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79: Healing Trauma with Expressive & Play Therapies with Marshall Lyles
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10/13/20 • 37 min
In this episode, Marshall Lyles shares his passion for helping his clients heal from trauma through Expressive Arts. When I reached out to Marshall to invite him on the podcast, I requested a conversation focusing on his use of poetry with his clients. In this episode, you’ll notice that we cover much more than poetry. Marshall is highly trained and well versed in so many healing traumas and approaches that it was difficult to limit our conversation. I’m excited for you to experience our conversation about how he used expressive arts to heal trauma. He is an EMDRIA approved consultant and a Registered Play Therapist Supervisor, among many other credentials that speak to his capacity to treat trauma. Be sure to visit www.marshalllyles.com
www.therapistsworkshop.com to learn more about him and to see his beautiful expressive arts studio.
78: The Profound Healing Power of Virtual Sand Tray Therapy with Jessica Stone Ph.D
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09/29/20 • 27 min
In this episode of Play Therapy Community podcast, Dr. Jessica Stone shares all about the healing power of Virtual Sandtray Therapy. She is the brilliant creator of the Virtual Sandtray App used by an increasing number of clinicians around the globe. Development of the Virtual Sandtray app intentionally included the main tenets of Sandtray Therapy to preserve its profound therapeutic healing power. You can find more about Dr. Stone, the Virtual Sandtray Therapy application, and her professional trainings at: www.jessicastonephd.com
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42: When a Child is Shamed
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11/14/16 • 25 min
Episode 42, When a Child is Shamed
In This Episode:
It’s important to understand what shame is and what isn’t
Shaming is when someone induces humiliation, embarrassment, and a feeling of guilt, regret, or deep sadness on another person.
Shaming is not motivating, although that is a common misconception. Sometimes people think “if they feel really bad about what they did, then they won’t do it again.” But it doesn’t work like that. It is in essence a trauma that can cause long term maladaptive behaviors. Many people that struggle with addiction, relationship issues, and other tough life struggles often have shame in their past.
My friend and podcasting colleague, Robert Cox has a really good podcast episode on this his podcast, Mindful Recovery. GUILT AND SHAME RIDDING THE SOUL OF TOXICITY The link http://mindfulrecoverypodcast.libsyn.com/guit-and-shame-ridding-the-soul-of-toxicity
Making mistakes is actually a healthy part of child development. Allowing your child to make and learn from mistakes while the price tags are small is a huge gift to your child. Life experience is the best teacher. It’s so much more effective than lectures, put downs, shaming, or “I told you so’s”.
Empathy, clear expectations and logical choices are much more effective in helping your child grow into a self-confident, responsible, ambitious individual that enjoys life.
Ongoing culture of shame decreases the quality of life for the entire family.
The trauma of shaming can be substantial, but if it’s an ongoing form of discipline, it can be devastating and often unbearable.
Shame undoubtedly damages the parent child relationship. It simply can’t be unfelt. I just recently watched THE FAULT IN OUR STARS. I love that movie! My daughter is a huge John Green fan. She’s read all of his books. In that movie, one of the actors says “PAIN DEMANDS TO BE FELT”. This is so very true.
It can establish a dysfunctional cycle that can lead to generations of pain and dysfunction. If you tempted to shame your child, check in with what may be going on for you. Was this something that you experienced as a child? Is part of your heart hurting or could you use some healing? I’ve seen great healing occur through therapy as well as work with one’s inner child. It’s important to realize that blame, whether on self or others, isn’t on the healthy road to healing. But, rather a focus on “I need to put on my own oxygen mask...” is much healthier for everyone.
Shame can cut deep. Each person is so unique, so everyone has a different experience. What is common though is that it hurts in a way that words can’t accurately describe.
I really feel like part of the soul withers with shaming. For people of all ages, it erodes feeling of self-worth and self-esteem.
Ultimately, shame establishes a dysfunctional perception of a healthy relationship. When children grow up they often, but not always, use their formative childhood years as a blueprint of how life “should”be. If that “should” is maladaptive, it can be a long, hard road for them filled with heartache and pain.
I’ve noticed that causes people to put up emotional walls to keep themselves safe. It is ultimately a type of emotional abuse, especially if it is ongoing. It limits our children’s vulnerability, which limits their options in life with relationships, careers, dreams and so much more.
Shame manifests itself in the body. Shame fragments itself in the body in messy, infiltrating way that can take years of work to heal from.
Engrains negative cognitions in the brain such as i am not worthy, i can’t do anything right, i’m a jerk, i’m defective, i’m a bad person and such
“An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” Really does have some merit. Fixing the effects of shaming is much more difficult than preventing it.
