Parenting Forward

Today, I am sharing some of my own stories and reflections to hold witness to this unique moment in history - the COVID-19 crisis. I wanted to provide five pandemic parenting lessons I've learned so far. As we make our way through this crisis, I am sure there will be more lessons to uncover. I hope this episode inspires you, encourages you, and offers you support in some way.

Show Highlights:

• The importance of giving transparent information to our kids.
• Some ways in which we can raise our kids to not buy into conspiracy theories.
• Our children can be a resource for us just as much as we are for them.
• How to capitalize on heightened spirituality.
• How to have a conversation with our children about privilege, equity. And how our well-being is intricately connected to the well-being of those around us in our neighborhoods, states, and even across the world.
• Why we should be raising our children to be storytellers.

Links (affiliates included):

Why did Jesus make the coronavirus? - https://mailchi.mp/21b30be69120/why-did-jesus-make-the-corona-virus?e=[UNIQID]

Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

If you’ve got a child nearing college or already there, this episode is for you.

We’re going to take a critical look at evangelical colleges and universities and analyze the experience they provide our kids. Having attended the evangelical college Wheaton, I have firsthand experience to bring to the table that we’ll discuss throughout today’s show.

Joining me is the host of the Chapel Probation podcast, Scott Okamoto. He grew up in a conservative Christian family but began deconstructing when he went away to college. Eventually, he became a professor at an evangelical university and started to clarify his progressive Christian beliefs. This led to him stepping away and becoming a stay-at-home dad.

Tune in to hear my conversation with Scott on the evangelical college experience from each of our unique perspectives.

Show Highlights:

• Scott’s background with evangelicalism.
• Why he stepped down from his job at APU and became a stay-at-home dad.
• What inspired him to start his podcast.
• Where I was at in my faith while attending Wheaton.
• The paradox of the evangelical college experience.
• The challenges deconstruction brings to parenting.
• Why we must love our kids well and then trust them to make the right decisions.
• Advice for parents thinking about sending their kids to an evangelical college.
• Advice for students attending an evangelical college right now.

Links (affiliates included):

Scott Okamoto Website: https://www.rscottokamoto.com

Parenting After Religious Trauma Membership - https://cindy-brandt.mykajabi.com/partmembership

Help keep the podcast going by joining the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn1Little

You Are Revolutionary - https://www.beamingbooks.com/store/product/9781506478302/You-Are-Revolutionary

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

So many of us grieved the loss of Rachel Held Evans. She was the best-selling author of several books and a hugely influential figure shaping a generation of discourse around faith. When she died in 2019 at the age of 37, we each had to cope with that grief in our own personal way.

One thing that brings me comfort is knowing that Rachel was loved by a man as good as Dan Evans. Losing your wife and the mother of your children is hard enough, but there is another layer in that Dan’s wife was a public figure. He has to raise his kids with Rachel’s ideas that are out there so publicly. In this episode, Dan and I discuss how he has gone about parenting his kids after losing Rachel.

Show Highlights:

• How Dan is making parenting decisions in light of the parenting research Rachel did in her life and what she would have wanted.
• The level of risk he is willing to take in parenting his kids.
• How the experience of shifting in his faith affects his parenting.
• Why he desires for his kids to see people with differing opinions from one another.
• Why it’s important to get comfortable with confusion.
• How he wishes the world could change to make space for a parent like him.
• How he navigates gender roles with one daughter and one son.
• Differentiating between making our kids bear the burden of our failures and celebrating the prospect of that possibility.

Links (affiliates included):

Rachel’s books: https://rachelheldevans.com/books

2016 and the Risk of Birth - https://rachelheldevans.com/blog/risk-of-birth-2016

No Drama Discipline - https://amzn.to/32UAKmY

Caring for your baby and young child -https://amzn.to/2ZZ7xVY

Episode 46: Grieving RHE - https://cindywangbrandt.com/podcast/episode-46-grieving-rhe-fox-news-empty-nesting-with-carol-howard-merritt/

Episode 58 with Sarah and Beth - https://cindywangbrandt.com/podcast/episode-58-talking-politics-with-your-kids-pantsuit-politics/

Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

All month in January, we’re talking about purity culture. I want to hold various discussions on sex to ramp up the Parenting After Purity Culture conference happening in February.

Today, I’m so excited to be talking to Brena Marie Davies about the topic. Brenda is the founder of the popular YouTube channel, God Is Grey, as well as the author of On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel.

Brenda’s book tells the story of her years growing up as a conservative Christian. Of course, with that upbringing came purity culture. In this episode, Brenda shares some of that story. She had done the amazing work of redeeming some of the toxicity from that purity culture upbringing and now helps others understand God. Tune in to hear all about her faith history, how she’s shifted in her faith, and detoxing from purity culture.

Show Highlights:

• Brenda’s deconstruction journey.
• How her view of God has changed and how that parallels her detox from purity culture.
• How purity culture affects our health and wellbeing in every way.
• Why the idea of our sexuality needs to be expanded.
• Allowing ourselves to experience pleasure and increase our sensualities.
• How purity culture still affects Brenda and how she overcomes those narratives that still creep up on her.
• How to teach our kids to know how to check in with their bodies.
• The danger of the purity culture stigma.
• How to talk about sex out of love and a desire for health instead of out of fear.

Links (affiliates included):

Brenda’s website: https://www.godisgrey.com

On Her Knees: Memoir of a Prayerful Jezebel: https://amzn.to/359YljS

Parenting After Purity Culture Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Ever been triggered by your child’s behavior? It can feel uncontrollable. No matter how hard we try to hold ourselves back when our child behaves a certain way, it immediately puts us into triggered mode.

Jen Lumanlan addressed this in her talk at my recent Parenting is Revolutionary conference. Jen holds an MS in Psychology (Child Development) and is the host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast. She is an amazing reference guide for parents of young kids and shares great parenting advice based on scientific research and the principles of respectful parenting.

In this episode, I’m sharing a snippet of Jen’s talk from the conference. She shares a little more about her background and experience with parenting triggers and teaches us how to tame these emotions when they come up. This topic is extremely important for parents at this time so tune in to learn from Jen.

Show Highlights:

• Where triggered feelings come from.
• The window of tolerance.
• Big T trauma and little T trauma.
• The many different fronts we have to heal on to tame our parenting triggers.
• How to get more of your daily needs met.
• How to widen your window of tolerance.
• Physical habits you can implement to remind yourself to pause.
• Why it’s important to share our authentic feelings with our children.
• The different triggers that come with having toddlers, adolescents, and teenagers.
• What it means to feel flooded.

Links (affiliates included):

Jen’s website - https://www.parentingmojo.com/

Parenting is Revolutionary Conference Recordings: https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/2022-sessions

Parenting After Religious Trauma Membership - https://cindy-brandt.mykajabi.com/partmembership

Help keep the podcast going by joining the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn1Little

You Are Revolutionary - https://www.beamingbooks.com/store/product/9781506478302/You-Are-Revolutionary

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.