Mommying While Muslim

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This month’s Love & Marriage series closes out with the expertise of Tawakaltu Busari of Hitched!, a Muslim matchmaking service based in Houston. Not an app-based method, Hitched! provides halal opportunities for singles to meet organically and not in the traditional survey method historically used to match people. There aren’t speed dates or elaborate networks to figure out who can plan forever together at Hitched!. Instead, the company focuses on spiritual matchmaking as more important than the pedigrees that traditional matchmakers used to determine compatibility. This is NOT how Sima Auntie works on Netlfix! A Muslim company specializing in how couples need to operate with a goal of success in Islam as much as success in this world is the one we want to talk about, and talk to.

With rising divorce rates in the Muslim community, this is important for parents, young adults, new adults, single women, newly single women, and those men who listen to us on the DL. We know ya’ll are out there!

Links:

1. Find more information on Muslim matchmaking online: www.hitchedsoon.com

2. Purchase your own set of Fair Play cards (we don’t have anything to gain from it): https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/647409/the-fair-play-deck-by-eve-rodsky/?aid=9490&linkid=PRHA7471D3EF7&pdivflag&ref=PRHA7471D3EF7

3. Charter school in AZ charged with fraud: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fox10phoenix.com/news/goodyear-charter-school-co-founders-accused-of-fraud-theft1.amp
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Anse Tamara Gray, founder of Rabata, an online institute for and by Muslim women to educate themselves in Islam. She’s also an experienced mom who has a lot to share with moms about allying with their kids as part of their mothering.

Mic drop moment 32:36 when Anse Tamara reminds us about the etymological relationship of the words “umm” (mother) and “imam” (one in front of whom we study, or leader), but on a lighter note at 44:15 “Anse Tamara: I am green beans!” Serious butterflies and chills in this episode, so don’t miss it!

Links:

1. Find out more about Rabata: https://www.rabata.org/
2. Rabata on IG: @rabata
3. Find out more about Ribaat programs: https://ribaat.rabata.org/
4. For more information on the teen program “RabaTeens”: rabateens.rabata.org
5. For more information on the children’s program “Dragonflies”: dragonflies.rabata.org
6. Anse Tamara on IG: @tamaralgray
7. Anse Tamara’s picks for Muslimah American scholars to know
   1. Dr. Ingrid Matteson: http://ingridmattson.org/about/
      1. With reference to Dr. James Jones: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/team/dr-jimmy-jones/
   2. Dr. Zainab Alwani: http

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Zaiba & Uzma discuss election results which, at the time of this recording, was not yet called, but was highly suggestive of results they did not expect. Why don’t they have cause to celebrate regardless of who is elected this year?

This is a darker episode, with some sad reflections about what the turnout means in terms of the moral compass of America and who our real allies are. Conscience does not have to be consistent with only a political ideology, rather requires us to think, act, and vote along economic and social plans as well, especially those of us who are Muslim Americans. A close election isn’t just a close call, but a larger revelation about the limitations of white liberalism/privilege, a two party system, and political rhetoric in this nation.

Now that we know who the President of the United States is, this is a great reflection of where so many of us were one week ago. This month will be a Kubler Ross stages of grief series reflecting on this election and what it means about our society. When we know better, we vote better, we do better.

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Dr. Rukhsana Chaudhry comes on today to kick off our mental health series and gives us SO MUCH insight into our anxieties and how to deal with our kids’. Let’s face it: this pandemic has kicked our collective butts and we’ve seen changes in our kids and in ourselves we haven’t handled well all the time. We can do better by learning better, and when we do that, we MOM better.

Learning to sit with discomfort to teach our kids how to do the same can hit childhood anxiety head-on. Dr. Chaudhry addresses teen needs as well, sharing current research on pandemic-induced social isolation as potentially more hazardous in teens. Filtering information to quell teen anxiety and learning to recognize the signs of mental discomfort and illness in our kids will be key, and the resources she shares with us are amazing. Most importantly, continuing to work against the stigma of mental illness in some Muslim communities is going to be key, so HAVE THE CONVERSATIONS, ya’ll!

Don’t forget to click on the links in the show notes to recognize the signs, be mental health first aid proficient, and learn the lingo of mental health. Tune in to the rest of our episodes on mental health dropping this month, every Thursday at 6 pm EST on Alexa, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts!

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

1. Recognize the signs! Mental Health First Aid virtual training via the American Muslim Health Professional Association: https://amhp.us/virtualmhfa/ 
2. Learn the lingo! Reducing mental health stigma with National Alliance on Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/Home  
3. UCLA Childhood Anxiety Center: https://carescenter.ucla.edu/ 
4. Wellness Toolkit in the Time of Coronavirus from The FYI.org: https://www.thefyi.org/toolkits/coronavirus/ 
5. Muslim American mental health issues with Muslim Wellness Foundation: https://www.muslimwellness.com/aboutmwf 
6. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: https://afsp.org/
7. CDC Coronavirus schedule: https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/69/wr/mm6949e1.htm 
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Since they couldn’t find a Muslim mom who voted for Trump, Zaiba recruited her husband, Zafar, to return to the podcast for this episode to help understand the 35% of Muslims surveyed by the Associated Press who said that they planned to vote for Trump--and probably did. It was CLOSE, y’all! Could the Muslim vote afford to be so split? What are the reasons that it wasn’t a landslide with 100% of Muslim Americans voting against the current POTUS?

Zafar does a great job calming Zaiba and Uzma down in this episode to demonstrate that 35% of Muslims voting in a way we don’t understand isn’t so significant, statistically or historically, and diversity of opinions is considered a blessing in Islam. Does everything he says resonate with your favorite podcasting duo? NO! Hear about white grievance vs. privilege, the right to return, the Democratic party’s role in turning away the Muslim vote through doublespeak, and the silver lining in having lived through the last 4 years under this administration.

Tune in for the discourse! “All dialogue is good dialogue,” as Zafar Hasan says.

Links:

1) All eyes on GA: The New Georgia Project: https://newgeorgiaproject.org/

2) All eyes on GA: Black Voters Matter: https://blackvotersmatterfund.org/

3) AP VoteCast Survey results: https://www.npr.org/2020/11/03/929478378/understanding-the-2020-electorate-ap-votecast-survey

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