OUT~LAW...There is Life After Litigation

MOURNING THE EROSION OF THE CONSTITUTION! I am on my soapbox so watch out! #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper

PURPOSE PRODUCES PASSION! How I was able to discover my purpose again which has turned into my passion! What the whole video.... #OUT-LAW #witherswhisper

MY DEFAULT BUTTON IS STUCK ON WORRYING! Can you believe you were taught to worry? Do you remember your parents saying things like... ~ "You can’t have that" ~ "Money doesn’t grow on trees(in fact I say this to my husband all the time), ~ ~ "We can’t afford that" ~ "Save your pennies and maybe someday you can buy that" I SPEND WAY TO MUCH TIME and ENERGY WORRYING! Dr. Karl Pillner talked with a group of senior citizens and their #1 regret was wasting time worrying. What do you worry about? ~ Money! ~Your kid’s safety! ~ Will you die in a plane crash? ~What happens when my kids graduate from high school and leave home? Does any of this sound familiar? Money is a HUGE TRIGGER and WORRY for me. Money has always brought me safety and security and the minute I feel LACK the DEFAULT BUTTON GETS TRIPPED. DEFAULT: The minute a bill comes in or I have to look at my checking account. I get highjacked by the thoughts of where is the money going to come from, we don’t have a money tree int he back yard, what if I don’t have enough to pay for everything this month..ugh there is never enough. Guess what I have discovered that my worrying won’t actually pay the bills, won’t bring in more money and of course, worrying won’t solve anything! It just keeps me on the perpetual state of high stress and on the edge. It also robs me of enjoying the PRESENT MOMENT. This is difficult for me because if I relax into JOY I have to be VULNERABLE! If I can simply say to myself what can I be grateful for in this MOMENT or what do I want to REMEMBER it makes a HUGE shift in my brain. According to neuroscientist Alex Korb your brain chemistry changes and releases dopamine when you are grateful. The next time you feel the dEFAULT BUTTON GETTING TRIGGERED shift into WHAT CAN I BE GRATEFUL FOR OR ENJOY IN THIS PRESENT MOMENT! "Life is Amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living. Heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful." LR Knost #OUT~LAW #WITHERSWHISPER

I CAN BE PATIENT AS LONG AS I DON’T HAVE TO WAIT! Patience is not my strong suit! I am an overachiever with a Type A personality. I think this is most lawyers or for sure 100% trial lawyers. We live for that courtroom high! I set goals and am constantly learning and wanting to improve my life. YET...when I want something I want it YESTERDAY! Does that sound familiar? Whatever I do I go all out. If I say I am going to do something you don’t have to worry it will more than likely be done before the deadline. Things like ~ training for a 5K ~ Releasing weight and getting healthy ~ making a certain income. So I would plant the seed and I am constantly looking in the ground to see if it has started to grow yet. Is the crop ready, why not, do I need more fertilizer, do we need more sunshine? Why isn’t it growing? Is it growing YET??? UGH!!!! Maybe this is my training that causes me to look and seek out answers yet none the less I have learned that this is not working. There have been 2 big things in LIFE THAT I HAVE WANTED MORE THAN I WANTED TO BREATHE. One was to be married and the second was to be a mother. Neither of those has happened in my time frame. It seemed like no matter what I did my wishes, hopes and dreams just weren’t coming true! Everyone around me was getting married and having a baby and all I could think about was I JUST WANT TO PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE! I wanted to be happy for my friends yet deep down inside I was jealous and thinking... * Why not me? * What did I do wrong? * What lesson do I still need to learn? I just wanted the cliff notes in order to know whether it would be worth it in the end. I had to be open to what might be and to what might never be and could I be ok with it no matter the result. I remember being asked that question what happens if it doesn’t EVER HAPPEN! I remember not even being able to say those words...in fact, I almost threw up at the thought let alone saying them out loud. After a HUGE piece of work, with a horse called Jack, I was able to finally SURRENDER to the DREAM! AWW surrender something that wasn’t in my vocabulary as a type A personality and high overachiever. That meant that I was giving up...RIGHT! WRONG it just meant that I had to come to peace and allow the process to unfold and to let go of CONTROL. Control let go what do you mean I had been white-knuckling it my whole life. Can you relate to that feeling thinking your in control? Well, I was quickly shown that control is just an illusion. I have heard that when you tell God your plans he just laughs and clearly, he was laughing once again at me and my thoughts. As a result of this piece of work with Jack, I was able to get real, heal and SURENDER TO THE DREAM! What are you white-knuckling thinking you are in control? Share what seeds you have planted yet are not patient enough to let grow? #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper

MY MESS IS MY MESSAGE! We all have a mess! Mine just looks different than yours or maybe NOT. I find that it is easy to compare my backstage to other people’s front stage. Not one of us really knows what is going on in someone else’s life yet I find myself wanting to compare. It is not always easy for me to be in the mess of things yet I know this is my message. I know that because for a long time I struggled with my message and what do I say. Why isn’t it landing! I struggle with patience in this mess because I want to be in a different place than I am right now. Oh, good lord, this is not easy for sure yet I am holding the faith that in the end, it will all be worth the MESS! What mess do you have going on in your life right now? What is the message that can support you and others? #OUT~LAW #witherswhisper #equinegestaltcoaching #mentalandemotionalwellbeng #coaching #women