The quote “HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE” is a quote worth considering in this discussion of shaming. When someone is deeply hurt, they often hurt others from their pain. Looking at it from a child’s perspective, shaming, whether they are the target or someone that they love and identify with is, they may be tempted to transfer that pain. Sometimes that can look like depression, anxiety, bully type behavior, aggression and much more.
For parents that default to shaming, give yourself permission to learn a new approach. Maya Angelou says when people know better, they do better. This is so true.
If you are prone to shaming, it’s important to reflect on what messages you were sent as a child. Ask yourself, “is this helping or hurting my child?”.
A more effective way is to use empathy to connect with your child. I love the ACT Limit Setting model (Acknowledge the Feeling, Communicate the Alternative, and Target the Alternative) that is described in Child Parent Relationship Therapy. If you haven’t done so yet, be sure to check out ep...
38: When a Parent Struggles with Anxiety: Calming and Coping Techniques
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10/17/16 • 60 min
In This Episode:
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Today’s episode is all about what it is like when a parent struggles with anxiety, as well as some options to heal from and some coping skills to get through the trying times.
My work has been greatly influenced by my work in EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing and reading books like The Body Keeps the Score by Dr Bessel Van der Kolk and Peter Levine’s Healing Trauma.
I think it’s important to begin with a discussion of what anxiety is and what it is not. Mental Health clinicians use a book to clinically diagnose Anxiety Disorder called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. At the time of this recording, we are using the 5th edition. Anxiety disorders can come in different forms. In this episode we’re going to look at symptoms and coping skills rather than a diagnosis. Anxiety can come in many different forms – Separation Anxiety Disorder (I see this most often with children and some teens) , Selective Mutism, Specific Phobia , Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia), Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia (fear of places or situations), Generalized Anxiety Disorder (what I see most commonly in my work) ,Substance/Medication-Induced Anxiety Disorder, Anxiety Disorder Due to Another Medical Condition and more.
Anxiety, like the range of emotions that we experience, are all part of the human experience. Give yourself permission to be human. It’s important not to judge them good or bad, rather look at the level of functionality that it has in your life. I listened to an episode of Marie TV with Marie Forleo, with Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat Pray Love, where she talked about the function of Fear. Fear is ultimately at the foundation of anxiety. She had a great description of how it’s like fear is riding with her in the car – she puts it in the back seat, not in the front seat, not allowing it to control the radio or adjust the mirrors or grab the steering wheel. Ultimately, a certain amount of anxiety keeps us alive, keeps us from getting into situations that can hurt us.
Doctors Peter Levine and Bessel Van der Kolk describe anxiety as the smoke alarm in the brain. It goes off when there’s danger. When people have an unhealthy level of anxiety, perhaps one of the Anxiety disorders, its like to smoke alarm goes off on super sensitive mode. There’s a part of our brain called the Amygdala that serves as the smoke alarm. Our brains are brilliantly wired for our life experience. So much goes on in our brain to try to allow us to have the best lives ever. Lots of brain research has surfaced in the last 10 years, but more and more is coming out each day. All of the coping skills that I’m going to suggest may help you brain function at more optimal level during times of distress. Please know that these things are not like a light switch, but rather a dimmer, that can help one calm down slowly. If these things don’t seem to help, seeking out professional assistance from a mental health professional may help you get to the root of these fears on a deeper level. As a clinician, I’ve seen amazing progress with EMDR, EFT, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, and a body based therapy called Somatic Experiencing. These types of therapy surpass the limitation of words by incorporating the entire brain and body in the healing process. It can happen so quickly sometimes, it leaves me questioning if it’s really healed. Has the person really moved past and escaped from the grips of the Anxiety, Depression, PTSD, or whatever it is they are dealing with, or is it hopeful thinking? After years of working in this field and seeing long lasting change, I am certain that these types of therapy help- help people get their quality of life back. And, for parents it allows them to be fully engaged with their children and spouse if they are married. It can be truly remarkable! I think everyone can use therapy at one time or another in their lives, especially if they have a difficult situation in their past and/or their present, as well as their perceived future.
In this episode we’ll going to cover what that diagnosis means, but we won’t confine ourselves to that, because anxiety can be felt to the level of meeting that clinical diagnostic criteria, but it can also be felt without. It can leave us, as parents feeling unable to cope with stressful situations, feeling trapped and overwhelmed.
Also, if you haven’t done so yet, be sure to check out Episode 33, When a Parent Struggles with Depression. http://jackieflynnconsulting.com/33-when-a-parent-struggles-with-depression/
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63: Adlerian Play Therapy with Dalena Dillman Taylor, PhD, LPC, RPT
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11/09/17 • 36 min
Dr. Taylor is an assistant professor at the University of Central Florida.
