Reality Rules

Sarah and Yvette get candid about personal experiences in the realms of bisexuality and polyamory, aka ethical non-monogamy and open relationships in a three part series. This is part 3.

-Experiencing group sexual energy

-How Sarah wasn’t self-aware of and was in denial of her attraction to women when younger

-Profound sexual satisfaction and expansion in long term monogamy

-A dynamic Relationship Manifesto

-Yvette’s experience of a secret sexual affair

-Commitment to honesty, truth, integrity, and foundational friendship

-Trusting each other in relationships that we want to support each other’s total joy

-Dynamic evolving personal boundaries and commitments

-Telling or not telling family of origin about evolving sexual preferences and lifestyle

-Celebrating exploration, curiosity, and following desire ethically through having more of these conversations

-The risk and reality of losing friends due to conflicting beliefs and value judgments about sex and marriage

-Willingness to be rejected for authentic self-ownership and expression

-Easing into authentic expression with caution

-Giggles

Intro/outro song: "Stop That Holy Dance" by Climber. Listen to Climber music on Spotify: shorturl.at/ouxS2
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Sarah and Yvette get candid about personal experiences in the realms of bisexuality and polyamory, aka ethical non-monogamy and open relationships in a three part series. This is part 2.

-Yvette and her husband’s unique and evolving open marriage dynamics

-Caution in exploring and changing the relationship rules

-Sarah’s experience facing deeply rooted fears around sexual freedom, deconstructing from Christian fundamentalist purity culture upbringing, and an open relationship with a “wild man”

-So much establishing of trust through non-judgmental vulnerable exploration through conversation

-Polyamory as friendship that includes sharing in sexual and sensual pleasure in the same ways we share in other pleasures

-Making up the rules in each unique relationship

-Compersion - experiencing pleasure in imagining or witnessing the other person’s sexual pleasure with someone else

-Reflections on same sex and group sex exploration

-How sex keeps getting better and evolving and expanding into more, beyond what we had previously imagined

-Facing the fear of judgment about having these conversations publicly

-For Sarah, sexuality and spirituality are inextricably tied, and liberation in both areas has been intertwined

-Facing societal and cultural assumptions and judgments

Intro/outro song: "Stop That Holy Dance" by Climber. Listen to Climber music on Spotify: shorturl.at/ouxS2
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Sarah and Yvette get candid about personal experiences in the realms of bisexuality and polyamory, aka ethical non-monogamy and open relationships in a three part series. This is part 1.
-Sarah’s experiences of growing up in Christian fundamentalist purity culture

-Yvette’s experience of exploring her bisexuality and approaching her husband about opening marriage into ethical non-monogamy

-Sexuality as dynamic over time and across various circumstances

-Desire as a wise leader, even if you don’t necessarily know the logical reasons why you want something

-Yvette’s experience with internalized shame about same sex attraction

-Exploring hesitancy to come out to family and friends about both bisexuality and polyamory

-Facing others’ judgements about polyamory

-When family and friends are worried and can’t support or celebrate changes

-How ethical non-monogamy can both challenge and enhance marital intimacy

-Trusting ourselves when we’re happy and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks

Intro/outro song: "Stop That Holy Dance" by Climber. Listen to Climber music on Spotify: shorturl.at/ouxS2
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Macie LaRae and Emily Jameson and I walked closely through a season of our transitions out of marriage and out of conservative Christianity. In this episode, we explore some of the core truths we've learned on our journeys.
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For the women going through the painful transitions of ending marriages and leaving religions- there’s a light at the end of the tunnel... it gets better.

Every relationship is a teacher and alchemical container that serves our growth, and there is no such thing as failure.

We learn through experiencing things.

Trusting inner intuitive guidance that draws us toward connections.

Choosing ourselves over and over, even when facing projections of fear and judgment from others.

Re-membering the dismembered pieces of our psyches.

Permission to take up space.

Being authentic when it might mean family rejects us.

Holding space for the losses and grief that come with the growth.

New perspectives necessitate new interpretations of our personal histories- rewriting our lives.

Grieving the energy we spent working so hard for our whole lives to be good.

Feeling better on the other side of divorce.

When anxiety and the feeling of constriction increase, expansion is right around the corner.

When our theology was too small for the experiences of life we were having.

No longer participating in our own oppression.

Permission to try different churches.

Spiritual bypassing.

Sometimes church can be a bridge.

When institutions and ideologies become idols.

Much of Christianity is not of Christ.

Making up our own Gods and religions.

Either Way beliefs, when we can’t understand the Mystery.

It is so freeing to not have to be right.

Learning to listen to the language of our bodies.
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Macie LaRae's boxing gym in Portland, OR: equipacademypdx.com, insta: @equipacademypdx
Emily Jameson trauma-aware transformational coaching - reconnecting women to their sacred and sexual sovereignty: emilyjamesoncoaching.com, insta: @theemilyjameson

Intro/outro song: "Bugbear" by Climber. Listen to Climber music on Spotify: shorturl.at/ouxS2
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(Recorded live at Edgefield McMenamins) Sarah interviews Thomas Schnaars about his experience of converting to Christianity in his early twenties, becoming a church leader and teacher, and then leaving the religion in his late thirties and stepping into a more expansive spiritual cosmology.

Contact Thomas for personalized in depth astrology readings: [email protected]

This episode explores:

issues with Christian doctrines of hell, sin, separation from God, etc., as well as with some of the abuse inherent in Christian culture and values.

the wisdom in pulling on threads of doubt and trusting in a higher power (if there is one) to help us follow truth (if there is truth), even and especially when it leads us away from the versions of reality with which we've been indoctrinated by religion.

celebrating the good things about experiences in Christianity and Christian community, and taking the good things along when we leave.

experiential love, felt Oneness, and felt eternal safety outside of religious doctrines+conditions.

the importance of self-trust and intuitive knowing.

enjoying the awe and wonder in the mystery of existing.

et cetera...

Intro/outro song:

"The Simians Speak" by Climber, used with permission.

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