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The Root of the Matter with Joseph Krikorian
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
01/03/22 • 74 min
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We welcome our friend Joseph Krikorian as we explore the Armenian culture and history.
We're going to begin the root of the matter as we delve into coming from somewhere else and the ways of having to make our way in the world, all the while, carrying with us, all the emotions, the history, our stories, and our mapping out and figuring out a brave new one, a brave new world that is. Sometimes this is hard to do, especially with the trail of the people who came before us. Like our ancestors, grandparents, great-grandparents sometimes even parents, who may not have the stories or they do have the stories, but they're not passed down to us; all the why's, the how's and when's like, why did this happen? Not even knowing that we should be asking these questions because we have no idea, what happened in the past. What makes someone behave the way they do? What makes our household our home, have a certain vibe, or like a certain history?
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[00:00:00] Fawn: Are we ever going to get a new table? I feel like I got this table for us and I said, we'll have it forever, honey. But we're sitting, we got forever tables in the other room. Well, times were really tough and every dollar counted. And once we started to start to begin to get back on our feet, I saw it as a toddler picnic table.
I'm like, honey, we have to get it with an umbrella with an umbrella and chairs. And it was like under a hundred dollars, but that was like to us a thousand dollars. And we got it. And to this day we're still sitting and the kids are now taller than I am. And we're still sitting at the
[00:00:41] Joey: yeah, no, I'm looking at the perspective of Matt sitting at my knee.
Right?
[00:00:46] Fawn: Yeah. Look at that. Look at that.
[00:00:49] Matt: I'm not sitting in one of the normal chairs I have with there's an Ottoman right here.
[00:00:53] Fawn: So God, if you're listening to me, please help help us move the real table. I know, but nevermind. Anyway, welcome. Welcome back. Welcome back to our friendly world, everybody. So today, today, this show is really important to me because of the bond that I made with our very special guest who's here. Don't say anything yet. He's here. He's listening to us right now.
, I'm so excited, but there's so much to get into. Literally like my brain has so many asides. Like I want to talk about this and that bear with me. I hope I don't go all over the place. I hope that I sound coherent. We're going to begin the root of the matter as we delve into coming from somewhere else and the ways of having to make our way in the world, all the while, carrying with us, all the emotions, the history, our stories, and our mapping out and figuring out a brave new one, a brave new world that is. Sometimes this is hard to do, especially with the trail of the people who came before us. Like our ancestors, grandparents, great-grandparents sometimes even parents, who may not have the stories or they do have the stories, but they're not passed down to us; all the why's, the how's and when's like, why did this happen? Not even knowing that we should be asking these questions because we have no idea the, what happened in the past. What makes someone behave the way they do? What makes our household our home, have a certain vibe or like a certain history?
Like we just go along with things, especially when we're children, because I mean, we just go along with it. What's normal. I mean, everything is so new when you're born. So it's not. Well, I feel like our kids did. So maybe other kids do too. Like our babies, I feel like they questioned everything from the beginning.
Like they came in, they were like ambassadors of love. And they were like, what the heck is this? No, this has got to go. You know, like they just feel like we don't ask the questions because we don't even know because there's so much new coming at us. We're just trying to survive. And so today this is what I want to talk about.
And the thing is that since we may not have the stories that we can turn to, what we can do, is turn to our senses, especially, I think, our sense of taste and smell. That's where a lot of important information that's encoded in our lives comes through, like through food, through certain ceremonies that you may not think are even related to your culture.
There are clues hidden in everything. And once we sit around the table and break bread and meet new people, we can make sense of where we all came from. Even if you think, well, I came from...
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After the Show Conversation with Joey Krikorian
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
01/10/22 • 27 min
Join us for more conversation with our friend Joey as we get more relaxed and talk about Star Wars, pasta, geology, music, Armenia, and our next episode together and all the things we did not get a chance to talk about (about the root of why things happen the way they do).