She’s also the Center for Play Therapy Training and Research Director, as well as the Play Therapy Certificate coordinator.
She earned her graduate degrees from the University of North Texas.
She learned from many of the leaders in the Play Therapy world.
Dr. Taylor is trained in Adlerian Play Therapy developed in the early 1990’s by Terry Kottman, Ph.D., Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor, NCC, LMHC
Adlerian’s belief is that people’s behavior is purposeful and goal-directed. Their early childhood experiences influence their behavior, as well as how they view themselves, others and their world.
4 Phases of Adlerian Play Therapy
(1) Relationship Building – This phase of the therapy is non-directive and supports safety in the play room. By creating a shared power, the client can really feel like a significant person in their world. This phase supports building trust within the child.
(2) Investigating the Lifestyle – In this phase, the therapist becomes more directive in their work. A focus is placed on how they view themselves, others, and the world. There are a lot of things to take into consideration for the client, especially information on their personality, how do they feel like they matter in the world.
(3) Gaining Insight – At this point in the therapeutic process, the therapist has a really good idea how the child is viewing themselves, others and world. The treatment plan is developed after phase 2, once the therapist has a good idea of who the child is and how they view the world.
(4) Reorientation –In this phase, the therapist teaches the children skillsets through role play, family work, and more. One of the goals is to directly support their ability to generalize the skills in different settings to support their self-efficacy.
The therapist looks for signs that the child is ready to move into each phase.
It’s important to truly understand the child’s lifestyle.
These 3 things are across each of the categories in the lifestyle:
- Goals for Change
- Strategies
- Progress
Parent consultation is an important component of Adlerian Play therapy. Half of the session is spent with the child and 1⁄2 of the session is spent with the parent or every other session with parent then with child is scheduled.
During the therapy, the parent is also following the 4 phases. During the parent consultation, how the parent is viewing the world is explored since it greatly influences their parenting approach.
During the parent consultation, the parent learns many of the same skills as the child, so that they can respond to the child in a different way that is supportive of the treatment plan for the child.
Dr. Taylor highly recommends reading Partners in Play by Terry Kottman 3rd Edtion.
Crucial C’s of Adlerian Play Therapy
- Courage
- Connect
- Capable
- Count
It’s important for each therapist to choose a theory that aligns with how you also view the world to foster authenticity of delivery of services.
The relationship is the most critical element of the therapy.
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43: What Parents Need to Know About Sexting
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11/21/16 • 51 min
Tiffanie Trudeau, LMHC, LPC, CSAT, NCC is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the State of Florida as well as a Licensed Professional Counselor in the Commonwealth of Virginia and District of Columbia. She earned a Dual Bachelor's of Art degree in Psychology and Criminology and a Master’s of Art degree in Mental Health Counseling. She has advanced training in: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), Sexual Assault Response, Critical Incident Stress Management Debriefing (CISM) and Sexual Addiction Therapy.
In This Episode:
What is “sexting”: Sexting refers to the sending and receiving of sexually charged material that may consist of words, images or both that are intended to sexually arouse and are sent via digital means.
What puts the child / teen at risk for this behavior?
Curiosity
Attention-seeking – separate oneself from peers
Self esteem boost – to feel attractive
Peer pressure – being directly or indirectly coerced
Easy access and perceived privacy
Modeling – celebrities in the media exposed for sexting have gained popularity
“Normal” – digital flirting, displays of affection
Where is this happening?
When we, as adults, think of social media, Facebook may be the first thing to come to mind. However, a 2013 study conducted by Forbes Magazine showed a 16% decrease in teen usage and engagement on FaceBook. Presumably because of the increase in parental and extended family presence. Young people are often using other social media platforms and messager apps such as:
Twitter,
Tumblr,
Flickr,
Whatsapp,
Vine,
Instagram,
Snaphat,
Keek
Kik
What are the consequences? Legal? Social? Emotional?
Emotional
Shame – after the text/image is sent, it cannot be retrieved. Personalizing the “bad behavior” as being a “bad person”
Fear – who might see the text/image, what is their opinion of me, my text/image
Anxiety – if I text this, will he/she expect me to “do” what I said (becoming sexually active)
Low self-esteem/poor body image – comparisons with pornographic images or peers
Depression – in the aftermath of discovery if the text/image to shared with others
Social
Rejection – “If I don’t send this text/picture to him/her, someone else will”
Ostracized – “Everybody else is doing this, if I don’t people will think I’m a prude”, “If I send this people will think I’m a ....”
