#88 - Why Nice Guys Lose (And Bad Boys Win)
08/09/18 • 12 min
Doctor's Note: There's a recurring audio issue with this week's episode that I wasn't able to fully eliminate. I've edited around it as best as I could but it'll crop up a couple times. Sorry about that.
The idea that women like “bad boys” or “assholes”, and that there a bright line between guys who get dates — the assholes — and guys who don’t — the “nice guys” gets kicked around in dating circles as though it were gospel truth. It’s one that feels true, especially if you’re someone who thinks they fall into the nice guy side of the equation. But the reality is very different.
The issue isn’t that bad boys are desirable and nice guys are unattractive because science or evolutionary psychology or anything else. It’s far simpler than that. It’s not about what those supposed ‘bad boys’ do. It’s about what the nice guys... don’t.
Show Highlights:
- Why nice guys buy into the myth of the bad boy
- How nice guys hinder their own success
- The simple, easy way to transform an average joe into a hot man about town
- How your attitude affects your attractiveness
- The one thing "bad boys" know that nice guys don't
...and so much more
Related Links:
Being a Nice Guy Isn't Good Enough
What Bad Boys Know That Nice Guys Don't
5 Attraction Myths... DEBUNKED
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Doctor's Note: There's a recurring audio issue with this week's episode that I wasn't able to fully eliminate. I've edited around it as best as I could but it'll crop up a couple times. Sorry about that.
The idea that women like “bad boys” or “assholes”, and that there a bright line between guys who get dates — the assholes — and guys who don’t — the “nice guys” gets kicked around in dating circles as though it were gospel truth. It’s one that feels true, especially if you’re someone who thinks they fall into the nice guy side of the equation. But the reality is very different.
The issue isn’t that bad boys are desirable and nice guys are unattractive because science or evolutionary psychology or anything else. It’s far simpler than that. It’s not about what those supposed ‘bad boys’ do. It’s about what the nice guys... don’t.
Show Highlights:
- Why nice guys buy into the myth of the bad boy
- How nice guys hinder their own success
- The simple, easy way to transform an average joe into a hot man about town
- How your attitude affects your attractiveness
- The one thing "bad boys" know that nice guys don't
...and so much more
Related Links:
Being a Nice Guy Isn't Good Enough
What Bad Boys Know That Nice Guys Don't
5 Attraction Myths... DEBUNKED
Don’t forget to subscribe and review us on iTunes , Stitcher and on YouTube.
Like the podcast? Become a Dr. NerdLove patron at Patreon.com/DrNerdLove
Want more dating advice? Check out my books at www.doctornerdlove.com/books
Previous Episode
#87 - How To Overcome Neediness
When it comes to dating, there is one common issue that men have that will kill any chance you have to build attraction or a relationship: neediness.
Neediness and needy behavior is the Anti-Sex equation. No matter what else you have going for you in your life — you could travel the world, you could be world famous, you could be a millionaire with a mansion and a yacht — neediness will ultimately make people nope the hell out of your life, whether you’re in a relationship, or just trying to start one. Neediness drives people away because it's that’s a sign that someone's just not ready for a relationship.
But overcoming neediness isn't about following rules like "only text X number of times" or "only see her Y times per week"... it's about addressing the source of needy behavior.
Show Highlights:
- Why women are turned off by needy behavior
- How neediness is a sign of other dating deal-breakers
- Why men with low self-esteem have a harder time finding lasting relationships
- How fear causes needy behavior
- Why most men never overcome neediness
...and so much more.
Related Links:
Where Do You Get Your Validation?
Avoid These Dating Deal Breakers
Better Dating Through Mind Control
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Next Episode
#89 - How To Improve Your Social Skills... Quickly
One of the mistakes a lot of people make is that they assume that social success is a binary. Either you’re good with girls or you aren’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. But the good news is: that’s not true.
Dating, being more successful with women, even just being more socially fluent is a skill that you can practice, and if you can practice it, you CAN get better at it. And you can learn to improve those skills quickly by breaking things down and practicing those skills individually... and integrating that practice into your day to day life.
Show Highlights:
- How to make practicing social skills faster and more efficient
- How to master making strong eye-contact
- The secret to learning better non-verbal communication
- Why practicing awareness leads to stronger social skills
- The secret to beating approach anxiety
...and so much more.
Related Links:
How To Make Small Talk (For People Who Hate Small Talk)
5 Simple Ways To Strengthen Your Social Skills
5 Tips To Improve Your Communication Skills\
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