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[00:00:00] Matt: And just because this could be interesting, but yes, I want to talk about man and his sense of smell, but that's going to be handled in the next show, which is great. I also wanted to talk about, you know, there is a tradition, an Italian tradition as far as like, um, you know, pasta comes from the far east and the Italians have quote-unquote made it their own so that the, and during the Roman empire, they grabbed spices from everywhere they could grab it from the spice road, for instance, I mean, God, that that's a culture addicted to spice, right? Yeah.
Also Joey. I wanted to mention something very interesting. There is a book it's actually two books, the graphic novels it's called "Maus", M A U S
[00:00:43] Joey: a hundred percent.
[00:00:44] Matt: He actually talks about how his father didn't want to tell his stories. And he actually gets an explanation from his father and then his father completely changes his tune, but very, very powerful series of books.
[00:00:57] Joey: I think I want to say something to the first point you've made, which is that I should've said this one thing my Armenian grandfather always did as much as we didn't talk about anything else related to Armenia, anything, anything in the world he would point to and say, Armenians invented that, or that was Armenian pasta, grape leaves.
I don't know any, anything, anywhere. That was his go-to thing. And it's like something, it was just part of my. Childhood hearing. Right? So it never, like, it was always just a thing, you know, it was always just a thing in my life. So, uh, I never really asked any questions or anything, but looking back that was pretty fun and entertaining and pretty much the truth.
You know what I mean? I get it. I get it.
[00:01:46] Matt: And for
[00:01:48] Joey: go ahead, go ahead. If we're continuing down that same line. Okay. Well to "Maus". Yes. And what a great book and what a great like. EV everyone should read it. You know, there were these, I could talk forever about this, but there are these points where like there's stuff that everyone should watch and read.
And some of it's animated, TV shows and people are so turned off by that, but there's stuff in there and there's stuff like graphic novels, like "MAUS",
and there's stuff like "They Called Us Enemy" a graphic memoir by George Takei about spending part of his childhood in an internment camp in the United States. And it's incredibly emotional and it's his story and it's a graphic memoir and it's just like, everyone should read it. And there's people like we're talking about, like, we're talking about people not knowing what the Armenian genocide is.
There's so many people in this country that grow up not being taught about Japanese internment camps and other things like that, that happened in this country. So right along the same line of "Maus" in my mind is this graphic memoir. It's called, uh, by George Takei called and "They Called Us
[00:03:07] Matt: Enemy"
there is a number of them. I mean, in Japan, there's a series called "Barefoot Gen", or gen G E N. The whole thing about it's the story of Hiroshima, Jesus Christ. That's not going to be a good story, right. But it's again, very visceral and powerful graphic novel. And then to tie us back to "Maus" for just a second, there's a, there's a scene in the story where he's walking down the street.
He it's it's and it's during the scary time. And he walks by a guy and the guy says , which means, I guess, in Yiddish. And I've probably just butchered it. Uh, it means what does it mean our tribe or it's w and he said it in. And he like hesitated. Like, do I answer him? Do I not answer him? And that takes us to, again, back to Italy and Rome, uh, during the days when the Christians were persecuted, the way that they would say do exactly that exact same thing as they would, they would draw a fish on the ground and then they'd scratch it out because the fish was the early symbol of Christianity.
[00:04:06] Joey: Interesting. I wonder if there's something. I wonder if there's something similar in Armenia, because there was this, that, you know, Christianity, they were Christians. That's what instigated that conflict, that genocide. So I wonder if there's something similar ...
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Ethics part 4 "he who cannot draw on 3000 years is living hand to mouth."
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
09/05/22 • 39 min
Goethe said "he who cannot draw on 3000 years is living hand to mouth." We explore our history and think about this quote by Goethe as we wrap our ethics series. We explore so much, including Goethe, the four ideals, prosperity, the satisfaction of desires, moral duty, spiritual perfection, Lao Tzu, "Tao te Ching," living simply and honestly, the idea of reciprocity and much more.