Gossip – sending sexually charged images could suggest the presence of actual sexual activity, which may not be the case
Legal
The exchange of image-specific material intended to sexually arouse constitutes pornography, child pornography carrying the harshest of sentences
Receiving, possessing and distributing child pornography can be considered a 3rd degree felony carrying sentences of up to 5 years imprisonment and up to $5,000 fine
Some states have laws specific to sexting that limit harsh penalty and/or separate sexting from child pornography
How can parents respond that will help the child heal, while preserving and / or increases feelings of self-worth?
Awareness - - ignorance is NOT bliss. If your child or teen is over-protective of their phone, it may be because of photos they wish to hide or websites they do not want you to know they have visited
Be present and engaged. Children/teens want to connect and also fear rejection. Being on your phone or preoccupied with occupational or domestic responsibilities can make parents/caregivers seem inaccessible
Listen and be prepared (emotionally and cognitively) for what might be shared. If you ask about your child/teens online behavior, be mindful of your reactions/judgments (avoid saying “what were you thinking”, “I can’t believe you did that”, “you weren’t raised that way”)
Compassion and empathy. The child and teen brain is still developing, and so is their ability to reason, predict future outcomes related to their behavior and manage impulses. They are still learning. As parents and adults, our roles include reminding ourselves that they are not merely little adults.
How can parents educate and encourage their child / teen to make different/safer choices in the future?
Open and regular communication regarding decision-making and safe online behavior (includes sexting and cyber-bullying). Once a message/image is sent it cannot be taken back and privacy cannot be guaranteed once the text/image is received by someone else
Process parental fears, beliefs and biases regarding sexual behavior to reduce reactivity
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52: Supporting Grieving Children and Families at the Dougy Center with Jana Cristofaro
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04/14/17 • 21 min
Episode 52 – Supporting Grieving Children and Families at the Dougy Center
In this episode:
Jana Cristofaro covers the following:
- Describes the mission of The Dougy Center.
- Tells how it was created (Dougy's story).
- Describes who is eligible to receive services through your program and what is the process.
- Describes what services look and feel like at the Dougy Center.
- Provides tips that you have for therapists working with grieving children and their families.
- Let’s us know about and/or donate to the Dougy Center.
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53: Sandtray Therapy and the Brain with Amy Flaherty, LPE-I, RPT
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04/14/17 • 16 min
Episode 53 – Sandtray Therapy and the Brain
Expert Guest: Amy Flaherty, LPE-I, RPT is the Founder and Director of the Southern Sandtray Institute located in Jonesboro, AR. She has a hybrid program to credential therapists as a Registered Integrative Sandtray Therapist (RIST). In addition to the formal credentialing program, Amy also offers online sandtray training through The Sandtray Suite. To find out more and grab your free Sandtray technique, simply go to www.sandtraysuite.com/ssi.
In this episode, Amy Flaherty LPE-I, RPT covers the following:
- What is Sandtray Therapy?
- She describes the relation between neuroscience and Sandtray therapy.
- She shares few examples of that she’s seen throughout her work.
- She shares her most used miniatures? And, where are some common area she finds miniatures for her collection
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56: Understanding Suicide Pacts and Social Media
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05/09/17 • 32 min
My guest today is Dr. Jonathan Singer, Ph. D., LCSW, who is an expert in the area of suicide. He is an Associate Professor of Social Work at Loyola University in Chicago and the founder and host of The Social Work podcast. He co-authored the book, Suicide in Schools. This episode focuses on suicide pacts and the social media component and is the second piece of a two-part series.
- The language we use around suicide is important. Instead of “suicide threat,” the less-threatening terminology is “suicide disclosure.” Dr. Singer shares how he helped in a suicide pact scenario years ago, before the onset of social media. His story would be very different in today’s world that’s overrun with social media platforms.
- Peers can help and even intervene in a crisis situation. In today’s world saturated with social media, teens will often be the first to hear of suicide pacts. Their awareness is crucial, so they know how to help and what to do. Dr. Singer explains how to be a friend to someone who is at risk for suicide and, specifically, how to address an online suicide pact.
- What if someone feels that they are betraying a friend? Well, “It’s better to have a friend alive and mad, than dead.” There are intense affective conversation techniques that can help keep a friend around: “Your reason for living may not be in your life yet.”
- Talking about it is so important! Dr. Singer explains that research has shown that asking kids about suicide does not increase risk, but can actually buffer the risk. Contrary to what some people think, bringing up the conversation will NOT make them suicidal. What does increase the risk is watching a graphic show about a bleak world without hope, as in the recent Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why.
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101. Practical Applications of the NeedsConnection Parenting Model
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01/03/23 • 26 min
Today I'm having a conversation with Doctor Becky to discuss the NeedsConnection Parenting Model. I'm so excited to share this experience with you. If you want to learn more about Doctor Becky you can visit her website at https://doctorbecky.com/
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