Mommying While Muslim

Zaiba Hasan & Uzma Jafri

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Mommying While Muslim is a one of a kind podcast where two American born and bred Muslim moms share their experiences to raise second generation kids. Having experienced both pre and post 9/11 America, they're acutely aware of the unique challenges their families face on top of the regular messes that all moms share. Mommying While Muslim is a space to take back their stories, and tell those no one will air on the news or portray fully or fairly in the media. Zaiba Hasan and Uzma Jafri are moms first, careerwomen second, and global citizens at heart. They meet taboo topics head on because they weren't allowed to do it growing up, not at home or at school and work. They aim to better their immediate households, communities, and their momsisterhood the world over by telling the truths sometimes people don't want to face or to hear. Not everyone has the privileges they have and they are eager to learn, more than they are to share their own experiences. Always looking to give back, they find women and families who need a mic because no one needs a voice; they just need an opportunity to speak. Besides tough social issues, they also tackle political ones because when laws affect their kids, they're coming for them as well as the ones who make them! There's no lane that doesn't get taken here. Along the way, they recruit momallies for Muslim Americans who have been inordinately targeted for the last 20 years. True moms know that ALL our children deserve to be safe, loved, and happy, and we bust every yellow brick on the Islamaphobic road to make sure they all are. If you like good trouble, this one's for you!

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Approaching "The Talk" and Puberty

Mommying While Muslim

07/18/19 • 31 min

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All our kids are at different stages, as are we on our individual parenting journeys. Let's help each other with our experiences so we're not daunted by what sometimes our cultures or histories have made unnecessarily taboo for us. Let's talk about sex, baby!
We want to make sure we don't perpetuate the cultural biases against normal development, within the framework of the Islamic household and its training. Join us as we tease through "appropriate" sexual education, and visit some of the resources we've found helpful in our field research we're conducting on our kids every day.
Links
1) Sex Education https://muslimmatters.org/2007/06/26/sex-the-muslim-ummah-part-1/
2) A Muslim Boy's Guide to Life's Big Changes https://www.noorart.com/A-Muslim-Boys-Guide-to-Lifes-Big-Changes
3) A Muslim Girls' Guide to Life's Big Changes https://www.noorart.com/A-Muslim-Girls-Guide-to-Lifes-Big-Changes
4) A newer resource we have NOT vetted yet, but encourage our listeners to try out and give us some feedback https://www.noorart.com/How-to-Get-Hijab-Ready
5) Where Uzma first learned the term "menstruation" in 3rd grade and scarred her mom http://judyblume.com/books/middle/margaret.php
6) Natural deodorant https://www.nativecos.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMInpjXlbS94wIVkyCtBh2XpgBTEAAYAyAAEgISW_D_BwE

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NOT Netflix Auntie

Mommying While Muslim

03/04/21 • 51 min

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This month’s Love & Marriage series closes out with the expertise of Tawakaltu Busari of Hitched!, a Muslim matchmaking service based in Houston. Not an app-based method, Hitched! provides halal opportunities for singles to meet organically and not in the traditional survey method historically used to match people. There aren’t speed dates or elaborate networks to figure out who can plan forever together at Hitched!. Instead, the company focuses on spiritual matchmaking as more important than the pedigrees that traditional matchmakers used to determine compatibility. This is NOT how Sima Auntie works on Netlfix! A Muslim company specializing in how couples need to operate with a goal of success in Islam as much as success in this world is the one we want to talk about, and talk to.

With rising divorce rates in the Muslim community, this is important for parents, young adults, new adults, single women, newly single women, and those men who listen to us on the DL. We know ya’ll are out there!

