the events that shaped Christine’s views on love and relationships. They talked about how she overcame past traumas, learned more about herself, and forgave those who hurt her, including herself.

In this episode, they delve deeper into relationships, the challenges both men and women face, the importance of emotional connection and physical intimacy, and building and maintaining a thriving relationship with your partner.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Men’s emotional intelligence and pursuing partners

[03:26] - Importance of both partners playing their roles

[06:24] - Feeling secure in a relationship

[10:34] - Merging coaching businesses

[12:24] - Integrated solutions for CEOs and their teams

[14:12] - The Thriving Leader event

[15:09] - Christine’s book: Drop the Armor

[18:16] - Role of faith in her business

[20:49] - Christine’s definition of success

[22:29] - #1 daily habit

[24:56] - Traits of a great leader

[27:47] - How Christine invests in her growth

[29:34] - How to get the free chapter of Drop the Armor

[34:21] - Book recommendations

[35:36] - Podcasts Christine listens to

[36:38] - Closing remarks

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“What most women want more than anything else is to connect with their men on a heart level. That’s about emotions and feelings, two things men are scared to death because they’re not used to talking about them.”

“Getting something is easy. Anybody can get something. Sustaining it is a different level of character. Multiplying is another different level of character.”

“We have to learn how to nourish the relationship, nourish the person, the partnership. And it takes consistency.”

“The reason why men won’t talk about their feelings is because they’re afraid of being judged. And the worst thing you can do is judge a man when he finally does open up.”

“If you want your man to open up, you’ve got to create a safe space. You’ve got to be the safest place on earth for him.”

“Being present, showing up with an open heart, and just being available for the people around you is the greatest gift you can give.”

BOOKS MENTIONED:

Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeown (https://a.co/d/5LXXbhk)
Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown (https://a.co/d/24jbrkB)
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World by John Mark Comer (https://a.co/d/2N9kuHI)

PODCAST MENTIONED:

Elevation with Steven Furtick ( https://tinyurl.com/ElevationSFPodcast)

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.instagram.com/thechristinejewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/christine-jewell-9361612a/

https://www.facebook.com/thechristinejewell

https://www.youtube.com/@christinejewell

Breaking Chains Podcast (https://pod.link/1579338652)

Drop the Armor: Release the Past, Ignite Your Faith, and Unlock an Extraordinary Life (https://a.co/d/2fbPUwg)

CONNECT WITH JOHN

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EPISODE CREDITS

Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/

Episode 207 Bill of Emotional Rights with Dr. Ardeshir Mehran (Part 1)

Relationships & Revenue with John Hulen

04/20/24 • 39 min

John talks with Dr. Ardeshir Mehran, a psychologist with over 30 years of experience who specializes in helping clients deal with anxiety and depression. Dr. Mehran is also a psychoanalyst, transformation leader, leadership coach, and the author of the book You Are Not Depressed, You Are Un-Finished: Use Feelings of Depression and Anxiety to Fuel a Soaring Life.

Listen to this episode to learn more:

[00:00] - Intro

[01:09] - Dr. Mehran’s bio

[01:47] - Dr. Mehran’s journey with depression and psychology

[06:19] - The simplicity of healing mental illness

[08:52] - Accelerated healing through therapy

[09:48] - Seven basic human needs and overcoming depression

[17:40] - Dr. Mehran’s Emotional Rights Manifesto

[20:34] - Depression is the symptom rather than the cause

[22:12] - Becoming the person you’re meant to be to cure depression

[26:21] - Dr. Mehran’s unconventional approach to mental wellness

[27:45] - Addressing root causes of depression

[30:18] - 1/3 of US medical visits due to depression

[33:14] - Need for a holistic approach to healthcare

[37:13] - Harm caused by symptom-focused approaches

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“People don’t fake depression. They fake being okay.”

“The story of mental illness and coming out of it is a story of his soul in pain.”

“Depression at its core is a sense of grieving, a sense of loss, a sense of disconnection to want to your access to your emotional rights that is yours.”

“There is no greater agony than blowing an untold story inside you.”

“Depression is a symptom of a life unlived. It’s your soul screaming at you to wake up and reconnect with your essence.”

“Opposite of depression is not happiness; it is fulfillment.”

“Follow the energy. Lean into what excites you, what brings you joy, and use that as your North Star to navigate towards a more fulfilling life.”

“Your emotional rights are yours to claim. Honor them, value them, and watch as your depression turns to energy and purpose.”

“Depression dissolves when you awaken to your true self. Your cure lies in being the person you were meant to be.”

“The gift of seeing a person by itself is healing.”

“Dealing with symptoms rather than root causes doesn’t help.”

“We should not tolerate people becoming more dependent on the system. Let’s help them live fulfilling lives.”

USEFUL RESOURCES:

https://www.instagram.com/dr.ardeshirmehran/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ardeshir-mehran-ph-d-a3457/

https://www.youtube.com/@ArdeshirMehranPhD

You Are Not Depressed, You Are Un-Finished: Use Feelings of Depression and Anxiety to Fuel a Soaring Life https://a.co/d/7Sxp61q

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