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[00:00:00] Fawn: Yuhoo hello? Hello? Are
[00:00:04] Matt: we ready? Oh my goodness. Yes. So here we are. We're back to talk about ethics. Oh my God. Again, um, we're gonna try to wrap it up though, which, which of course, you know, seeing is how we're literally at, uh, one CE or one common era. Ad for you folks who didn't grow up with it.
There is an awful lot going on. In point of fact, Goethe said "he who cannot draw on 3000 years is living hand to mouth."
[00:00:32] Fawn: Okay. Goethe man or woman,
[00:00:35] Matt: man. German man German. He is the man in German, literature.
[00:00:42] Fawn: I always get a little scared with anything Germans.
[00:00:46] Matt: He does. What's his background. We certainly need to touch a little bit on NCHE today.
So that's gonna be really
scary.
[00:00:51] Fawn: Oh my God. Can we make it a quick one today? We're gonna do what we can do. It's like when you're moving, you're like, okay, we have everything in boxes. And then when it really comes down to it, you're like, oh, wait a minute. There's this piece over here, this piece over there.
And you end up just cramming everything into one final box. Right? And I think that's what we're doing today.
[00:01:11] Matt: oh my goodness.
[00:01:12] Fawn: I mean, ethics is a very complicated thing or situation, isn't it?
[00:01:16] Matt: Well, yeah.
[00:01:17] Fawn: And there's, I mean, we, we should have a whole podcast on just
ethics,
[00:01:22] Matt: right. And ethics is of course that branch of philosophy that's, uh, concerned with what is morally good and bad, right.
And wrong, where they may or may not stand in opposition to each other, sometimes good and evil and right and wrong are in conflict.
[00:01:36] Fawn: Let's get started.
[00:01:37] Matt: Oh my goodness. So when we last left our heroes, as I like to say, we kinda left with the world with, Christianity starting to become ensconced in Rome.
Okay. Not fair because we can certainly go from there and go through all the Western philosophers and talk about ethics of moral right and wrong, but we're completely ignoring what happened over there to the east. So we need to talk about India. Because India gave birth to Hinduism and something that maybe people aren't that aware of, but it also gave birth to, Buddhism.
In India they had this sense that the world was set up in a correct way in a moral way. And the way things were set up was the way things were supposed to be set up. So they looked towards, four ideals and those four ideals would be, prosperity. Hey, we love that one, satisfaction of desires.
They didn't ignore that aspect of ourselves and deny it the way other people did, moral duty and spiritual perfection. And it's that last one that catches you out. So
[00:02:41] Fawn: what are the
four again?
[00:02:43] Matt: Prosperity. Woo, woo. Satisfaction desires. Awesome. Moral duty and spiritual perfection. Mm-hmm . So we start getting into this sense of the wheel of Dharma, the improvement of life
as you go on the, transitioning from perhaps one form to another form. And so all of a sudden, now that takes us out of my life, my specific life on earth and takes me to a more I need to do good things for society because in 300 years, right. I need to, you know, make sure that things are okay,
[00:03:15] Fawn: so you're not myopic, right?
[00:03:17] Matt: Again, you're not living hand to mouth. You're
[00:03:20] Fawn: not tunnel visioned. You're seeing the broader picture.
[00:03:23] Matt: Right? Right now, of course there was backlash. There is always a hedonistic cult. There is
[00:03:29] Fawn: always back backlash. Yeah.
[00:03:31] Matt: There's always people to argue. And, and when you get into Western philosophy, which I encourage everybody to do, there's a lot of back and forth.
And a lot of I refute this, but I accept that. There's a lot of that going on, but anyways, back to India, so they be...
The Art of Identity and Understanding and Our LGBTQAI2S+ Family
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
07/25/22 • 85 min
We are joined by Gray Baldwin, MA, MT-BC as we discuss the importance of identity in our society. Gray explains the definitions of LGBTQAI2+ and we have a heart-to-heart talk about healing. If you are going through stuff, this episode is for you to know you are loved and that you are not alone.