Links:

1. Find more information on Muslim matchmaking online: www.hitchedsoon.com

2. Purchase your own set of Fair Play cards (we don’t have anything to gain from it): https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/647409/the-fair-play-deck-by-eve-rodsky/?aid=9490&linkid=PRHA7471D3EF7&pdivflag&ref=PRHA7471D3EF7

3. Charter school in AZ charged with fraud: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fox10phoenix.com/news/goodyear-charter-school-co-founders-accused-of-fraud-theft1.amp
4. Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com

5. Email: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com

6. FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim group

7. IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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Postpartum Depression Part II

Mommying While Muslim

02/03/20 • 40 min

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Rubina Cohen, our recurring contributor, joins us today to give insight into her unique experience with PPD. We compare notes, commiserate, provide some more facts, and talk about resources available to mom sisters. It’s just not talked about enough in our regular circles and we don’t want to see another mom go through this. So let us remove the multicultural stigma Muslim American moms face for our community.
Rubina's experience inspired her to create a product for postpartum moms as well as a safe online space for mothers dealing with postpartum depression. She turned her pain into gain. Check it out!
Links:

Rubina's FB group online:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/postpartumpower/about/
Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale: http://perinatology.com/calculators/Edinburgh%20Depression%20Scale.htm
PHQ-9 Screening Tool: https://www.integration.samhsa.gov/images/res/PHQ%20-%20Questions.pdf
American College of Obstetrics & Gynecology patient handout on PPD: https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Postpartum-Depression?IsMobileSet=false
Nisa Helpline: https://nisahelpline.com/who-we-are/ 1-888-315-NISA (6472) available 12 hours during the day, or email info@nisahelpline.com anytime
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 available 24/7 for help
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Sacred Sex and Motherhood

Mommying While Muslim

02/27/20 • 33 min

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Do we hang up our womanhood, our God given sensual selves, once we have kids? And if we do, WHY?

The Village Auntie spills it all, as she does best, to help us reclaim our feminine histories in order to be better mothers. Part of that reclamation includes restoring the fundamentals about what Islam teaches regarding feminine sexuality, and how critics are quick to forget or minimize those religious truths in order to feed cultural taboos and shame culture.

Find out about her journey, her book, and hear how she exudes all things sensual, sensitive, and safe.

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

The Village Auntie on IG---Seriously, check out the videos to learn SO MUCH!: @villageauntie, also where you can click on the bio to buy Passage: A 31 Day Guided Journey with The Village Auntie
The Village Auntie to schedule a workshop: angelica@thevillageauntie.com
The Village Auntie monthly series Lights On at the Amaliah podcast: https://www.amaliah.com/post/56963/brand-new-sex-series-on-the-amaliah-podcast-angelica-lindsey-ali-village-aunty
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Female Scholars and Safe Spaces

Mommying While Muslim

09/17/20 • 50 min

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Anse Tamara Gray, founder of Rabata, an online institute for and by Muslim women to educate themselves in Islam. She’s also an experienced mom who has a lot to share with moms about allying with their kids as part of their mothering.

Mic drop moment 32:36 when Anse Tamara reminds us about the etymological relationship of the words “umm” (mother) and “imam” (one in front of whom we study, or leader), but on a lighter note at 44:15 “Anse Tamara: I am green beans!” Serious butterflies and chills in this episode, so don’t miss it!

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

Find out more about Rabata: https://www.rabata.org/
Rabata on IG: @rabata
Find out more about Ribaat programs: https://ribaat.rabata.org/
For more information on the teen program “RabaTeens”: rabateens.rabata.org
For more information on the children’s program “Dragonflies”: dragonflies.rabata.org
Anse Tamara on IG: @tamaralgray
Anse Tamara’s picks for Muslimah American scholars to know
1. Dr. Ingrid Matteson: http://ingridmattson.org/about/
  1. With reference to Dr. James Jones: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/team/dr-jimmy-jones/
2. Dr. Zainab Alwani: http://www.zainabalwani.com/
3. Jamillah Karim: https://berkleycenter.georgetown.ed

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Spiritual Sustenance with Secrets of Divine Love

Mommying While Muslim

09/10/20 • 27 min

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The author of the incredibly popular and much loved book Secrets of Divine Love, A. Helwa, joins us today to talk about her book and what it brings to our souls during these turbulent times. Her popular blog @quranquotesdaily inspires and reminds us of Allah SWT daily as we scroll through fashion and makeup on IG. Secrets of Divine Love is a motivational and inspiring guide to help experience the Qur’an and the Islamic tradition from a place of love, passion, and joy.

She explains the anonymity of her persona, as well as the importance of authentic connection with each other. She also candidly reminds us that Allah is in control during a time when we all live under delusions of control. More pearls are in this episode than we document here, so take a listen and get the book!

