34. “It’s unromantic if my boyfriend doesn’t pay for date night”

03/15/22 • 59 min

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Ashley and Josh both have high incomes but they find themselves arguing about who pays for what. Like a few past guests, Ashley thinks certain things are the man’s responsibility to pay for, but Josh wants a partnership. He feels like her spending is more out of obligation than true togetherness.

These unspoken expectations are toxic. They’re eating away at what they both like about being together, and they need to be addressed right away.

We all have internal beliefs and expectations around money, and they have deep roots. Let’s do some digging with Ashley and Josh to see what we can uncover.

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If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.

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These unspoken expectations are toxic. They’re eating away at what they both like about being together, and they need to be addressed right away.

We all have internal beliefs and expectations around money, and they have deep roots. Let’s do some digging with Ashley and Josh to see what we can uncover.

Connect with Ramit

If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.

Produced by Crate Media.

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33. “We’re in debt, but I don’t want to make her go back to the corporate world”

Martin and Arly feel suffocated by mounting interest on their debt and are jaded by the corporate world. Martin earns $125,000, but Arly is selling essential oils in a network marketing business (read: SCAM!). With $300 coming in every month, this venture is going nowhere very quickly.

The solution seems painstakingly obvious, but their internal narrative is shortcutting their logic. I’m going to need to spell it out to them.

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If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.

Produced by Crate Media.

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35. “If we can’t stop fighting about money, we’re going to break up”

Ashley and Josh have come to a stark conclusion: That if they can’t manage to find some common ground in their financial struggles, their relationship has no future. They both earn roughly the same amount of money. Besides this huge roadblock, they see a path to marriage and children.

But they can’t come to an agreement about who pays for date night. Even worse, individually, neither of them has a solid plan for tackling their own debt.

Josh drives a, you guessed it, truck he can’t afford. Ashley leases a Mercedes. Both acknowledge the massive strain that having debt places on them and their relationship, and yet they do nothing about it.

Are they willing to make the lifestyle changes necessary to turn their financial future around? Let’s find out.

Connect with Ramit

If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.

Produced by Crate Media.