We are cosmic beings, we are infinite, complex, and simple at the same time, we have infinite possibilities within us, we are the universe kind of beings. We are of the light. We are divine. There's no way you can pinpoint a living being into one thing. We are complex and ever-evolving.
And at the same time, I wonder just how important is identity? For me, I feel it's very important to identify my culture, who I am, my skin color, everything, and embrace that and embrace the beauty of that. I have to do that because I feel so discriminated against, that I have to fully embody what I identify with. In another world, in another kind of situation, I would say, why should I? I'm a human being. But at the same, the way I feel is “No, I'm a human being who is of this culture who is of this background.”And it's really important to stick up for where I come from and for who I am and to fully embody that.
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https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
To find a therapist
https://www.inclusivetherapists.com
Tedtalk about intersex https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_quinn_what_i_ve_learned_from_having_balls Two spirit explained https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4lBibGzUnE The composer I spoke of last week was Arnold Schoenberg. Not Bartok. www.musictherapy.org https://www.cbmt.org These are two music therapy orgs in the USA https://wfmt.info This is the world federation of music therapy, an International org.Gray Baldwin, MA, MT-BC
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[00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back everybody.
[00:00:01] Matt: Hello!
[00:00:02] Fawn: I've been, I've been looking into more of what we started talking about. Has it been a couple years now? Since we spoke with Michael, we did an episode called breaking the sound barrier. Do you remember Matt?
[00:00:14] Matt: I do remember.
[00:00:15] Fawn: Okay. And that's actually, that's one of, everybody's favorite shows.
It has one of the highest ratings when we got into sound and the whole engineering of it and how it all works. So ever since then, I've been trying to get back into reading whatever I can find on how sound connects us and how sound affects us. So I was getting into the whole healing mechanism of it. Not only just for music therapy, but like music or music as entertainment but how we connect emotionally with each other through sound, how we become in sync with each other through sound. And for me, you know, I'm not an expert musician at all. I love music. Matt is a music snob or a heavy metal snob,
[00:01:12] Matt: u...
"The 'Popular Friend' - Navigating Authenticity: The Pitfalls of the Popularity Game"
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
02/19/24 • 30 min
In this week's episode, Fawn delves into the complexities of popularity and authenticity. She reflects on the societal pressure to conform to popular standards, observing how some individuals prioritize appearing popular over genuine connection and well-being. Drawing from personal experiences and societal observations, Fawn highlights the dangers of sacrificing authenticity for popularity, emphasizing the importance of being true to oneself and respecting others' boundaries. Fawn and Matt, navigate through discussions on societal norms, labeling, and the power of words, advocating for presence, respect, and authenticity in all interactions. As they explore the nuances of friendship and societal expectations, Fawn's impassioned reflections offer insights into fostering meaningful connections and embracing individuality in a world often consumed by the pursuit of popularity.
#AuthenticLiving, #FriendshipMatters, #RealTalk, #SocietyReflections, #PopularVsAuthentic, #ConsciousCommunication, #ParentingChallenges
The Art of the Plan with Guest Heather Lawrence
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
08/15/21 • 68 min
Heather Lawrence joins us as we discuss the art of the plan and what it is. What's the plan?
How do you know it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there truly free will?
What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose as apposed to someone else's thing; how do we know it's your deal or if it's feeling FOMO.
Is there, is there a grand scheme? Is there a divine plan?
How do we become a vibrational match to the plan that we have been wanting?
Can we plan? Should we be planning? You always hear that phrase. You know, if you want to hear God laugh, make a plan. Aren't we working as a team here?
Heather explains how the universe wants to get us to accept things the way they are not reject the way they are.
How can we get through it all????
How to be an authentic match to your dreams.
How to be in alignment
This episode we ask the questions and ponder the answers.
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Transcript
[00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Welcome to our friendly world. Hello? Hello? Hello. What is the plan, Matt? What's the plan. If I take a nugget of wisdom. Okay. You just asked me what nugget would you use today? Yes. So today's episode, everyone is called the art of the plan and we have a special friend with us that I'll introduce you to in just a second, but the art of a plan.