Note: ‘namaz’ is Islamic ritual prayer in the Urdu language; the traditional word for ritual prayer is ‘salah’ in the Arabic language.

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

Purchase Secrets of Divine Love: www.secretsofdivinelove.com
Find inspiration: @quranquotesdaily
Find the Jeem Journal: https://jeem.life/
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Purchase Jeem journal (journaling) https://jeem.life/

Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast)

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BONUS EPISODE Dads on Identity Development

Mommying While Muslim

07/06/20 • 34 min

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Zaiba and Uzma’s dads join them on this bonus episode for Father’s Day talking about their immigrant experiences and how they contributed to their daughters’ Muslim identities in America.

It’s a rare to have male voice on the podcast, but as moms themselves, the cohosts know how important fathers are in their children’s lives. These dads are friends in real life, developed generational relationships and resilience, and pray that their Muslim American grandchildren inherit and practice the truest version of Islam as they create their own culture.

Hear about immigrant “speed dating” experiences, the sage advice of fathers now passed, new daddyhood, and the ultimate raising of kids without a manual of any kid.

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

Gateway to India is still open in Illinois! Zaiba and Uzma do not have any financial interest in this restaurant, just in its history: https://www.gatewaytoindia04.com/#restaurant-information
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In Pursuit of Knowledge

Mommying While Muslim

10/01/20 • 42 min

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Let’s grieve Ruth Bader Ginsburg this week and talk about feminism as we end our month of Female Islamic Scholarship with Reem Shaikh. Reem is a graduate student at the Harvard School of Divinity who speaks to us about her singular path toward earning her position as a shaykha. Her goal is to provide the ummah with diverse voices in scholarship so that Muslim women don’t have their religion mansplained to them anymore. When women get and give information to each other, especially our most sacred knowledge, we protect our authentic traditions as well as the role of women scholars in Islam. Reem is #daughtergoals so say a mashaAllah during your listen.

How we ensure the preservation of Islamic American scholarship, particularly female scholarship, is explained and exemplified by Reem, who is inshaAllah one of many hopes and plans we have toward that future. Her pearls humbled your cohosts today, who have a new and much needed parenting perspective as a result of this conversation.

Links:

Find Reem on LinkedIn:
Find Reem on IG: @daysofreem
Find Reem on Twitter: @reemoshaikh
On Boys podcast on Helping Boys Listen: https://on-boys.blubrry.net/helping-boys-listen-learn/
Authentic & Unfiltered podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/authentic.unfiltered/
Reem’s mom Saba Syed: https://muslimmatters.org/author/umm-reem/page/7/
Saba Syed on our most popular episode to date Islamic Perspectives on Sexual Intimacy: https://www.buzzsprout.com/271577/2735836-islamic-perspectives-on-sexual-intimacy
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Mother’s Day Special

Mommying While Muslim

05/14/20 • 41 min

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A newly converted Muslimah and a new immigrant Muslimah met 40 years ago in Chitown and discovered they had more in common than they thought. Darlene Hussain and Qurrat “Annie” Jafri join us today to spill the beans on what happened when they became Muslim moms in America!

We talk about the painful things: mom guilt, reverse Muslim discrimination, postpartum depression, social isolation, first generation woes, kids being bullied....and let’s not forget the fun stuff, like how Zaiba and Uzma are each their moms’ favorite kids!

There was some great news in all of this as our moms shared what they thought was the hardest part of parenting...it gave us hope for the future. We share tears, dirty laundry, and a lot of giggles on this audio therapy session you don’t want to miss. It was awesome to share notes on the role of mom with our own moms!!!!We hope it inspires ya’ll to do the same with your own moms or with the women who mothered you.

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA

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Does Shia/Sunni Matter in America?

Mommying While Muslim

06/04/20 • 32 min

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Podcaster and radio personality, Farheen Raza, mom of 3 rambunctious boys, joins us today to inform us about what Shiism is--history, practice, and whether or not it matters which sect we identify with in America. During this time of division and change in our nation, it matters whether or not we decrease or broaden the schisms between our neighbors and mom sisters.

We barely touched the tip of the iceberg on this topic, so watch out for a second part coming this month as we continue to discuss Muslim identity. There’s already a hot difference of opinion we are having and we cannot wait to continue it on our part deux.

Links:https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA