Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

Feeling like your teen "hates" you? You're not alone. One of the most frequently Googled questions by parents is: Why does my teenager hate me? From eye rolls to harsh words, lies, and disrespect, it can seem like your teen is constantly at odds with you—and even their siblings. But why do teens sometimes act so mean, and how can parents respond in a way that fosters love, respect, and kindness?

In today’s episode, we break down the reasons behind your teen's behavior and provide actionable strategies to rebuild a more loving and harmonious relationship.

• Why Your Teen “Hates” You: Common reasons within your control, stemming from your actions, reactions, or unspoken expectations.
• Your Teen’s Perspective: What’s going on in their mind that makes them act out, and why it often has nothing to do with you.
• How to Respond with Love: Practical ways to address negative behavior and guide your teen towards kindness and mutual respect.

1. Identify Root Causes: Determine whether your teen’s frustrations are linked to something within your control or their own internal struggles.
2. Shift the Dynamic: Learn how to stop the cycle of disrespect and frustration with specific communication strategies.
3. Create a Positive Home Environment: Implement proven techniques to transform conflict into connection and restore a sense of harmony in your household.

Ready to take immediate, effective action? Book a FREE 30-minute consultation where we’ll address your specific situation and create a personalized roadmap to improve your relationship with your teen. Click here to book your call.

Would you like the free PDF “Cheatsheet” with over 30+ responses and questions to turn every potential argument into a connected interaction that can better your relationship? Click HERE and it’s yours. xoxo

I hear it all the time with clients and friends: One parent is the liaison between the kids and their spouse. They soften the blow of bad news, buffer the emotions of struggle, keep their teens secrets from the other parent because they both fear that parent's reaction, and generally act as a go-between to help manage their partner's emotions.

This can feel necessary to keep the peace. This can feel like an act of betrayal. This can feel like a last ditch effort to support everyone as best you can, being the glue that holds. And usually it’s a little of all of it with some resentment sprinkled on top because you don’t want this role but have no idea how to shift it.

In today's episode I’ll teach you:

• Why we do this
• How and when to stop this behavior
• What it is really creating

To book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy call with me, click HERE and book the best spent 30 minutes you can take as a parent.

In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle the pervasive "always right" parenting trap. Are you finding yourself interrupting, being impatient, and insisting on things being done your way? Do you feel judged while also judging others, struggle to understand your teen, or face challenges with authentic engagement from your kids and spouse?

The need to always "be right" can disrupt your happiness and hinder your ability to connect with your kids and partner. It’s a common issue, yet many don’t realize how their need to be right negatively affects their family dynamics. It creates angry, apathetic and stubbornly silent teens. It promotes lying and arguing. It kills necessary vulnerability to connect on more than a surface level, and keeps the “right” parent on everyone's “wrong” side.

In today’s episode, I delve into:

1. Understanding "Always Right" Parenting: What it truly means and why it’s problematic.
2. Identifying the Signs: How to recognize "always right" behaviors in yourself. (this doesn’t make you bad or wrong, just human like the rest of us)
3. Effective Solutions: Practical steps to overcome this mindset and improve your relationships.
4. Gain REAL control: No more nagging and micromanaging your teens to feel good. We both know they don’t like to play along. I’ll show you control in the best way that you and your family will love.

By mastering these key points, you can foster more peace and fun within your family. Be prepared to discover surprising insights that could transform your parenting approach and enhance your family's well-being.

To book a free 30 minute call with me where we discover your next best parenting move, book at heatherfrazier.com

In this episode, I'm diving into the five common misunderstandings about trust that can trap parents and harm their relationships with their teens. Trust is a big issue, especially when teens engage in risky behaviors like lying, sneaking out, using substances, and other reckless actions. But what if we’re looking at trust all wrong? Here’s what we’ll cover:

• Why teens break our trust: Understanding the reasons behind lies, sneaking, and other unwanted behaviors.
• What trust really is (and isn't): Clarifying misconceptions about trust in parenting.
• What builds trust and what breaks it: Key actions that can either strengthen or damage your relationship.
• Why trust and love are separate—and why this is great news: How separating trust from love can change your perspective and improve all of your parenting interactions.
• How trust isn’t necessary to parent well: Discover why trust isn’t the foundation of effective parenting you might think, and what to focus on instead for best results.

Join me as we unpack these points and learn how to navigate trust issues with confidence, keeping your relationship with your teen strong and resilient.

Many parenting issues boil down to one specific struggle: Confidence.

Advocating for our kid, standing up to them, following through with consequences, loving unconditionally, having peace, and so many other things all have this common root struggle. Today, Tony and I discuss the details and help you find more confidence and therefore less struggle and more joy.

To learn more about parenting and order best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest, Tony: So, you may be asking yourself...How did this guy become so interested in Women’s Confidence?

My path to standing here, in front of you right now, is 100% because of my daughter...my amiga...my best buddy...Rachel.

Our story begins when she was about one. That’s when Rachel’s mom and I parted ways and circumstances led to me being a single dad at the age of 27. Here I was raising a daughter on my own.

A daughter...a gender of the human species that I thought I knew about, but in reality, had absolutely no clue! Although I didn’t know it at the time, it was the beginning of ‘girl’s world’ bootcamp for this guy and it changed my life. For the better. That epiphany led me to lean into my passion for helping others through therapy and coaching. I went back to grad school at 30 to get my Psych degree. Then my doctorate.

In 2011, I opened my own counseling and coaching company, which in turn led to the “She Talks Confidence” podcast, YouTube channel (Tony Dufresne, PhD), and the book (Surrounded by Idiots).

My podcast, speaking engagements, and online True Confidence program are labors of love that have come from three decades of success, failure, setbacks, challenges, breakthroughs, and comebacks. Find all things Tony at tonydufresne.com