Mommying While Muslim

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This month’s Love & Marriage series closes out with the expertise of Tawakaltu Busari of Hitched!, a Muslim matchmaking service based in Houston. Not an app-based method, Hitched! provides halal opportunities for singles to meet organically and not in the traditional survey method historically used to match people. There aren’t speed dates or elaborate networks to figure out who can plan forever together at Hitched!. Instead, the company focuses on spiritual matchmaking as more important than the pedigrees that traditional matchmakers used to determine compatibility. This is NOT how Sima Auntie works on Netlfix! A Muslim company specializing in how couples need to operate with a goal of success in Islam as much as success in this world is the one we want to talk about, and talk to.

With rising divorce rates in the Muslim community, this is important for parents, young adults, new adults, single women, newly single women, and those men who listen to us on the DL. We know ya’ll are out there!

Links:

1. Find more information on Muslim matchmaking online: www.hitchedsoon.com

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The author of the incredibly popular and much loved book Secrets of Divine Love, A. Helwa, joins us today to talk about her book and what it brings to our souls during these turbulent times. Her popular blog @quranquotesdaily inspires and reminds us of Allah SWT daily as we scroll through fashion and makeup on IG. Secrets of Divine Love is a motivational and inspiring guide to help experience the Qur’an and the Islamic tradition from a place of love, passion, and joy. 

She explains the anonymity of her persona, as well as the importance of authentic connection with each other. She also candidly reminds us that Allah is in control during a time when we all live under delusions of control. More pearls are in this episode than we document here, so take a listen and get the book!

Note: ‘namaz’ is Islamic ritual prayer in the Urdu language; the traditional word for ritual prayer is ‘salah’ in the Arabic language. 

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2. Find inspiration: @quranquotesdaily
3. Find the Jeem Journal: https://jeem.life/
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Dr. Rukhsana Chaudhry comes on today to kick off our mental health series and gives us SO MUCH insight into our anxieties and how to deal with our kids’. Let’s face it: this pandemic has kicked our collective butts and we’ve seen changes in our kids and in ourselves we haven’t handled well all the time. We can do better by learning better, and when we do that, we MOM better.

Learning to sit with discomfort to teach our kids how to do the same can hit childhood anxiety head-on. Dr. Chaudhry addresses teen needs as well, sharing current research on pandemic-induced social isolation as potentially more hazardous in teens. Filtering information to quell teen anxiety and learning to recognize the signs of mental discomfort and illness in our kids will be key, and the resources she shares with us are amazing. Most importantly, continuing to work against the stigma of mental illness in some Muslim communities is going to be key, so HAVE THE CONVERSATIONS, ya’ll!

Don’t forget to click on the links in the show notes to recognize the signs, be mental health first aid proficient, and learn the lingo of mental health. Tune in to the rest of our episodes on mental health dropping this month, every Thursday at 6 pm EST on Alexa, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts!

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

1. Recognize the signs! Mental Health First Aid virtual training via the American Muslim Health Professional Association: https://amhp.us/virtualmhfa/ 
2. Learn the lingo! Reducing mental health stigma with National Alliance on Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/Home  
3. UCLA Childhood Anxiety Center: https://carescenter.ucla.edu/ 
4. Wellness Toolkit in the Time of Coronavirus from The FYI.org: https://www.thefyi.org/toolkits/coronavirus/ 
5. Muslim American mental health issues with Muslim Wellness Foundation: https://www.muslimwellness.com/aboutmwf 
6. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: https://afsp.org/
7. CDC Coronavirus schedule: https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/69/wr/mm6949e1.htm 
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A newly converted Muslimah and a new immigrant Muslimah met 40 years ago in Chitown and discovered they had more in common than they thought. Darlene Hussain and Qurrat “Annie” Jafri join us today to spill the beans on what happened when they became Muslim moms in America!

We talk about the painful things: mom guilt, reverse Muslim discrimination, postpartum depression, social isolation, first generation woes, kids being bullied....and let’s not forget the fun stuff, like how Zaiba and Uzma are each their moms’ favorite kids!

There was some great news in all of this as our moms shared what they thought was the hardest part of parenting...it gave us hope for the future. We share tears, dirty laundry, and a lot of giggles on this audio therapy session you don’t want to miss. It was awesome to share notes on the role of mom with our own moms!!!!We hope it inspires ya’ll to do the same with your own moms or with the women who mothered you.

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Zaiba & Uzma discuss election results which, at the time of this recording, was not yet called, but was highly suggestive of results they did not expect. Why don’t they have cause to celebrate regardless of who is elected this year?

This is a darker episode, with some sad reflections about what the turnout means in terms of the moral compass of America and who our real allies are. Conscience does not have to be consistent with only a political ideology, rather requires us to think, act, and vote along economic and social plans as well, especially those of us who are Muslim Americans. A close election isn’t just a close call, but a larger revelation about the limitations of white liberalism/privilege, a two party system, and political rhetoric in this nation.

Now that we know who the President of the United States is, this is a great reflection of where so many of us were one week ago. This month will be a Kubler Ross stages of grief series reflecting on this election and what it means about our society. When we know better, we vote better, we do better.

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