I mean, I never wanted to go back to LA. That was not my plan. When do you know, it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there free will. I mean, you know, sometimes most of my life I feel like, okay, I know, I feel that the right thing, I feel the answer. I know the universe, you know, I feel like I'm part of it.
So of course I know what's up, but sometimes I'm like, well, what, what is it like what's happening? What is, is there a plan? Because [00:01:00] I don't know. Sometimes I just don't know. What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose? You know, your true purpose from something. You you're drawn to, it could be someone else's thing.
Right. And you're looking at them and you're feeling FOMO. So you think their plan is your plan. Do you know what I'm saying?
Matt: [00:01:25] Yeah, no, no, no, no, absolutely. You can get totally sucked into somebody's reality in many ways that if somebody is really into something and like you hang out with them, then all of a sudden you're like, wow, that's super cool.
Oh my God. Oh my God. Oh my God. And you may think that, you should just stop doing what you're doing and start doing what this other person's doing for sure.
Fawn: [00:01:42] Yeah.
I, I equate it. I equate everything to eating. So it's like going to a restaurant and you think, you know what you want to order. And then someone orders tiramisu, and you're like, I want Tiramisu too.
Matt: [00:01:52] I remember going to a sushi place and ordering a certain kind of sushi. And then all of a sudden, everybody around me started ordering it. It was quite funny.
[00:02:00] Fawn: [00:02:00] So how do you know that that's happening? Some bizarre things happen in life. Some hard things happen in life and there must be a purpose to it all.
Is there a purpose purpose of that? I can't even stay at purpose. Is there, is there a grand scheme? Is there a plan that one would say, if you want to use the G word is a God's plan is a divine plan. Is there a divine is a, is there a higher plan?
Matt: [00:02:25] And if there is, what do I have to do with it? I'm just a small little hobbit in the, in spite of it
Fawn: [00:02:31] all.
Am I, I mean, I am God too. You, our God, aren't we? Yes. Yeah. But I don't, I'm sweating anyway. So I'm thinking about that. And I'm thinking, I, I, if what is free will then? I just, sometimes if you really get into it and if you let every, the flotsam and jetsam flying around your head, It can get a little [00:03:00] maddening.
I don't know. We have a friend here today that is a seer. She is, oh boy, wait, wait, wait before. Okay. So the nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica. I did not want to go. I did not want to go. I did not want to stay in LA and it, it sucked me back and I knew she wanted something. I knew I had to be in LA.
All right. I didn't know what LA wanted, but I'm like fine. Those of you who want to get t...
Life Lessons - You Hear me? You Feel Me? Do You Smell What I'm Steppin' In? With Lyrics and Lattes
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
06/21/21 • 67 min
We welcome Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussure from the podcast, Lyrics and Lattes. And these guys are so lovely, inspiring, upbeat, positive, and so deep. They gift their listeners with wisdom, so many life lessons; provide perfect self-development though breaking down lyrics of hip hop.
https://www.lyricsandlattes.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyricsandlattes/
Transcript
[00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello? Hello. Hello everyone. Welcome to our friendly world. Very special guests today. I am really excited. Listen to this.
" The art of a people is a true mirror to the minds."- Jawaharlal Nehru. Here's another one by Georgia. O'Keeffe: "I found, I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way -things I had no words for." And then Leonardo da Vinci: " Painting is poetry that is seen rather than felt. And poetry is painting. That is felt rather than seen. "
Today we have two amazing, amazing men here. And their podcast is just, I think the best podcast I've ever heard.
Matt: [00:00:55] It's a great name. Isn't it?
The podcast is called Lyrics and [00:01:00] Lattes. And these guys are so lovely and so inspiring and so upbeat and so positive and so deep. They have so much wisdom, so many life lessons to help us with, so much self-development, tips from your favorite hip hop songs, they break lyrics down. And it's like, for me, it's like going back to school when I had the most amazing teachers break down Hemingway and, you know, things that kind of like I would read, but they would go over my head and then the, the, the professor would break it down and say, what do you think this person meant by this sentence or this one word?
Or, you know, and, and we would spend hours talking about one sentence and it transformed my entire life. This is what Jason and Trevor do, [00:02:00] Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussure Trevor, am I pronouncing your last name? Right? The
Trevor: [00:02:06] first person to ever get that right on the first try.
Fawn: [00:02:11] So everyone friends out there, please help us welcome Jason and Trevor from the podcast Lyrics and Lattes. Ah, it is, I, I am so glad I met you guys. We met at Podfest. They did a presentation and, uh, I, I was flying. I was so I'm still so excited. And this was what? A week ago? Two weeks ago. When was it? I don't even remember, but I am forever transformed and so uplifted. I'm just so excited by these people. Right. Let's get to all right. All right. So today's subject is going to sound like it's not upbeat at all, but Trevor and Jason have a really great [00:03:00] pulse. Like they have, what do you call what's the term when they have a pulse on society? Is that the term?
Yeah. Yeah, they have that. So they break down these amazing songs and, and really help you in life. They're amazing coaches. So, first of all, I guess I should say welcome Trevor and Jason, Hello!
Trevor: [00:03:23] That was one heck of an intro. Thanks for having me.
Jason: [00:03:26] We got to really deliver now. Don't we?
Fawn: [00:03:31] I love you guys. And you were so funny. Did I mention they're funny, please check them out. They are hysterically funny, right? No, absolutely. Um, so today's topic guys is society's greatest pain, greatest challenge. We talk about art all the time. I talk about art, you know, art. My background is that you're also an artist, Matt.
I never, I never considered computer programming and math and all of [00:04:00] that to be an art form, but it really is. It's in, and it's incredibly intuitive. So it's for everyone. And since we're looking at music, you know, Matt, Trevor, and Jason, I don't know if you know, but Matt is a hardcore heavy metal guy.
Hardcore.
Matt: [00:04:19] No, no, no, no, no. Let's let's let's frame it properly. Okay. I'm a heavy metal guy. Okay. But I'm a power metal guy now heavy metal guys are gonna say, oh, that's not real heavy metal. So when she says hardcore people like to hear technical death and all sorts of doom and all sorts of other things. No, that's not me.
It's all power all the time. It sounds like doom, but it is,
oh, you should hear the doom. Oh my goodness. No, all vocals must be clean.
Jason: [00:04:45] So the heavy metal is, is that like, is that like creed and the Jonas brothers?
Fawn: [00:04:50] No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Matt: [00:04:51] Okay. So the music I listened to comes from in a direct line from Dio who was lead singer of Sabbath for [00:05:00] awhile, uh, Iron Maiden
they were the part of the new ...
Dissatisfaction
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
08/02/21 • 62 min
A rant on dissatisfaction and the desire to really live life!
Fawn needs your support on this one.
Transcript
[00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] We weren't supposed to record today. We weren't. No, because, not because of the show, but I've been experiencing burnout, major burnout, not because of the show. This show gives me life, but check it out. So the book I'm reading burnout. Um,
Matt: [00:00:19] hi, this is a hi this is Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt
Fawn: [00:00:24] welcome to our friendly world.
It doesn't feel so friendly for me right now. I woke up dissatisfied,
Matt: [00:00:30] but the world is opening back up.
Fawn: [00:00:31] It is, I went to bed mad at you. I woke up even more mad at you. And then we got into a little fight. And during our fight, I said, you know what? Let's record our fight. Let's just record what we're talking about.
Cause it's not a fight the way you think of a fight. The way we fight is we fight the way we do. Just our, whatever, here, here it goes, guys. So emotional exhaustion as defined by, these two ladies who wrote the book "Burnout, The [00:01:00] secret of Unlocking the Stress C ycle, Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMA.
What, what do you want to see? The clever they're twins. Okay. Let's rock. All right. So there are three components of emotional exhaustion, which is what burnout is. Okay. Okay. So number one, emotional exhaustion, the fatigue that comes from caring too much for too long. So when you're worried about someone you love it, doesn't go away.
