The Sex Talk You Never Got

10/18/24 • 37 min

In this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality.

We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction between normal arousal and lust. Sam highlights the need for competent counseling and open dialogue to foster a healthier understanding of men's sexual formation. This episode is a heartfelt call to reclaim the beauty and complexity of human sexuality as God designed it.

To learn more about Sam and the book, visit SamJolman.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Importance of open conversations about sexuality
Personal experiences and backstory of the speaker as a therapist and father
The role of competent counseling in addressing sexual issues
Impact of shame and purity culture on men's understanding of sexuality
Distinction between normal arousal and lust
Concept of the "wow response" to beauty and attraction
Nature of sexuality as a means for emotional and relational connection
Influence of generational patterns of shame on sexual education
Guidance for parents on discussing sexuality with children
Encouragement for ongoing dialogue about sexuality rather than a single conversation

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The Sex Talk You Never Got* by Sam Jolman
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men
Our Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher West

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To learn more about Sam and the book, visit SamJolman.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Importance of open conversations about sexuality
Personal experiences and backstory of the speaker as a therapist and father
The role of competent counseling in addressing sexual issues
Impact of shame and purity culture on men's understanding of sexuality
Distinction between normal arousal and lust
Concept of the "wow response" to beauty and attraction
Nature of sexuality as a means for emotional and relational connection
Influence of generational patterns of shame on sexual education
Guidance for parents on discussing sexuality with children
Encouragement for ongoing dialogue about sexuality rather than a single conversation

More Resources:

The Sex Talk You Never Got* by Sam Jolman
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men
Our Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher West

Related Podcasts:

*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.

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Identifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed Wife

In this episode, I welcome back Lyschel Burket, an expert in helping women heal from betrayal trauma, especially in marriages affected by infidelity. Lyschel shares her personal journey and emphasizes the importance of community, safety, and communication in the healing process.

We discuss the unique emotional challenges women face after betrayal and the critical role of support and understanding from both partners and their community. Lyschel also highlights the spiritual aspect of healing, stressing how Christ provides hope and safety during suffering and grief. It’s a heartfelt conversation aimed at offering solace and guidance to those traveling this difficult path.

To learn more about Lyschel and her resources for wives, visit HopeRedefined.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Healing journey of women experiencing betrayal trauma, particularly in marriages.
Importance of community support and connection during the healing process.
Emotional challenges faced by women after discovering betrayal.
Need for safety and stabilization as foundational aspects of healing.
Communication between partners to rebuild trust and understanding.
Unique experiences of betrayal and the necessity for empathy from partners.
Role of the betraying partner in supporting the healing process.
Impact of trauma on the grieving process and emotional responses.
Self-care practices and accountability for betrayed partners.
Spiritual aspect of healing and finding hope through faith.

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A Journey of Redemption and Healing

In this episode, I chat with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell about their incredible journey of healing and redemption from sexual brokenness in their marriage. They are the founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and help other couples overcome their past and fight for their future.

In our conversation, Phil opens up about his long-term struggle with pornography and the devastating impact it had on their relationship. Priscilla shares her raw emotions of betrayal and anger, and how she found the strength to forgive. Together, they highlight the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and seeking help. Their story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest times, transformation and healing are possible through faith and open communication.

To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their ministry, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

Personal struggles with pornography and its impact on marriage
The journey of confession and the importance of transparency
Emotional wounds and their influence on behavior
The role of accountability and seeking help in recovery
The process of healing from betrayal and anger
The significance of communication in rebuilding trust
The impact of struggles on family dynamics and relationships
The transformative power of vulnerability and honesty
The development of a new ministry to support others facing similar challenges
Encouragement for others to pursue healing and restoration in their relationships

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