Ep. 323: On Being Enough, Doing Enough, Redefining Enough, and How to be an Orchard

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06/30/20 • 38 min

Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Tiffany Han

What do you think about when you hear the word "enough?"

In this episode, I’m going to tackle what I see as two different (and often competing!) realms of being and doing enough and then offer ways to help you redefine the word according to your own standards. (Amen and hallelujah to that, right?!)

First: Am I enough? This is all about YOU and how it feels to be you in your life and showing up to yourself.

Second: Am I doing enough? AKA why having a strong value of service does not mean you have to sacrifice your humanity in order to show up for the world.

I also cover the power of your values, self-alignment, the importance of not measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards, and why those tiny little steps are the way to start. Oh! And then I wrap it all up with talk of seeds, harvest, and how to make an orchard with your life.

Things I said:

"Live your life and prove to yourself what you are capable of."

"If an idea won't leave you alone, that is the sign that you are the person being gifted with that dream and vision."

"Service does not mean that you have to sacrifice your humanity."

"If you're measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards it will be impossible to live up to that."

"The only starts that we can make are small starts...one step at time."

"Don't let that voice that tells you 'You are not enough' keep you from doing anything at all."

Those Timestamps

00:43 - Am I enough? - YOU, purpose, and service

10:35 - Reckoning with discomfort

14:36 - Are you doing enough?

18:20 - Values and self-alignment

23:02 - Stop letting others decide for you

28:53 - The power of small steps

32:17 - The apple seed metaphor

Show Notes:

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What do you think about when you hear the word "enough?"

First: Am I enough? This is all about YOU and how it feels to be you in your life and showing up to yourself.

Second: Am I doing enough? AKA why having a strong value of service does not mean you have to sacrifice your humanity in order to show up for the world.

Things I said:

"Live your life and prove to yourself what you are capable of."

"If an idea won't leave you alone, that is the sign that you are the person being gifted with that dream and vision."

"Service does not mean that you have to sacrifice your humanity."

"If you're measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards it will be impossible to live up to that."

"The only starts that we can make are small starts...one step at time."

"Don't let that voice that tells you 'You are not enough' keep you from doing anything at all."

Those Timestamps

00:43 - Am I enough? - YOU, purpose, and service

10:35 - Reckoning with discomfort

14:36 - Are you doing enough?

18:20 - Values and self-alignment

23:02 - Stop letting others decide for you

28:53 - The power of small steps

32:17 - The apple seed metaphor

Show Notes:

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Previous Episode

Ep. 322: On Doubt and the 5 Yes's

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This week, I'm talking about doubt and saying yes.

More specifically, I'm going to talk about how, I've shifted from thinking that "doubt means don't" to seeing doubt as a requisite part of the raise your hand say yes process and what it has shown and taught me about living life in integrity and alignment with my values.

I also tackle the commonly-heard phrase "If it's not a hell yes, it's a no" and offer a nuanced approach to both that phrase as well as the 5 different yes's I want you to consider, as well as the one that's the most important and easiest to ignore.

My goal for this episode is to give you insight into things that get in your way that you can shift as well as some new ways to think about your obligations, priorities, and how what you most want is likely found in what you're most likely to avoid.

Episode Quotes

"We have to make peace with the doubt and know that it's a part of the process."

"The hardest part is how to keep going. The hardest part is how to get back up when you've been humbled."

"When we only say yes out of obligation, we are shutting off the flow of spirit."

Those Timestamps

04:05 - Finding faith, Making peace with doubts

13:59 - When you stumble, you get back up

21:34 - The 'easy' and 'safe' yeses

26:32 - The 'obligatory' yes

36:56 - The 'OMG! I'll do it!' yes

37:42 - The 'Oh Fuck I kinda hate this I kinda love this!' yes

39:55 - Self-communion and self-agency

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Next Episode

Ep. 324: But what about the guilt?

This week, I'm talking about guilt. The guilt of letting people down we try to avoid. The guilt of living out of alignment we try to avoid. The guilt of not doing "enough" we try to avoid. (Yeah. Can you see a theme here?) In this episode, I'm sharing how to grapple with all of that guilt, the importance of being rooted and grounded in yourself, understanding your core values and what matters most to you, and what it means to live a life in alignment with your values. (And, why, at the end of the day, guilt isn't the most important thing to pay attention to.) What I said: "Challenges don't mean it is bad or that you shouldn't be there. Often it means that we are on the right track." "The moment of guilt doesn't have to define our character." "When we get grounded in ourselves, we are less likely to live at the whims of trends." "It is essential that you are aware of your own unique set of core values." "There is a deeper peace and freedom when we live in a way that is in alignment with our values." Those Timestamps 02:36 - Summer Learning Lab coming soon 04:26 – Recognize that there's not 100% unbumpy solution 09:38 - The ‘helicopter’ approach to guilt management 14:59 - Get Rooted! Be your own anchor 21:15 - Understand what matters most to you 26:43 - Faith and integrity 29:21 - Be willing to have constant interventions with yourself Show Notes: RSVP for the How to Have the Life You Want Webinar Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode