Relationship School Podcast

Why do so many men use porn? What is it doing for them?

I think it's obvious that porn can ruin your relationship, but what's not so obvious is why so many men use porn. What is going on inside the male brain.

I have my own theories but I wanted to hear from THE porn expert on this...

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

• • • The link between chronic erectile dysfunction and porn use [11:00]
    • How do you know when porn use is a problem? [13:00]
    • Can people use porn in a healthy way? [16:00]
    • Why are people using porn? [19:00]
    • How many women are watching porn? [23:00]
    • Religion and porn [22:00]
    • When men use porn for ‘stress relief’ [27:00]
    • How internet porn is shaping our sexuality [36:00]
    • How to heal porn addiction through relationship [48:00]

In this episode I answer listeners’ questions on long-distance relationships, how to win him back, entitlement and sex, blended families, divorce, and much more. It’s a shorty but a goodie.

SHOWNOTES

• What does an over-supportive relationship look like? [2:30]
• What does it mean when a man says he “needs a break” from the relationship? [4:15]
• How to win back a guy? [6:14]
• What’s the best way to break through your triggers? [7:43]
• How to make a 2nd or 3rd marriage work out? [9:07]
• What to do when your partner only feels criticized? [11:33]
• How to deal with a man who feels sexually entitled? [13:20]
• What is the viability of long-distance relationships? [15:28]
• Jayson’s one-question challenge to listeners [18:17]

This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of technology on relationships.

Timestamps:

• 0:46 - Guest introduction
• 7:04 - Levels of development
• 9:33 - The five stages
• 17:12 - Relational development
• 20:41 - Four frameworks
• 25:28 - Working on yourself through relationship
• 27:34 - Spiritual development
• 30:56 - Doing relational work as a man
• 36:18 - Moving from doing to being
• 39:14 - Is distraction a defense mechanism?
• 41:56 - Being present with your kids
• 45:11 - Digital distractions
• 51:51 - Making Integral Theory digestible
• 54:59 - Dissolving polarity
• 58:46 - Escaping the maze of victimhood
• 1:02:17 - What are Mark and Jayson up to currently?
• 1:05:54 - Action steps

Links:

• #281 - Lessons From A Navy Seal During Tough Times - Mark Divine
• Mark Divine's Website
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
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Your relationship questions are answered in this episode. We cover a lot of ground. One theme is how to deal with “value” differences in an intimate relationship. This one is really good because it can tear a relationship apart trying to fit each other into your respective boxes of how you prefer they be.

SHOWNOTES

• How long to wait for your partner to blend your families and get married? [7:15]
• How can partners adapt in a relationship when one partner has a chronic illness? [11:45]
• Why do men lie? [14:00]
• What’s the reason our relationship improves when my man hangs out with this guy friends? [17:30]
• How to tell your guy about erectile dysfunction without making it worse? [20:00]
• What skills are best to use when you’re highly triggered and avoid an argument? [21:45]
• How to keep childhood issues from breaking up your relationship? [23:45]
• How do you know when to take 100% responsibility and when to leave a partner who is not willing to do the work? [26:00]
• What if your ex is creating challenges for me to blend families with my new partner? [30:00]
• When you have different values, what’s the best way to deal with that? [33:30]
• Does it make sense to avoid dating men whose taxi light isn’t on, like Miranda said in Sex & The City?
• What about when partners have opposite views on how to handle money in a relationship? [40:45]
• Long-distance relationships: how do I get my man to show me that he’s emotionally ready to commit? [42:45]
• What should a woman do with her kids when their dad just walks out? [44:15]
• How to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable? [46:45]
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If you are a helper, therapist, or coach (or you are curious), here’s a great podcast I just recorded about helping others and taking the leap to be a relationship coach.

Shownotes:

• 9:50 What is coaching?
• 11:30 How to become a good relationship coach
• 25:05 About our coaching program
• 37:25 Action step

Useful Links:

• https://relationshipschool.com/rct
• https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/therapy-vs-coaching-sc-139/