93: Tackling Some of the Biggest Issues Parents Face in Raising Teens

07/15/24 • 19 min

Jon Mattleman received his B.A. from Clark University in 1978, and his MS in Counseling from the University of Hartford in 1981. Jon’s workshops and presentations are geared to give participants tools they can implement immediately, strategies that work with children and youth, and approaches which have proven to be critical to building healthy relationships. Jon frequently consults with schools, parent groups, mental health organizations, and in workplace settings regarding the issues of anxiety, stress, depression, suicide, parenting, and the emotional consequences of technology.

Jon is a certified trainer in QPR Suicide Prevention and has worked with professionals in schools, with state organizations such as the Massachusetts Probation Department, as well as with hundreds of parents regarding self-harm and suicide prevention. Jon is best known for his talk “The Secret Life of Teens and Tweens” and has presented this to thousands of parents all over New England. Jon has appeared on numerous radio and television shows lending his expertise on anxiety, depression, suicide, teens, and parenting.

When teenagers are giving their parents an attitude, how should they deal with that?
Parents shouldn’t take an attitude from their teens personally.
Be Patient. Never change your expectations of your teen, however you may need to change your timeline.
Parents can practice giving themselves a time-out so they don’t say something they wish they could take back.
What do you do if a kid gets in trouble, for example- smoking in the bathroom at school?
What do you do when you learn that your son/daughter is having sex, do you confront them?
“In the dark conversations” can be very effective when having challenging conversations as facial expressions can alter the outcome.
Jon talks about a teen’s brain and what motivates them at different stages, and how to prepare and recognize these shifts.

Sponsored by EdGerety.com

Resources

Website: https://www.jonmattleman.com
Twitter: https://x.com/Jonmattleman

When teenagers are giving their parents an attitude, how should they deal with that?
Parents shouldn’t take an attitude from their teens personally.
Be Patient. Never change your expectations of your teen, however you may need to change your timeline.
Parents can practice giving themselves a time-out so they don’t say something they wish they could take back.
What do you do if a kid gets in trouble, for example- smoking in the bathroom at school?
What do you do when you learn that your son/daughter is having sex, do you confront them?
“In the dark conversations” can be very effective when having challenging conversations as facial expressions can alter the outcome.
Jon talks about a teen’s brain and what motivates them at different stages, and how to prepare and recognize these shifts.

Sponsored by EdGerety.com

Resources

Website: https://www.jonmattleman.com
Twitter: https://x.com/Jonmattleman

Previous Episode

92: Part 2 - The Transformative Power of Conflict Resolution with Your Teen

Karleen Savage, Conflict resolution expert and certified hostage and crisis negotiator shares the tools that work during an argument with our teens.

As a trailblazer in the realm of parent-teen relationships, Karleen Savage’s insights are not confined to theory, but are forged in the crucible of real-world challenges and triumphs as a parent herself, and from her experience navigating complex conflicts as a crisis negotiator.

As the creator of the Savage Theory of Resolution®, a five-skill model that can be used to resolve any conflict, Karleen knows that peaceful and amicable resolution is possible. Karleen has been featured on MSNBC for her knowledge in hostage negotiation. She holds a Masters in Conflict Resolution & Negotiations, and she is a certified hostage and crisis negotiator. She has been married for more than 30 years and resides in Utah with her family.

Universal skills that experts use to resolve conflict
Curiosity when you and your teen don’t see eye to eye
Attitude-how do you show up in conflict?
Master listening-this is essential and Karleen shares how to master this
Connection
Reframing & phrasing: what are the words we’re using? Are you “holding” in the conversation?
Over-arching philosophies: what do you want for your teen? How do you create that as a possibility in them?
How to create parenting mantras and why it’s important?

Sponsored by EdGerety.com

Resources

Website: KarleenSavage.com
Free Download: Get a digital download of The Confident Teen Blueprint

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94: Unlocking Teen Potential: Nurturing the Subconscious Mind

Tim Moore is a Master Hypnotherapist and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner who has helped people throughout the world break free from issues and limitations that prevent them from living their best, most fulfilling lives. In addition to his work in private practice as a hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, Tim is also an author, speaker, and trainer of hypnotherapy through his Hypno-Mastery practitioner accreditation program.

In this podcast for parents of teens, we delve into understanding and nurturing the subconscious mind to help address common challenges faced during adolescence. We'll explore how to identify and overcome limiting beliefs, combat negative self-image, and develop resilience against bullying, as well as how the subconscious mind can help them reach their academic goals and future potential. The goal is to equip you with the tools to support your teen's mental and emotional well-being, empowering them to build a positive self-image and lead a more fulfilling life. Join us as we uncover the power of the subconscious mind in transforming the teenage experience.

How the mind changes the way it receives and stores information as we grow
Through our actions and best intentions, we often limit our teen's personal growth
The impact of what you say and how it can create limiting beliefs in your child/teen
How the root cause of a limiting belief can be transformed into a positive experience
The subconscious mind, the conscious mind, and willpower
The effects of social media and technology in shaping beliefs
Misconceptions of hypnosis and how it can transform your reality in profound ways
How hypnotherapy is one of the most powerful tools to making change, but also one of the most misunderstood.

Sponsored by EdGerety.com

Resources