Breaking the “Rules” – A discussion on a recent wedding planning article on Vogue.com

01/26/16 • 13 min

Put A Ring On It: The Wedding Planning Podcast

For our first mini-episode of Put A Ring On It, we’re talking about breaking wedding rules. And we’re specifically talking more about the highly controversial article recently seen on Vogue.com, called “The 10 Wedding Rules To Break”. It’s a piece written by Molly Guy and while it’s caused quite the stir in the wedding industry, we decided to take a pragmatic approach and break down the article a bit further.

We talked about:

A wedding is a luxury, not a necessity. The only pieces you technically “need” to officially tie the knot is a marriage license and someone who can legally marry you. Everything else is a bonus and completely up to you.
Want a fun alternative to the awkward garter and bouquet toss? Wrap a $20 bill around your bouquet and have your Band or DJ announce everyone to get on the dance floor and toss it. Watch your guests scramble and have a ball!
Make sure you PLAN time for the two of you to spend together on your day. Don’t let it be an afterthought.
If you want quality photos, hire a professional photographer. Don’t expect the same result from drunken guests with disposable cameras and uncharged iPhones.
You get what you pay for.
What you do with that day is up to you as a couple and the most important aspects of your day are also your choice.

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We talked about:

A wedding is a luxury, not a necessity. The only pieces you technically “need” to officially tie the knot is a marriage license and someone who can legally marry you. Everything else is a bonus and completely up to you.
Want a fun alternative to the awkward garter and bouquet toss? Wrap a $20 bill around your bouquet and have your Band or DJ announce everyone to get on the dance floor and toss it. Watch your guests scramble and have a ball!
Make sure you PLAN time for the two of you to spend together on your day. Don’t let it be an afterthought.
If you want quality photos, hire a professional photographer. Don’t expect the same result from drunken guests with disposable cameras and uncharged iPhones.
You get what you pay for.
What you do with that day is up to you as a couple and the most important aspects of your day are also your choice.

Links mentioned:

Follow along on the socials:

Podcast Insta: @putaringonitpodcast
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Dan's Insta: @danielmoyerphoto

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Previous Episode

Preparing for Bad Weather On Your Wedding Day

It’s episode four of the first season of the Put A Ring On It Podcast and we’re talking about bad weather on your wedding day. This episode features three guests who got married during two MAJOR weather events in 2011... and lived to tell the tale. First up, Amanda talks about her wedding in the middle of Hurricane Irene. In the second half, Kristen and Joe talk about the freak snowstorm that caused their venue to lose total power.

We talked about:

Have a Plan B – and make sure you’re “ok” with it as an option
Talk with your venue about WHEN you need to make the call as to whether or not you’ll be using your Plan B – most venues need HOURS or even a few days notice to make the adjustment.
Hire great pros that you feel comfortable with and that you trust
Your guests will take cues from you and your partner: If you freak out, they likely will, too; if you stay calm, they will probably follow suit.

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Next Episode

Day-Of Coordination with Bree Ryback of Capitol Romance

Welcome to the fifth episode of Put A Ring On It Podcast. In today’s episode, Bree Ryback of Capitol Romance talks all about wedding planning, specifically day-of coordination, and why every couple REALLY and TRULY deserves it. There is also a brief interlude that involves some major geeking out on Harry Potter.

About Bree:

Bree Ryback is the editor and founder of the DC wedding blog Capitol Romance. Not only has she achieved Danielle’s lifelong dream of having her house featured on Houzz, but this gal is also one stand-up wedding coordinator. Bree just celebrated her five-year anniversary to her main squeeze, Andy, and they have one pumpkin of a little girl who is just positively adorable.

So we’re talking with Bree today because Danielle is one of her several thousand followers on Twitter and has had the pleasure of getting to know her throughout the years and absolutely LOVES her approach to wedding days. We thought she would bring something extra special and unique and we’re truly honored to have her here!

We talked about:

Bree got hitched back in 2010 and started her blog, Capitol Romance, to help rad couples meet equally rad wedding pros, and then evolved into a practical wedding coordinator.
Bree identifies more as a “wedding coordinator”, “wedding consultant” or “wedding concierge” vs. a wedding planner. (Which is very similar to Danielle)
A venue coordinator’s job is to focus on the needs of the venue, first and foremost. Not all venue coordinators are the same, but most don’t cover all of the items an independent planner/consultant does. They act more as sales managers or catering managers, and some aren’t present on your wedding day. They don’t traditionally oversee any events of the day that do not take place on-site (like getting ready, photos, or even your ceremony).
Day-Of Coordinators give couples the support to make the day and/or weekend go smoothly. This includes giving advice, creating and driving a timeline, talking with your pros, and making sure all of your details are covered.
Day-Of Coordination starts WAY before the actual wedding day – often weeks or even months in advance.
Bree’s favorite part of the day: VOWS!!!
Don’t worry about incorporating
Bree’s advice for couples: hire professional vendors.
Bree had the best wedding day ever, but will never forget the one hiccup that happened...

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