You're a parent. You're worried. You're frickin worried all the time, never ending. Personalization is number two, the depletion of empathy, caring and compassion. Number three is decreased sense of accomplishment and unconquerable sense of futility, feeling that nothing you do makes any difference.
I feel number one and number [00:02:00] three, I don't feel number two because empathy is totally there. Compassion is totally there. I feel a decreased sense of accomplishment and I want to cry just saying that, and I feel emotionally exhausted and the way we start our morning together, cause you wake up so much earlier than I do, but then I go to bed at 3 30, 4 o'clock, five o'clock in the morning sometimes.
And then I wake up early. So I just woke up just upset. And I, the, the way we started our day together was you came in and we started talking and I said, Matt, I am done. I'm done waiting. I want to live my life. We've been waiting for 16 years. Sure, we've done things. We've had different moves. We've had children, you know, we've made things happen, but it feels like we are waiting.
You're waiting on [00:03:00] the perfect job opportunity. I'm waiting for things to take off with my career. I am waiting for this. I'm waiting for that. You're waiting for it your way. All we do is wait and I feel so dissatisfied. And so what's the third one decreased sense of accomplishment.
And one of the things we were talking about today this morning was, I don't. I never wanted to live in Colorado. I don't understand this place. And even though I grew up in California and part of my college education was in Northern California. And then we ended up there for a couple minutes, which was what, two years?
Right around the Sausalito area. It was not okay for me. Sorry, California. Sorry, Colorado. But honestly, even though Santa Monica is in California, I know guys, but when I... help me figure this out. So this episode today, I want your [00:04:00] help, friends listening out there, can you please email me and talk to me because I seriously can't figure this out.
And I don't know if you can, either Matt, cause I, I tell you what I'm feeling and all you do is listen. And I just feel like nothing happens. I need someone to talk to me. It likes to figure this out, but like here we are in Colorado and forgive me , can I just because this, by saying that I do feel burnt out something to say some stuff that seems so futile and I don't mean it to sound that way.
So I don't mean to say all of humanity sucks in Colorado and then all of humanity sucks in California, but just allow me to just be sloppy with the way I'm talking right now, just so I can get my words out so I can understand what it is I'm truly feeling. And if any of you out there feel the same way that I'm feeling, it doesn't have to be about California or Colorado.
But, it [00:05:00] is, that's the feeling. Please let me know. So here it goes. So, okay. So I'm like, all right, I'm tired of waiting, man. Pandemic aside, it's not just the pandemic. We have been waiting, waiting on whatever it is. One of the hell mo...
The Invisible Lines We Must Cross to Live a Fulfilled Life and Be Able to Create Great Friendships/Relationships
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
10/31/22 • 30 min
The invisible line, the invisible barriers that we need to be aware of that will set us free. So the invisible barriers we are dealing with that hold us to certain places in situations, the invisible barriers invisible lines that keep us from connecting to each other.
They're all over the place and they come in so many different forms. We discuss some invisible acts of power when once we realize and are aware of them, allow us to break free from the chains that bind us and keep us from living a free life and enable us to create beautiful friendships/relationships.
The Invisible Line - TRANSCRIPT
[00:00:00] Fawn: Hello everybody. Welcome back. Hello. So the invisible line, the invisible barriers that we need to be aware of that will set us free. So the invisible barriers we are dealing with that hold us to certain places in situations, the invisible barriers invisible lines that keep us from connecting to each other.
[00:00:24] Fawn: They're all over the place and they come in so many different forms. But first of all, what are some invisible acts of power? We already did a show, remember with Rachel Chevalier from France, and we talked about grid lines, power lines, right? That are deep in the earth that you can't see. But your body definitely feels, and it changes your health, it changes everything.
[00:00:51] Fawn: Lay lines.
[00:00:52] Fawn: Remember that?
[00:00:52] Matt: Yes. Absolutely. Is it red blood cells? They're affected by magnetism. It's one of those weird things. It's one of the reasons why, No, it's something in the blood. It's not the red blood cells, but it's something in the blood.
[00:01:03] Matt: We have this in our bodies, determine which way north is, which is a bizarre
[00:01:08] Fawn: thing. Like birds have it right? It's a mineral that exists that it, it's some sort of, Metal or something. Some kind of metal that I think birds have more of.
[00:01:21] Fawn: More
[00:01:21] Matt: iron in the blood. That's what it is.
[00:01:23] Fawn: I thought it was something else like, I don't know. Whatever. Doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. Cause I don't wanna get into the science of it. I wanna get into the energetics of it. I mean, which is still science. Nevermind what I just said, . But what I'm trying to say is, You know, there are also EMFs, right?
[00:01:41] Fawn: Electro magnetic fields. Electric, is it electric or electromagnetic field?
[00:01:46] Fawn: I think it's
[00:01:46] Matt: electromagnetic.
[00:01:47] Fawn: Um, so, you know, microwaves or radio waves, there's all this stuff that we can't see true. So there's that. But what I'm talking about are like, in our society, these invisible lines that half of the population doesn't cross.
[00:02:02] Fawn: For example, there's so many different examples, but one example I have is I had, you know, I grew up in la there were so many kids that had never seen the ocean, and they were like 10 miles away. I'm like, You've never in your life seen the ocean. We, we, we live right there in L.A. And they're like, No. And then as I got older, I realized why. There is this invisible, um, fence.
[00:02:31] Fawn: That keeps certain people out of certain
[00:02:34] Matt: neighborhoods. And there's also the level of comfort, right? I'm uncomfortable getting away from wherever it is. I am.
[00:02:42] Fawn: Yeah. But why that, that level of uncomfortableness that exists was placed there for a reason by some force to keep people separat.
[00:02:54] Fawn: Anyway, I'm trying not to get negative here. So anyway, invisible acts of power. When I tell you that, when I say invisible acts of power, what comes to your mind? Like for me, I'm thinking about ghosts, angels, random acts of kindness. Of course, I think about the invisible fences, and I just brought up.
[00:03:15] Fawn: Kindness, compassion. There's also going back to the science of it, there's magnetic force, electrical force, there's external forces and internal forces like, and I know I'm getting into science, but here we go, like a tree trembling due to wind. That would be an external force. You can't see it, but you see the tree trembling something's making the tree tremble.
[00:03:40] Fawn: Or something's making me tremble when I feel something that's scary or something makes me feel a certain way. I'm like, We gotta get outta here. Right? Which happens a lot, . Yes, it does. Or we're anywhere. It could be anywhere. I'm like, We gotta get outta here. And now we've been toge...
Radical Acceptance for Friendships, Careers, and Life with Dr. Cathia Walters
Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
06/19/23 • 52 min
Dr. Walters is back to teach us about Radical Acceptance - how does it play into our life choices, finances, career, and relationships? We discuss how to separate our thoughts from our feelings, how to cultivate self-worth, how to deal with rejection, and soooooooo much more!Socials and Web for Walters Wellness Group / Dr. Cathia Walters:
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Dr. Cathia Walters (Dr. C) is an educator, psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Walters Wellness Group in California's San Francisco Bay area.
Through the Walters Wellness Group, Dr. C provides support groups, courses (online and in-person), workshops and community events on a variety of healing-related topics. Her courses like Managing Life Challenges course, Black Women's Support Group, and Healing Trauma program have served hundreds of individuals in healing and personal growth. Dr. C's work focuses on compassion in healing and incorporates movement into the healing journey.
Dr. C designs and hosts annual retreats for Black women in Runaway Bay, Jamaica, a biannual retreat for Black couples in Lake Tahoe, California, and a retreat for managing trauma in Costa Rica. Dr. C also provides training and hosts webinars and workshops on a variety of healing and health-related topics for companies and organizations.
As a Black woman, Dr. Walters considers self-care a radical act that begins with the relationship one forms with oneself.
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